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b. Effective
discipline

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Effective discipline concepts
o Discipline is an educational
process whereby a person
learns what behavior is not
acceptable and why it is not.
o Punishment has to be given
so that the person realizes
that there is a consequence
for misbehavior.

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Effective discipline focuses on
misbehavior which:
o Hinders one’s relationship
with God
o Harms oneself or hinders
one from realizing his
potential and achieving his
goals
o Infringes upon the rights
of others

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Effective disciple focuses on misbehavior
caused by:
o Unfulfilled needs
o A lack of understanding
o Thinking that
misbehavior is more
desirable than acceptable
behavior
o Rebellion

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Formulating a simple behavior contract
o What the child
promises to do and what
will happen if he/she
breaks the promise
o What the adult
promises to do and what
will happen if the adult
breaks the promise

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Rules for setting up a behavior contract
o The contract should be
compiled by both adult and
child which include reasonable
demands where everyone is
satisfied with what they are
getting in the bargain
o The contract should not be
revised until given time to
prove itself and should be
accessible for review by both
parties
o Avoid premature “payoffs”
but only as close to the
desired behavior as possible

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Principles of good discipline
o Establish good rapport
with the child and win the
child’s confidence.
o When a child experiences
a relationship characterized
by such terms as warmth,
love, understanding,
acceptance, there is a
natural tendency to want to
please by doing what is
asked.
o Remember to criticize the
act, never the person.
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o Establish authority by
becoming a specialist in
Pathfindering and in
understanding children as this
engenders respect and
confidence.
o Be an example. “If parents
desire to teach their children
self-control, they must first
form the habit themselves.
The scolding and faultfinding
of parents encourages a hasty,
passionate temper in their
children” (CG 94).
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Be consistent. For a child to
feel secure, he must be assured
that there is order in his world.
They include:
o following through on requests
made of the children
o methods of discipline used for
certain behavior
o the entire staff working
together to maintain limits and
handling problems
o between home and club in
terms of expectations for the
children
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o Avoid conflict and do not
lose control of yourself
o Intervene only when
actually necessary
o Be flexible in methods of
discipline used
o Try humor to relieve
tension-filled situation
o Once in a while, do the
opposite of what the child
expects
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o Plan program carefully.
Empty time even if only a
few minutes, create time
for trouble.
o Meeting rooms should be
organized in such a way
that one activity will not
interfere with another.
o Begin and end exactly on
time.
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Define limits. The child who
understands clearly what
behavior is not accepted, will
feel more secure and better
able to control himself.
They include things like:
· You may not hurt yourself
· You may not hurt others
· You may not hurt things
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o Be observant of growing
tensions and learn to
anticipate difficulties.
o A forewarning will help a
child to gain control of
himself before he loses it.
o A gentle pat or placing of
a hand on a shoulder will
serve as a reminder that
you are near and will help
the child when he needs
help.
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o A friendly injection of
affection may give a child
a quick boost over a
difficult situation.
o A smile, a wink, a
spontaneous comment of
appreciation lends
reassurance of acceptance
and support which helps
establish self-control.

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Diversion. Change of
activity to something
the child finds more
manageable will help
the child refocus.
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o Point out reality of
limitations. Some children
become frustrated because
they want to do something,
but there isn’t enough
time, space, tools, etc. to
do it
o They do not understand
the limitations. When the
reality and what can be
done is pointed out, they’re
OK.
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o Let children experience
natural consequences. At
times, it’s best not to step in
and solve a problem too quickly.
o They can learn more
appropriate behavior by
allowing the situation to run its
course.
o Some consequences can be
more serious and the child
should be forewarned so that
the child may have a reason
for discontinuing.
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o Praise the positive; ignore
the negative. Taking the
time to spend with those who
are behaving appropriately is
important.
o Unfortunately, often
excessive time is spent with
those who misbehave, which
reinforces’ negative behavior.
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o Make positive requests
of children.
o Instead of telling them
not to do something, tell
them to do something.
E.g. “Stand on the floor”
instead of “Don’t stand on
the table.”

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o Consider the motives as
good discipline is based on it.
o Most children consider that
punishment should be given
based on the amount of
damage regardless of the
motives involved.

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o Save face. Don’t put
either yourself or the child
in an impossible situation
esp. in your demands. Leave
room for a gracious way out.
o Don’t extract a promise
from a child which the child
is unlikely to remember or
make an impossible promise
which you can’t keep.

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Hands-off policy. Never
use corporal (physical)
punishment under any
circumstances as only
parents are allowed to
do that.

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Pray. There is power in
prayer – even when all else
fails.
It is important to pray for
guidance concerning the
type of discipline and
manner in which it should
be administered so that the
child may experience the
best learning.