7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE : SIGNATURE PROGRAM 25 TH & 26 TH JUNE 2015
QUESTIONS : How many of you do exercises daily Draw a house in 30 sec Elaborate on your dream house What is character & personality What are Challenges in your life Roles that matter to you in life Things you start doing so that life will be highly effective. SOW A THOUGHT, REAP AN ACTION; SOW AN ACTION, REAP A HABIT; SOW A HABIT, REAP A CHARACTER; SOW A CHARACTER, REAP A DESTINY.
Foundation PERSONALITY CHARACTER HONESTY : Saying what you do. INTEGRITY : Doing what you say CHECK : Watch yourself how you behave under pressure Watch yourself how you behave when nobody is watching Watch yourself with people who have no financial / emotional influence with you COURAGE What do great companies do : Sustain superior performers Winning culture Distinctive contribution. PARADIGM : the way we see, understand, and interpret the world; our mental map. Diff. Bet. Perceive & Paradigm : Perception : which comes from outside Paradigm : comes from inside We SEE WHAT WE ARE CONDITIONED TO SEE. WE ARE CONDITIONED BY OUR UPBRINGING, ENVIRONMENT & EXPERIENCES PRINCIPLES GOVERN EFFECTIVENES PRODUCTION CAPACITY PRODUCTION
The 7 habits paradigm
PRIVATE VICTORY
HABIT 1 : BE PROACTIVE When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves PRINCIPLE : I AM FREE TO CHOOSE & AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY CHOICES STIMULUS RESPONSE STIMULUS RESPONSE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE The four human endowments Self-awareness Imagination Conscience Independent will REACTIVE PROACTIVE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE CIRCLE OF CONCERN Your circle of influence includes things you can affect directly. Your circle of concern includes all those things you care about Increase your circle of influence. Question : Identify areas of concern & influence
HABIT 2 : BEGIN WITH END IN MIND If you don’t much care where you want to get, then it doesn’t matter which was you go. PRINCIPLE : MENTAL CREATION PRECEDES PHYSICAL CREATION PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT : YOUR PURPOSE AND MEANINGFUL IN LIFE ROLES & RELATIONSHIPS Reflect on those who have influenced you : NAME : ATTRIBUTES : DRAFT YOUR PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT Down deep in every human heart is a hidden longing, impulse, & ambition to do something fine & enduring
HABIT 3 : PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Things which matter most should never be at the mercy of things which matter least . PRINCIPLE : Effectiveness requires the integrity to act on your priorities URGENT NOT URGENT IMPORTANT NOT IMPORTANT I : Quadrant of necessity Crisis. Pressing problem Deadline driven, projects, meetings, reports II : Quadrant of effectiveness Preparation Prevention Planning Relationship building Re-creation Values clarification III : Quadrant of deception Needless interruptions Unnecessary reports Unimportant meetings, phone calls, mail, e-mail. Other people’s minor issues IV : Waste & Excess Trivia, busywork Irrelevant phone calls, mail, e-mail. Time-wasters. “Escape” activities. Excessive TV, Internet, relaxation Bermuda triangle of inefficiency
CHOOSE BIG ROCKS: Big rocks come from : Conscience Mission Goals Key projects Big rocks can be : Tasks Appointments Area of focus WEEKLY COMPASS What is the most important thing i can do in this role this week? Date__________________________ ROLES & BIG ROCKS ROLE : SHARPEN THE SAW Physical :________________ Social / emotional :___________________________ Mental:_____________ Spiritual :________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ Role : _____________Work_____________ Big Rock:______________________________________ ___________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ Role : _____________Daughter_____________ Big Rock:______________________________________ ___________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ Role : _____________Spouse_____________ Big Rock:______________________________________ ___________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ Role : _____________Friend_____________ Big Rock:______________________________________ ___________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ Role : _____________Hobby_____________ Big Rock:______________________________________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ __ Thee steps to weekly planning : Review mission & Roles Choose big rocks Schedule the week Prioritize the tasks into A, B, & C category, & in A into A1, A2, in your weekly calendar. Best planning in weekly planning
PUBLIC VICTORY
HABIT 4 : THINK WIN-WIN What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other? PRINCIPLE : Effective, long term relationships require mutual respect & mutual benefit 1. Win – Win : Lets find a solution that works for both of us. 2. Win – Lose : I am going to beat you no matter what. 3. Lose – Win : I always get stepped on. 4. Lose – Lose : If i am going down, you are going down with me. 5. Win : As long as i win, i don’t care if you win or loose. 6. Win- Win Or No Deal : Lets find a solution that works for both of us, or lets not play. COURAGE HIGH LOW CONSIDERATION HIGH LOW WIN - LOSE WIN - WIN LOSE- LOSE LOSE- WIN COURAGE : Willingness & ability to speak your thoughts & feelings. CONSIDERATION : Willingness & ability to seek & listen to other’s thoughts & feelings with respect.
SEEK MUTUAL BENEFIT : CREAT A T CHART NAME : __________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________________________ SITUATION :_____________________ ___________________________________________________________________________________________ WHAT’S A WIN FOR YOU ? WHAT’S A WIN FOR THEM? __________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________ DRAFT A WIN- WIN AGREEMENT DESIRED RESULTS GUIDELINES RESOURCES ACCOUNTABILITY CONSEQUENCES
HABIT 5 : SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD Listen or your tongue will make you deaf PRINCIPLE : To communicate effective, we must first understand each other. Empathetic listening is reflecting what a person feels & says in your own words. It is not listening to advise, counsel, reply, refute, solve, agree etc.
HABIT 6 : SYNERGISE The enemy of the best is the good. PRINCIPLE : The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. YOUR WAY MY WAY Third Alternative Differences create synergy not conflict. As more synergy, more ideas, more growth. Leverage differences for better results.
SYNERGISING IS : SYNERGISING IS NOT : Result oriented, positive energy A brainstorming free-for-all that leads nowhere. Examining , exploring, & seeking different perspectives openly enough to alter or complete your paradigm Accepting other’s ideas as full truth. Win-win cooperation Win-lose competition. Having a mutual agreed-upon end in mind. Groupthink (giving in to peer pressure) Worth the effort & highly effective. Always easy A disciplined process. Just a negotiation technique BLOCKS TO SYNERGY Experience Lack of trust Ego Different Language Difference culture Gender Generation gap Anger Anxiety Jealousy Fear Fixation Defensiveness
HABIT 7 : SHARPEN THE SAW A long healthy & happy life is the result of making contributions of having meaningful projects that are personally exciting & contribute to & bless the lives of others PRINCIPLE : To maintain & increase effectiveness, we must renew ourselves in body, heart, mind & soul. Sharpen the Saw is a daily process of renewing for four dimensions of our nature : Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Social / Emotional. These four dimensions sustain and increase our capacities and help us discipline our mind, body and spirit. This daily private victory is a victory over self. Not only does the daily Private victory stimulate growth, but it also helps us to achieve the Public Victory. As we achieve these victories through renewal, we cultivate and nurture the other six habits.
Questions you need to ask yourself Physical Dimension : Assume you’ve had a heart attack in the last month. How would you approach exercise & nutrition? Social / Emotional Dimension : Assume that everything you say about people will be heard by them. How might you choose your words differently? Mental Dimension : Assume your knowledge & skills will be obsolete in two years. What new learning avenues would you explore? Spiritual Dimension : Assume you have a year to live. What legacy would you want to leave ?