Module 4- q 1 HOW TO DEAL WITH ADULTING.pptx

How to deal with Adulting

1. HOW TO DEAL WITH ADULTING Prepared by: Mrs. Clare T. Siplon

2. At the end of the module, you should be able to:  explain the importance of addressing the physical and psychological changes brought about by adolescence ,  examine the challenges presented to adolescents pertaining to the physical and psychological areas, and  acknowledge the different types of challenges that adolescents have to face and the means of addressing them.

3. In this world of working parents and video games, in some families, teens can go through childhood and adolescence without a real sense of responsibility. They're occupied, but not prepared for a successful life. Having responsibility for things that matter and that contribute to the welfare of others is part of a teen's preparation for the future.

4. What's most important is moving him from dependence to independence, as well as providing experiences where his efforts contribute to someone else, or the family as a whole, and then for those outside himself and his family. Eventually, he's providing for his own needs, and recognizes the necessity of his own effort to make his way in the world.

5. When a family volunteers together for the benefit of others, parents are modeling for their kids the responsibility they feel for their community, and the value of contributing to the welfare of others outside themselves. As he grows, he takes it into himself as his own. When he fulfills responsibilities entrusted to him, he gains a sense of empowerment. The praise he receives for his accomplishments is authentic, and he knows it's real.

6. THE PASSAGE TO ADULTHOOD: CHALLENGES OF LATE ADOLESCENCE Ways to Become a Responsible Adolescent Prepared for Adult Life Becoming responsible and being able to make good choices are very important traits no matter what developmental stage you are in. It holds true for adolescents especially that they are just beginning to internalize and imbibe virtues, values, and other essential qualities.

7. Eight (8) simple rules which could help you, teenagers, to become a responsible adolescent who is prepared for adult life: 1 . Focus on your studies and do well in all of your endeavors. There is time for everything. 2 . Take care of your health and hygiene. Healthy body and mind are important as you journey through adolescence. 3 . Establish good communication and relation with your parents or guardian. Listen to them. This may be easier said than done at this stage, but creating good relationship with them will do you good as they are the ones you can lean on especially in times of trouble. 4 . Think a lot before doing something. Evaluate probable consequences before acting. Practice self-control and self-discipline.

8. 5. Choose to do the right thing. There are plenty of situations in which it is better to use your mind rather than your heart . 6. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts, and earthly pleasures and commit to being a responsible adolescent. 7 . Respect yourself. You are an adult in the making. Do not let your teenage hormones get into you. If you respect yourself, others will respect you too. 8 . Be prepared to be answerable or accountable for your actions and behavior. It is a part of growing up and becoming an adult.

9. Physical Development  Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15.  Boys are still maturing and gaining strength, muscle mass, and height and are completing the development of sexual traits.

10. Emotional Development  May stress over school and test scores.  Is self- involved (may have high expectations and low self-concept).  Seek privacy and time alone.  Is concerned about physical and sexual attractiveness.  May complain of parents preventing him or her from doing things independently.  Starts to want both physical and emotional intimacy in relationships.  Try the experience of intimate partnerships.

11. Social Development  Shifts in relationship with parents from dependency and subordination to one that reflects the adolescent’s increasing maturity and responsibilities in the family and community,  Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.  Seek friends that share the same beliefs, values and interests.  Friends become more important.  Starts to have more intellectual interest.  Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.  May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex)

12. Mental Development  Becomes better able to set goals and think in terms of the future.  Has a better understanding of complex problems and issues.  Start to develop moral ideals and to select role models.

13. Most commonly, we discourage in five several ways:  We set standards that are too high for others to meet because we are overly ambitious.  We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or improved behavior.  We make constant comparisons (self to other, siblings to one another).  We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of others.  We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying that they are unable to do it as well.

14. THE POWER OF PERSONAL DECLARATIONS By: Dr. Emily De Carlo I declare: That I am totally free of all addictions. That I will sill survive any attempts of others to control my life. That I am free in my mind, body, and emotions. That I am free to set goals and reach them. That I am a loving individual with the capacity to give love. That I am a child of a God with all rights and privileges thereof.

15. That I will contribute to the welfare of others. That I will be an ambassador of goodwill to all I meet on the journey. That I will be a good example for others to follow. That I will help all that I can to reach their goals. That I will speak words of encouragement to others. That I will find the goodness in life and focus on it. That I will not succumb to the negative influences of others. That I will read the information that will encourage my personal, and spiritual growth. That I will commit to being the best I can be.

16. ASSESS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if otherwise . ____________1. Stress is a common psychological concern among adolescents. ____________ 2. Family associations are important in adolescent development. ____________ 3. Female adolescents are more concerned about weight. ____________4. The transition from high school to college/ work is not a big responsibility for adolescents. ____________ 5. Adolescents do not ask independence from parents.

17. ____________6. Most girls have not completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15 . ____________7. In the adolescence stage, friends become more important. ____________ 8. They maybe influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex) ____________ 9. They have a better understanding of complex problems and issues. ____________ 10. They start to have more intellectual interests.

18. II. Identify either the following activities are PHYSICAL, SOCIAL, MENTAL or EMOTIONAL. ____________1. having a sense of who you are ____________ 2. exercising ____________ 3. sharing feelings ____________ 4. Accepting disappointments, defeats, losing, and rejections ____________ 5. saying NO to alcohols and smoking ____________ 6. Standing up for yourself ____________ 7. Accepting yourself ____________ 8. Introducing yourself and others ____________ 9. Forgiving yourself when needed

19. ____________10. Healthy diet ____________ 11. Trusting others ____________ 12. Personal hygiene ____________ 13. Being trusted ____________ 14. Keeping in shape ____________ 15. Feeling good about yourself

20. ____________1. having a sense of who you are (Physical) ____________ 2. exercising (Physical) ____________ 3. sharing feelings (Emotional) ____________ 4. Accepting disappointments, defeats, losing, and rejections (Mental) ____________ 5. saying NO to alcohols and smoking (Physical) ____________ 6. Standing up for yourself (Physical/Mental) ____________ 7. Accepting yourself (Physical) ____________ 8. Introducing yourself and others (Social) ____________ 9. Forgiving yourself when needed (Mental/Emotional)

21. ____________10. Healthy diet (Physical) ____________ 11. Trusting others (Social) ____________ 12. Personal hygiene (Physical) ____________ 13. Being trusted (Social) ____________ 14. Keeping in shape (Physical) ____________ 15. Feeling good about yourself (Physical/Emotional)