UNIT-3 HARMONY IN THE FAMILY AND SOCIETY.pptx

Family as the basic unit of human interaction , Understanding Relationship, Trust as the foundational value, Respect as the Right Evaluation, Harmony in the society – Understanding Human Goal, Harmony from Family Order to World Family Order – Universal Human Order - Scope.

1. UNIT-3 HARMONY IN THE FAMILY AND SOCIETY

2. FAMILY IS THE BASIC UNIT OF ALL INTERACTION Each of us is born into a family which includes a number of relationships. These relationships are the reality of our life. We recognize and identify these individuals. We share our feelings, tastes, interests and understanding with these people and have an affinity for them. Family is the foundation of society, provides the basis of continuity of human tradition on the earth. Relationship is a reality. It is between ‘I’ and ‘I’. In every relationship, there are feelings between ‘I’ and ‘I’, which are innate and intrinsic to relationships. They are naturally there. In relationship, there are 9values/feelings- trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reference, glory, gratitude, and love.

3. Human being gets the opportunity to interact, understand, fulfill, share and work in mutual relationships living in a Family. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and other self ( I2) There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I1) for other self ( I2) These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings) Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness

4. Feelings (Values) in relationship: Trust FOUNDATION VALUE Respect Affection Care Guidance; Reverence Glory Gratitude Love COMPLETE VALUE

5. Justice (Nyaya): Justice = Recognition of Values (definite feelings) in relationship, their fulfilment, the right evaluation of the fulfilment resulting in Mutual Happiness ( Ubhay - tripti ). Thus, there are four elements of Justice: Recognition of Values, fulfilment, evaluation and mutual happiness ensured. When all the four ensured, Justice is ensured.

6. Trust Trust = to be assured = to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy & prosperous In case the other is lacking in competence: I live with responsibility with the other, knowing that he may make more mistakes than me, do reaction and have uncertain conduct I facilitate understanding in the other once the other is assured in relationship (and not before that) If I lack competence, I become ready to take help from the other to improve my competence

7. If I do not have trust on intention I evaluate myself on the basis of my intention and others on the basis of their competence (seldom evaluating my competence and others’ intention) I have a feeling of opposition with the other which shows up as irritation or anger (and it further leads to fighting, struggle and war)

8. SET OF PROPOSALS TO VERIFY HARMONY IN THE FAMILY Relationship is and it exists between the self ('I') and the other self ('I') The self ('I') has feelings in a relationship. These feelings are between ‘I’ and ‘I’. These feelings in the self ('I') are definite. i.e. they can be identified with definiteness. Recognizing and fulfilling these feelings leads to mutual happiness in relationship. Now, we will explore into each of the above in details.

9. JUSTICE (NYAYA): Justice is the recognition of values (the definite feelings) in relationship, their fulfilment, the right evaluation of the fulfilment resulting in mutual happiness. Justice concerns itself with the proper ordering of things and people within a society. There are four elements: Recognition of values, fulfilment, evaluation and mutual happiness ensured.

10. PRESENT SCENARIO Differentiation (Disrespect) in relationships on the basis of body, physical facilities, or beliefs On the basis of body Sex/gender Race Age Physical strength On the basis of physical facilities Wealth Post

11. THE PROBLEMS FACED DUE TO DIFFERENTIATION IN RELATIONSHIPS Differentiation based on sex/gender: Issue of women’s rights, and women protesting and demanding for equality in education, in jobs, and in peoples’ representation. People are insecure and afraid of one another based on their gender. Differentiation based on race: There are many movements and protect against racial discrimination and demands for equality, racial attacks, movements against cast discrimination has people living in fear of such racism, racist attacks, casticism and discrimination. Differentiation based on age: Protests and movements demanding for equal rights for children on the one hand and for rights for elderly people on the other, generation gap.

