OVERCOMING ALL ODDS BOOK E-COPY By Amb steve Mbugua

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Amb.Steve Mbugua

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Overcoming All
ODDS

….Exploring Possibilities

AMBASSADOR STEVE MBUGUA

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Overcoming All Odds

Ambassador Steve Mbugua.
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

I express profound gratitude for the guiding hand of Almighty
God, shaping my journey and revealing an insightful sense of
purpose – to shape this generation in the area of leadership and
service to His church. Glory to our Lord and Saviour Jesus
Christ.
My deepest appreciation to my family for their prayers and
support. You’re a gift from God and you inspire me beyond
measure; you are my anchor. Thank you for your support and
encouragement throughout my journey of writing this book and
serving the Almighty God.
Gratitude extends every church I have served, every opportunity
you gave me to serve the Lord has been room to grow as a
servant of the Lord. With profound gratitude let me mention
Bishop Dr. Mark Kariuki General Overseer Deliverance Church
International for the platform given me to have served at his
Church Majestic City Church.
To all my other spiritual mentors. Each opportunity to serve and
fellowship is priceless. God richly bless you.
I also want to thank Wycliffe Mije and the entire team of
Theword Bookstore publishing team, for the invaluable support
in writing this book. May God bless you.
To everyone mentioned and countless more not mentioned, all
my mentors and associates in the kingdom business; May God
bless you as you serve Him. I appreciate your support and
encouragement shaping my success as a servant.
One more time thanks to the Almighty God for guiding me
every step of the way. Amen.

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DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to who wants to
overcome a challenge and those who are
stuck in the yoke of hardship,
discouragement and hopelessness.
If you believe in the beauty of your dreams.
You shall overcome.
I learned that courage was not the absence of
fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not
he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers
that fear.”
(Nelson Mandela)

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgment 3
Dedication 4

Introduction 6

Chapter 1: Transition 9

Chapter 2: Let God take Charge 41

Chapter 3: Forgot the Past 46

Chapter 4: Let go the Errors and Let God 51

Chapter 5: Run your Race 56

Chapter 6: Your gift will make a Room for you 63

Chapter 7: Wherever your Heart is, there you find
your Treasure 67

Chapter 8: Young people have got a Mighty Power
to change the world 73

Chapter 9: He makes everything Beautiful at
the fullness of time 92

Chapter 10: Stir your Faith and Keep going 103

Chapter 11: Waiting Patiently 111

Chapter 12: You don’t have to Fight every Battle 120

Chapter 13: The secret of Intimacy with God 127

About the Author 139

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INTRODUCTION

nyone who has ever become anything worth writing home about has
had to handle fire and brimstone with naked hands, boldly face all
obstacles and adversities with courage and determination to score
handful of victories. One of the most horrible feelings is being unfit and
looking bulky. Shedding dozen kilograms, lowering the cholesterol levels
and reducing the BMI is serious work. You have to endure regular and
disciplined exercise, embrace new lifestyles and moment of ridicule before
you get that appealing body shape that is fit and admired by many. Just as
we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition - such
as lifting weights and regular exercise - we develop our character muscles
by overcoming challenges and adversity. These odds are very instrumental
in shaping our character and personality in pursuit of our destiny. Some of
them leave scars, causes loss and paint a groom picture of a hopeless
destiny but faced with a positive attitude they become a story of victory
and a purpose full life. You shouldn't give up. Fight for yourself and who
you are. You've got to go through the worst times in life to get the best.
You’ve got to look at challenges with a victor’s mentality. Purpose that the
adversity will not leave you bitter but better. The fire will not consume you
but refine you to a pure and precious jewel.

I have been a member for many years of a Committee known as the
Nairobi Security group which comprises of a team of experts from Police,
Fire Brigade, UN security Council, National Disaster Management Unit, National
Disaster Operation Center, Ambulance companies among other safety and
security agencies and when sharing with the experts who you might think
are enjoying every bit of their living you realize that they all have a fair
share of tribulations that they go through. This includes even the
Governors, Cabinet Secretaries, Bishops and even the Presidents. Living
in the State House or riding a personal jet doesn’t guarantee you immunity
to pain and loss. Even the accomplished suffer setbacks sometimes. The
more bitter the lessons, the greater the successes will be. Although the
world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcomers. You have to Trace it!
Face it! Overcome it!

In my past writings more so in my Book Behind the Scenes, I have shared
many case studies on how I had to overcome odds in life to later realize
that there was a glorious outcome ahead. My life as street boy was a
preparation moment for me to receive the spirit of humanity and service
to mankind which today is a value that I live for. To be frustrated by my
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employers and supervisors was a catalyst for me to quit employment and
establish the now Busara Investment Group which has created opportunities
for many and impacted lives. Every single thing that has ever happened in
your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
Nothing just happens, be strong! Strive and overcome the odds.
You might disrespect, disregard and leave your current wife claiming she
does not look appealing but that lady which you don’t value can be taken
by another man, shown value and love that would make her a queen that
you will admire her from a distance and wish she was still yours.
A piece of land can be added value from a quarry to a beautiful mall.
Sometimes God will allow you to go through a rough path full of
adversities for you to get the shape that you will need to be effective as
you connect to your destiny. Sometimes God will allow you to lose
something valuable to you like a partner, family member, property,
business et cetera to give you something better in return. You don't realize
what you had until it's gone, but there is a reason for every goodbye.
God just chose a different path for you. You don’t have to hold too much
to the lost opportunities, properties and life that you miss the abundant
grace available to seize new opportunities to possess great things in store
for you. God not only gives us the best but the right. You might think that
a specific path is the best for you but God knows the right path that will
link you to your destiny. It might be a rough path full of adversities but
later it’ll give you the stamina that you require to conquer. He takes you to
the training ground where you might become a casualty but not succumb.

The greatest man on earth is the one who is able to conquer himself; to
conquer the obstacles, the pain, the hurts, the scars, the shame, the loss,
the fear and boldly face the future with zeal, passion, enthusiasm and
courage. He goes against all odds to conquer and win. Many times we are
our worst enemy. If we could learn to conquer ourselves, then we will have
a much easier time overcoming the obstacles that are in front of us. This
book is full of adversities that I had to overcome. I have also in my Books;
Dare Not Quit and Behind the Scenes, I had to encounter and overcome the
adversary to enjoy great victory. The tests we face in life's journey are not
to reveal our weaknesses but to help us discover our inner strengths.
We can only know how strong we are when we strive and thrive beyond
the challenges we face.
Sometimes the injuries and scars that we incur at the training ground
become our life if we take them that way. They hinder your progress when
you focus on the past, the good old stories of how you became a victim
and lost.

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We do not have to carry the baggage of brokenness to our future. The
future is too bright to spoil it with rubbish of our past. You have to learn
to wear out the old shell and put up a new covering, a new energy, zeal,
attitude, passion and enthusiasm. Let go and let God is the way of life!
Everything happens for a reason because God plans your life for you ahead
of time. He sees the end from the beginning and lays a plan for your life.
Nothing is a surprise to the almighty God. Take it God's way.
No one on earth even the Grammy award winners live a life without
obstacles. Just like a big highway which will have bends, bumps, corners,
police check points and stop overs, life presents both smooth and wavy
pathways and it is for us to ride on focusing unto our dreams and great
destiny. We should not allow bumps to disrupt our journey to our destiny.

We need to be focused and overcome all odds that show up along the path.
Life is not always easy to live, but the opportunity to do so is a blessing
beyond comprehension. In the process of living, we will face struggles,
many of which will cause us to suffer and to experience pain. This pain,
loss, disappointment, disgraces and brokenness gives us the experience
and stamina that we need in pursuit of our destiny and living a purposeful
life. This means we have to overcome them against all odds. We have to
become by riding on the waves and storms that life directs to us. We will
gain much wisdom and knowledge as we endure through and the
experience will not only be beneficial to us but to many around us.

Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in horrible bills. The best thing is that
our good God does not waste an experience. He allow us to go through
some challenges to learn, acquire some stamina, glorify Him in the victory,
shape and equip us with crucial lessons that we’ll need later in the pursuit
of our destiny.

The noise of the sea will never disturb the fish from sleeping. Therefore don’t let
anything disturb you, stay focused and determined to be on track on
whatever you are pursuing in life, turn a deaf ear to every noise that will
distract your attention. God will change your story if only you are
determined and prayerful. I urge you to never start a day with the broken
pieces of yesterday unless to join them to make a worthy vessel. Every day
is a fresh opportunity to venture a new path and write a story. Each day is
a new beginning and every morning we wake up is the first day of our new
life and because today will never come again we should give it all our best
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Chapter 1

TRANSITION

everal years have now past since the day I submitted my resignation
letter as the Training Manager of St. John Ambulance Kenya. I quit
an office and desk where I was in charge of all trainings programs
in the whole country including training all the Police Officers, over 20,000
volunteers in universities, high schools, primary schools and Government Institutions.
I was also the Head of a group of over 72 trainers in the region. It was
a dream which whose time had come. One year later, by the grace of
God I had trained more people in the region than I did my entire life
working with the organization as a National Industrial Training Authority
approved trainer, training and developing officer to a training Manager.
Through my company Makinika Afrika, I have been able to reach out
to many people who could not afford to sponsor themselves for a First
Aid or Fire Safety course. I have been able to organize free trainings for
boda boda riders under the Makinika Road Safety awareness campaign as
well as the Makinika Afrika Community Safety awareness campaign on
Drugs and Substance abuse awareness program. I have also given a lot of
instructor’s opportunity to earn and share their training experience
through this forum. I have distributed thousands of Safety charts and
materials to schools, households, churches and other organized groups. In this
transition I have attended several media awareness sessions and
participated in national disaster and safety related forums.

If you are trusting God for any transition, just keep praying, keep
pushing, keep pursuing the dream as you wait upon God’s appointed
time. You may be trusting Him for a marriage partner, own business
or company, a child, salvation, come out from an addiction, promotion,
own a property or even political leadership. At His appointed time, He
will make everything beautiful, give you a divine idea, divine strategy,
right forum, right and favorable environment and divine connection
with the right people and resources.
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Even though it tarries, wait patiently
and keep on believing the right time is
coming and God will make everything
beautiful.

Until now you have not asked for anything in
my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete. (John16:24).

You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it. (John14:14).

Let us keep dreaming big. We can be whatever we believe, perceive and
confess. There is a great power in our words, imagination and trusting
in God.

Are you letting a weakness, failure, or shortcoming keep you from
letting God do great things in your life? If so, it’s time to shake that off.
We all have weaknesses and shortcomings. All of us has unique flaws.
But the good news is Paul the Apostle is reminding us that God’s grace is
sufficient for you. His power is made perfect in any weakness.
In fact, the men God used in the Bible to do extraordinary things were
ordinary men and women with flaws, shortcomings, imperfections and
weakness. But the key is they were still willing to be used by God. It’s
time to get back in the race of life and get your fire back.

A friend of mine Julie (not her real name) grew up in a God fearing family.
I knew her as a staunch believer and a gifted worshipper. She came
from a very strict and protective family. After her secondary school, she
joined the university and was actively involved in ministry work. Julie
was dating a young man Kim (not his real name) who was a secondary
school graduate but struggling with life.
When her parents discovered this, they were very furious about the
relationship. Later, she became pregnant but unfortunately Kim did not
take responsibility which led to the breaking of their relationship. Julie
became depressed and it really affected her studies and relationship with
others. She was rejected by her family and she was no longer valued by
her parents.
After graduating from the university, she struggled alone to take care of
her Child in Nairobi and many time she slept without taking meals. She
called me several times to assist her buy food and sure enough I hacked
to her plea.
“Success is a journey,
not a destination."
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Several years later, she met a gentleman who loved her whole heartedly
together with her baby. She later got married in a colourful church
wedding, and today they are blessed, happily married and own a lot of
properties. As I write this book, she is many times richer than what her
parents owned. She runs a family business and God has really
established them.
When she thought that it was over; God was not over with her yet.
He broke a relationship which probably could not have amounted to
much to prepare her for a great gentleman that would together create a
lot of wealth. On the side, Kim has never settled down, he is still
struggling to make the ends meet. We can only wish him all the best in
his endevors. God will bring a divine transition in your life that will
amaze you.
God is doing a new thing and you will forget your painful past.

Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now
it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and
streams in the wasteland. (Isaiah 43:18 NIV).

God is making a way where there seems to be no way. He is bringing
surprises and coincidences. In your transition God is joining you with
the right people, resources and opportunities to your favor.
A divine transition is coming into your life that will thrust you to
greatness. Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. Get set.

1) Your Purpose, Your Life

If you knew you were going to die a year from today. What would you do?
And how would you want to be remembered?
The majority of people don’t like thinking about death. It freaks us out.
But thinking about our own death surprisingly has a lot of practical
advantages. One of those advantages is that it forces us to zero in on
what’s actually important in our lives and what’s just frivolous and
distracting.
Have you ever thought of the young people who died and left us? Think
about Fidel Odinga, Esir, Dr. Myles Munroe, Bishop Ben Bahati, and Cabinet
Secretary Nkaissery, a friend or a relative who left you, wondering how
the world could be so unfair.

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On the Monday of 5
th
December 1983, I
was born into this beautiful world. On
Sunday 3
rd
August 2003 at noon, I gave
my life to Christ at Deliverance Church
Murunyu in Nakuru. This was one of
the best things that ever happened to
my life and the best decision that I have
ever made.
On Thursday 26th May 2011 at 11pm, I discovered my purpose.
This was after a long fight with the Holy Spirit wanting to know my role
in the body of Christ, and after three good hours lying on the floor of
my room, the Lord asked me, “what is in your hand?" I responded, “it’s
my phone." Then the voice told me to write a text and forward to
somebody. I didn't know what to type but miraculously I received a
wonderful text from someone. I checked the balance of my airtime and
realized I had only 10 shillings. So at around 11:15pm I forwarded the
text to 10 friends.

My friend! That text did glorious things and everyone who got the text
called and others sent replies claiming that God spoke to them through
the text. In fact, one of the guy who called back, told me that they were
in a hospital after their last born got ill at night and they had a challenge
getting a physician but immediately received and read the text, as they
were still wondering why the text came to them, the doctor showed up
and after one week the gentleman gave his life to Christ.
Two years later, while he was accompanying me to my in-laws to pay
my dowry, he told me that I led him to Christ through the text I sent
that night.
A lot of things have happened, I have led hundreds of men and women
to Christ by the grace of God. I have preached in several institution
from high schools, colleges and even prisons and churches.
I have written a lot of articles and publications that are appearing in
different churches, institutions and organizations journals to the glory
of God. I have always written stuff on Facebook, twitter, linked in,
Instagram, Google and other social media platforms and through this
God Has always talked to somebody.
Today as I sit in my room meditating on what the Lord has done, I feel
humbled by His love and faithfulness, surely He Has been good to me
and his grace has been sufficient. There is no one like my God.
“The key to happiness is
having dreams; the key to
success is making them
come true."
James Allen

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Some of my encouraging Bible verses have been;

Psalm 32:8 "I will instruct you and teach you concerning the path you should
walk; I will direct you with my eye."

John 14:6,"Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one
comes to the Father except through me."

Psalm 91:14-16, "Because he loves me," says the LORD, "I will rescue him; I
will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will
answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With
long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation."

Surely, My God has been good to me, I was a stammerer and could not
dare stand and talk in front of people but today here I am, declaring the
goodness of God to Nations, His love flowing in me, He has anointed
my head and my cup is overflowing.

My friend, the secret is knowing God and allowing Him to lead your
life and you will never live in regret but will have a purpose driven life,
your life will never be the same again. You are His project and He is the
project manager and main donor so just surrender your life unto Him
and allow Him to lead your life.

When I was doing my undergraduate at Moi University Eldoret, there
was a time we were having a club dinner at the Soweto mess and I asked
members “If you had a year to live, what would you do?” As you can imagine,
this is a question without a direct answer. A lot of people gave vague
and boring answers.
But it did cause people to really think about their lives in a different way
and re-evaluate what their priorities were.
Our Spiritual leader and my mentor Rev Elijah Mwangi of Deliverance
Church Nakuru always declares to us that “You will be mighty in the land.”
These words have been lingering in my mind since the time I gave my
life to Christ. In my spiritual walk, I do a lot of counseling, motivation
and mentorship in schools through Kenya Students Christian Fellowship
(KSCF), Young life Africa, NUSETA, Africa Youth Rescue Initiative and my
Initiative Makinika Afrika International. One key thing to note, is that
every young person out there is hungry to know their purpose on earth.
Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even
graduation, even after we get jobs and even after we are making money.
The problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. The idea that we were
each born for a higher purpose and it’s now our cosmic mission to find

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it. In every human being there is a question of why were you created?
What am I in this world for? Am I living my purpose? We exist on this
earth for some undetermined period of time.
During that time we do things. Some of these things are important.
Some of them are unimportant. And those important things give our
lives meaning and happiness. The unimportant ones basically helps us
connect the important. God gives us what we need to get what we want.

What is your legacy going to be? What are the stories people are going to tell when
you’re gone? What is your obituary going to say? Is there anything to say at all?
If not, what would you like it to say? How can you start working
towards that today? Well, if you were to summarize your obituary in
one sentence with an ordinary achievement that impresses no one, then
again, you’re failing here.
When people feel like they have no sense of direction, no purpose in
their life, it’s because they don’t know what’s important to them, and
they don’t know what their values are. When you have and know your
values, then you’re essentially operating in other people’s values and
pursuing other people’s priorities instead of your own.
This is a one-way ticket to unhealthy living and ultimate misery.

Discovering one’s purpose in life essentially boils down to finding those
one or two things that are bigger than yourself, and bigger than those
around you. To find your purpose, you must get off your couch, take
action and take time to think beyond yourself. Think greater than
yourself, and paradoxically, to imagine a world without yourself. It has
cost me years of reading inspirational books like Purpose driven life by
Rick Warren, In Pursuit of purpose by Myles Munroe, Think Big by Ben Carson,
Fire Rain and the Bible to discover my purpose.

One of the obvious way to understand your purpose is identifying and
knowing your purpose. Discovering what you’re passionate about in life
and what matters to you is a full-contact sport, a trial-and-error process.
None of us know exactly how we feel about an activity until we actually
do the activity. What most people don’t understand is that passion is
the result of action, not the cause of it.

Be careful how you spend each day. Do not be led by programs and
plans from other people, but have your own values. To live a happy and
healthy life, we must hold on to values that are greater than our own
pleasure or satisfaction.

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Mr. Chris Kirubi one of the greatest Business tycoons, always says that
if you want to count yourself successful, just Identify one problem in the
world and try fixing it. Getting a solution to a problem leads to a successful
living.

Discover a problem you care about and start solving it. Obviously,
you’re not going to fix the world’s problems by yourself. But you can
contribute and make a difference. The feeling of making a difference in
itself is ultimately what’s most important for your own happiness and
fulfillment. Great things are by nature unique and unconventional.
Therefore, to achieve them, we must overcome all odds, the hard
mental conditioning which tends to scare us from accomplishing things.

Embrace embarrassment. Feeling foolish is part of the path to achieving
something important, something meaningful. The more a major life
decision scares you, chances are the more you need to be doing it. Right
now, there’s something you want to do, something you think about
doing, something you fantasize about doing, yet you don’t do it. You
have your reasons, no doubt. And you repeat these reasons to yourself
day in day out. My friend that could be where your purpose is and your
prosperity.

Whatever it is, don’t just look at the activities that keep you up all night,
but look at the cognitive principles behind those activities that enthrall
you. Because they can easily be applied elsewhere.

People want to start their own business or become financially
independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you
find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures,
and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will
be successful or not.
People want a partner or a spouse. But you don’t end up attracting
someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that
comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never
gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It’s part
of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play. Everybody wants
something. And everybody wants something enough.
They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want
“enough.”

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Who you are is defined by the values
you are willing to struggle for. People
who enjoy the struggles of a gym are
the ones who get in good shape. People
who enjoy long workweeks and the
politics of the corporate ladder are the
ones who move up it. People who
enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of
the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make
it. Everything involves sacrifice. Everything includes some sort of cost.
Nothing is pleasurable or uplifting all of the time.
So the question is. What struggle or sacrifice are you willing to tolerate?
Ultimately, what determines our ability to stick with something we care
about is our ability to handle the rough patches and ride out the
inevitable rotten days. This is the most simple and basic component of
life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles
wisely, my friend.

If it’s going to happen, it’s up to you. You have greatness in you, you
have the seed of greatness in you because if you are born again then
you are a royal priesthood, a chosen nation and set apart by God to
enjoy the goodies of the kingdom.

