The best help is self-help; and an additional bonus many people find is that by helping
other infertile couples in their time of need, they learn to help themselves ! Being able to
ventilate your feelings and to get emotional support can be a healing experience.
The internet has also become a very valuable source of emotional support, and you'll find
many online communities of infertile couples, who network with each other, and provide
much needed support and practical information. These cyberspace support groups allow
you to communicate with dozens of other infertile couples from all over the world ! The
Internet provides a safe cloak of anonymity, so you never need to reveal your identity. A
good example of such a support group, which uses bulletin boards to allow couples to
"talk" to each other is at http://www.fertilethoughts.net/ . You can post your message
online, read about other's problems - and offer advise as well !
Unfortunately, misconceptions about support groups prevent many people from making
use of this valuable help.
Some are concerned that joining might cause them to dwell even more on the infertility.
But the reality is that infertility can pervade every aspect of your life and obsession with
getting pregnant will occur whether or not you join a group. Trying to shut out painful
feelings will only make them worse.
Others may feel that infertility is too private or personal or traumatic to share with a
group of strangers. You may also believe that you should be able to handle this on your
own. In truth, infertility is too traumatic not to share with others, and there is nothing
wrong or weak about reaching out for help. A support group simply provides a safe,
warm supportive environment - you need never say a word if you don't want to.
Another reason for not joining a group is concern that it promotes a feeling of futility.
The perception may be that a group is only for those who have hit bottom or are without
hope. This is far from the truth - and in fact, many support group members have ended up
with successful pregnancies thanks to the information they obtained from the support
group's library.
It's easy to believe that nothing except a successful pregnancy will make any difference in
coping with infertility - but that's not true. Joining a support group may be just what you
need to find crucial information or to deal with the devastating feelings that accompany
being infertile. Joining may be frightening - but it's well worth the risk. You do not have
to struggle alone.
Addresses
INFERTILITY FRIENDS,
59, Bombay Samachar Marg,
Fort, Mumbai - 400 023.
Voice Mail : 9721834
Email :
[email protected]
Website: http://www.infertilityfriends.org/
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