Knowing+Oneself : Towards self improvement.pptx

Knowing Oneself

1. Knowing Oneself

2. Knowing Oneself Self-concept Inventory Adapted from Roldan (2003), think and reflect on your knowledge about yourself by rating the following statements from 0–4. You may use a piece of paper for this activity. Description: 0 – very weak 3 – strong 1 – weak 4 – very strong 2 – somewhat weak/somewhat strong ___ 1. My sex appeal is high. ___ 2. My physical appearance is something to be proud of. ___ 3. I am beautiful/handsome. ___ 4. I radiate charm and poise.

3. Knowing Oneself ___ 5. I am a person who is easy to get along with. ___ 6. I can adjust to different people and situations. ___ 7. I am friendly; other people are at ease and comfortable with me. ___ 8. I am lovable. ___ 9. I am a fast learner; I can understand instructions effortlessly. ___ 10. I believe I am intelligent. ___ 11. I have unique talents and abilities. ___ 12. I can easily analyze situations and make the right judgments. ___ 13. I am trustworthy. ___ 14. I have a clean conscience and have no guilt feeling. ___ 15. I am honest and have a good reputation. ___ 16. I believe that I am a role model. ___ 17. I can express my ideas freely. ___ 18. I talk convincingly to get people to accept what I say.

4. Knowing Oneself ___ 19. I can express my ideas in writing without trouble. ___ 20. I am a good listener. ___ 21. I am emotionally stable, and when faced with trouble, I can overcome it. ___ 22. I am logical and reasonable in my decisions. ___ 23. I feel confident. ___ 24. I am a mature person. Physical Appeal 1. __ 2. __ 3. __ 4. __ Subtotal: __ Human Relations 5. __ 6. __ 7. __ 8. __ Subtotal: __ Intelligence 9. __ 10. __ 11. __ 12. __ Subtotal: __ Character 13. __ 14. __ 15. __ 16. __ Subtotal: __ Communications 17. __ 18. __ 19. __ 20. __ Subtotal: __ Maturity 21. __ 22. __ 23. __ 24. __ Subtotal: __

5. Knowing Oneself Look at the results of your Self-concept Inventory and answer the following questions. Interpretation: 14–16: strong 10–13: somewhat weak 0–10 = very weak 1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong? 2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness, but other people consider as your strength? What are these? 3. Do you think that you have qualities that are often observed differently by other people? What are those?

6. Knowing Oneself Who am I? “ There are three things that are extremely hard: steel, diamond, and to know oneself.” - Benjamin Franklin According to Neill (2005), self-concept is the knowledge of oneself, including physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and other aspects. It involves the idea of what a person thinks of himself/herself.

7. Knowing Oneself If you are asked , “Tell me who you are,” your answers are your ideas as to how you see yourself. If your responses are positive, then you are likely to feel good about who you are. If your responses are negative, then you may be dissatisfied with yourself. Nonetheless, your self-concept continues to develop as you grow and may also change over time because of experience, self-reflection, and feedback from others (Cherry, 2021). Humanist psychologist Carl Rogers (1959) divided the self into two. The ideal self is who a person would like to be; the real self is who a person actually is—the qualities and characteristics that he/she possess.

8. Knowing Oneself Roger’s concept of incongruence There are two ways of understanding the “true self,” which are the real self and the ideal self. The closer they are to each other, the better. For Rogers, it is important to achieve consistency between the ideal self and the real self. When a person’s self-concept is aligned with reality or when his/her thoughts about his/her real self and ideal self are similar, he/she experiences congruence.

9. Knowing Oneself One way of knowing yourself is through self-exploration —the acquiring of ideas of a person by reflecting on his/her own interests, values, skills, and personality traits. Ryan Howes (2015), PhD, a psychologist, writer, and professor, said that self-exploration is looking at your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and motivations and answering all the questions you have about yourself—the roots of who you are. You may ask yourself some self-discovery questions and write your answers in a notebook or you may seek inspiration by reading books where you can learn and try out new things that you have not done before. It will take time, effort, and focus but it will be worth it. Howes added that having a deeper understanding of oneself helps a person to accept who he/she is and recognize why he/she does things, which improves self-esteem, communication, and relationships (Tartakovsky, 2011).

10. Knowing Oneself Knowing oneself also means seeing your strengths and weaknesses. Being aware of your strengths, as well as appreciating and recognizing differences with other people, would develop self-confidence and self-awareness (Peterson and Seligman, 2004). On the other hand, acknowledging your weaknesses is an opportunity for you to identify the areas in your life that need improvement. Example: You are impatient - You will do something to work this out and practice being patient. Another example: if you know that you are not good at solving math problems, then you should try to make time to study and focus more on this subject. Understanding both strengths and weaknesses is crucial for your personal growth.

11. Knowing Oneself Five benefits of listing your strengths and weaknesses ( Mead, 2021): 1. I t builds your self-awareness. When you identify your strengths and weaknesses, you become aware of the things you can and cannot do. This level of awareness will improve your confidence and skills. 2. It helps you understand other perspectives. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses helps you appreciate that others have strengths and weaknesses too, which develops your empathy—the ability to understand and share the feeling of one another (Abbate, Boca, and Gendolla, 2016). 3. It allows you to identify areas for improvement. Reflecting on yourself can motivate you to pursue improvements and create positive changes for yourself.

12. Knowing Oneself 4. It increases your positive vocabulary and positive self-talk. Tod, Oliver, and Hardy (2011) linked positive self-talk to positive mental and behavioral changes. Self-talk is talking positively about yourself and allows you to expand your vocabulary. 5. It helps you to have greater appreciation for areas you may have previously undervalued. Start to connect your strengths and weaknesses to your behaviors and habits for you to decide which ones are beneficial to your growth as a person and which ones are not.

13. Knowing Oneself Complete the following statements by filling in the blanks the missing words/concepts. ___________ is the knowledge of oneself, including physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and other aspects. Your self-concept continues to develop as you grow and may change because of _______, ______________, and ____________ from others. _______________ is the acquiring of ideas of a person by reflecting on his/her interests, values, skills, and personality traits. You should understand both your __________ and ___________ because they are vital in your development as a person.

14. Knowing Oneself Complete the following statements by filling in the blanks the missing words/concepts. 1. Self-concept is the knowledge of oneself, including physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and other aspects. 2. Your self-concept continues to develop as you grow and may change because of experience , self-reflection , and feedback from others. 3. Self-exploration is the acquiring of ideas of a person by refl ecting on his/her interests, values, skills, and personality traits. 4. You should understand both your strengths and weaknesses because they are vital in your development as a person. ANSWER KEY