As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and
my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:9, NIV).
God’s dream for your life is so much bigger than your own. He wants
to bless you and enlarge your territory. His ways and thoughts are so
much higher than ours, and His plan is so much bigger than we can
imagine. Choose today to focus on the good things God has in store
for you. Don’t allow the circumstances of life to drag your thoughts
down. Choose God’s thoughts by meditating on His Word.

The Scripture declares, “Set your mind on things above.” Those “things above”
are God’s thoughts and His ways. Having higher thoughts means
thinking, “I am blessed and highly favored. I am above only and not beneath. I am
the head and not the tail. I am a victor, not a victim. I am righteous, and my path
shines brighter and brighter to the full day!”
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
Robert Schuller

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When you allow those higher thoughts to fill your mind, they will direct
your steps. You will see yourself as an overcomer and live the abundant
life God has in store for you.

And the Lord answered me; “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he
may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the
end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.
(Habakkuk 2:2)

My friend, you may be going through a situation in life that could be
making you feel like God is so far from you, and, probably feeling like
He is not fair with you. Just know that the situation is not meant to
finish you but give you a great experience and testimony just like the
experience David got when he faced the bear, the lion and Goliath
before being crowned the king. Our God is a God of abundance and
His intentions for you is to make you prosper and live a hopeful life.
He is working behind the scene on your behalf just like what He does
to a caterpillar before it becomes a butterfly.
Don’t fear when you see like part of your life has a state of inadequacy
He doesn’t provide almost enough, maybe enough or barely enough.
He provides more than enough in every area of our lives. With God,
there is no such thing as ordinary. He can change any situation and use
anything to serve His purpose.

My trust in God flows out of the experience of his loving me, day in
and day out, whether the day is stormy or fair, whether I'm sick or in
good health, whether I'm in a state of grace or disgrace. He comes to
me where I live and loves me as I am.
Our key to greatness lies not in our ability to project ourselves to others
as if we are putting ourselves onto a projector and creating an image of
ourselves on a projector screen. Rather, our key to greatness lies in who
we are which we can give to other people in a way that when they walk
away from us, they are able to say in their hearts that they have taken
away something with them quite extraordinary. Embedded in the larger
story of redemption is a principle we must not miss: God uses ordinary
people to do extraordinary things in the lives of others and He will use
you.
Sometimes we may ask God for success, and He gives us physical and
mental stamina. We might plead for prosperity, and we receive enlarged
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blessed with the gift of grace. He may bestow upon us conviction and
confidence as we strive to achieve worthy goals.
Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the
inner awareness of simple abundance - it will surely come to us, but
only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart.

The LORD will come as he did against the Philistines at Mount Perazim and
against the Amorites at Gibeon. He will come to do a strange thing; he will come to
do an unusual deed. (Isaiah 28:21).

Today is the day to lift your expectations. Believe for something radical
- a radical healing, promotion, a restoration, that unexpected call,
breakthrough. When you decide to stand in faith and believe for God’s
best, doing what God calls you to do, the results will be greater than
you ever imagined.

Focus on pursuing and serving your purpose in your generation. This
is the secret to a fruitful and fulfilling life. You have a special assignment
that only you are meant to handle. There is a gap that only you can fill.
May God give you divine knowledge to discover and pursue it.

2) Every Setback Is A Setup for A Great Comeback

When I was a pupil at Kamurunyu primary school, I loved art and craft
subject. We made a lot of items some from wood, clay, paper, metal,
paper mache and the end product was always great. When making clay
vessels like pots, jars and flower vessels, sometimes the outcome would
not be gratifying so we had to crush it, soften it and start all over again
to make a different vessel.
The first one would face a setback because it did not satisfy and our
intention was not to harm but to give it a more noble and worthy
appearance that would be admired.
It’s easy to think that because we aren’t where we want to be in life, or
we’ve made poor decisions or faced unfortunate setbacks that God’s
plans for our life are over. Nothing you have done or haven’t done can
cancel you from your destiny as long as you keep God first place and
continually seek and obey Him. When you don’t see a way, God can
make a way. When it looks like it’s over, God has the final say.

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We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.
But we are not our mistakes, we are not our struggles, and we are here
now with the power to shape another day and our future.
Every single thing that has ever happened in our life is preparing us for
a moment that is yet to come in our future.

Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even
though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to
develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves
which we endure help us in our marching onward.
People often say that a bad event is a 'blessing in disguise.' Trust me,
experience will teach you that some are unbelievably well disguised.
Everyone gets fired, or decides to make a radical change at some point.
Everyone suffers setbacks. Even President Mr. Uhuru Kenyatta once
was a presidential candidate and was defeated. He learnt some lessons
and there was a major comeback 10 years later.
We all go through things in life that we don’t understand, but did you
know that God uses the dark places in our life as part of His divine
plan? Take a journey through the scriptures in this inspirational message
and see how many people that did anything great went through a dark
place but developed new potential in that valley. See how God enlarged
David and adopt his faith-filled declaration in, “God enlarged me in my time
of distress.” (Psalm 4:1).

The dark places are where you really grow. That’s where your character
is developed; that’s when you learn to trust, to persevere, where your
spiritual muscles are getting stronger. Take a new look at facing dark
times and discover the God-given growth and potential inside of you
that you never knew you had as you learn about the plan of the valley
and our trials.
We all face situations that seem impossible, and it’s very easy to want
to give up, to throw in the towel. After all, if it’s taken a while,
sometimes it’s easy to settle, get discouraged and think nothing will ever
change. But that’s where our faith kicks in, that’s where winning process
begin. So many men and women in the Bible who were used greatly by
God knew a secret - they were “nevertheless” people.
They knew that if they were going to see the thing they were believing
for, or see the thing God had promised them come to pass, they had to
hold on to their trust in God and daily persevere and release their faith.
Don’t give up on the promise God has placed in your heart.

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I'm proud of the way I've dealt with
setbacks. It's hard when you feel down
and you think, 'Why is the world doing this
to me?' But you have to pick yourself up
again. That's what makes you a better
athlete, a better skipper, a stronger
person, a winner, a champion.
Even the accomplished suffers setbacks sometimes. The more bitter
the lessons, the greater the successes will be.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those
who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”(Romans 8:28).

I think whether you're having setbacks or not, the role of a leader is to
always display a winning attitude.
There have been setbacks, illnesses and other obstacles, so inevitably
I've had disappointments. But once you realise that things can't always
go your own way, you're on the right track to being able to handle your
own life.
I've had disappointments and heartbreaks and setbacks and roles I
didn't get, but something always came along that either made me better
or was an even better role. Am not strong, I have known pain and
disgrace, I have known and faced rejection, hatred and disappointments
but these setbacks have made me strong to the extent of writing
motivational stories and testimonies connected to some of these
moments.
I am someone who always gets up again, even if there are setbacks.
I have a survivor’s instinct. I'm not sure where it comes from, but
probably from all the little things that make me into who I am.
You have to realize that illness and temporary l setbacks at times comes
from the hand of God, to help us know ourselves better, to free us from
the love of created things, and to makes us become bold and brave to
overcome all the odds that life would bring. God allows odds to come
to us, when He realizes that we have gone away. When we stops to trust
and acknowledge Him. He allows odds to come, until we come back to
Him. Setbacks are just learning experiences.
In other words, don't expect to always be great. Disappointments,
failures and setbacks are a normal part of the lifecycle of a unit or a
company and what the leader has to do is constantly be up and say 'we
have a problem, let's go and get it done'.
“All men who have achieved
great things have been great
dreamers."
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You have to keep pushing towards your dreams no matter the setbacks.
Take note, everybody has setbacks in their life, and everybody falls
short achieving the goals they set for themselves. That's part of the
process of finding and understanding who you are.
Every single thing that happens in your life is preparing you for a
moment that is yet to come. Nothing just happens, be strong.
If you so choose, even the unexpected setbacks can bring new and
positive possibilities. If you so choose, you can find value and
fulfillment in every circumstance.
You will find that every successful entrepreneur has suffered many
setbacks. These entrepreneurs just forget to mention these when they
are doing interviews with the Young Rich, Jeff Koinange, CNN, BBC
etc.
A successful entrepreneur can't be afraid of failures or setbacks. An
initial setback can be a great opportunity to take a new and more
promising approach to any problem, to come back stronger than ever.
I contend that not only can you laugh at adversity, but it is essential to
do so if you are to deal with setbacks without defeat. Competition got
me off the farm and trained me to look for challenges but endure
setbacks. This blended with my faith, it sustains me in the fight with
Nairobians to create an impact and acquire wealth.

Life is too short to waste doing nothing, make every day count, because
we all don't know when we will leave this world. Cherish every moment
you have with loved ones and never regret anything in life, because
everything happens for a reason. Look at every day and smile that God
has kept you alive, because there's nothing sweeter than life.

Every struggle arises for a reason for experience or a lesson. A great
journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a
waste of time if you learn and grow from it.
You don't realize what you had until it's gone, but there is a reason for
every goodbye. God just chose a different path for you...
Everything happens for a reason, although we may not understand it at
the time, if you hang in there, all the pieces will eventually fall where
they belong.
Everything happens for a reason. Life puts you down, only so you can
get back up for the better things. Live life, forgive and forget. Let go of
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Everything happens for a reason. That
reason causes change. Sometimes the
change hurts. Sometimes the change
is hard. But in the end it’s all for the
best.
Just smile my friend, today would be a
wonderful day not to take life so
seriously. Today may end up the way
you prefer, and it may not. Happiness
is not about being a winner; it's about being gentle with life, being gentle
with you. Let life be a dance, and choose the kind of dance you want
for today, perhaps a gentle loving dance.
We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.
But we are not our mistakes, we are not our struggles, and we are here
now with the power to shape another day and our future.

Every single thing that has ever happened in our life is preparing us for
a moment that is yet to come in our future.
Remember, God didn’t come just to make you better and help you get
by. He came to make you totally whole, and He desires that you to live
an abundant, healthy, happy, victorious life.
When God gives you a dream and puts a promise in your heart, most
often, there is a delay. A lot of people give up in the face of opposition
and let their dream become buried under discouragement, past
mistakes, rejection, negative voices and failure. But that doesn’t have to
be you. Your dream may be buried, but the good news is that it’s still
alive. It’s not too late to see it come to pass.
God promises in Joel 2:25, to restore to you the lost years. It’s time to remember
your dream and believe again.

You might have felt like you have been dropped and retired from the
track of your dream but God is using that setback to prepare you, to re-
tire and re-equip you to come and finish strong just like in football, the
half time break is crucial to make some crucial change and sometimes
to get a status changing advice not an end to the game.
What happened in the halftime even if it could be a loss can be
converted into a win depending on the activities done during the half
time. You can’t live very long without being dropped in life - dropped
by an illness, a delay, financial constraints, a divorce, a friend that turns
on you, or an unfair injustice.
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
Robert Schuller

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Many people let these moments define who they are and how they will
live the rest of their lives.
There will always be things in life that we don’t understand or don’t
make sense. It may even be an unanswered prayer or situation in your
life that you’ve earnestly sought God to change for years.
When this happens, it’s very easy to focus on what’s not changing,
which can rob us of our joy and faith. But, there is a higher way to live.
See your secret frustrations a bit differently with a fresh godly
perspective.
“My grace is sufficient for you. My power works best in weakness.” You have the
grace for anything you’re facing. You can’t live very long without
making a mistake, being hurt by someone, going through a breakup,
being broken by divorce, an unhealthy childhood or an addiction. The
key is to move forward and let it go. God can use an obstacle to be your
stepping stone. No matter how large an obstacle may be, God is much
bigger than anything we may face.

We all go through difficulties, setbacks and loss. In fact, pain is a part
of life. Many people allow their pain to cripple them and keep them
stuck, causing them to miss out on the next level that God was
preparing them to go. This doesn’t have to be you. Nothing is a surprise
to God. He wants to use your pain to grow you and prepare you to give
birth to a new level of your destiny. If you’re dealing with a painful
situation today, you will find encouragement. That pain is not there to
stop you; it’s there to develop, prepare and increase you for the greater
work God wants to do in your life. A new level is coming.

Sometimes you have to lose something to gain something better. If you
look back over your life and recall the times you really grew and came
up higher, most often, it was the times of difficulty where your faith
grew, and you were stretched beyond your limits. Did you know that
these growing times are all part of God’s plan? These ordained seasons
do not show up in our lives by accident. They are placed there on
purpose to grow us, equip us and prepare us for our future. You’ll be
inspired to stay in faith and be equipped to go through the pruning
seasons. It’s time to go to a new level and flourish into your destiny.
Gain wisdom in this faith-building message so you’ll be ready and
prepared in every season.
Being a person of faith doesn’t exempt you from difficulties.

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"Rain falls on the just and the unjust." (Matthew 5:45).
No matter how good a person you are, no matter how much you honor
God, there’s going to be some rain in your life. But the good news is
that God's strength will equip you every step of the way, and you’re not
alone.

Psalm 18:39 says, "You have armed me with strength for the battle." So, don’t
be afraid of storms and trials. Be inspired and reminded that you’re
coming up higher; you’re reaching a new level. The storms may come,
the winds may blow, but with God by your side, you will stand and
thrive. The God of the storm is the same God who heals, binds up
wounds, teach our fingers for battle and teach our hands to make
wealth.
"Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning."(Psalm 30:5).
His rays of restoration, hope, healing and abundance are closer than
you think. It's time to have faith again.
When you’re in the valley, if you’ll stay in faith knowing that God has
something better, He’ll take those tears and turn them into pools to
refresh you. You’ll have the strength you need for every situation. You
will come out stronger and better.
God sees the bigger picture for your life. He knows where every road
is leading and where the dead ends are.
“A person’s steps are directed by the Lord. How then can anyone understand their
own way?” (Proverbs 20:24).

When you realize you are in the palm of God’s hand and that nothing
happens without His divine purpose, then you will begin to see and
realize that the closed doors are just as important as the open doors.
Over time as a growing entrepreneur, I have come to appreciate the fact
that competition help us do things better and grow.

One of the competitors to my company in the line of Training is Kenya
Red Cross and St. John Ambulance and for me to acquire more
trainings, I have to regularly study what they do and then ensure my
team improve and have better tactics and strategies. Do not view your
competitor as an enemy because it’s through them that you can scale
heights. Intelligent people think that the enemy teaches them how to
march towards success, because, the adversary is the best type of mirror
with reflects our defects through pen or tongue.

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It decreases our pride and arrogance and, sometimes, helps in uplifting
our hidden abilities.
The advances of the east and the west are the consequence of
competition. If competitions come to end, capabilities would not
flower. Thus, if there were no struggle between individuals or masses
the progress in new inventions too would become stagnant.
Sometimes we do not do things to our expectation, sometimes we fail
but regardless of the setback we must know that it’s part of the process.
It’s like a road bump on the road which is not an end to the journey.

One of the secrets of success is that we should not fear failures. Rather,
we must pick up the sweet fruits hidden in defeat. Failure is like a
mirror, which shows us our weaknesses and defects accurately.
I love action movies, in all the movies the starling never dies. They fight
to the end. Occasionally, they are crushed and almost to death but there
is always the great come back – revenge time. History shows that many
victories came after defeats. It is so because the failed person enters the
field again with a new determination and spirit and achieves success as
he is convinced that the distance between success and failure is very
less.
Champions have a finishing stamina. They never give up, they fight to
the end whether bruised or fatigued. They continue to march forward
gradually with a strong will and rest only after reaching their goal.
A well-known Army commander called Napoleon once said, “I have seen
so many defeats that I have now learnt how to defeat the enemy.” That is positivity.
The worst thing to lose is hope. It is hope that keeps us going regardless
of the set back. It is also said that sometimes hope remains hidden
behind hopelessness and disappointment. Hope follows hopelessness.
The remarkable point is that the existence of difficulties is one of the
causes of success. Some people do not realize this easily, but if they
think over it they would realize that just as the heat of fire strengthens
steel, difficulties and hardships make the imagination and thinking of
man more sharp and teach him the lesson of living.

The setbacks are very crucial ingredients and catalysts to success. You
require them to get the important lessons and experiences that will help
you remain on top. The best soldiers are the once who have been
involved in different wars and fights. Strong and powerful people are
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they alone knew how to cope up with
adversities, but those who are
nourished in comfort and ease are like
delicate and tender flowers, which fall
down even by a cold whiff of breeze.

Thomas Edison tried two thousand
different materials in search of a filament for the light bulb. When none
worked satisfactorily, his assistant complained, “All our work is in vain.
We have learned nothing.”
Edison replied very confidently, “Oh, we have come a long way and we have
learned a lot. We know that there are two thousand elements which we cannot use
to make a good light bulb.”
Setbacks and difficulties provide steps to climb the ladder to success.
Some of the very successful people have either been brought up in
ghettos or rural set up where they had to go through setbacks and life’s
challenges. Most of those who always get what they desire, are always
protected and from well up families have challenges coping with life on
their own. But those who have suffered hazards and tough times keep
standing like mountains. Stormy winds cannot harm them at all.
Similarly floods always digs up soft ground but hard soil remains intact
amidst floods. A knife becomes sharper only after being grinded on
hard rock or against another metal, it is the same truth. Torments and
tribulations polish man’s personality, because he uses his mental
faculties for removing difficulties. Hence wise people say that games
and sports raise the mental abilities of a child because in the course of
games and sports he faces some sort of difficulties and uses his
intelligence to remove them.
From this viewpoint, unless there are storms of difficulties many
capabilities cannot grow. Hardships and calamities are like a strict
teacher whose students score the best marks.
A setback is nothing but a setup for a comeback. Everything happens
for a reason, though the reason is not always as clear as we would like
it to be.

My dear friend, the bad times are the good times to move
ahead…despite the setbacks you have been going through and your
hard work not being appreciated of which the Lord has been watching,
your time to rise has come. You have endured and gone through a
“Your imagination is your
preview of life's
coming attractions."
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painful, discouraging moment full of questions without answers and
sometimes wondering whether God still cares.
You are going to a season where you are about to experience great
breakthrough after breakthrough because what you went through did
not break you.
There was once a man who was ship-wrecked and stranded on an island.
Every day he prayed asking God to send someone to rescue him, but
to his disappointment, no one ever came.
Months passed and this man learned how to survive on the island.
During this time, he accumulated things from the island and stored
them in a hut that he constructed. One day after hunting for food and
returning back to his hut, much to his dismay he saw that his hut was
on fire along with everything else he owned.
All of his possessions were going up in smoke. The only thing he had
left were the clothes on his back. Initially he was in shock, and then he
was consumed with anger and rage.
In his fury he threw a fist into the air and began cursing God and yelling,
“God, how could you let this happen to me? I’ve been praying every day for months
about being rescued and no one has come, and now everything that I have is on fire!
How could you do to this to me! Why did you let this happen?”

Later the man was on his hands and knees weeping heavily when he
happened to look up and catch sight of a ship coming in his direction.
The man was rescued and as they were heading back to civilization the
man asked the Captain, “How were you able to find me?”
The captain responded, “We were voyaging across the ocean when we noticed on
the horizon a column of smoke going up.
We decided to go check it out and when we did, that’s when we found you!”

In life we are going to be confronted with challenges, problems, and
disasters. But keep in mind that what the devil has meant for bad, God
can transform into your good. What is a catastrophe can sometimes be
a blessing in disguise.

“The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles.
The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite
spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of
them all.” (Psalms 34:17-19).

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You are not breaking down, you are breaking through. Arise now my
friend because your time to shine has come and you will never be the
same again, never, never be the same again in Jesus name.

3) God Still Voice

At no point in history was God ever silent. God has always
communicated with his people in some way or another. We can be rest
assured that if God wants something said, it will be heard.
It thus explains to us not to determine whether God speaks today, but
how He does it.
I have over time developed a culture of creating time to just listen to
God without saying anything or without giving any instruction.
I prepare a note book, writes minutes of the meeting with God and start
listening as I take notes. Sometimes I place a chair and assume He is
seated right opposite and sometimes He asks questions and I respond.
Sometimes I had meetings with God that I end up writing pages of
information, instructions and directions. Sometimes He directs me on
preparing a plan or art work for something and He coach me through
it. It is very fulfilling. Just try this and you will testify about it.

Do you ever find that when people are talking, your mind is racing so
fast thinking about what you are going to say instead of really listening?
You are preparing to give an answer or give your opinion rather than
careful listen in between the lines.
In scripture, we see God’s voice is not the loudest one out there. Many
voices of the world are vying for your attention. You have to be
intentional in order to hear His voice. His voice is still and quiet, and
so we must be still and quiet in order to hear Him. It is less important
how God speaks to us than what we do with what He says. God speaks
most clearly to us in this day through His Word. The more we learn it,
the more ready we will be to recognize His voice when He speaks, and
the more likely we are to obey what we hear.
We often look for God to move in and out of the ordinary manner. We
often miss the supernatural looking for the spectacular. God speaks to
us today through His written Word. We must read it, study it, and
meditate on it. When we do so, logically we learn more of His mind.
Then the Holy Spirit makes that Word applicable to us at the right

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times. Most people are always directly to seeking approval from others
thus lose track
“What do you mean I have to wait for someone's approval? I'm someone. I approve.
So I give myself permission to move forward with my full support!”

