MELC-17-19-PERSONAL-REbbLATIONSHIPS.pptx

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1. PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

2. LEARNING OBJECTIVES: At the end of this lesson, you will be able to: Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationship, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions E xpress your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment: and I dentify ways to become responsible in a relationship.

3. PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions . These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences. Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

4. KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS 3 Home

5. Family The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household.“ Typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, security , and a sense of community.

6. 2. Friends A friendship can be thought as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity , and emotional bonding. Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties , research indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.

7. 3. Partnership Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people that were built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

8. Relationships maintain happiness and health Family, friends, and associates can play as social support and assist in getting through the stresses and confronts of life. IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIP Relationships avoid isolation Generally, we all need person-to-person contacts. Human beings therefore have the need to feel right and fit in. Relationships meet interpersonal requirements We have a need to include others and be included; to control others and be controlled; and be loved and to love others.

9. Relationships serve as behavioral anchor serve as directions for proper behavioral and emotional responses. They help convey sorrow, joy, and a multitude of other feelings in culturally tolerable ways. IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIP Relationships serve as communication channels They are venues of communication concerning whatever things can take place. Good relationships maintain self-worth When healthy and purposeful, relationships improve sense of self.

10. Describe your relationship with your families and friends and partnerships. Why do you think personal relationships are important? JOURNAL #1

11. Connect with your family Practice gratitude Learn to forgive Be compassionate Accept others Create rituals together Spend the right amount of time together NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSGIPS

12. ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS When a person enters into a marriage, we naturally anticipate it to be enduring and that anticipation or permanence, at least in part, differentiates a romantic relationship with others.

13. what we feel when we first fall in love; it shows our attraction and focus on a single person, While some succeed to withstand possible love or over a lifespan, it often declines in intensity over time. DIMENSIONS OF LOVE V O L E P A S S I O N A T E

14. intensifies over time. As a couple’s feeling of trust and caring for one another nurtures, they, involve themselves in one another’s life and reciprocally react to each other’s needs. DIMENSIONS OF LOVE V O L E C O M P A N N A T E I O

15. KINDS OF LOVE

16. style of love that emphasizes the practical aspects of love. It is an arranged marriage. 1. Pragma sexual love that carries couples together. 4. Eros altruistic, selfless love. It has spiritual value, frequently described as pure. 3. Agape e love we have for god friends and family members . It does not contain sex at all, although at one time or another, we may find ourselves sexual attraction. 6. Storge style of love characterized by volatility, insecurity , and possessiveness. It is more likely an obsessive love. 2. Mania style of loving that emphasizes the game of seduction and fun where partners do not see their relationship as permanent. 5. Ludis

17. STAGES OF RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT Mark Knapp and Anita Vangelisti (2000) have proposed that relationships go through certain stages from first meeting to deep intimacy. According to them, relationships are a continuous state of unrest: they grow wither stronger or weaker with time.

18. Initiating stage . This is when people initially meet and assess each other's attractiveness and availability. At this point in the relationship, people work very hard to present themselves as likeable and interesting. They tend to select their words with caution, knowing that a single mistake (e.g., asking someone about a sensitive topic) may spoil their chances to continue a conversation. Experimenting stage. This is the time people attempt to reduce their uncertainty about one another. In this stage people may begin testing one another. At his stage people retain spontaneous communication, engaging in casual dating as they analyze the unknown in the determination to find out more. Intensifying stage. In this stage, partners start disclosing extremely personal information to one another, they develop nicknames for each other, and often talk using the word "we." Couples develop routines and private symbols (e.g., "our special place," a nonverbal cue that means we like each other) and become more willing to make direct verbal statements of commitment.

