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goalsetting

1. Goal Setting in Counseling
Dr. Noothan Rao
Graphologist/Counselor
Write Strokes With Right Thoughts™
Ph: 9980012485
[email protected]

2. GOAL SETTING IN
COUNSELLING

3. Preliminary Steps
•First establish rapport.
•Allow client to speak out.
•Paraphrase and rephrase.
Most important step:
•Identify if the counselee wants to
change?
•Make client aware of need for
change (by changing himself).

4. •Motivate and encourage
•Give positive strokes
•Divide into sub-goals

5. •Allow failures/ non-attempts.
•Review, divide into smaller
goals.

6. Goals should be
•Measurable
•Time bound
•Realistic
•Under client’s control
•Suit his capacity, values/beliefs

7. S.M.A.R.T. (E.R)Goals:
means:
•Specific,
•Measurable,
•Attainable,
•Realistic
•Time Sensitive
Evaluation and Reflection. (This is where I
was, I am and I want to be)

8. POINTS FOR GOAL SETTING
•Resist temptation to get into goal
setting till catharsis is complete.
•Keep in mind that goal setting is not
necessary in many cases.
•Take it up only if the Counselee wants
to.

9. •Otherwise give him the freedom to
continue without making any
progress.
•But gently remind him/her
periodically.

10. Do not be in a hurry to move towards
the goal setting stage, unless you are
sure the counselee is mentally ready
and willing.

11. Go through as many of the following
steps as possible…..
•Caution counselee against taking
any irreversible hurried decision.
•Make counselee aware of the need
for change within himself.

12. •If he is stuck that the “other person”
should change, ask him the possibilities of
making other person oblige.
•Remind him how long he has been
suffering and ask him why he should go
on suffering.

13. •Check what he has already tried out
•Ask what he would like to try out now, give
him time to think of possible alternatives.
•Brainstorm on other possible options –
gently explore “Is it possible to…? and
make him do lateral thinking

14. •Work out threats of each alternative.
•Never insist on an alternative that
counselee is not comfortable with.
Ask if chosen alternative fits his value
system, fears, and mental blocks.
Check out who else needs to be
involved or will be affected.
After that…

15. •Make counselee divide large goal
into smaller sub-goals, and take
them up one by one.
•Give positive strokes and
unconditional support
•Gently nudge counselee to make his
goal time bound

16. •Discuss how progress can be
measured.
•Periodically check motivation levels
every time counselee reports back.

17. Be cautious about:
•Those who want quick solutions

•Those who want you to do the
work for them
•Those who want others to
change

18. •Those who keep saying “nothing will
work”
•Those who are willing to change, but only
conditionally
•Those who insist there is only one
solution, their way

19. Do not get frustrated with
failures or non-attempts.
In some cases, one may
have to give time, go
back to reviewing, and start all
over again.

20. Failed goal
Make the counsulee to introspect on
•What did I learn?
•How am I now stronger?
•What were my achievements along the
way?

21. •What do I know to do differently in
the future?
•What wouldn’t I do again?
•Even though I didn’t achieve my
goal; what were the wins I had that I
can acknowledge and celebrate?

22. Finally …..
As a counsellor, it is NOT your duty to set
goals, or ensure their implementation
Respect the Ce’s decision not to set goals, or
to let things be as they are
Never make a Ce feel pressurized from your
side.
You will be amazed how many people adapt,
adjust and move on. Just BE THERE for
them.

23. Dr. Noothan Rao
Graphologist/Counselor
Write Strokes With Right
Thoughts ™
Ph: 9980012485
[email protected]