You have two voices, one that only you hear, and another that you
speak out loud with, so others hear you. Regardless of what you actually
say with your mouth, what matters is what your inner voice says, for
this is the one you listen to the most.” and this is the voice that should
be leading you.
"Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you,
saying, "This is the way; walk in it." (Isaiah 30:21).

This is a year of opportunities for you and me, It is not very often that
an opportunity comes knocking. But when it does, you better be bathed
and dressed and ready to answer its call. It comes with a deep conviction
and you have to listen to your heart to get that conviction. It favors the
prepared.
We have an internal check and balance system. By design we are so
filled with possibility, opportunity, with greatness that when we live
small, within the bottom of our capability, we innately know we should
be living greater than that, and it creates a disconnect inside that leads
us to feeling empty, unhappy, maybe even depressed.
In life, you will always be faced with a series of God-ordained
opportunities brilliantly disguised as problems and challenges.

On 30
th
July 2014, my friend who was working as a field officer with a
local NGO lost her job in an unclear circumstances and when she was
at home wondering about the next move, with a great conviction to
shift with her family to their parent's rural home, her younger daughter
got sick and she took her to Kenyatta National Hospital and upon
arrival at the casualty area she found a clinical officer who recognized
her and ushered them in. To her surprise, the clinical officer was once
her nanny and because of the way she treated her well during the two
years they lived together and encouraged her to save and pursue her
medical carrier, the patient was taken care of and apart from that, the
clinical officer informed the lady(her former boss) of a project that USAID
and DFID were about to launch in that area and were about to advertise
for a Programs Manager job and connected her to the contact person,
in summary, the lady is now working in the project having a 9yrs

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contract and earning 4times her previous salary, hefty allowances and
traveling regularly to different countries.
My friend you may be in a painful, challenging or even confused state
wondering about the next move but just know that what you are going
through right now is an opportunity for breakthrough disguised as
challenges.
Could be there are people giving you negative opinions, someone
decide to break your heart, your business giving you a warning sign or
contract ends abruptly and you are at the verge of giving up, listen, there
is another voice inside telling you not to give up. Follow that voice from
God. Get set, square up your shoulders, arise and shine, get set for a
major come back for the Lord is saying,

"You will not have to fight this battle. Take up your positions; stand firm and see
the deliverance the LORD will give you, Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
For the LORD is with you." (2 Chronicles 20:17).

It’s our season of restoration, kingdom manifestation and opportunities
in Jesus mighty name. Every day when I wake up in the morning, I set
aside 30 minutes, not to pray and study the word though I have
allocated time for that in the morning and evening, but to listen. I have
always received instructions from God on how to start the day, how to
handle a situation that would arise, what need to be stocked in our
shops and how to respond to some clients.
When I follow the instructions the results have been amazing.
Make hearing His voice a priority in your life. Set aside time each day
to just listen. Develop a hearing heart so that you can know His voice
and understand His ways.

4) Keep The Right Perspective
Over time my life has been moving in high speed and this is after realize
who I am, the divine potential in me and how God intended me to live.
I have clearly laid down Standard Operating Procedures (SOPs) that I
stick to.
Sometimes thoughts of my past failures and life’s challenge have tried
to talk to me and remind me of who I was but I don’t entertain them.
Sometimes when on national TV being interviewed I get some thoughts
trying to remind me that I was a stammerer and a village lad but I have
to always fight these thoughts because even though that is how I was

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it’s not who I am today. If you don’t take control of your thought life,
then every hurt, every criticism, every derogatory comment will play
again and again. I am tempted to be insecure, to feel inferior, and lose
my confidence. But I had to keep reminding myself, “I know God made
me like I am on purpose. I might have been with some weaknesses before, but God
says I’m a masterpiece. They may have rejected me, but God says He accepts me and
that is final.”

It says in 1 Peter 2:9, “You have been chosen by God Himself.” People may
leave you out. People may overlook you. But always remember, the One
who matters most chooses you. That means you weren’t randomly
chosen. God, on purpose, looked at you and said, “I choose him. I choose
her. They’re My son. They’re My daughter. That’s who I want on My team.”
People may tell you, “You’re just too small.” But God says, “You’re just the
right size for Me.” People may say, “You’re not talented. We don’t need you.
You don’t have anything to offer.” But God says, “You are fearfully and
wonderfully made. You are talented. You are creative. You are anointed. You are
smart. You are intelligent. You are amazing and You have what am looking for to
fulfill my purpose.”

Whenever we feel that sting of rejection, instead of getting down on
ourselves and losing our sense of value, our attitude should be, “I may
be disappointed. This may hurt. But I’m not going to sink down into self-pity and
start thinking that there is something wrong with me. I know the One who matters
most, the one who controls the universe, handpicked me. I may not have been chosen
by the coach, the boss, or a friend, but I was chosen by the Most High God; and He
says that His plans for me are for good and not evil, to give me a future and a hope.”

I know some of you have gone through more than your share of unfair
situations. But here’s what I’ve learned. Even though life is not fair,
God is fair. Do not go around thinking there is something wrong with
you, but instead start seeing yourself as handpicked by God - valuable,
lovable, with something great to offer — then God said He will pay you
back double for your former shame. That means He’ll make the rest of
your life twice as good as it would have been if that had never even
happened to you, just like He did to Job.

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But you’ve got to dig your heels in.
Don’t allow what somebody did or
didn’t do steal your destiny and cause
you to go through life feeling not good
enough, not talented, not attractive.
No, realize that you’re a child of the Most High God. Your value
doesn’t come from people or accomplishments; it comes from your
Creator. Put your shoulders back. Hold your head up high. Live with
confidence. God said He will take what was meant for your harm and
use it for your advantage.
Friends, people may reject you, but God accepts you. He’s already
chosen you, and He’s the One that matters most. He has a way of
working everything out for our good. And it’s always better than we
could have ever imagined.

When David faced Goliath, he never called him a giant. Everybody else
did. They talked about his size, his strength, and his skill. But David
called Goliath an uncircumcised Philistine. He never even gave him
credit for being that big. Here's the key: David didn't deny it, but he
didn't dwell on it. His attitude was; "If I'm magnifying anything I'm
magnifying the source of my strength. I'm talking about God's greatness. I'm not
focusing on how big my problems are. I'm focusing on how big my God is."

His brothers and the other Israelites were afraid and intimidated,
wondering what they were going to do. When David told them he
wanted to fight Goliath they said, "You can't fight him, you're just a kid,
you're too small, you don't have a chance, you are just a young shepherd of our
father’s little flock." But David had a different perspective. He knew if
God be for him, who would be against him? He knew he was strong in
the Lord. David knew he wasn't alone, that all the forces of Heaven
were backing him up. They tried to warn him, "David, you better be careful,
he is going to skin you alive. Goliath is too big to hit."

David said, "No he's too big to miss.” He went out, stood before Goliath and said,
"You come against me with a sword and a shield, but I come against you in the
name of the Lord of Israel!"
David was magnifying his God, talking about God's goodness. This
teenage boy, half the giant's size with no chance in the natural, defeated
this huge giant. How? He had the right perspective.
“To conquer fear is the
beginning of wisdom."
Bertrand Russell

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Change your mindset and set your perspective right. This attracts forces
of nature to team up with you towards your success.

Obama faced the Americans and told them, “Yes! We can!” and he
became the first black American president. Julius Yego took a javelin
and said, “Yes! I can!” went to You Tube and became the world greatest.

When I met my wife, she was a beautiful lady leading a worship band at
Githurai 45 Full Gospel church and working as a music instructor in
one of the music school in Nairobi called Potters Touch Music School
and I said, “Yes! I can!” I faced her and did my best to win her heart and
today we are happily married.

"Do not be intimidated by your enemies." (Philippians 1:28).

You may be like David, up against a big giant right now; a giant of debt,
a giant of sickness, a giant of joblessness, a giant legal problem. It's so
big, it looks impossible in the natural. You could easily be overwhelmed
and thing, "I don't have a chance." No, God is saying, "Don't be intimidated.
Those for you are greater than those against you. Put your shoulders
back and hold you head up high. You are not weak, defeated, or
powerless; you are a child of the Most High God, anointed, equipped,
and well able. Don't you dare shrink back and think, "It's just too big. It's
been this for too long. My property is never going to sell. I'll never break this
addiction, I'll never accomplish my dreams, I will never get married...'" No, set
your mindset right.

Do as David did, get a new perspective. You are full of can-do power.
The greatest force in the universe is breathing in your direction. There
is no challenge too tough for you, no enemy too big, no sickness too
great, and no dream too far off.

We all face challenges, but it's not the size of the problem that's
important, it's our perception of the problem; it's how big or small we
make it in our minds. When Moses sent twelve men to spy out the
Promised Land, ten came back and said, "We'll never defeat them. There are
giants in the land." But the two other spies, Joshua and Caleb, came back
with a different report. They said, "Yes the people are big, but our God is
bigger. We are well able to take the land. Let us go."

Both groups saw the same giants and the same situation; the only
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God, the other group focused on the size of their enemy. Out of the
two million people camped next door to the Promised Land, only two
made it in, Joshua and Caleb. Could it all be that your perspective is
keeping you out of your promised land? If you see your challenges as
impossible and you tell yourself, "I'll never get out of debt and I'll never
overcome this sickness, and I'll never accomplish my dreams." then just like them,
your wrong perspective can keep you from becoming all God's created
you to be.
Just declare, ‘I am blessed for success. I am in it to win it. I will not let what
somebody said about me, this rejection, this breakup, this closed door, this
disappointment, or this sickness cause me to get sour. God strategically placed me
here. I will succeed because God is for me, and He will provide everything I need.’

What you focus on, you magnify. If you stay focused on your problem
or what you don't have and how it will never work out, all you're doing
is making it bigger than it really is. When you magnify something you
don't change the size of an object; you only change your perception of
it.

That was why David said, "Magnify the Lord with me." He was saying if
you want to make something bigger, then don't make your problems
bigger, don't make the medical report bigger, and don’t make the
opposition bigger. Learn instead to make God bigger.

We were not created to just get by with average, unrewarding or
unfulfilling lives. God created us to leave our marks on our generations.
Every person has seeds of greatness planted within by the Creator.
When life weighs upon us, pushing us down, limiting our thinking,
labeling us in negative ways, we have what it takes to overcome and rise
above into the fullness of our destinies.

When you break though in your mind, believing you can rise higher and
overcome obstacles, then God will unleash the power within that will
enable you to go beyond the ordinary into the extraordinary life you
were designed to live. You are blessed and highly favored. God has
written your name on His palm that He may not forget you.
Your yesterday challenges and breakdowns are nothing compared to
your tomorrows breakthroughs and open doors, just unleash the power
in you by having the right perspective, a victor’s mentality, so a rise and
shine.

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Remember, God has a great plan for your life and He will never leave
you or forsake you. He wants to make you an example of His goodness!

5) God is Your Vindicator and Will Bring Justice into
Your Life
Are you hurting inside because of something done to you and is full of
pain, bitterness and unable to forgive? I once was in such a situation
after somebody attacked me and cut my right ear with a sword almost
cutting it off but I later forgave him and shared the love of Christ with
him. Here’s the good news: God is no respecter of persons. If He
vindicated me, He will vindicate you. If He will restore what the devil
stole from me, He will restore what the devil stole from you. So I
challenge you right now, instead of complaining day and night about
what the enemy has done in your life, try praying day and night for
God’s justice. Are you desperate enough for God’s justice in your life
that you’ll persist in day and night prayer until you see Him move?

“Shall God not avenge His own elect who cry out day and night to Him, though He
bears long with them? I tell you that He will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless,
when the Son of Man comes, will He really find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:7-
8).
Do you believe that God is your vindicator? Is anything too hard for
God? I don’t know who has maligned you, who has done you wrong,
or what the enemy has stolen from you. But what I am absolutely
confident of is that God is your vindicator. If you believe it, and you
persist in prayer for justice, day and night, you can assure someone else
of our just God’s vindicating power too. Only believe.
Are you in an emotional prison today? You may not have thought about
it that way, but if you are holding unforgiveness or bitterness toward
someone who has wronged you - whether it was five, ten or thirty years
ago - that is an emotional prison. God’s Word promises that if you’ll
step out of that prison and become a prisoner of hope, He will restore
back to you double for your trouble. That means if someone wrongs
you, instead of getting negative and bitter, your attitude should be, “They
just did me a favor. They just qualified me for double!”
That’s the attitude of a prisoner of hope. Lock into the attitude of
victory that says, “I will not be defeated! It may look impossible, but I know God
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know God is my vindicator. It may be taking a long time, but in due season, I know
I will reap if I just don’t give up.”

Stay strong and in the place of hope knowing that you will come out
with double for your trouble! When you do something to the best of
your ability because you want to honor God, it opens the door to His
blessing. That means it will be easier, it will go better, and you will
accomplish more. That’s why no matter what we do, we should give it
our best. This is especially true even in the little things, like when you’re
washing the dishes or mowing the lawn, don’t drag around sour and
frustrated. Mow with enthusiasm. Mow like you’re on a mission from
God. Every step you make, thank God for the legs. Thank Him because
of health and stregnth. At the office, don’t just do enough to get by.
You’re not working unto people; you’re working unto God. Do it with
your whole heart. When you volunteer at church, don’t wake up and
think, “Awe, man. Why did I volunteer? I want to sleep in!” No, serve Him
with all your heart because that’s what honors God. When you honor
God, He’ll honor you. He’ll open the door to His blessing, and you’ll
see increase in every area of your life.

We all go through situations that are unfair; life has thrown you a curve,
it’s not what you had planned; even though life is not always fair, God
is fair, and if you will keep your trust in Him, and not get bitter, but just
keep moving forward, God has promised He will pay you back for every
unfair thing that’s happened; don’t let one bad break ruin the rest of
your life, keep you your focus on the promises He Has put in you.
Don’t allow what happened in your past or what they did stop you from
the amazing future God has in store; what happened may have been
wrong, what they did may have put you at a disadvantage, that was
unfair, but what they did cannot stop your destiny, they don’t have the
final say, God has the final say, God said “I will restore the years that were
stolen, give you beauty for those ashes, weeping may endure for a night, but joy is
coming in the morning”; nothing that’s happened to you is a surprise to
God, God already has the restoration, vindication, new beginning; that
setback was simply a setup for God to take you to a higher level; you’ve
got to shake off the self-pity, the defeat, and get ready for God to do
something new, He’s going to pay you back for every injustice.

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Then the LORD said, “I have surely seen
the affliction of my people who are in Egypt
and have heard their cry because of their
taskmasters. I know their
sufferings.”(Exodus 3:7 ESV).

God has seen every wrong that’s been done to you, every person that
hurt you, every tear you shed, every injustice; God went on to say:

And I have come down to deliver them out of the hand of the Egyptians and to bring
them up out of that land to a good and broad land, a land flowing with milk and
honey. (Exodus 3:8 (ESV).

There comes a point where God says, “enough is enough, I’ve seen it, now
I’m going to do something about it, I’m not going to just give you what you deserve,
but I’m going to make the enemy pay and bring you out better than you were before;”
God is a God of justice, He always makes the enemy pay for bringing
the trouble into your life; it may not happen overnight, God is keeping
the records, He knows exactly what you’re owed; God sees every time
you do the right thing but the wrong thing happens, take the high road
and forgive, you let it go, work hard but you didn’t get the credit, God
is closely watching, you have an account with Him, He’ll make sure you
not only get what you deserve, but His justice is to pay you back with
more; some of you, you’ve been in an unfair situation, it’s gone on a
long time, you’ve lost your passion, your fire, thinking that’s the way it’s
always going to be; God is saying to you, “I have come down to do something
about it;” you need to get ready, it’s payback time, everything the enemy
has stolen, God is going to restore; the joy, peace, health, dreams; God
is going to pay you back for the childhood you didn’t have, for that
person that falsely accused you, for the years you lost in an abusive
relationship; He has seen everything you’ve been through, He has come
down to do something about it.
Don’t go around with a defeated mentality, that’s going to stop God
from working; you may have had more than your share of bad breaks,
you could easily get discouraged and settle where you are; shake that
off, your attitude should be, “I’m not staying here, I know it’s payback time,
restoration time, vindication time, favor time.”
Almighty God has come down on your behalf. I have too gone through
very tough time in life and ending up in the streets, sometimes abusing
drugs because of stress.
“The secret of success is
consistency of purpose."
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That past has pushed me to establish the Makinika Afrika youth
program which is reaching out to the lost, physically abused.

Although my father and my mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up
[adopt me as His child]. (Psalm 27:10 AMP).

If you’ll just keep moving forward, being the best that you can be, God
will take what’s meant for your harm and He will use it to your
advantage; God will open doors that no man can shut; God will give
you favor and cause people to want to be good to you; you may be in a
situation where because of the poor choices of others it seems like
you’re stuck, you’ll never get out of that rut, accomplish your dreams.
God knows how to get you to where you’re supposed to be; all through
the day, in your mind, in your thoughts, you should be saying “Father, I
want to thank you that it’s payback time, I know you’re a God of justice, you’re
restoring the years, the dreams, no person’s going to keep me from my destiny, I will
become everything you created me to be.”
Have that attitude of faith. shake off the negative comments, what
people say about you doesn’t determine who you are, shake off the
disrespect, keep your head held high, and God will promote you in spite
of what they said. One way God pays you back is to prepare a table
before you in the presence of your enemies; that means God will
promote you in front of the people that were trying to hold you down;
He’ll show you favor and honor in front of those that said you’re not
good enough; let that go in one ear and out the other.
“For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again,
“The Lord will judge his people” (Hebrews 10:30 NIV).

Some of you have cases that need to be settled, people have tried to
push you down, make you feel inferior; you worked hard pursuing your
dream, but the bottom fell out; now you’re starting over, you could
easily have a chip on your shoulder; you’ve got to know God has
promised to settle your case, but you got to get in agreement with God
and start expecting payback time.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something. The faithful
see the invisible, believe the incredible and then receive the impossible.
If you want to see God pay you back, make your wrongs right, then
when things come against you, you’ll feel like being bitter, complaining;
dig your heels in, and say “I know my redeemer lives, God’s going to turn this
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in my future.” You got to have this attitude of faith, knowing that God is
a God of justice and He will settle your case.

God has seen what you’ve been through, every tear you’ve shed, He
knows the disappointment, the heartache you feel, and this is not the
end, it’s a new beginning; you’re not going to just come out of this
barely surviving, God’s going to make the enemy pay and bring you out
better off than you were before; God is still on the throne, He’s in
complete control, He’s going to settle your case; get in agreement with
God, we all have unfair things that come against us, we all go through
bad breaks, but you have to remember God not only sees it, but He’s
promised if you’ll just keep moving forward, if you won’t get bitter, He
will settle your case; the way God settles the case is not just to turn it
around, not to just make it right, God will bring you out better off than
you were before

Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you
will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your
land, and everlasting joy will be yours. (Isaiah 61:7 NIV).

You may feel like you got a double dose of trouble, you worked hard,
but the bottom fell out, don’t get stuck there thinking that that’s your
lot in life, that you got shortchanged, that you’ll always have a
disadvantage, the truth is, that unfair situation has qualified you for
double; it doesn’t have to stop you, if you’ll have the right attitude, God
will use it to thrust you forward; you may have had a bad break, don’t
sit around with a chip on your shoulder, every unfair thing that has
happened has qualified you for double, God is a God of justice, He
wants to pay you back, but you’ve got to do your part; shake off the
self-pity, what they said about you, what didn’t work out, the way you
were raised, and get ready for a double dose of God’s favor, blessing,
health, peace, creativity, get ready for God to do exceeding abundantly
above and beyond; when you go through unfair situations, it’s never
easy, we never like it, but keep it in the right perspective, that person
that’s talking about you, trying to make you look bad, in a sense they
did you a favor, they just qualified you for double; that person that
walked out on you, left you when you needed them the most, don’t sit
around thinking that there’s something wrong with you, you’re
inadequate, less than, blow them a kiss goodbye and get ready for
double, it’s payback time; God wants to do something new in your life.

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It’s hard to keep a good attitude when all your friends are being blessed,
but you’re not. You may feel like they don’t work as hard as you do.
You may feel like they don’t give like you do or don’t deserve the
blessing. That’s a time of testing. It’s hard to go through
disappointments and stay positive and hopeful. These are seasons of
sowing.
If you’ll do the right thing even when it’s hard, when you sow in tears,
you will always reap in joy. Have a new attitude toward what God has
placed in your heart. It may be taking a long time, but God still has a
plan to bring it to pass. Don’t give up. Your time is coming. It’s never
too late. God is saying, “This is your season. Keep your faith stirred up.” Keep
doing what is right, keep pushing, keep believing, keep being good to
people, keep sowing because in due season, you will reap the bountiful
harvest with a song of joy in your heart.