19. Integrating stage. This is the time when the two individuals become a couple. They emphasize to themselves, and others, how much they share in common— they are certain that they share similar attitudes, interests, and opinions. Their network of friends begins to merge and they often develop friendships with other couples. Bonding stage. is marked by a public ritual, typically marriage. Couples' willingness to engage in this sort of public commitment signifies their desire to obtain social and sometimes even institutional support for their relationship. After bonding, the two people are publicly tied to one another. Differentiating stage. The differentiating stage finds one of more partners struggling to recreate or regain a sense of distinctive identity. As an alternative of continuing as a “we”, they ask, “How do I differ from you?” In this way, they try to reaffirm “I” orientation; individual differences, not similarities, become the emphasis

20. Circumscribing stage. The circumscribing stage finds the relationship enduring its failure. Consequently, the parties limit their communication. They intentionally attempt to limit subjects of argument to those considered “safe”. Questionable or sensitive areas that are offensive are evaded at this stage. Stagnating stage. Relationships in this stage do not continue evolving. Instead they are almost motionless. Communication between the parties is at a simulated halt. Although the partner may still share a mutual space, they no longer share each other. They feel that since there in no purpose to talk with each other, they might as well say nothing. They close themselves off. Overall, their interest of preserving the relationship is gone.

21. Avoiding stage . The avoiding stage has the partner’s final communication channels. For the longing to stay away from each other, the party takes whatsoever step needed to guarantee they would not have to share in any way. They do what they can do to avoid coming together, since they know that getting together will be spiteful and hostile. The running stage of this stage is “I don’t want to see you anymore” , “I don’t want to speak to you anymore” , “I don’t want to carry on with the relationship.” Terminating Stage . This stage finds the bonds that once held the relationship together in pieces. The relationship is finished. Subject to how both parties feel about the wind-up, this stage can be brief or prolonged, pleasant or nasty.

22. Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love 1. Intimacy “that lovely moment when someone understands and validates us”. 2. Commitment act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking. 3. Passion intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.

23. ATTRACTION AND LIKING

24. Transference Effect It is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. 2. Propinquity Effect It is the tendency for people to form friendships or romantic relationships with those whom they encounter often, forming a bond between subject and friend. 3. Similarity It is the state of being similar; likeness; resemblance. - It is an aspect, trait or feature like or resembling another or another’s characteristic like similarity of diction. 5. Physical Attractiveness - It is the degree which a person’s physical features are considered aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. - It often implies sexual attractiveness or desirably or can also be distinct from either. 4. Reciprocity In social psychology, reciprocity is a social rule that says people should repay , in kind, what another person has provided for them

25. RESPONSIBLE RELATIONSHIP

26. 1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person. Emotions should be considered when dealing with other people. Being sensitive to these emotions will make a person responsible for what is said, and accept the consequences of how the other party will receive the message. 2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not to do. Integrity is a key factor in relationships. Coupled with trust, integrity in one’s word means that you are reliable and trustworthy. When credibility is questioned, a relationship will not last long. Important responsibilities that are necessary in a relationship to make it flourish and stay beneficial for the parties involved.

27. THERE IS NO GOOD IN CHEATING . No valid reason is enough to justify cheating. It is always wrong and will always be wrong . The pain it can cause should not be underestimated, it can affect a p erson’s self worth , can cause anxiety and can completely change a person’s life. Kahit na ang palay na ang lumapit sayo , tumuka ka parin . You had a choice , we always have a choice. Stay faithful, no matter what!

28. 3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial. Balanced relationships are always mutually beneficial to both parties. It is always good to have a give and take attitude for this assures fairness and equality. When fairness is perceived, trust follows. 4. Respect the other party or parties involved. Mutual respect is also essential in a relationship. Giving respect to each other is a common responsibility of any party involved in a relationship. 5. Be ready to provide support when needed. Relationships also thrive on the support given by one party to another. Providing support, either financially, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, strengthens the bond in a relationship, as this is an expression of one’s commitment to the other party. It is all about the ‘we’re in this together” thing in a relationship.

29. The right to emotional support The right to be heard by the other and to respond The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner’s The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real The right to live free from accusation and blame The right to live free from criticism and judgement The right to live free from emotional and physical threat The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered. Basic Rights in a Relationship

30. When we are in relationship with another person we have a responsibility to look after one another. If we neglect to perform these responsibilities, the relationship may become unhealthy. In some cases, relationships may become unsafe.

31. Title of the Activity: My Right, My Accountability! Directions: Assuming you are one of the following roles, develop your rights and responsibilities by completing the table. Answer the activity in your journal.