Public vs Private Self

By Jeff Houchens

1. Public'vs.'Private'Self'

2. INTERPERSONAL'
COMMUNICATIONS'–'SPC2140AO'
By:'Jeff'Houchens'

3. My#Private#Self#

4. My'Public'Self#
Distant# Cold#
I#look#angry#
All#Business#
Analy:cal#

5. Differences'Between'my'Public'and'Private'Self'

6. SimilariOes'Between'my'Public'and'Private'Self'
• Responsible#behavior#is#a#high#priority#on#both#sides.#
• Although#I#don’t#show#as#much#emo:on#with#my#public#self,#I#s:ll#care#a#lot#
about#what#I’m#doing#at#work#or#in#public#and#what’s#going#on#around#me.#
• I#communicate#effec:vely#to#others#on#both#sides.#
• If#I#get#to#know#someone,#say#at#work,#I#normally#remove#my#“work”#face#and#
transi:on#to#a#“friend”#face#and#share#more#personal#informa:on.##They#are#
geIng#to#know#my#private#self#a#liJle#more#and#the#same#can#be#said#for#me.##
I#also#get#to#know#them#a#liJle#beJer#because#they#also#start#to#share#more#
personal#informa:on.#
• My#private#self#and#public#self#is#s:ll#just#me.##It#all#makes#up#who#I#am#as#a#
person.#
• My#public#and#private#communica:on#both#keep#the#same#respect#for#other#
people#when#they’re#talking.##When#they#talk#I#face#them#and#listen#instead#of#
trying#to#think#of#the#next#thing#I’m#going#to#say.#
• I#try#to#have#fun#no#maJer#what#face#I’m#wearing#
• For#my#internal#private#and#personal#public#self#at#home,#I#get#frustrated#at#my#
girlfriends#daughter#quite#oPen,#but#I#keep#it#inside.##Publically,#I#just#con:nue#
to#try#and#be#a#good#roll#model,#hoping#it#will#one#day#sink#in.##For#both,#my#
goal#is#the#same,#which#is#to#develop#her#into#a#beJer#person.##

7. Discrepancies#In#My#Self#
• Some:mes,#I#let#my#private#self#
feelings#leak#out#into#my#pubic#
self#when#I#get#aggravated#
• I#don’t#appear#approachable#in#
public#
• I#could#have#more#meaningful#
conversa:ons#with#coQworkers#
and#people#I#don’t#know#very#
well#
#

8. ######Ac:on#Plan'
1. Get#Botox#to#remove#the#angry#
marks#between#my#eyes!#
2. Think#about#what#I’m#going#to#say#
before#I#say#it#
3. Consider#conversa:on#starters#for#
people#I#don’t#really#know#
4. Con:nue#to#analyze#the#differences#
and#similari:es#of#my#private#and#
public#self#
5. Listen#to#how#other#people#
communicate#to#determine#their#
different#faces#
6. Smile#more#in#public#
7. Loosen#up#a#bit#more#in#public#and#
stop#being#all#business#all#the#:me#
8. Instead#of#being#blue#and#green,#try#
to#be#a#liJle#more#orange:#take#risks#
and#be#a#direct#communicator#