When you let God settle your case, it will be better than you could have
ever done it yourself; don’t be sour because of something that you lost,
or something that was taken from you, instead of being bitter and trying
to get even, stay on the high road, God sees the injustice, He knows
what they took, and if you’ll let God settle your case, He’ll not only give
you what you deserve, but God will pay you back with even more; God
has the final say, God knows how to pay you back, He’s not limited by
the laws of nature, or by what people say; when you go to work each
week, remember, you’re not working unto people, you’re working unto
God; if somebody is being dishonest or playing politics, don’t get upset,
don’t try to pay them back.
God is keeping the records, He will make sure you not only get what
you deserve, God will pay you back with even more; this is a new day,
it is payback time, get ready for a double dose of God’s goodness, favor,
God is going to make the enemy pay for bringing the trouble into your
life; instead of complaining about it, get up in the morning and say, “I
know my redeemer lives.” Remember, every difficulty, every unfair
situation, that has qualified you for double; some of you even are going
to see cases settled, restoration, vindication, promotion, breakthroughs,
a promise coming to pass; the God of justice is going to show Himself
strong in your life; you’re not going to just come out, you’re going to
come out better off than you were before. Rejoice and thank God for
payback time.

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Chapter 2

LET GOD TAKE CHARGE

want to encourage you. We all have things in life that come against
us from time to time. Whether it’s a health issue, financial
challenges, addiction, cheating, a disappointment with a loved one
or a child struggling in school; we all face many different types of
storms. Let God take charge to bring total deliverance, transformation
and liberation, and you’ll live a bigger, bolder, more victorious life than
you ever dreamed possible. Just let God take care of it, surrender it to
God and every day you will hear the still and silent voice telling you
what to do and the way to go. He is in charge.
I remember one person who stirred me up to be independent and have
never met her. I have been writing articles on different topics and share
them and most of them are on my LinkedIn.
One day, I received a LinkedIn message from a lady asking me whether
I could do First aid Training and I said we could do. I had submitted
my resignation as a Training manager and had three days to clear. She
requested me to forward a quotation and within minutes I had
forwarded it. She replied asking for my number and I gave. At around
4 pm, she called me and requested that we talk and thus I should go to
a private place and so I went to a council room. The lady asked me one
question.
“Does that organization belong to your grandmother?” What a rude question
from a client. I responded, “No,” She said, “When I asked you for a
quotation, it’s your personal service that I require not the organization. When I give
you the job and you bring in the organization, will that increase your salary? Don’t
be crazy, think outside the box and grow!” She requested that I draft a
quotation and if I don’t have a company name I talk to a friend to use
his. She even told me to buy a book by Pepe Minambo called Beyond
limits to get those limits off my head. She told me to think of building
my own brand not building other people’s brands and was ruthless and
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I left the organization on a Friday and the following Monday I received
a call from the lady that the training had been approved and so that
week on a Thursday and Friday I trained 24 security guards from Hipora
Security Solution Company and given a cheque that met all my bills.
The following Week I received another request for training for the
following month and for one year I had a two days training for the
company every month that would guarantee me enough money to meet
all my monthly bills. See how God took care of me by using a stranger
I have never met to help me get a deal that would sustain me for a whole
year. For just two days every month I would earn enough even for other
expenses. For your information, the lady left the company a day before
I did my first training so we never met. God used her to introduce me
there before she left the company.
Still two months after resigning, I received a call from GSU Training
School Ruaraka to train officers on First Aid and again three days in a
week I was there training different units and companies.

This guaranteed of the following:-

1) To be picked from home and dropped back that means a police
land rover coming for me and a salute at the gate.
2) Some allowances for every training I do.
3) A carton full of goodies and shopping for every unit I train
summing up to 9 packets. One packet had sugar, salt, snacks,
canned fruits, canned milk, canned cereals, canned meat, blue band,
bread jam among other items that could sustain us for a month and
we had a total of nine cartons that means we had enough to sustain
us and donate to others. This is God’s provision and sustenance. A
two days training every month, GSU training with goodies and the
image it gave me when people saw me being picked and dropped
by police vehicles every day. How good it is to cast all your cares
unto the Lord.

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. (1Peter5:7).

I’ve learned that when the enemy attacks, God acts. God doesn’t just
sit back and think, “Well, I wonder what’s going to happen. I wonder what they’re
going to do.” No, God goes to work. You are His most prized possession.

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It says in Psalms, “God is close to those that
are hurting. God is close to the broken
hearted.” God knows when you’ve
gotten a bad medical report. He knows
when you’re struggling in your
finances. He knows when you’re being
mistreated. You may not see anything happening, but you can be
assured that Almighty God is not only aware, He is at work. He already
has the solution. If you will stay in faith, at the right time, He will release
a flood of His power, a flood of healing, a flood of restoration. He will
not only bring you out, He will bring you out better off than you were
before.

Every day, we have opportunities to get upset, be frustrated, or get
offended. Maybe you had plans that didn’t work out, or someone was
rude to you at the office. Maybe you were doing something that should
have taken one hour and it ended up taking three. Life is full of
inconveniences, but even though we can’t always control our
circumstances, we can control our reaction. I heard somebody say, “Life
is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond.”

We should always go out each day with a positive attitude, full of hope
and expecting God’s favor. But at the same time, we should recognize
that most days are not going to go exactly as we plan. Remember, we
were created to live in peace. Peace is our position of power. If you get
stressed because you got off schedule or upset because your child
wouldn’t eat his breakfast, or frustrated because somebody offended
you, your fiancée did not call or text, you woke up late, there was power
blackout, what you’re doing is giving away your power. Instead, make
the decision to release those offenses and disappointments so you can
live in peace and enjoy the day as the blessing God prepared for you.
“Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is His glory to overlook a
transgression or an offense.”
We all go through disappointments, setbacks and things we don’t
understand. Maybe you prayed for a loved one, but they didn’t get well.
Or, maybe you worked hard for a promotion, but you didn’t get it. You
stood in faith for a relationship, but it didn’t work out.

“Perpetual optimism is a
force multiplier."
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Proverbs 20:24 says, “Since the Lord is directing our steps, why do we try to
figure out everything that happens along the way?”
Instead of trying to find a reason behind everything that happens, one
of the best things you can do is release it to God and let it go. God is
directing you every step of the way. He has a way of causing all things
to work together for your good. Your part is to trust and release. You
may feel weak today, but God calls you strong. You may feel like a
victim, but God calls you a victor. You may be afraid, but God calls you
confident. You may be in debt, but God calls you prosperous. You may
be sick, but God calls you well. You may be addicted, but God calls you
free. You may feel inadequate, but God calls you well able.

Once upon a time a psychology professor walked around on a stage
while teaching stress management principles to an auditorium filled
with students. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d
be asked the typical “glass half empty or glass half full.” question. Instead,
with a smile on her face, the professor asked, “How heavy is this glass of
water I’m holding?”
Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple
pounds. She replied, “From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass
doesn’t matter. It all depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute or two,
it’s fairly light. If I hold it for an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache
a little. If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up and feel completely
numb and paralyzed, forcing me to drop the glass to the floor. In each case, the weight
of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.”

As the class shook their heads in agreement, she continued,
“Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water. Think about
them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and you begin
to ache a little. Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb
and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else until you drop them.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses and worries. No
matter what happens during the day, as early in the evening as you can,
put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the night and into
the next day with you. If you still feel the weight of yesterday’s stress,
it’s a strong sign that it’s time to put the glass down.

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or
about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more
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barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable
than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? “And
why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not
labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed
like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today
and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you- you of little
faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or
‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly
Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness,
and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about
tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its
own. (Mathew 6:25-34 NIV).

‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you
need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace,
which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and
minds as you live in Christ Jesus.’ (Philippians 4:6-7 NLT).

So today release every care, concern, offense and disappointment to
God. Choose to keep the peace that He Has given You. Just look
forward to today knowing that He is with YOU, leading YOU in
victory. When you cast your cares unto him and elevate your faith by
thanking Him for what He Has done, is doing and is about to do, then
behind the scene He will work out your divine provision and you will
testify of His goodness. Let go all the worries and let God take care of
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Chapter 3

FORGET THE PAST

n December 2006, I was requested to give my personal testimony
at a Kenya Christian Students Fellowship national camp at Nakuru
Boys High School. The hall had more than 2000 students and I was
given 15 minutes to share about my life story.
In the previous Chapter, I have shared about the challenge of
stammering and having a low self-esteem affected me. This was an
experience I had never gone through, the Master of Ceremony had
raised their expectations. I am not sure what I said but when I stood
on the pulpit and was given the Microphone, I don’t remember what I
told the audience for the 10 minutes I spoke. I sat down feeling
embarrassed. I would see people greet and congratulate me for the
motivational story in the following days. I am not sure it was as good.
Few weeks later, I was invited by Nakuru Training and Counseling
Institute Patron to speak at a Sunday service and even though I
prepared a sermon on overcoming all odds, I stood at the pulpit, went
blank and even though I spoke for an hour. I can’t explain what I said
yet again, because I didn’t read even the notes I prepared.
After some months, Kenya Industrial Training Institute (KITI) invited
me to talk to students on a Friday night and for sure the message I
had prepared vanished and am not sure whether I delivered or
whatever I shared made sense. Time went by and within months I had
preached in more than 10 schools and God was using me in a mighty
way.
I had already mastered the problem of stammering but Self-esteem
really affected me and was feeling inadequate. God was working on
me and giving me opportunities for exposure and with time I have
grown and today I do not have a problem addressing a crowd of even
thousands. I am however, still work in progress relying on God to
guide me what to tell people.
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In the university I was nominated to compete in a Mr. and Mrs. ESA
Contest of which I successfully and satisfactorily won and was
crowned Mr. ESA 2010/2011.
In my fourth year at the university I was appointed the Master of
Ceremony at the Elders night event at the Nakuru University Students
Evangelistic Team and Associates (NUSETA) and you can bear with me
it’s not a small task but I delivered.
All this time God was preparing me for the great task ahead.
The past was haunting but I didn’t allow it to determine my future.
I have not allowed anything that happened to me in the past to
become a barrier to my great destiny.
Too often, people spend so much time and energy dwelling on the
past, dwelling on mistakes, or dwelling on disappointments.
They don’t even realize that their focus is keeping them from moving
forward in life. But in order to fully experience God’s blessings, you
have to let go of those past hurts; you have to forget the former
things to make room for the new.

God has a new beginning in store for you, and the way you prepare
for it is by getting rid of the old. Don’t spend time focusing on where
you’ve been; spend time focusing on where you’re going. When you
forget the former things, it means you’re not worried about the past
anymore. You don’t allow it to dictate your future. You may
remember past events, but you don’t feel the pain like you used to.
You’ve opened your heart to receive God’s healing. Begin today by
declaring that your past is over. Forget the former things and receive
the restoration and victory God has in store for you.
Everyone has experienced hurts and disappointments. We’ve all been
burnt by life. But God doesn’t want us to sit in the ashes of the past;
He wants to trade our brokenness for healing. He wants to give us
beauty for our ashes. The key is that we have to be willing to give up
the ashes in order to receive the beauty. You can’t have both because
the old has to go before the new can come.
It’s easy to go through life looking in the rearview mirror focused on
what didn’t work out, who hurt us, the mistakes we’ve made, or those
we have lost. As long as you keep replaying your past, you will stay the
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you, it’s time to move forward. And, it
all begins with moving forward in your
thoughts.

I love trees and I have been planting
trees at different parts of our country,
actually one of my company has a tree planting and environmental
conservation program.
When planting a tree, you get a seedling, dig a hole, and put manure,
plant using the top layer fertile soil and water regularly. The tree will
require regular weeding, pruning and maintenance before it mature
and face life upwards on its own. You don’t remember the challenge
of mixing manure with soil or watering but enjoy the beauty of the
tree, its shade and fruits. That’s how life is like. Very soon you will
enjoy the fruit of this tree: your tree! Yes, the fruit of success does
take its own sweet time.
So, eliminate ‘failure consciousness’, embrace ‘success consciousness’ and
get going. Focus on your achievement, your goal, your vision and your
big dream. Negative thoughts deplete your energy. You already know
about it. So refocus your attention upon appreciation of all your
strengths and a clear evaluation of all the opportunities in your life.

Don’t waste another day sitting in the ashes. The past is over, but your
future remains. Let God give you joy instead of mourning, and let
Him make something beautiful out of the ashes of your life today.
Do you have some past disappointments, brokenness, dead dreams,
frustrated visions, shunned hopes...? The scripture tells us that
without vision, people perish. If you don’t have a dream or vision for
your life, then you’re not really going to reach your fullest potential.
Maybe at one time you had a dream, but you went through some
disappointments or setbacks. Things didn’t turn out the way you
planned. But here’s a key: when one dream dies, dream another
dream. Just because it didn’t work out the way you had it planned
doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have another plan.
Have you ever faced a setback or disappointment and wondered
where God was? Even when we face setbacks and disappointments,
He always has a plan and purpose that will propel us into our divine
destiny. By letting go of trying to figure it all out and replacing that
with trust, your mind will focus on actualizing your vision and living a
“One must have strategies to
execute dreams."
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purpose full life. He promises to work all things together for your
good. God has you in the palm of His hand.

A story is told of a Marine Biologist. During a research experiment a
marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then
released several small bait fish into the tank. As you would expect, the
shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass
into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark
on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.
Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark
slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off. Undeterred, the
shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail.
Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second
partition. Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark
gave up.
This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few
weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer
attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually the shark got tired of
hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.

The Marine Biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the
shark didn’t attack. The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed
between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they
wished, free from harm.
Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give
up and stop trying. Like the shark in the story, we believe that because
we were unsuccessful in the past, we will always be unsuccessful. In
other words, we continue to see a barrier in our heads, even when no
‘real’ barrier exists between where we are and where we want to go.
You cannot allow one disappointment or even a series of
disappointments to convince you that your dream is over. It’s time to
dig your heals in and hold on to the promises in your heart. Stir up
those God-given dreams today and watch Him pour out His favor
and blessing upon you and fulfill every desire in your heart. You can
try a new. You can start all over again.

God wants to do a new thing in your life. He wants to bring you into
a new level of your destiny. But, are you letting excuses hold you
back? It’s easy to come up with excuses, especially when unfair things
happen to us or when we’ve been hurt by circumstances or people.

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“The former things have come to pass, and new things I now declare.
(Isaiah 42:9-10)

Our God Does not waste experience, He can never waste a hurt or
any rejection that you go through. We should thus not hold on to our
past because He is going to use the experiences and lessons to thrive
you forward and the same people used to hurt, frustrate and reject you
are the same he use to distribute your invitation cards and be the
witness of how your life took a divine turn around, they will even try
to connect with you.
Do you ever feel like you have “wasted years?” Years defined by events
that broke your heart or were filled with disappointments and
setbacks? Maybe you are facing a slow season or a difficult situation
and wondering where God is and what is His plan.

Be encouraged with what David said, “God enlarged me in my time of
distress.” (Psalm 4:1). He didn’t receive increase in the good times; God
increased David in the tough times. Even through difficulties, God
has a plan to strengthen and prepare you for an exciting, expansive
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Chapter 4

LET GO THE ERRORS AND
LET GOD

any times as human beings we do errors and mistakes in our
day to day endeavors. These mistakes affects our progress as in
most cases we tend to give up or fear taking a step forward. A
successful entrepreneur can't be afraid of failures or setbacks. An initial
setback can be a great opportunity to take a new and more promising
approach to any problem, to come back stronger than ever.
I contend that not only can you laugh at adversity, but it is essential to
do so if you are to deal with setbacks without defeat.
Competition got me off the farm and trained me to seek out challenges
and to endure setbacks; and in combination with my faith, it sustains
me now in my fight with the Nairobians to make an impact and acquire
wealth.
Life is too short to waste doing nothing, make every day count, because
we all don't know when we will leave this world. Cherish every moment
you have with loved ones and never regret anything in life, because
everything happens for a reason.
Look at every day and smile that God has kept you alive, because there's
nothing sweeter than life.
Every struggle arises for a reason for experience or a lesson.
A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is
ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it. Sometimes we make
mistakes and lose, lose a loved one, business, job, and other
opportunities and live in regret. You don't realize what you had until
it's gone, but there is a reason for every goodbye.
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Everything happens for a reason, although we may not understand it at
the time, if you hang in there, all the pieces will eventually fall where
they belong.
Everything happens for a reason. Life puts you down, only so you can
get back up for the better things. Live life, forgive and forget. Let go of
the past. Everything happens for a reason. That reason causes change.
Sometimes the change hurts. Sometimes the change is hard. But in the
end it’s all for the best. Smile. Today would be a wonderful day not to
take life so seriously.

Today may end up the way you prefer, and it may not. Happiness is not
about being a winner, it's about being gentle with life, being gentle with
yourself. Let life be a dance, and choose the kind of dance you want for
today, perhaps a gentle loving dance.
We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.
But we are not our mistakes, we are not our struggles, and we are here
now with the power to shape another day and our future.
Every single thing that has ever happened in our life is preparing us for
a moment that is yet to come in our future.

A setback is nothing but a setup for a comeback. The wisdom in these
words can help lift you out of your low points in life and put you on
the path to victory. Everything happens for a reason, though the reason
is not always as clear as we would like it to be.
God can see the big picture of our lives, he knows what surrounds every
situation that happens in your life. He is at work behind the scene in
the circumstances that you are going through.
You may have fallen in mud and mire because of mistakes you did in
the past but He will put you on a stable rock.

God has his own unique way of doing things and that’s why the bible
says that his ways are not our ways nor our plans his plans. He wants
to do exceedingly, abundantly, above and beyond what you are desiring
and asking for today.
When you wait patiently unto him, you will say like what the psalmist
said,

“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out
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firm place to stand. He put a new song in my
mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many
will see and fear the Lord and put their trust
in him. Blessed is the one who trusts in the
Lord. (Psalm40:1-4).

Friend, there is a set time when good break will thrive you years ahead.
When I was a street boy in Nakuru between year 2000 and 2003, I had
wishes that one day I would go to school and despite the fact that I was
abusing drugs and doing other crimes and was living a mistake, God
was changing my errors and today I have a testimony and for you.
Let God help you. He is willing. Jesus feels every bit of the pain you
feel. You should never be afraid to bring your needs to Jesus. He longs
to help you. He has the power to help when no one else can and the
perfect wisdom to always do exactly what is best for you.
When you call God, he establishes a set time for your provision, for
your promotion, the right connections and the right people.
When Joseph was going through rejection from family members,
persecution in prison and Potiphar’s house, God still was working
behind the scene and had a set time for Him to be a prime minister and
His dream came to pass. He did not stop believing when He was put in
prison because of allegations, He allowed God to take charge and
pursued His dream.
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now
being done, the saving of many lives”. (Genesis 50:20).

I think God often revealed his purposes before accomplishing it
because, when it finally did come to pass, it would be clear that God
did it. But there seems to be another purpose for these dreams as well.
They helped produce their fulfillment. They made Joseph's brothers so
angry that they sold him to some Midianite tradesmen on their way to
Egypt. The irony here is terrific: by sending Joseph to Egypt to get rid
of the vain dreamer, they set in motion the very events that fulfilled the
dream. That's the way it is every time we try to resist the purposes of
God. We always wind up fulfilling them—even when we do it like
Judas.
There’s no need to play the “what if” game. The past is forgiven and
gone, and the future is in God’s omnipotent hands; so you’re free to
focus on the present; “Wherever you are, be all there,” Jim Elliot.
“Opportunities multiply as they
are seized."
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God wants you in the present because that’s where his grace will flow.
My friend, those who love God and are called according to his purpose
should never believe that a wrenching and painful turn of affairs is a
sign that God is against you.
On the contrary, it is God's left hand at work for you. There are three
things that make this hard to believe but which these stories enable us
to overcome.
First, it is hard to believe God is for us in our tragedies if they last for
20 years. Who could have ever convinced Jacob that the loss of Joseph
was for his good and the good of the world? It was 20 years before God
showed him that this was so.
Second, it is hard to believe God is for us in our tragedies if several of
them come in a row. Just when we are getting over a previous one,
another strikes. But look at Joseph. At first the apple of his father's eye,
but then sold as a 17 year-old into slavery far from home. Then he
prospers in Potiphar's house, but just when things look bright, he is
cheated and thrown into jail.
How easy it would have been for Joseph to throw in the towel and quit
trusting God. But how foolish that would have been since in every
setback God was moving him toward the greatest position in Egypt. In
every setback God is moving you to glory. There is no greater comfort
than to know that no matter how absurd and irrational circumstances
may seem, God is in control and means it for good. Let's always trust
in him.
This season of your life ask God to make you sensitive to His working
in everyday occurrences. Thank Him that He is working on your behalf
even if you cannot see answers to some of your prayers yet.
If you’ve put your hope in Jesus Christ, you are serving the King of all
Creation.

