Safe and unsafe secret for child safeguarding

For the Child safeguarding

1. Safe Secrets and Unsafe secrets Nirajan Shahi Personal Safety is our prime concern

2. Safe secrets Safe secrets are those which can be kept for a short time; usually have a happy outcome; and are always told eventually. Common secrets that are safe to keep:  Surprise birthday parties that everybody knows about except one person, who is going to find out. Gifts that are going to be opened at a special occasion, at which point they won’t be secrets anymore.

3. Examples of Safe Secret Your colleague is leaving and you’re organizing a farewell party. Mum’s birthday present. Friend from school is sick and you made him a “get well” card. We are having another baby and won’t tell anyone until mum visits the doctor again. We’re going overseas for our next holiday, and we’re not telling anyone until we got our tickets. Hiding place for the spare key to the house door. I did very well in my history exam - I’m not telling my sister yet, I want to keep the surprise and tell mum and dad first.

4. Unsafe secrets Unsafe secrets, by contrast make us feel afraid, upset, anxious or unsafe. They are those secrets where someone says ‘ You must not tell ’; they last a long time, sometimes forever; they make us feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, confused or unsafe. Unsafe secrets can involve a threat that something bad will happen if you tell. Any kind of touch Games that might break your safety rules or that might be hurtful to anyone Presents that other people give you or favors that they do for you Anything that bothers you

5. Examples of Unsafe Secrets Someone offers you a cigarette and ask you to keep it a secret. Child being bullied and the bully says you mustn’t tell anyone. Someone is feeling unsafe/scared kids stealing money from the teacher’s desk. The coach wants to give you a hug at tennis coaching and tell you to keep it a secret. A child is being offered alcohol by the bigger kids, and not allowed to tell anyone

6. Network A network is a group of adults, chosen by the network owner ( student, child…) who will provide her/him with support, assistance and if necessary, protection. The network ties in closely with the second Theme of PB: “We can talk with someone about anything, no matter what it is.” Recognizing that many of us will have something we need to talk over with someone, Protective Behaviors provides a framework for each person to develop a group of carefully selected ‘someone's’ to whom we can go for support, assistance or protection.

7. MY NETWORK PEOPLE WILL •Be accessible •Listen to me •Believe me •Take action to help me, if necessary Helping Hand

8. Network Review Sooner or later, most individuals will need to change their networks, in order to update them and replace people who no longer meet the job description. Some of the reasons why a network needs to be reviewed could include: networks owner moving-school or house or changing hobbies; parents changing friendship-groups; network person-failing to meet the job description. Even if none of these circumstances apply it’s always a good idea to check our networks, if only to see that everyone is still available!

9. Personal Space for security

10. We are Safe or Not ? Please share your ideas ……………………