12. THE PROBLEMS FACED DUE TO DIFFERENTIATION IN RELATIONSHIPS Differentiation based on wealth: Class struggle and movements to do away with class- differentiation. Many people suffering from a lack of self-esteem and some even committing suicide. Differentiation based on post: Protests against high handed government officials. At the level of the individual, leads to depression, etc. Differentiation based on ’isms: Fights , turmoil, terrorism and war, people converting from one Ism to another in order to be able to get more respect. Differentiation based on sects: Countless religions and sects and each sect has its own movement to ensure that there is no discrimination against people of their belief and demands for special provisions in jobs and in education.

13. FOUNDATION VALUE AND COMPLETE VALUE IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIP Feelings / Values in Relationships S.No . Feeling 1 Trust / Visvasa 2 Respect / Sammana 3 Affection / Sneha 4 Care / Mamata 5 Guidance / Vatsalya 6 Reverence / Shraddha 7 Glory / Gaurava 8 Gratitude / Kritagyata 9 Love / Prema

14. Trust: Trust or vishwas is the foundational value in relationship. “ To be assured that each human being inherently wants oneself and the other to be happy and prosperous .” If we have trust in the other, we are able to see the other as a relative and not as an adversary. There are two aspects in trust: Intention (wanting to – our natural acceptance) Competence (being able to do)

15. Respect: Respect means individuality. The sense of individuality is prime object. This is the first basic step towards respect ( sammana ). Once we realized that we are individual then only we can see our self different from others.

16. Difference between Respect and Differentiation / Disrespect: Respect Differentiation 1. Respect is right evaluation. 1. Differentiation is lack of understanding of respect. 2. Respect for others is generated by the right evaluation and understanding which leads to fulfilment in relationships. This further creates a sense of respect among people This differentiation can take the form of: o Gender bias Generation gap Caste struggle Power play and domination Communal violence Clash of race, religion, etc. class struggle,   3. This leads to the escalation in the problems of society which further lowers the respect shown to others in society.

17. Affection: Affection is the feeling of being related to the other. Affection comes when I recognize that we both want to make each other happy and both of us are similar.

18. Care: The feeling of care is the feeling to nurture and protect the body of our relative. Or in other words a state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern is called care.

19. Guidance: The feeling of ensuring right understanding and feelings in the other (my relative) is called guidance. We understand the need of self (‘I’) for right understanding and feelings. We also understand that the other is similar to me in his/her faculty of natural acceptance, desire of wanting continuous happiness and the program of living in harmony at all the four levels.

20. Reverence: The feeling of acceptance of excellence in the other is called reverence. When we see that the other has achieved this excellence- which means to understand and to live in harmony at all the levels of living ensuring continuity of happiness, we have a feeling of reverence for him/her.

21. Glory: Each one of us wants to live with continuous happiness and prosperity. Each one of us has the similar faculty of natural acceptance, has the same goal and program and we have the same potential to realize this. Glory is the feeling for someone who has made efforts for excellence.

22. Gratitude: Gratitude is the feeling of acceptance for those who have made efforts for my excellence. Gratitude is an emotion that occurs after people receive help, depending on how they interpret the situation.

23. Love: Love is the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In other words, love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

24. UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIP, TRUST AS THE FOUNDATIONAL VALUE Trust is crucial for a thriving relationship. It can be defined as the firm belief, faith and reliability of one’s partner to be there for them. It allows for acceptance and loyalty. It provides safety, builds confidence and dependability.

25. Trust is broken when– Partners are constantly controlling or critical of one another, never apologise or acknowledge and accept they’re in the wrong. They’re made to feel humiliated, inadequate and rejected. It can prevent them from feeling safe and comfortable to share their thoughts and emotions. Partners feel unsupported, alone and insecure. They’re unable to just be themselves and let their guards down. Infidelity and betrayal can shake the foundation of trust and a sense of belonging. It makes them feel vulnerable, anxious and scared. Intimate partner violence (verbal, physical and sexual) can make partners doubt their own belief in themselves.