The Lord of both the seen and unseen things around us. Scripture states
that, “He works ALL things together for the good of those who love Him”
(Romans 8:28).

ALL THINGS. Even the rough stuff. Even the things you can’t see and
won’t ever understand. All of it is being woven together for your
benefit.
God has your names inscribed in His palm, He has the big picture of
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The appointed time is the best time. He want to work on His time table,
just be patient and wait for the surprise.

Let go and let God is the way of life. Everything happens for a reason
because God plans your life for you ahead of time.

May God bless you, open your eyes to see the great comeback and may
your story of rise to greatness encourage and motivate many because
your time for a great comeback has come, IN JESUS NAME.

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Chapter 5

RUN YOUR RACE

remember when we were young boys, a neighbor called Kihuria had
a magnifying grass that he used to play with. Sometimes, we would
use it to lit bush fires and burning dry grass. If sunrays are made to
concentrate on a certain point with the help of a magnifying glass they
burn down whatever is kept there. Though the scattered rays do not
affect anything. You have to concentrate the rays by not shaking the
magnifying glass. In the same way, unless the rays of human thoughts
focus on a point they cannot remove hurdles, as the different aspects
are not illuminated.
As a teacher, I always instruct my students to study everything deeply
which only means that the thoughts must concentrate on a particular
subject. All inventions and discoveries are the result of concentrated
effort. You have to concentrate on your path. Do not despise the tough
moments you go through, these are the humble beginnings and source
of your motivation and big testimony. Do not compare your life with
others and try competing with others. Your race is unique and your
coach is Jesus, He might be taking you through an unfamiliar path to
make you what He wants you to be. God does not waste experiences;
He takes us step by step to the divine destination He Has prepared for
us. He sees the end from the overcoming all odds and steering our lives.
We have to concentrate and focus on our coach –Jesus Christ.
Focus on your finishing line and run your race in a way that you will
finish well and not look back with regrets. It is about focus. Focus on
one thing that is the major thing. Major on the major and minor on the
minor.
Don’t be a jack of all and a master of none, be a jack of all trades but
master on one major. The working of our mind and body is like that of
raindrops. When collected at one place they make a vast ocean. But if
they fall here and there in scattered manner they disappear in the dust
without any visible effect.

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One of the causes of success is focus or
total attentiveness. As a consequence
of centering thoughts on a single point
the mind remains attached to it. Then
even the hardest hurdle cannot weaken
the man’s concentration. Focus is for
work what a lever is for lifting weights. The principle of a lever is that
force concentrates at one point, which makes it easy to lift up heavy
objects.

Similarly, by concentrating the mental powers on a single point one is
able to solve complex problems. For your life to mean a thing, you have
to run your race with focus. The forces of nature team up with your
mind and it became a win - win scenario. If you want something badly and
focus on it, you will end up having it or being it.
There are some of us who do not have any particular aim in life. They
wander here and there like a drifting ship that dash against submerged
rocks. We can also compare it to an airplane without a compass. People
without a program of action also smash against the rocks of difficulties
or sink in an ocean of nothingness.
There also are some people who do have some program of activities
but midway to their goal backtrack and begin to walk in another
direction. Only those succeed who do not leave their path before
reaching their goal and even if the journey is very long it does come to
an end after continuous travel.
If you want to drive from Nairobi to Moyale, it will take you several
hours of travel and stop overs. For you to accomplish your plan and
target of getting to Moyale you have to purpose and focus your mind
to the destination. If you turn back or take a direction to Kisumu you
will not get to Moyale.
Most people start a project and in between they get distracted because
of comparing their project with others. You start construction a house
and midway when you see your friend buy a car you stop constructing
and start saving money to buy a car.
Some people fail despite being active and prepared because their minds
are not constant. They wavers and jumps from one place to another.
They step in different fields, starting a new venture before completing
the previous one. They are jack-of-all-trades but master of none and
they are not perfect in any particular field.
“When you're going through
hell, keep going."–
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Severally, when planting trees, later we discover that the point where
we planted it was not suitable and thus we uproot to plant it elsewhere
and in most cases it end up withering and drying up. Nature has taught
us a nice lesson. If we continue to uproot a sapling and put it in another
place over and over again it would wither away and cannot grow up.
But a plant that remains firmly rooted at the same spot grows into a
huge tree. Then it flowers and also bears fruit.

Lack of concentration or hesitation is same as a plant that is uprooted
every now and then. So it neither flowers nor gives fruits. Rather it
withers away and dies. It is rightly said that concentrating the thoughts
at one point is the hallmark of the wise. Taking up many assignments
together brings personal loss and also harms the society. It can damage
a nation’s economy and culture and result in anarchy, which is difficult
to control.
Before I opened the Nairobi Safety Shop, I took time to think about it.
Products, website, target clients, logo, viability of the business and the
current trends in health and safety. I was thinking about it day and night
and sometimes waking up at night to take notes from my imaginations
and when the time came to take action and launch it, it was very easy. I
had the bigger picture of the company by constantly thinking about it.
I was thinking on a subject so thoroughly and deeply that the subject
became as clear as daylight before me. I would take time thinking about
products one at a time e.g. a Fire Extinguisher and would do a lot of
research on the same. I had to specialize on Safety and I can confidently
say that the rewards are great. A special feature of the modern
civilization is specialization. We have experts in all walks of life.
Specialization has become so necessary that the world cannot advance
in its absence.
We must realize that the more the hardship or difficulty in any work the
more is the demand to be firm and unflinching for its performance. The
secret of success is firm decision, focus and determination or strong
will. It removes difficulties and obstacles from the path.

Every Kenyan will bear with me that they admire Cabinet Secretary
Fred Matiangi, former Coast Commissioner Mr. Nelson Malwa and the
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demeanor and the facial appearance of
such great people give an idea of their
unyielding and firm determination,
which pours success on them. Men
with firm decision are always respected
in every strata of the society. They have
a strong will to succeed, to impact and
get results. Man can advance only in the
light of his steel-like will. Advance and
run your race with a strong will and
determination.
Another crucial attribute when running your race is discipline. I
remember as a student in Anestar High School, the school motto was
‘In pursuit of discipline and hardwork.’ Mr. and Mrs. Gatimu worked so hard
to instill these virtues in us and I will tell you that they were very good
at instilling discipline.
They called it removing the rotten potatoes from the good ones and am
one of those who had to go through regular caning and punishment to
acquire the attributes. The secret of my survival and success even in
marriage, ministry and in business is the regularity and orderliness
which my Creator has ingrained in me. Doing every necessary work in
its proper time is life. We should further this foundation of life.
We must refrain from disorderliness and indiscipline because
irregularity ends propriety and destroys our talent and competence.
There is a kikuyu proverb that says,’Ukuru Uriaga withi’ meaning your
old life depends on your youth age, your today.
To effectively run your race, avoid procrastination and postponing what
should have been done now. It is said that procrastination is the
fertilizer that makes poverty grow.
Value your time, value your today and the chances that you have. We
see signs in offices and workshops saying; Time is Gold. It surprises me
because the value of time becomes more than gold if everything is done
in time.
Run your race effectively, do not despise your humble beginning.
That seed will soon become a fruitful tree. Kidogo kidogo hujaza kibaba.
Work hard and work smart step by step up the ladder. We should start
working on a small scale. But this does not mean that we should begin
with little courage. What we mean is that we may prepare an elaborate
and lengthy program and also start working on it with great courage but
“For me life is continuously
being hungry. The meaning of
life is not simply to exist, to
survive, but to move ahead, to
go up, to achieve, to
conquer.” Arnold
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we should not try to hurry through all the things simultaneously. Rather
we should advance little by little and achieve our goal gradually. Have a
bigger vision of your life and start where you are and with what you
have. Human psychology also demands it. Unless a man does not ready
himself for a big goal he cannot attain his aim and sometimes he is
unable to obtain even half of it.
Narrow-minded and coward people remain content with their present
condition and want to remain where they are, but people having high
ideals and foresight begin their job with lofty thoughts and always try
to improve their condition.

Purpose, Focus, Aim and run this race with zeal, determination,
courage, diligence, discipline, consistency and you will be celebrated.
Sometimes I encourage people to be strong, hopeful and persistence
not because of how strong and well up I was born and brought up but
because I know hopelessness, pain and dissolution. I come from very
humble beginnings, I know what it’s like to not have much, and I know
what it’s like to not have food in the cupboard.
All around in our village I have worked in all the shambas there doing
Mabutis, I have severally been given a job to dig pit latrines and
sometimes a job offer to work as a shamba boy in Nyandarua. I had to
go through high school not affording even a pen and was given work
study opportunities to do mjengos in the same school to raise school
fees. Most of the problems and challenges that I went through instilled
in me Godliness and the spirit of humanity which steered in me to serve
with such bodies like Younglife, Good Samaritan, Africa Youth Rescue
Initiative, Bloodlink Foundation, Kenya Redcross and St. John Ambulance and
through this I have impacted thousands of people in our republic.

It’s easy to be tempted to go through life competing with everyone
around us. When we see someone who’s more talented, better looking
or has more gifts, instead of running our race and being comfortable
with who we are, oftentimes we feel inferior and think, “I’ve got to catch
up to them.” The problem with this unhealthy competition is that it’s a
never-ending cycle.

There will always be someone ahead of us. But, it’s a very freeing thing
when you realize, “I’m not competing with you. I don’t have to have as big house as
my neighbor to feel good about myself. I don’t have to keep up with my co-worker. I don’t
have to be a certain size. No, I understand that I’m not in competition with my friend, my
neighbor or my co-worker. Instead, I’m going to be the best me that I can possibly be.”

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Friend, that’s an attitude God can work with. When you focus on being
who God made you to be, that’s when you’ll rise up higher and position
yourself for every spiritual blessing He has in store for you.

Some people, no matter what you do, are not going to be for you. Even
if you changed, met all their demands and did everything they asked,
they would still find something wrong. I’ve learned that we can all save
a lot of heartache and pain by learning to ignore those critical voices.
You don’t need those people’s approval. You don’t have to have them
cheering you on. They may try to make you look bad, but if you will
stay on the high road and let God fight your battles, the more they talk
the more God will bless you. They may try to take you down, but God
will use it to take you up. Keep focused on your future, keep focused
on the Word, and let His truth strengthen you to ignore the critics and
move forward into the life of blessing He has prepared for you. Friend,
sometimes you have to assume what critics are saying when they are
coming against you.
A lot of people were criticizing me when God was preparing me for
ministry when He allowed me to be in the streets and to work in Mjengos.
I also could have lost hope if I kept comparing my life with that of my
peers who seemed to be progressing and excelling in life but later on in
life I have come to appreciate the path that I passed through because
even some of those whose lives seemed to prosper as today some look
up to me, I mentor them, coach them and train them on different
aspects in life. You have to realize that some people are just jealous.
Not everyone is going to have your best interest at heart. But don’t let
them control your destiny. Don’t let them distract you from God’s best.
Instead of playing up to people or trying to win over all your critics,
keep your eyes focused on what God has for you. Spend time with
people who see what God is doing in you. Focus on those who will
celebrate you. Ignore the critics so you can be all that God has called
you to be.

One day while walking along Moi Avenue, a very embarrassing thing
happened. It is a very busy street in the evening and all over sudden
some young men squatted holding their heads. Immediately every other
person around there did the same and within some seconds we had
about 20 people all squatting holding their head wondering what was
happening. It was later that we realized that the Naswa team was casting
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all the animals blindly follow the first sheep. If you put a hurdle of stick
before the first one so that it may jump over it, all the animals would
follow suit. Then even if you remove that barrier they would continue
to jump at that point.
Don’t be like an insect being swept side by side by wind. Avoid flocking
instinct and learn to make decisions on your own. Be hardy. Don’t be
the kind of people who cannot make decision on their own, can’t focus
and pursue a dream without having someone to hold their hands. Such
type of people, instead of trying to making their capabilities blossom
put a lid on their intelligence and waste it away.
These people always look around for the wings of others to fly with.
They are ignorant of the fact that in this world of creation no two
individuals are born with exactly equal capabilities in every field. No
one can be equal to any other person in every respect, be it a matter of
appearance, feeling or likes and dislikes. The lines on the palms of one
man are always different from those of all others.

Great men always think independently. They believe that freedom from
the bondage of the thoughts of others is the golden key to success. In
their opinion, be it a personal matter or a social affair, blind following
is suicidal. Great people always tread their own new path. They have
walked on ways, which others did not tread before. They have gifted
new presents to humanity. Such great people have, throughout their
lives, been innovators, giving birth to new ideas, sciences and industries.
Be yourself, be the best version of yourself, and be that great person.
Live your life and be what God Has made you to be.

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Chapter 6

YOUR GIFT WILL MAKE
ROOM FOR YOU

t is interesting to note that the Bible does not say that a man's
education makes room for him, but that his gift does. Somehow
we have swallowed the idea that education is the key to success.
Our families and societies have reinforced this idea to us, but we will
have to change our perspective if we are to be truly successful.
Your gift will room for you only you would identify and diligently
pursue it. How is the fulfillment of vision meant to work in practical
terms? Proverbs 18:16 is a powerful statement that reveals the answer.”
A man's gift makes room for him."
What you were designed to be known for is your gift. God has put a
gift or talent in every person that the world will make room for. It is
this gift that will enable you to fulfill your vision.
It will make a way for you in life. It is in exercising this gift that you
will find real fulfillment, purpose, and contentment in your work.
There is at least a gift and talent of the divine in every life. God
expect and demand that we all trade with His investment of gifting
and talents in our lives and profit there from.
“…each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” (1
Corinthians 7:7).

To profit there from means: Benefit your life, family and those who
may one means or the other cross your path in life. It also means to
bring glory to God who invested these gifts and talents in you in order
to serve and benefit mankind. The very reason that God equipped
every man with this grace of talents and gifts is to fulfill His purpose
and assignment here on earth first and foremost to His entire creation
and in the process get our personal fulfillment and satisfaction. This is
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His heart. Anything short of that will always lead to frustrations and
dissatisfaction.
There is something God has specifically designed you to do with your
life. That is what has informed the gifts and talents He has equipped
you with. There is a place, a profession, a career or an endeavour
where your gifting and talent will flourish and transform you into a
shining star. What we call enduring success is simply fulfilling your
calling in this life. That means: To succeed, you need to take a closer
and deeper look at your inner abilities, then begin to package and
utilize them more creatively.
He has programmed and equipped every one of us with certain and
unique powers and abilities to enable us fulfill His plan for our
individual lives. When we discover, pursue and begin to actualize this
divine plan, by utilizing our innate powers, gifts and abilities, we
automatically position ourselves on the path of enduring success.
However, the responsibility to position yourself on this path rests on
you. God will not do it for any man.

Many people spend their lives out of God’s purpose because they
refused to utilize the gifts He has blessed them with. Your gift(s) and
talent(s) will lie dormant until you stir them up and add value to them.
When you stir up your gift, add value to it and begin to put your gift
to use for God and humanity, then you are on the supernatural course
to fulfilling your purpose and destiny in life.
Your gifts and talents are divine instruments of power and success
creating agents. Yours gifts and talents were designed for your lifting
to the great heights that nothing else can take you. God works
through your gifts and talents to lift, promote and bless you.
Your innate ability or gift is what elevates, make a way, creates a path
and opens the door for you to your greatness and high places in
destiny. You have a gift inside of you screaming for expression every
now and then ever so often and every of your wakened moment.

To make headway in life, you must ask yourself: What am I really good
at? What do I have to distinguish me and set me apart as special and
unique in a line-up of my peers? What can I do best?
Make a list of all the gifts, talents and abilities you possess. Narrow
your area of strength down to at least one gift and concentrate all your
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When you develop this gift, you will
begin to make extra-ordinary progress
in life. This gift, developed to become
a specialized skill will then propel you
to your topmost top.
It is not possible to keep a blessed
man or woman, a gifted or talented man or woman down in life. No
matter the opposition you face, the gift(s) within you will always lift
you up.
It is interesting to note that the Bible does not say that a man's
education makes room for him, but that his gift does. Education is
not ultimately the key to success.
I believe in education and I hold a Degree in Economics amongst
other qualifications. However, if education were the key to success,
then everyone who has a Ph.D. or Doctorate would be financially
secure and happy.

That thing - Gift, talent, business venture, an idea or that which you
probably see, call or regard as simple and small, add value to it and
begin to put it to good use for god and mankind!
If you are intelligent but are not exercising your gift, you're probably
going to be poor. If you're educated but have not developed your
talent, you're likely going to be depressed, frustrated, and tired. You
will hate going to work on Monday mornings.
Education, in itself, doesn't guarantee success though it gives you the
perspective. It is your gift that is the key to your success.

The second part of Proverbs 18:16 says, "A man's gift…brings him before
great men".
You don't realize that the gift you're sitting on is loaded.
The world won't move over for you just because you're smart.
However, when you exercise your gift, not only will the world make
room for you, but it will also pay you for it. Anyone - yourself
included - who discovers his or her gift and develops it will become a
commodity. If you're a young person in high school or college who is
planning your career, don't do what people say will make you a lot of
money. Do what you were born to do, because that is where you will
make your money. No matter how big the world is, there's a place for
you in it when you discover and manifest your gift.
“Success... it's what you do
with what you've got."
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No one remembers those who thought he was crazy. We remember
only the man who had the vision and created the telephone.
If you do things in a one and a halfway manner, you can always find a
job somewhere. Yet if you do just enough to get by, you are going to
remain simply an employee. However, if you decide that you're going
to find something that is truly yours, then you will fulfill your vision,
and you will be remembered by others.

One of the secrets of success in life is personal and self-development.
Add value to your calling, gifting and talents in life. Be proud of what
you do. Make what you do enviable. If you do not take pride in what
you do, you will never become exceptional at it.

Oprah Winfrey’s talk show The Oprah Winfrey Show is one of the
longest-running daytime television tabloid talk shows in history.
Winfrey’s fortune is billions. She wasn’t born to a rich family, though.
Oprah was actually born to a very poor family. She was sexually
abused in her childhood, and she gave a birth to a baby at the age of
14. The baby died after two weeks. So we could say that she didn’t
have the optimum starting point for a good life.
Oprah tells that she had created a sense to manage difficult situations
already in her childhood when facing lots of challenges. It has helped
her later on to move forward in her career. She believed in using the
opportunities instead of waiting for the fortune. According to Oprah,
following her dreams has been one of the most important driver of
her successful career. She felt the calling to journalism from her
childhood. Later in her career, she has rejected all the other job
proposals and stuck with chasing her dreams in journalism. It has
required a lot of bravery but it’s been rewarding.

Writing this article was influenced by Marc Smith who is a very young
boy and his electrifying performance at the Kenyatta International
Conference Centre (KICC) during the Kenya Red Cross Society
golden jubilee celebrations, which made the President to leave his seat
and to join him in a dance and later invited him to State House.
Today Smith is in one of the best boys in Kenya and has been hosted
by a number of media stations as well as being treated as a celebrity.
A talent made the president move, not a great personality or education
so let’s identify and nurture our talents and gifts and see God act.

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Chapter 7

WHEREVER YOUR HEART IS, THERE
YOU WILL FIND YOUR TREASURE

wenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the
things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So, throw off the
bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds
on your sail. Explore, Dream and Discover. Don’t procrastinate, focus unto
your dream and schedule of activities. Time is running so fast that
sometimes tomorrow never comes. When I was in learning at
Kamurunyu Primary School in Nakuru, my Mathematics teacher always
tried to instil a positive attitude towards mathematics but I hated it and
him. Several years later, I was in the university studying Economics and
my longtime negative attitude towards Mathematics haunted and
affected me a lot. At times, I wished I had put more efforts to enable
me score better grades than the D- I scored in my Kenya Certificate of
Primary Education (KCPE).

Life is not easy everyone but what we must do is to perseverance and
above all have confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are
gifted for something and that this thing must be attained by all means.
I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward,
as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives
you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done.
When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun and when you
have fun, you can do amazing things. Christians are to be the best at
whatever they do, because they are to do everything as if they were
doing it for God alone.
When you put your whole heart into whatever it is you are supposed to
do, God will recognize that and bless you for it.
You should strive for and pursue excellence in all you do, for the sake
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You have brains in your head. You
have feet in your shoes. You can steer
yourself in any direction you choose to.
You’re on your own and you know
what you want in life. You are the guy
who’ll decide where to go.
I always believe in the philosophy of
believing in oneself that my teacher at Anestar High School, Madam
Gatimu taught me. You must believe in yourself. You don’t need to be
convinced otherwise. You don’t need someone else approval. For the
reason that if one accepts themselves, the whole world will accepts him
or her.
When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people
who accept you for what you are. Don’t be satisfied with stories, how
things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth. All you notice is
the person who doesn’t.

We are always trying to imitate and be like somebody else not knowing
that we are all unique beings with different capabilities and system. To
be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something
else is the greatest accomplishment.
Looking at our governance system, the system has always been reacting
to situations and problems rather than being proactive.
This has inculcated the same to the people that we are always caught
unaware. President Kagame once quoted that “only fools learn from their
own mistakes.” This means that which mistake you are about to learn,
somebody somewhere did it and faced the consequences which if you
don’t learn from will be a victim. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action
breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit
home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done
without hope and confidence, in fact its hope that keeps us going.
We are always optimistic that the PSV driver ferrying us to work is
competent and licensed bearing in mind that he is a stranger. We rarely
assume the worst like the drive developing as an acute mental problem.
Put your heart in your dream and never look at the mountains or valleys
because just like the black and white keys on a keyboard which makes
a beautiful melody.
“The future belongs to those
who believe in the beauty of
their dreams."
Eleanor Roosevelt

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The challenges gives you determination and at the end you realize it was
worth, gives you experience and testimony. Remember that wherever
your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
So as you pursue your dreams, know that there will be negative voices
even from close colleagues, best friends and families but do not allow
them to distort you from focusing unto that dream. No one can make
you feel inferior without your consent. Go confidently in the direction
of your dreams and live the life you have imagined and Always
remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and
smarter than you think.
What you're doing now, or have done in the past, need not determine
what you can do next and in the future. Creativity is the process of
having original ideas that have value. It is a process; it's not random. It
requires consistency, boldness and focus.

There's a wealth of talent that lies in all of us. All of us, including those
who are in kindergarten schools, must nurture creativity systematically
and not kill it unwittingly. Many highly talented, brilliant, creative
people think they're not because the thing they were good at in school
wasn't valued, or was actually stigmatized. You can't be a creative
thinker if you're not stimulating your mind, just as you can't be an
Olympic athlete if you don't train regularly. We live in worlds that we
have forged and composed through different people’s creativity. It's
much truer than any of the species that you see. I mean, it seems to me
that one of the most distinctive features of human intelligence is the
capacity to imagine, to project out of our own immediate circumstances
and to bring to mind things that aren't present here and now. It is God
who puts in us this creativity and wisdom,
“But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce
wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.”
(Deuteronomy 8:18).

If God gives power to become rich, wealthy, successful, then he must
not be against riches, wealth and success. He must want us to be rich,
wealthy, and successful. Whether or not you discover your talents and
passions is partly a matter of opportunity.
If you've never been sailing, or picked up an instrument, or tried to
teach or to write fiction, how would you know if you had a talent for
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This applies to all sports, music, scatting etc. It is said desire is the root
of all our pain. To make such a statement is not to understand that gift
that lies in pain. Desire and energy are the raw materials of creation. To
become desire-less is to rob ourselves of our creative power and our
ability to create. The issues is not desire. The issue is what we desire,
why we desire what we do, and that which we hold rather than release.
Answering these questions in turn takes us back into our belief
structure. To become a conscious creator, we need to pull the strings
and explore the “why” for what we feel. (Why do I feel this as opposed to
something else?)
The question we all face is, “what is my unique creativity and what does it look
like?” What works for one will not necessarily work for another. More
often than not, it is not what our mind thinks. What mind thinks it our
creativity is only mind’s best characterization based on the experiences
we have had. We need to give ourselves permission and allow ourselves
to experiment without judgment or bias. We all will need to do our own
experiments to explore the depth and breadth of our creativity.
Probably, the first is that we need to allow ourselves to become mindful
and aware of what we think and feel in the moment. We need to
become aware of the relationship between what we are feeling and the
thoughts we are having. They are more connected than we can imagine
and become.
Each of us will need to spend some time to do our own explorations
and need to do our own experiments as to what our creative power and
creative ability really look like. Otherwise, without the exploration, we
will be unable to access the depth and breadth of our creative power
and creative ability. How we choose to do our exploration and who we
choose to help us is our choice.
Remember that we are all the product of what we imagined about in the
past and so what we imagined and think of yourself today has a great
impact to what we’ll become in the future so keep on imagining and
work on your creativity.

One day, I received a call from World Vision- Somalia requesting that
they needed a Team Building session for their managers and
coordinators. The session would be based on effective emergency scene
management which is one of my favorite area to teach. I was requested to
submit a quotation which I did ensuring and the profit margin was good
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Amazingly, the following day I received a call placed on a loud speaker
to justify why I charged that low rate and how I intended to tackle the
session. I persuaded them that as a professional I had the capacity, right
team and resource to satisfactorily cover the session but still their
concern was the fear of unprofessionalism and delivery compared to
what I was charging. They feared comprising the standards of training
as they had their expectations but they however approved and set the
dates.
On my way, we got held up in traffic and the participants had to wait
for about 15 minutes which was unethical. The first few minutes was
difficult for me because I was trying to set the pace. At some point, two
participants walked out which left me feeling that I needed to up my
game. I chose to overcome the odds, the challenges and the humiliation
then psyched myself up. The team comprised of people from different
races but I managed to bring their minds and sense of humor together.
To cut the long story short, the session was so wonderful that everyone
was ecstatic throughout, the response and reaction was encouraging. I
received a big loud of applause for job well done after the session. I
went against the odds to deliver and the outcome was beautiful.

Am not a trained doctor though a passionate life saver and trainer. I
have been regularly invited in forums to address doctors, even though
my background is Pure Economics.
One day, I was booked to conduct a Basic Life Support Training for
Doctors and Clinical Officers in Nairobi. Am certified under the
American Heart Association (AHA) protocol to offer BLS training but
my area is the layman language is not medical professionals. I was not
properly briefed about the participants and so it was a surprise during
the introduction when I realized who the participants were. I gave it my
best and engaged them in a lot of practical in CPR, AED maneuvers,
intubation etc., that even after the training they requested we have 30
minutes more extra time as they found the session very relevant. At the
end of it all, they greatly appreciated me for the knowledge and skills
shared and they placed a request of engaging them after every six
months as a continuous personal development program. Now, this is
Stephen training doctors on a skill they should have been well versed
until they felt they needed to learn more. It is by God’s grace that I
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One year later, I was invited by a group of nurses to train them on
Advanced Trauma Life Support (ATLS). This is an elaborate practical
session that in real sense would require an experienced instructor who
is an Emergency doctor but because they insisted I must be the one
training them even after referring instructors from Kenya Council for
Emergency Medical Technicians(KCEMT) where am a member, I had
to pray to God then face the challenge ahead. I must admit that the
training was a great success and the feedback very encouraging. At the
end of the session they recommended other groups of nurses as they
felt it was crucial for other professionals in the field to go through the
same training. Sometimes when a difficult situation shows up, you
better face it head on. Trust God for divine knowledge and find out
how to overcome it and you will surely experience His hand guide you
through. Fear not my friend. Go against all odds and you will testify like
me.
I have written several books and one of the best sellers is Behind the
Scenes. It took eight years to have the book ready. The first book was
rejected by four publishers including cutting short the proof reading
process but I chose to not give up. Every time the book was rejected I
gained a momentum of writing more stuff that by the time God sent a
publisher to step in I had a lot of contents for several books. I had to
overcome all odds and chose not to give up regardless of the rejection.
It is at Heaven’s gate prayer mountain in Nakuru that God answered
the prayer and divinely connected me to a committed publisher. It is
not easy facing rejection from four publishers after a long period of
hard work and compiling of literature. Actually at some point after a
response from one publisher which I regarded as rude one, I lost the
manuscript and had to start writing it all over again. Some of it was
some real life experience which writing it again was not hard but I
overcame the disillusionment and chose to pursue my dream. At some
point, I had decided to do publishing on myself but again there would
be a professionalism question. I thank God that after enduring and
persevering, getting some tough lessons and painful experience as well
as acquiring some crucial author stamina, I managed to finally have my
books published to reach out to the world.

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Chapter 8

YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE GOT A
MIGHTY POWER TO CHANGE
THE WORLD

hen God was choosing leaders and warriors, He went to the
young and equipped them. People like Joseph, David, Joshua,
and Elisha among others had to undergo a preparation stage in
their youth before their appointed time for service came. Truth is, there
is a potential hero, a future difference maker, in every young person.
Each of them, from whatever background, is a bundle of untapped
energy.
If I could give today’s young people a wish, it would be: More belief in
their own power to change the world. The way in which we think of ourselves
has everything to do with how our world see us and how we see
ourselves successfully acknowledged by the world. The young people
should view themselves as strong, capable, world changes and
impactful. All young people should realize that though they may
encounter many defeats, they must not be defeated. In fact, it may be
necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what
you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.
You can have unbelievable intelligence, you can have connections, and
you can have opportunities fall out of the sky. But in the end, humility,
discipline and hard work is the true, enduring characteristic of
successful people.
If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look
at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they
don’t have any, young men and women should know they were created
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Let’s start with the notion that all of us,
especially young people, need heroes
and mentors. We need them to be our
guides on the twisting, sometimes
difficult trail we call life. To show us
just how far we can go, to help us know
just how high we can climb. And we
need heroes today more than ever.
Our modern society is terribly confused about the difference between
a hero and a celebrity. And the difference is crucial. A celebrity is all
about fame—temporary, superficial fame, usually for qualities that are
easy to see: a pretty face, a good hook shot, a great dance move. A hero,
by contrast, is about character—qualities beneath the surface that aren’t
visible until they prompt action. Qualities like courage, hope,
compassion and perseverance. Heroes, real heroes, are all around us.
They truly hold our world together, through their unselfish devotion to
helping others, supporting families, teaching children, protecting the
environment. They don’t want fame, or glory, or even credit; they just
want to help. In so many ways, these unsung heroes steer the boat in
which all of us sail.
Yet young people hear a lot more about celebrities than about heroes,
in every form of media. Worse yet, young people are treated too often
as just another target market by advertisers. The underlying message
they get from all this is that their self-worth comes from what they buy,
which drink, which shoes, which cellphone, not who they are down
inside. What gets lost in this? Young people’s sense of their own potential
for heroic qualities; their own power to make a positive difference in
the world. Truth is, there is a potential hero, a future difference maker,
in every young person. Each of them, from whatever background, is a
bundle of untapped energy, a positive force that can do something to
steer that communal boat that carries us all. All it takes for that to be
true is belief. For if young people believe in their own power, they will
use it. And they will discover that any person regardless of gender, age,
race, cultural background or economic circumstance can make a
genuine, lasting impact. How do we help skeptical young people believe
in their own power? The best way by far is simply to share examples of
other young people who have made a difference.
Those stories carry real inspiration, and they speak for themselves. To
turn the spotlight on such amazing young people and share their stories,
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
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the one thing they all have in common is a belief in their own power to
make a difference and the dedication to make it happen.
Nature gives awards and prizes to those who take the step to change
the world and live a purposeful life. This prize is really just a small thing,
but its winners are shining examples of what young people can achieve.
And I hope that those examples if shared might inspire other young
people to discover their own power to make a difference.
YES! WE CAN!
I want to remind the young people of which I am one of them that
Choices have consequences, you can determine your choice but have
no authority over the consequences so make the right choices.
Truth is, there is a potential hero, a future difference maker, in every
young person. Each of them, from whatever background, is a bundle
of untapped energy.

1) The Scars of Life.

Everyone has a scar in their body, whether it’s an umbilical cord mark,
tattoo, Cesarean section operation mark, BCG mark et-cetera. When
you take time to carefully inspect your partner’s body from the head to
the toes, you will note a number of them and other bath marks. Men
have hundreds of them more so on their legs due to an adventurous
boy life. I have dozens of them and one major one is on my left ear
which reminds me of a day the ear was almost chopped off by a ruthless
young man. I have shared the story on the Behind the Scene Book.
My scars show pain and suffering, battles won and victory kept,
experiences, bitter and adventurous memories, but they also show my
will to survive. The cause of the scars has left me stronger and resilient.
They're part of my history that will always be there, though they are not
my life. The umbilical cord is a necessary scar of survival. Every time
you look at the scar on your body, there is a memory that reminds us
of a moment in life.
All the great achievers that we fondly celebrate have scars of a kind.
Scars have the strange power to remind us that our past is real.
They could be physical or emotional. Others were tortured, betrayed,
humiliated and lost their esteem. Some people were taken advantage of
and others had circumstances working against them.

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In John 20:24-29, after news of Jesus
resurrection reached the disciples,
Thomas demands to see the scars on
the hands of Jesus to believe it. He is
full of doubt and when he is told by one
of the other disciples, "We have seen the
Lord," Thomas responds with some
honest and sincere doubt, "Unless I see
the mark of the nails in his hands, and put my finger in the mark of the nails and
my hand in his side, I will not believe."
He was genuine but the scars on Jesus palm, feet and ribs was a proof
that surely He was the one who was crucified. Jesus as the son of God
had the ability to clear the scar if He was raised from the dead but the
scars were left as a reminder for me and for you.
A scar is a proof that there is healing and evidence of overcoming life’s
injuries. Even though they show memories of past moments showing
us where we have been, they do not dictate where we are going.
Your scars are battle wounds to remind you that you are an overcomer
and an evidence to show to other people that they too can overcome.
In preparation for a purposeful life, God can inflict wounds and binds
them to create scars that you will use to build your life’s mission on. He
may allow you to suffer emotional breakdown, suffer depression to
have a counseling ministry later. He can allow you to lose part of your
body part to be helping other disabled people emotionally. He can allow
you to lose your loved one through death or divorce to help you
establish a platform where the widows and divorced will ride on.

For He bruises, but He binds up; He wounds, but His hands make whole. He
shall deliver you in six troubles, Yes, in seven no evil shall touch you. In famine He
shall redeem you from death, And in war from the power of the sword. (Job5:18-
20).
He allowed it to happen to Job and later crowned his life with a double
portion.
A great warrior has many scars which prove he has overcome many
odds. After a bruising moment, going through the recovery phase, what
follows is scars which later you will look at and remember there is a
God in heaven who led you to overcoming the odds. These marks
should be a reminder of times when life tried to break you, but failed.
They are markings of where the structure of your character was welded.
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
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Don’t hide them, let them tell your story. Scars can be your stars. They
can heal wounds when exposed. They can lift a crushed spirit. Make
them star scars shining a light of hope and inspiration to everyone
around you. The future glory far outweighs the present troubles. No
matter where you once were, no matter how dark your storm, God
doesn't want you to remain there. Overcoming may not be easy, but it's
possible when you ask your Father to battle for you.

Most people who have gone through ghetto life, abusive family and
some terrific adversities end up celebrating the fact that they
victoriously went through that life because that is where the seed of
greatness was born. Do not entertain those who try to bring you down
by humiliating you because of where you have come from and the scars
incurred. Your mockers will only have your attention only if you give
them your attention. Your attitude will determine their perception and
reception. If you face them with the scarred overcomer attitude they
will treat you a champion. If you face them with a terrorized bruised
victim attitude they will sympathize, victimize and avoid you.
The truth is real change begins with your willingness and courage to
take the first step forward. It’s a personal responsibility which is
independent on the surrounding or exposure. Usually, the first step is
the most difficult one to take. All resistances and old habits must be
eliminated.
Deep within you there must be determination to overcome your
obstacles. To believe God has something better for you and lean on
Him as you persevere.
You must see challenges as virtues of opportunities for personal
development. You will then have the strength to overcome the
challenge.
The next time something seemingly bad happens to you, look for the
divine in it. Look for the soul in the mundane, every day occurrences
of your life. Look for the spark, look for the light.
Get the scar, write your story with it and use it to light the path to your
destiny.
Those who use your problems to describe you shall begin to use your
testimonies to describe you. They shall testify on your behalf just like
the story of the lame man who was healed by Peter and John and
everyone in the area started talking about his healing.

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There is a day when your relevance will
begin to dawn in people’s hearts. A day
is coming when you will no longer
borrow but lent to nations even them
who you used to borrow from, you will
owe no more but bless.

There is a day when your bothering
appearance becomes a divine visitation to places, nations and people.
There is that day that your tears of pain end and rivers of joy commence
an immense overflow. There is a day when you no longer run out but
run over. There is a day! A day of kingdom manifestation when God
will come and change your story.

Weeping may endure for a moment but joy is coming in the morning. (Psalm30:5).

There is a God of remembrance and there is a time of divine visitation,
restoration and providence. At the fullness of time Our God who is a
restorer will make everything beautiful. A day of divine visitation is at
hand.
The scars we get in life are valuable not only to you but the people we
shall meet in pursuit of our life’s purpose. Life will throw all kinds of
obstacles our way. It's our job to scramble over them and hunt for the
little miracles tucked away, then leave some reminders for the people
that follow behind us.

The story of your life is not your life. It is your story – John Barth

2) Face your challenge to Face Challenges.

Life gives a chance to mend cracks to avoid repairing a wall in the
future. Character formation involves repeated actions and habits and
for you to repair a character you have to continuously change actions
and habits.
Your greatest highs come from overcoming your greatest lows. To be
an overcomer, you have to deal with the minor, those things and
characters that don’t seem to have a major impact. It’s a step by step
process. To comfortably handle a million dollar, you must have
experienced how to handle hundred and thousand dollars. To drive a
truck for 1000 miles, you must have experienced driving a car one
“Moving rocks today
strengthens you for
moving mountains
tomorrow.”
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hundred miles. Battling wolves today strengthens you for battling lions
tomorrow.

Life will always present packages of hardships and they will be very
relevant as they will determine your next move and level. One of the
most fulfilling things in life is facing obstacles and overcoming them.
Some of the means to overcome might be even acquiring a skill,
studying some materials, consulting and going an extra mile to find
better ways of overcoming it. Just like taking your time first to sharpen
the axe to easily cut a tree. We sometimes have to venture into some
training, skills or exposure to overcome an obstacle.

Life is like a stairway where you climb a step at a time. You strain to
raise your leg to step to the next stair to go high above your previous
level. You have to overcome one stair to go to the next. Every difficulty
draws us toward a higher power than ourselves.
What makes a difference is how you perceive it and respond to it.
A ship doesn't sink because it is in the ocean in the midst of a storm. It
only sinks when it leaks, and the ocean get inside it bit by bit.

If God closes a door and a window, consider the fact that it might be
time to build a whole new house. You do not have stay there crying and
mourning, no. Square up your shoulders and scale new heights. Dig up
another strong and firm foundation and after setting it up don’t call that
success. You have got to put up the structure bit by bit.
Before you reach your destination, you'll find yourself going through
the wilderness.
There's some survival skills that you'll need master through the
wilderness journey. While in the wilderness, your faith will be tried and
tested. You'll become humble. Your vision for your life will get clearer.
You're in training for your purpose. You'll lose some friends, because
there's some folks who are only with you because of where they think
your journey will lead them. Don't worry, they're a little confused... but
it was meant for them to get lost during this phase. Walk on. Continue
on your journey. Soon, you'll be approaching the mountain. Get ready
to climb!” It is at the peak that you will enjoy beautiful horizons and
your distractors will not be distracted to witness you at the top. These
wilderness, mountains and valleys will prepare you for greater purpose,
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When you start in life, if you find you
are wrongly placed, don't hesitate to
change, but don't change because
troubles come up and difficulties arise.
You must meet and overcome and
conquer them. And in meeting and
overcoming and conquering them, you
will make yourself stronger for the
future.
The overcoming of adversity and, ultimately, denying it the rite of
passage, has been a constant and perpetual motive throughout my life.
I do not give a damn to adversities of any kind. I did not allow the street
to conquer me but I rose and overcame the challenge and influence.
As an investor, there are a lot of risks, losses and uncertainties involved
but conquering them pays the highest returns.
I always face fear on the face and command it to back off. Some of us
have scissors in law rather than sister in law. They cut and tear you
apart, they threaten your marriage and you feel like giving up. They
squeeze you to the wall and open their mouth wide open as if to swallow
you and the only person who you can count on is your husband who
rather opt to side with them. You have to overcome this. Put on a thick
skin and fight on with love.
Some have bothers rather than brothers. They are just reckless with
their lives, drinking their lives to death, fighting over properties and
nagging parents through their old age to the coffin. They are an
embarrassment anytime you see them around you. Just know that they
are your blood brothers and you have a responsibility to love them the
way they are. Develop a thick skin and play a compassionate
brother/sister role. Overcome it and fight the battle in love.
There are a lot of bitter people in the society around us. Every day there
is a person around who is passionate on annoying you and if not careful
they will hurt you. You have to be careful when interacting with them
and chose not to respond to insults. Don’t let their arrogance affect
your mood. Overcome them.
Sometime, even when buying an Avocado, normally you have to gently
press it to check if it is ripe. If you dare press it, the seller might
respond,’ Wewe! Unafinya Avocado kwani unafikilia iyo ni Ugali?’ If you ask
the seller whether it’s good for immediate consumption, she might
respond,’Kwani niko apo ndani nijue kama imeiva?’
“We may not be able to
cross a river by walking,
but if your desire to cross
the river is strong enough
you can learn to swim.”
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You might be calling someone at night just to find out how they are
doing but the response could be disgusting. You might ask the person,
where are you and get a response, ‘Niko nje naota jua.’ It’s at night and
someone tells you that s/he is out enjoying the sunshine.’ Just take it
easy and overcome the insult by composing yourself and showing love.
When you become bitter with other people, this will have a negative
effect in you. Bitterness is the poison you take and expect the one who
offended you will die. This is the poison that corrodes the heart. You
have to develop a thick skin, love people unconditionally and love
yourself too much to avoid other people’s stress to wear you out.
Overcome all odds. There are no smooth paths to success. You have
to straighten many rugged roads and scale numerous walls for the
ultimate triumph. Everything meaningful encounters resistance, don't
get scared of whatever comes your way, just go with the right strategy
and plan, there you'll overcome it at last. All successful people learn to
navigate diverse personalities. So don't lose hope after failure, try other
ways and you'll reach there.
Without difficulties, life would be like a stream without rocks and
curves – about as interesting as concrete. Without problems, there can
be no personal growth, no group achievement, no progress of
humanity. But what matters about problems is what one does with
them.
The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone is how
high you raise your foot. You become limitless when you overcome
what holds you back.
Sometimes you have to ask for help to overcome. You might require
the services of a professional e.g. a counselor, pastor, legal advisor,
consultant etc. to get ideas and knowledge that will help you overcome
with ease. Do not hesitate to seek help where need be.