26. NEED TO EXPLORE RELATIONSHIP Having right understanding about relationship is necessary for fulfillment in relationship. Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships Common Mistake in Relationship: I evaluate myself on the basis of my intention I evaluate the other on the basis of their competence I doubt their intention. I assume their lack of competence to be their lack of intention → I feel opposed to the other, I get irritated, angry… I may not speak to the other for days… or even breakup the relationship… One may have lost many good friends like this…

27. Self Reflection If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what will you do: Try to improve his competence (and also improve your competence) Get irritated Get angry Have a feeling of opposition

28. RESPECT AS THE RIGHT EVALUATION Respect = Right Evaluation Disrespect equal to Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is

29. Self Confidence, Ego and Depression:

30. HARMONY IN THE SOCIETY All human beings have aspirations. You may aspire to become a doctor or engineer or a lawyer, or a film start or something else. You must have made include your personal life, your family, your profession, your participation in the society and other such domains.

31. UNDERSTANDING HUMAN GOAL

32. HARMONY FROM FAMILY ORDER TO WORLD FAMILY ORDER Once we understand the Comprehensive Human Goal and the five dimensions of Human Endeavour, in the light of Right Understanding, our Natural Acceptance extends from the level of Individual to the levels of Family and then Society and finally into a feeling of World Family. This forms the basis of an undivided society a feeling of relatedness for all (we are all one family).

33. Extending Relationship from Family to Society Right Understanding at the individual level leads to harmony in the family. This leads to harmony in the society. Understanding relationships in family, recognizing the feelings in these relationships and living according to these feelings leads to mutual happiness and fulfillment.

34. Identification of Comprehensive Human Goal: For the fulfilment of the basic human aspirations of all human beings, the following Comprehensive Human Goal should be understood: The Comprehensive Human Goal comprises of four constituents namely: Right Understanding ( Samadhana ) In every individual Prosperity ( Samriddhi ) In every Family Fearlessness / Trust ( Abhaya / Vishwas ) In Society Co-existence ( Sah-astitwa ) In Nature

35. PROGRAMS NEEDED TO ACHIEVE THE COMPREHENSIVE HUMAN GOAL: The five dimensions of Human Endeavour In order to achieve the Comprehensive Human Goal, the following five dimensions of Human Endeavour are to be shaped and implemented in the society: Education – Right Living ( Siksha – Sanskar ) (leads to Right Understanding, Right Feelings and an all compassing solution) Health – Self Regulation ( Svasthya – Sanyama ) (leads to Prosperity ) Justice – Preservation ( Nyaya – Suraksha) (leads to Fearlessness and Co-existence) Production – Work ( Utpadana – Karya ) (leads to Prosperity and Co-existence) Exchange – Storage ( Vinimaya – Kosa / Kosh ) (leads to Prosperity and Fearlessness)

36. HARMONY FROM FAMILY ORDER TO WORLD FAMILY ORDER: UNIVERSAL HUMAN ORDER The universal human order is the state of realizing the freedom of individual in context of this universe. The respect towards mankind and nature is must to establish the universal order. Having understood the comprehensive human goal, we are able to be in harmony with human beings, but also with the rest of nature. Universal Human Order ( SarvabhaumaVyavastha ) – feeling of being related to every unit including human beings and other entities of nature. Undivided Society - feeling of being related to every human being

37. Three activities can be performed to send the message of a holistic society: Educating society through workshops, seminars and street plays Value education in educational institutions Helping to apply values to the real world

38. UNIVERSAL HUMAN ORDER - SCOPE The Universal Human Order is the state of realizing the freedom of individual in context of this universe. The respect towards mankind and nature is must to establish the universal order.

39. Implications of value based living at all four levels of living At the level of the individual — Transition towards happiness and prosperity will take place at the individual level. It will instil self confidence, spontaneous joyfulness, peace, contentment and bliss in the self, and also perseverance, bravery and generosity in living of the individual. At the level of the family - Mutual fulfilment in relationships, prosperity in the family, sustenance of joint families, family as the building block of societal order in place of law enforcing bodies, respect for all without differentiation on the basis of age, gender, caste, race, money, post, creed, etc. At the level of the society - Fearlessness in the society, holistic systems for education, health, justice, production, exchange and storage, harmony between nations, world growing as a family. At the level of nature - Co-existence of all units in nature, earth getting more and more suited for sustenance of all entities on the globe, balance of seasons, proper development.