Great things in business are never done by one person. They're done by a team of
people. (Steve Jobs).

No matter what you are attempting to achieve, it will not happen
without sacrifice, hard work, a positive environment, a positive mental
attitude, passion, determination, meditation, introspection, prayer and
vision. Never use the word try, just do what you need to do to get to
the next step. Don't make excuses, don't blame others, and don’t blame
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with good people and let go of anything
or anyone who tries to stop you from
doing what you need to do to become
the best you. Watch for distractions
and distractors because they are
everywhere. If you have a big destiny,
you're going to have to meet and face
some big obstacles. But the good news
is that your strength and power is big
enough to conquer them all. You are
strong enough to overcome all obstacles in your way and to fulfill your
Destiny.
No great destiny comes without great challenges and sacrifices.
If there are no barriers to cross or obstacles to overcome in the journey
to reach your desired destination, how can you call it a success?
Some people will just go with the flow of things and sway in life, while
others will fight against the currents and go upstream to reach their
destiny.
You have to focus ahead and don’t allow people and circumstances to
distract you. The good old stories should not make you dwell there.
Purpose to write a new story from today henceforth.
Our eyes are in front because it's more important to look ahead than to
look back. Don't dwell on things in the past. Learn from them.

Take the burden of the past to Christ and release them. You need energy to focus.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
(Mathew11:28).

You are very important in the eyes of God and He Has inscribed your
name on His palm that He will never leave or forget you. You need to
have determination and courage to forge ahead to pursue your great
destiny. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don't
be afraid, you are worth more than many sparrows.

You are no greater than the friends you keep, the books you read, the
heroes you admire, and the obstacles you overcome. Think of the most
discouraging thing that you are currently carrying or the biggest project
you can’t seem to tackle. Forget about how it happened, forget about
how you got there, just look at the clock, and before that number
“Success is not to be
measured by the position
someone has reached in
life, but the obstacles he
has overcome while
trying to succeed.”
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changes, do one little thing to make it better. After you do, enjoy your
moment of victory, and then do it again. In less than the time it takes
you to blink, the past will burden you no more.
Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with
them.
When you face adversities because they will come, remember the
scriptures have solutions for everything. The bible reminds you always
to fear not, to be strong and courageous. This is what God expects of
you. You can ignore the scriptures but they cannot change. If the Lord
says He will be with you and fight the battles for you, it is for you to
believe it and let Him be Lord over the situation.

God will make you an example of someone He loves. God did a for
example when He rescued Noah, when he destroyed a whole city of
Sodom and Gomorrah but rescued Abraham and Lot.
If you overcome all odds and allow Him to take charge and take up the
glory, He will make you an EXAMPLE for people to be testifying about
you.

3) Accept, Adjust and Advance.

Death, like other adversities in life, is a lesson, which must be
understood and cherished, not feared; it is a rite of passage we all must
encounter at one time or another; it helps build our character and makes
us stronger if we can endure its painful aftermath. The tests we face in
life's journey are not to reveal our weaknesses but to help us discover
our inner strengths. We can only know how strong we are when we
strive and thrive beyond the challenges, losses, hurts, adversities we
face.
When in crises situation, never mourn along with the crises, rather
speak to the crises saying and ask it, "Crises what opportunities are you hiding
for me.”
Today is a new day. Yesterday's mistakes and pains cannot affect today's
possibilities unless you dwell on them. Acceptance of what has
happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any
misfortune.
You have to sometimes accept the fact that you have lost, you have
suffered but call that yesterday and past and prepare for tomorrow.
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Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial
and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
(Helen Keller).

Some of these problems are catalyst that will speed up our reaction into
becoming what the Lord expects of us. Without being pushed to the
wall, we will have remained in our comfortable zone. But these
circumstances challenge us to find the courage to move on.
A lot of young people like to be paid attention to, praised and supported
in everything. There is nothing wrong with this. However, anyone who
has ever become anything worth writing home about has had to handle
fire and brimstone with naked hands, wander in the wilderness and
survive under severe limitations. Through it they have developed self-
motivation. Believe in yourself, push your limits, and do whatever it
takes to conquer your goals.
Never give up, not because you still have tomorrow to try, but because
you may not have tomorrow to try. Avoid being distracted by naysayers
and negative minded people, who happen to fill our outer circles. Life
is too short to worry about haters.
They don't deserve to be an issue in your life. Think about the people
who love and support you. When you can't control what's happening,
challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening.
That's where your power is.
Do not wish you would become, avoid procrastination. The secret of
getting ahead is getting started. Some of the people who are jobless are
a result of you not starting your business.
Some of the people I studied with had great and adventurous dreams
and visions of their lives that you desired to see them years later but
unfortunately they lose focus on the way.
Have you ever known someone who had an exciting dream to do
something great but did nothing to make it happen? It’s so important
to act on the dreams that God has given you. You can take ownership
of your dreams by planning and preparing for them. Remember,
success is not accidental. Where do you see yourself in your career,
finances or relationships? Put some action behind what you believe for.
Maybe you don’t see how it can happen in the natural. The good news
is you don’t have to have it all figured out. With your faith and
obedience, God will work supernaturally in your situation to turn things
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Believe in your dreams today. I encourage you to write down your short
and long-range goals. Keep them in front of you so you will stay
focused. When you make a move, God will direct your steps. He’ll make
sure you come across the right people, at the right time. God will give
you wisdom, insight and favor as you take steps to bring your dreams
to pass.
If you trust God as your source, He'll trust you with His resources.
No matter what has happened in your past, you can receive God’s grace
and start fresh today. You can hold your head up high because His grace
is enough. You may not be perfect, but you are forgiven and
empowered to live in victory.
My friend and follower, receive His grace. Don’t hold on to past
mistakes. Jesus has already paid for them. All you have to do is receive
His grace and thank Him. Take it one step further and extend that grace
to others. Don’t try to punish people for their past mistakes; instead,
give them favor to start over. As you allow God’s grace to flow through
you, you’ll see yourself rise higher, and you will enjoy God’s blessing all
the days of your life.
Sometimes, God will take you through the fire, sometimes He’ll make
you fire proof and sometimes you’ll need to be purified by the hot
furnace. Just hold on to His will, God has the final say and you are
coming out better and when you come out every one will see that favour
is on you.

Years ago I sent a tweet through my huddle @Ambstevembugua and
later a stranger emailed me sharing about how the tweet ministered to
him on his hospital bed and he realized that the fire He was going
through was for his good as he learnt lessons, learnt to trust in God and
is able to encourage people going through emotional bad breaks.
God is going to change your ashes for beauty, weeping may endure for
this far but joy is around the corner.

Maybe you are in the valley of disappointment and loneliness, which is
not your final destination. Devine connection and provision is coming
your way.
You may be going through a tough time, hardship, and struggles and
barely making it through. You may not understand it but God wouldn’t
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walk with you step by step and bring you out with great substance better
off than you were before
You are destined to win! You will succeed in life! There will be road
blocks, and obstacles will come, but it’s possible that you are going to
make it! Keep pressing your way forward, have faith in God, your
dream will come true. Too many are looking for instant gratification
but know that not everything is going to happen the same time we want
it to. Everything takes time. Still we must not give in or quit. It will
happen. Remain patient while we learn the many facet in life, and even
learn about ourselves and others.
Don’t just sit there thinking about the magnitude of the problem, no,
no, no! Stand firm and declare the magnitude of our God, start walking
towards receiving the divine provision.
Every day we must do something that will move us forward in the
direction of our goals. Our consistent actions must also be positive and
be in harmony with our thoughts. We must believe that our dreams,
ideas, our goals are possible and also believe that we have what it takes
to make them work in our favor. Write down each goal, surround
ourselves with people that are supportive and be ready to take personal
responsibility to make it happen.
We must have faith to believe that we already have whatever it is that
we envision for ourselves in life. It is that kind of faith that will cause
you and I to rise up from the hard times and begin to call things that
have not yet come into existence as if they already did. (Romans 4:17.)
Believe that there is a higher power who already know that our outcome
is going to be successful. You have this promise that regardless of the
fire, mountain and valleys you will still be standing because you are a
child of the highest God. Face the problem. God want you to just be
strong and courageous, to position yourself and stand firm then He’ll
fight for you so keep moving, keep shinning, keep pushing until
something happen.
I will share examples of great men and women who overcame odds and
today we celebrate their achievements.

One great gentleman who had to go against all odds to succeed is
Thomas Edition. He was an American inventor and businessman, who
has been described as America's greatest inventor. He is credited with
developing many devices in fields such as electric power generation,
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Edison was fired from his job when a
chemical experiment leaked acid on to
his boss’ desk. However, despite being
almost penniless, Edison rose to be the
most prolific inventor of his
generation.

Another great personality is Sir
Winston Churchill (30 November 1874
– 24 January 1965) who was a British
politician and author, best known as Prime Minister of the United
Kingdom during the Second World War. Churchill was famous for his
stubborn resistance to Hitler during the darkest hours of the Second
World War. Winston was born at Blenheim Palace, Woodstock near
Oxford to an aristocratic family – the Duke of Marlborough. He was
brought up by servants and friends of the family. He rarely spoke to his
father, and he spent most of his childhood at boarding school –
Harrow. Churchill wasn’t the best student, having a rebellious nature
and was reportedly slow to learn; but Churchill excelled at sports and
joined the officer cadet corps, which he enjoyed.

On leaving school, he went to Sandhurst to train as an officer. After
gaining his commission, Churchill sought to gain as much active
military experience as possible. He used his mother’s connections to get
postings to areas of conflict. The young Churchill received postings to
Cuba and North West India. He also combined his military duties with
working as a war correspondent – earning substantial money for his
reports on the fighting. In 1899, he resigned from the military and
pursued his career as a war correspondent. He was in South Africa for
the Boer War, and he became a minor celebrity for his role in taking
part in a scouting patrol, getting captured and later escaping. He might
have gained the Victoria Cross for his efforts, though officially he was
a civilian at the time. After this experience, he gained a temporary
commission in the South Africa Light Horses and later commented he
had a ‘good war’ while continuing his work as a war correspondent.
Today the whole world has heard a lot about Churchill.
Another great leader is Nelson Mondela (1918 – 2013) who worked
very hard to train as a lawyer, despite the South African apartheid
system making this very difficult for a black man. Against the odds
Nelson Mandela was able to practice law, helping many black South
“I learned that courage
was not the absence of
fear, but the triumph over
it. The brave man is not he
who does not feel afraid,
but he who conquers that
fear.” Nelson Mandela

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Africans to survive in the apartheid system. When Nelson Mandela was
sent to jail for his opposition to apartheid in the 1960s, there seemed
no end in sight to the all-powerful apartheid system of South Africa.
But, against the odds, Mandela played a critical role in bringing about
the end of apartheid and the first truly democratic elections.

“During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to this struggle of the African people. I
have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination.
I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live
together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live
for and to achieve. But if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.” –
(Nelson Mandela).

Against all odds, against all logic we still hope. It is hope that keeps us
going. If you have to lose anything in life, don’t let it be hope.

It is often when night looks darkest, it is often before the fever breaks that one senses
the gathering momentum for change, when one feels the resurrection of hope in the
midst of despair and apathy”- (Hillary Clinton).

Every day when I woke up early in the morning to pray at 3 am, I fill
my mind with positive thoughts. I declare positive and great things
upon my life and the results is always a positive full day. Well, if it can
be thought, it can be done, a problem can be overcome and odds
overcome.
He who doesn’t want to face his challenges shall always face challenges!
Being a public speaker has not been easy and every day for me is a
learning opportunity as there is no any audience that is 100% similar to
the other. There are always surprises, fear of unknown and the fear that
there was a very high expectation on me leaving to me doubt of my
ability to meet the audience expectation. I have learnt to face this fear
and sometimes I visit a stadium, assume there are a million people
staring and listening and I start shouting. Sometimes I do this when I
go for meditation moment in forests, Heaven’s gate prayer mountain
or our maize plantation. Overcoming what frightens you the most
strengthens you the most. This has made me strong and confident. If I
was given authority to speak over your life, I would wish you 3Cs;
Courage to dream, Confidence to chase your dream, Commitment to
eagerly achieve the dream.

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I have come to realize that the world and its circumstances does not
sympathize with us neither does it give a damn. Your mediocrity and
stupidity becomes your companions to doom and the world will not
give you space unless you take it up. The world does not wait for you.
It does not recognize you until you possess your ground and rule. For
all the years I have been a coach, instructor, tutor, trainer and teacher,
I have encountered with thousands of people who relied on my skills,
knowledge and experience in the field to make a difference in life. The
outcome of the session largely depended on my ability to inspire change
within them. I have seen people who had earlier been my students rise
to very high levels and do marvelous things that I couldn’t achieve
despite the fact that I equipped them with the skills.

A good teacher can inspire hope, ignite the imagination, and instill a
love of learning. The moment you light the world around you with
positivity, the light will reflect back to you and even the challenges and
obstacles will reflect back and light the next pavement.
It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside
out. Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in
success. Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll
start having positive results.
Positivity is a weapon of mass destruction so is negativity. It is
contagious and influential. A positive and high spirited person always
wins or learn how to do it better. Put your focus on to your vision and
don’t let the negativity around to attract you rather let the surrounding
be influenced by you.
In January 2018, I freely donated and installed in our church Fire
Extinguishers and other Fire Safety equipment and signage and in
God’s reward in return I was given a great chance to supply and equip
all the Safari Rallies that were competing in the 2018 national
championship with Fire Extinguishers. This was a great business deal
supplying a truck of dozens of 6kg Dry Powder Fire Extinguishers to
Kasarani Stadium where the more than 60 vehicles were being serviced.
In the process I interacted with some of the world renowned Rally
drivers and one thing about them is that all this time while supervising
servicing of the vehicles they were portraying positivity and everyone
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happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and
keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.

Work hard for what you want because it won't come to you without a
fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do
anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes
you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something
positive.
With God, time and yourself you can achieve absolutely anything. As
long as you are alive just dare to dream big and make a difference. The
gift of life, gives you the greatest opportunity to live and chance to rise
above any situation. With hopeful attitude you can overcome any
struggle and live a purposeful life.
Live your life so well that when you go to the other world and have
your life projected on an LCD screen you will celebrate your life. Don’t
put limitations on yourself, dare not measure your achievement with
your current capacity. You have a divine and untapped ability within
you to rule, subdue, multiply, be fruitful and have dominion. Don't
settle for your human capacity. Live up to your God-given potential.
You need to be aggressive, consistent and tough. Be a fighter and fight
hard but smart. Put life where it is supposed to be. Give Technical
Knock Outs (TKO) to obstacles, challenges and adversities coming
your way and don’t give up. You can actually overcome all the
limitations of life and achieve your dreams, if you don't give up too
early.

Every level in life has special grace for it. It’s sufficient grace that makes
you get what you did not deserve. This grace however should not be
taken for granted.
You can become anything in the universe and can achieve absolutely
anything if you maximally utilize this grace. God's grace grants us
immeasurable ability to overcome adversity of any type.
Assuming you are a parent, delivers a beautiful and bouncing baby boy
and then one, two six years down the line you realize the child is not
growing from the birth stage. No any development at all. This would
scare you, right? If the baby is growing normally and few months after
delivery you realize it’s moving around, talking and lifting things, this
would excite you, right? For this baby to grow, there is a lot of effort
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around. The baby will have to persevere and endure a lot and within no
time develop the stamina to move around. You have to fight the odds
in life to be able to reach a greater height. Purpose to go an extra mile
and overcome all difficulties that comes your way.
If you lose a family member, involved in an accident and lose a body
part or suffer an irreversible misfortune, just accept it has happened,
adjust by finding courage and help within and then adjust to pursue
your great destiny.

I have realized that one of the most fulfilling moments is when you face
a difficulty and overcome it. I am a fun of football and one of the best
moment in football whether world cup or premier league is an extra
time and penalties after a draw. The teams have to go through a bruising
moment, consuming all the energy they had but once a team win they
forgot the bruises and exhaustion. Even if some players suffered
fractures and soft tissue injuries, once they win they all forget the pain.
For the team that lost, it goes on to prepare for the next game. If
Manchester United lose to Arsenal, they go to prepare for the next
game with Chelsea. They accept the defeat, go to the board room to
find out their mistakes and adjust their weakness and then advance to
prepare for the next game focusing for a win. Same applies to our lives,
you have to beat all odds, overcome it and enjoy the outcome.
Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow
of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that
demanded our best.
Most people view problems as merit for them to give up and quit. Any
opportunity that portrays negative results acts as a catalyst for them to
surrender but this should not be the case.
Many are the times that bad times become the stepping stone to a
flourishing outcome. Accept, Adjust and Advance.

You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage. Instead, it's important for
you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually
one of your biggest advantages. (Michelle Obama).

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Chapter 9

HE MAKES EVERYTHING
BEAUTIFUL AT THE
FULLNESS OF TIME

hen we look around, there are some great people that we
admire and desire to be like. We think that they have not known
problems in life, they look like they are immune to problems.
If you look at Trump or Uluru’s son, you might think that they have
never been in a point where they desperately wished that heaven would
open a way for them to be somewhere or get something that they could
not get or be on their own. No person escapes problems. The person
whose successes makes you so envious might not be going through
what you are going through but one thing is that whether rich, single,
married, CEO, Presidents…everybody have got problems. Huge
people are working hard to shed weights while the thin are working
hard to gain weight. Single people are earnestly looking for a marriage
partner and the married one is praying and fasting for God to intervene
in their marriage.
Every stage in life has problems and they serve a purpose. They are God
ordained and crucial for you to move to the next level. Before you get
a bicycle, you have problems walking but the bicycle comes with its
challenges, Motorbike, probox, BMW…Every level you rise you will
face problems of similar magnitude. God allowed it to happen and He
is making it work on your good.
The Bible is full of victors and villains who had to go through some
sorts of challenges and problems at every level of their life but when we
think about them, we see biblical celebrities. Sometimes we reach at a
point where we wonder whether God really cares. Life becomes strange
and God a stranger, you become cautious of God.
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Sometimes, the thing you most want doesn't happen. And sometimes,
the thing you never expect to happen happens.
When I got married, there is this vow that we were told to say together
before God and the whole congregation. ‘We shall be together in good times
and in bad times till death do us part.’ This is a very strong statement and
has great power. Our God is God whether in good or bad times. He
doesn’t change. He is who was, who is, who is to come. You might be
going through divorce, heart breaks, loss, disappointments, ridicule and
other frustrating moments but God Has not changed neither His love
for you changed. You have to make a decision to sit and let God be
God. If He instructs you to forgive, to let go and let be, just trust and
obey His lordship. Until you learn to be humble trust and obey God,
you will never be mighty. The greatest test might be the way you treat
the person who wronged you.

During the good times, most people walk away from His presence.
Rather than attending a bible study, we take our family out, go for salon
or take our car to the garage or car wash. Rather than attend a church
conference that the spiritual leader has been announcing, we go for a
vacation or buy a collection of movies to watch indoors. During this
time, God feels our absence and so behind the scene He crafts ways on
how we would start seeking His face and presence again. One of the
ways He does it is bring a sickness, challenge or problem which will
make you pray, fast and look for other believers to encourage you.
God’s ways are not our ways. How you think it works is not how He
makes it work. When things go wrong, don’t let life break your heart,
don’t blame life for what happens in your life. How you think it works
and how it really works are two different things. Reality gives us a
workout that we did not expect. Sometimes how we expect people to
treat us or things to happen doesn’t necessary happen that way.
Sometimes we work hard to help someone out of a situation; maybe
paying school fees for a person or giving capital to establish a business
then all over a sudden the person hit at you.
There is a song that goes; am not forgotten, am not forgotten, am not
forgotten God knows my name. You know, when things happen and
they surprise us, it is not a surprise to God and actually He is looking
at you smiling seeing you through.
I would like to let you know that your situation is not permanent. It
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have been fighting or what the enemy
is telling you. Your situation is
changing because God is working is
behind the scene sorting you out.
Things do not just happen, they are
made to happen. They are influenced.
The spiritual realm is more influential
than the physical. There are forces
influencing what you are seeing around whether business, the economy
of a place, city, village, nation or even a personality.
In the Book of Kings, Elisha was coming from the other side of Jordan
after receiving a double portion of Elijah’s anointing and when he came
to the village, there was a problem. There was a challenging situation as
the water was bad. There was discouragement.

(2 Kings 2:19-22). The people of the city said to Elisha, “Look, our lord,
this town is well situated, as you can see, but the water is bad and the land is
unproductive.” “Bring me a new bowl,” he said, “and put salt in it.” So they
brought it to him. Then he went out to the spring and threw the salt
into it, saying, “This is what the LORD says: ‘I have healed this water. Never
again will it cause death or make the land unproductive.’

And the water has remained pure to this day, according to the word
Elisha had spoken. There was barrenness as bitter water could not
support growth of crops, animals were dying. There was bitterness and
frustration in the village. There was water but it was bitter.
We find ourselves in situations where situations look present but it is
not good. There is water but it is bitter. You are educated and has a
university degree but you are jobless, probably you are very pretty or
handsome but don’t get marriage partner. At the fullness of time, He
will make everything beautiful. God has seen your cry, He has seen your
struggle. He is coming to help you through.
People look at you and admire you, they see you smiling and think your
business is doing very well but inside your pocket you know there is a
letter from the bank claiming for the loan.
You could be walking around smiling with very good physical features
but inside you know where the toe pinches, probably its barrenness or
rejection or whichever the situation that is robbing peace out of your
life.
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
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You have to accept that the problem exists and get help. Talk to God
about your situation. Don’t get comfortable in that situation.
The village dwellers realized that they needed help and informed Elisha.
The children of Israel cried to God and He heard their cry. He saw,
heard, was concerned and He came to help them.

The LORD said, "I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have
heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their
suffering. (Exodus 3:7),

The lord will make everything beautiful in his time. We should allow
him total freedom to work in our life according to his plan and purpose.
We should give God the time he needs to complete the work he wants
to accomplish in our lives.
Your situation is not permanent, it is changeable and you have to let
God take charge. He will make everything beautiful. That situation is
not meant to finish you, No, God is using it to glorify Himself through
it. Just totally surrender it unto the Lord.

Mathew 7:7-11 Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock
and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks
finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. "Which of you, if his son
asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?
If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how
much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him?

The lord hears the cries of his people. He will answer their prayer and
deliver them from all their afflictions. We must cry unto him with total
faith and assurance in his promises. He will honour our faith and grant
the desires of our heart.

After knowing that God is in control and behind the scene He is
crafting and modeling things on our favor, we should wait patiently
trusting, praising and worshipping God. There is great power in our
praise and worship unto God. We will experience great peace in our
hearts when we present all our needs to the lord with a heart of
thanksgiving. In times of battles our praise and worship destroys the
enemy and brings down Gods judgment on them. Praise and worship
brings us deliverance from our bondages.

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When David wrote about how he waited patiently for the Lord, he
might have gone through a difficult time, a time of waiting, endurance,
patience and persistence and when finally God did it for Him, He made
his feet firm. God did put a new song in his mouth, a song of praise. A
lot of people saw, feared the Lord and they trusted in Him.
The hardest part about accepting the saying everything happens for a
reason is waiting for that reason to come along. The reason is known
by the maker of heaven and earth, the great I AM, the Alpha and
Omega. His reason is for people to see, fear and trust Him and so all
the glory and honor goes to Him. Let God glorify Himself with your
life.

Psalm 40:1-3, I waited patiently for the LORD; And He inclined to me and
heard my cry. He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay,
And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm. He put a new song in
my mouth, a song of praise to our God; many will see and fear. And will trust in
the LORD.

God is coming to rescue you at the fullness of time. He will give you a
song of praise and thanksgiving. People will see you, fear God and trust
in Him because of how things and situations will turn around.
At the fullness of time, God is going to make everything beautiful. All
things are possible with God. Nothing is too hard for God.
All other Gods are the works of men but Jehovah is coming to beautify
you. He will give you a new look and the outcome will be so amazing
that people will see you and get astonished. I spent years in the streets
and at this time God was behind the scene putting up experiences that
I would combine to write this book that you are reading now. If he did
not allow the situations and circumstances in my life, probably I could
not have achieved much both spiritually, career wise and in business.
God knows your door and heart’s desires. He sent the raven to deliver
meat to Elijah. Wait unto the lord patiently, don’t rush to other people
blessings.
When your time comes, your blessings will meet you right where you
are. When the blessings of the Lord rains on you, even your enemy will
send you a good wish message. God I thank you for you have brought
me and my friends this far and have made our lot secure.
When the river is full, you cannot contain it. No one will stop your
blessings and my blessings because our river of blessings is giving us a
great overflow and breaking its banks.

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Anyone who dare hold our blessings will be washed away by this river
and drown because God has come to bless us.
It is our season, it is our time of breaking limits, going extra miles and
enjoying the abundance favor and grace from God as we enjoy a great
overflow of blessings. Arise, shine, rejoice and be glad.

One day, I remember very well it was on a Wednesday while talking
breakfast with my family. I received a call from a stranger that would
later make me become very cautious when receiving strange calls. A
gentleman introduced himself as Dr. George Odhiambo from one of
the largest medical facility in the country. I won’t mention its name here.
He congratulated me for the great job am doing in the building of a
culture of safety, informed me that I had trained his daughter several
years ago and because of the training she passed an interview and got a
full scholarship to study nursing in London.
I was deeply touched and felt excited. He later told me that he was the
hospital’s HR Manager and they had two vacancies for nurses and had
considered giving me a chance to recommend them and in my honor
they would employ them. My heart is in helping people and in the past
I had helped a lot of people to secure jobs of which I do till now. Very
fast I scrolled down my phone to look for anyone who had forwarded
their testimonials to me to help them secure jobs. I also requested a
couple of friends to forward in case they had one. When I forwarded
the first two to Dr. George, he called and requested me to forward as
many so that they would select the best from the list. In total I
forwarded 10 nurses and I was happy because I knew two of them
would get the job.
On Friday morning at 6:35am, I received a call from one lady informing
me that she suspected a foul play as the ‘HR’ was taking her around in
town after inviting her for an interview that was scheduled to take place
at 6am Afya Center. I scrolled down my phone and called the guy and
he informed me that he was at JKIA airport seeing off the daughter
then meet the lady but had sent a driver to pick the nurse. Several calls
came on the same and I was concerned and it is at this time that I
decided to call the hospital security office and was informed that they
were aware that there was a con by the same name who was exploiting
and robbing people. Before the conversation was over, my friend
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nurse had met the Dr. George, was robbed off her phone and Ksh.
30,000.
You will never know how I felt, had forwarded two nurses, the first one
has been robbed and the second one is calling me suspecting foul play.
I received another call from Nakuru of a woman who said that she was
the mother to the lady whose belongings were robbed and told me
where she had been told the lady was dumped.
Very first I went there, met her, she shared the whole ordeal and we
went straight to central police station to report the case.
Immediately we reported, the DCIO declared me the first and main
suspected and was arrested and my phone taken away. You can imagine
a person of my caliber who feared God and always advocating for
righteousness and wellness being arrested because of robbery. At the
corner where I was put and being called Mahabusu, I started talking to
God and told Him, ‘I don’t know why you allowed this to happen to
me, but one thing I ask for is that do not allow me to be ashamed and
lose anything but serve your will, give me a testimony out of it and have
the person arrested and exposed.” After the player I started smiling and
this really annoyed the police officer that one lady shouted, “Wewe
Mahabusu unachekacheka…”
An investigation was launched and together with the CID and NIS we
traced the person and the following day at 6am we arrested him
together with his counterparts as well as a lot of other items he had
previously robbed.
I was discharged and informed the hospital about it. They came with a
list of dozen of other people who had previously been tricked and
robbed by the same people and had recorded statements, had camera
footage and images of the guys and now we left it to the government
to deal with him. The information was put on the Kenya Police online
portals with their images for anyone who was a victim of their schemes
before to report immediately.
Remember my prayer was for them to be arrested, exposed, prosecuted
and I testify about it and have written it here as a testimony.
God allowed me to go through these circumstances so that through me
he would end this crime and prevent a lot of other potential victims
from their trap.
It was not clear why I had to go through it but at the fullness of time
God made everything beautiful. He was behind the scene working on
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(Isaiah43:2 NIV), Now this is what the LORD says—He who created you, O
Jacob, and He who formed you, O Israel:
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name;
you are Mine! When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you go through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you.
When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, and the
flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD your God, the Holy
One of Israel, your Savior;

Listen, my brother my sister. Be encouraged while you wait on the Lord
to fulfill the promises in your life. I know it’s not always easy waiting
on God, but He has not forgotten you. Personally, there are still things
that I aspire to do and some promises that I’m waiting on God to fulfill
in my life, but I know that He’s still at work and that He’s faithful. So
let’s hold onto (Philippians 1:6).
“Being confident of this very thing, that he which began a good work in you will
perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.” And let’s grab this one too while
we’re at it.
(Isaiah 40:31), “But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will
fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and
not faint.”
The moment you recognize who holds your life, You have no reason
whatsoever to be worried and depressed because of how things
happens because you have the mind of Christ, therefore you shall think
on the things of faith, think positive, think great of yourself and of your
surroundings.

(Daniel1 1:32) but the people that know their God shall be strong, and do
exploits.

They that knows their God shall be strong and do exploits. They shall
not fear darkness, they shall not fear competitors. Your competitors
will not see your face, but will only see your back. Your redeemer and
restorer lives and He will make everything beautiful at His time.
At the end of it all you will declare just like Solomon in the Book of

He hath made everything beautiful in its time; You will look back and declare that
surely the Lord was in control. His presence was with you even when you thought
that what was happening was a surprise to God. You will not be broken but you
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Let us be assured that God is in control and behind the scenes He is
making everything beautiful at His time and pace and at the appointed
time, at the fullness of time, He shall make everything beautiful, and
people will see, fear and put their trust in Him as you sing a new song,
a song of praise and thanksgiving.

One day, I was covering a rugby game as the designated first aider
together with my colleague charity. It was her first time to cover a rugby
game so she relied on me as the team leader. It was a very rough and
ugly match that severe injury was inevitable. Two incidents happened
that really embarrassed me.
One player suffered a shoulder dislocation and we were called to attend
to him. Before we did an assessment to identify the magnitude of the
injury, several players rudely took charge, stepped on the casualty’s
shoulder, pulled his shoulder and forced it back. Immediately he arose
and went back to play. I tried to beg them to allow us assist him
professionally but they forcefully took charge and said that’s how they
had been attending to such incidents. All this time Charity was nowhere
to be seen.
Immediately she saw the magnitude of the injury she went hiding. The
player decided to overcome the injury, use all means to return to the
field to ensure they win the game. Towards the end of the game,
another terrible incident happened. One player had his feet stepped on
and suffered a severe dislocation that the foot turned around to the
opposite side and everyone was worried. When we went running to the
center of the pitch with a stretcher to evacuate him, Charity screamed
wildly holding her head and moving back when she saw the condition
of the foot.
You can imagine how embarrassed I felt and how the players and
spectators viewed us. Again before we loaded the casualty on the
stretcher, the players arrogantly took charge, stepped on the leg, pushed
it back to its original position and persuaded him to continue with the
game. The gentleman forced himself back and for sure after
overcoming all odds they won the game. As an emergency first
responder, what they did was absolutely wrong but their winning
attitude and pursuit to win made them beat any obstacle which
threatened their efforts. Whatever that was a threat to their victory was
dealt head on not caring about the consequences. They didn’t mind
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focused on the victory. I went home an embarrassed and frustrated
First Aider but again challenged by the zeal and determination from the
rugby players.
Ask me about Charity, I have never seen her since that day and am sure
she is no longer serving as an Emergency first responder.

My life as an Emergency First Responder has been an adventurous life
involving dangerous rescues and lifesaving missions. I have responded
to dozens of road accidents, collapsed buildings, a terrorism incident,
community conflicts and fire incidents sometimes witness massive loss
of lives and in most cases saving a lot of lives. It has been very fulfilling
when people come to appreciate me for helping them in an emergency.
Being a member of Kenya National Fire Brigade Association
(KENFIBA) I have responded to a number of major infernos in the
country or participated in training of the public on Disaster
Preparedness and Response majoring on fire incidents. Never
underestimate the power of an inferno. Within thirty seconds fire
doubles up. Its heat, smoke and fumes emission as well as speed make
it very dangerous. A spark alone can lead to a serious inferno. Fire
knows no barrier and doesn’t give up easily. When it chose to destroy
it does so with passion and enthusiasm. We should put up the spirit of
an inferno and purpose to focus unto our dreams with all vigor and
zeal. Go against all odds to achieve the wildest dreams and overcome
all obstacles. Don’t fear the presence of life’s Fire fighters, keep
burning, don’t be intimidated by shouts, screams and sirens, glow and
grow. Fire grows from ignition stage, growth stage, development stage
to decay stage and the best time to extinguish it is ignition stage and
incase of the worst growth stage.
In pursuit of your dreams, adversities and challenges might attempt to
extinguish you even from your ignition stage but you have to threaten
them and keep burning. Even when they come with the largest life’s
fire engine you have to scare them away with your hot inferno, fumes
and speed. Be your best and keep fighting. Perseverance, endurance and
patience are the three greatest survival skills. Go against all odds and
don’t you dare be extinguished on the way.

In Kenya, during the heavy rains season, one of the severely affected
areas is normally the Tana River delta. The River Tana burst its banks
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destructions. This river encounters hard rocks, trees and other barriers
and nothing can stop it or hold it together. Once a river is full, no matter
how
Strong the barrier around the river is, they cannot stop its decision of
overflowing and breaking its banks. You should develop the attitude,
perseverance and consistency of a river and never allow any situation
change your beliefs and decision. Burst the banks and flow towards
your destiny. Go over the hard rocks, wash away all problems around
and uproot the trees of distress. Just go against all obstacles,
circumstances and odds to be the best version of you.
Anyone who has ever become anything worth writing home about has
had to handle fire and brimstone with naked hands, face storms and
tornados, swim against rough tides, boldly face all obstacles and
adversities with courage and determination to score handful of
victories. I command you to go there and face those odds, overcome
them and write your story for the world to read and be inspired.

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Chapter 10

STIR YOUR FAITH
AND KEEP GOING

od puts dreams, desires and aspirations in our hearts, very unique
and specific, and expects that we completely and wholly trust in
Him to fulfill them for His glory. He expects you to pursue your
dream with ultimate trust and He puts everything you need together to
fulfill that dream. He joins the dots no matter how big the dream is. Do
you have desires, dreams, wishes, aspirations that that you feel they
have delayed? There is a specific time already determined for the
fulfillment of the desires God has placed in your heart. The appointed
time is the best time. We have to trust that God can see the big picture
for our lives. He knows what’s up ahead. He knows what we’re going
to need, who we’re going to need, and when they need to show up. If
God did everything we ask on our timetable, it would limit us because
sometimes, what we’re asking for is too small.
Sometimes, the person we think we can’t live without, God knows in
ten years they’re not going to be good for us. So, He is closing the door
right now. Sometimes the promotion we want so badly, if God gave it
to us right now, He knows it would keep us from a much bigger
promotion that He has three years down the road.
One day, I was travelling to Wajir with my co trainer Evans Wagabi.
The training was a five day session training the staff of Save the
Children on First Aid and Fire Safety. I got late to arrive at the Jomo
Kenyatta Airport and had not considered the weight of the many Fire
extinguishers, CPR Manikins, laptop, LCD projector and other training
equipment that we had. After security checkups at the reception, it was
communicated that the plane was about to depart and so we could not
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I got worried but realized there was nothing I could to change it so I
started smiling. All this time Evans was looking at me wondering why
I was late, I was the team leader and was coordinating the training so
he was wholly relying on me.
All over sudden a lady from Kenya Airways came calling, “Hae teacher
Steve, are you Okay?” I explained what was happening and very first she
ran to the manager and came with him. I was assisted to clear and the
plane delayed for 5 minutes waiting for me.
As they wait for me, the security team was fast clearing me and
something else happened. The luggage I was carrying was too have and
was requested to pay an extra Ksh 17,000 which I didn’t have. They
asked me, “What do we do now?” I said, “Just whatever you find best to do but
I do not have money.” The lady advised they charge Save The Children for
the luggage, called their office and requested to be invoiced and I was
allowed to the plane. On our way in, the lady came and told me that I
had trained her several years ago and the motivational insights I gave
them in the course of the First Aid Training had really changed her life
and could not stand to see me stuck.
The other passengers in the plane were wondering who I was that they
had to wait for me. Inside the plane I was surprised by one cabin crew
who came, greeted me and said I trained her and she saved a life in a
plane. She gave me an extra cup of coffee.

When I was stuck at the airport and had every reason to worry but chose
to smile and elevate my faith, God came. He strategically put a person
who knew me to come and take charge. He was joining the dots and
making everything beautiful for me. He will do it for you, elevate your
faith and keep going.
Remember, God has the advantage of seeing it all. The longer I live, the
more I trust Him. The more I see His hand of faithfulness, the more I
know that His plan is better than my plan. Today, trust that He knows
what He’s doing. Trust that He has an appointed time, and it is the best
time to bring to pass His promises in your life.
A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled
with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for
him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord
explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

So, this the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun
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surface of the unmoving rock, pushing
with all of his might. Each night the
man returned to his cabin sore and
worn out, feeling that his whole day
had been spent in vain.

Since the man was showing
discouragement, the Adversary (Satan)
decided to enter the picture by placing
thoughts into the weary mind: "You have been pushing against that rock for a
long time, and it hasn't moved."

Thus, he gave the man the impression that the task was impossible and
that he was a failure. These thoughts discouraged and disheartened the
man.

Satan said, "Why kill yourself over this? Just put in your time, giving just the
minimum effort; and that will be good enough."

That's what the weary man planned to do, but decided to make it a
matter of prayer and to take his troubled thoughts to the Lord. "Lord,"
he said, "I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to
do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that
rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?"

The Lord responded compassionately, "My friend, when I asked you to serve
Me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with
all of your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I
expected you to move it. Your task was to push.

And now you come to Me with your strength spent, thinking that you
have failed. But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong
and muscled, your back sinewy and brown; your hands are callused
from constant pressure, your legs have become massive and hard.
Through opposition you have grown much, and your abilities now
surpass that which you used to have. True, you haven't moved the rock.
But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your
faith and trust in my wisdom. That you have done. Now I, my friend,
will move the rock."
At times, when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own
intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is
“Every achiever I have ever
met says, 'My life turned
around when I began
to believe in me.”
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just a simple obedience and faith in Him. By all means, exercise the faith
that moves mountains, but know that it is still God who moves
mountains.

When everything seems to go wrong. Just P.U.S.H.!
When the job gets you down ... just P.U.S.H.!
When people don't react the way you think they should ... just P.U.S.H!
When your money is "gone" and the bills are due....just P.U.S.H!
When people just don't understand you, just P.U.S.H.

P= Pray
U= Until
S= Something
H= Happens

Sometimes, people get discouraged in life because things didn’t turn out
the way they hoped on the first try. Maybe they put energy into a
relationship but it didn’t work out. They tried that new business
venture, but they are still struggling with their finances. Now they think
it’s never going to happen. But, one thing we have to learn is that God
honors perseverance. On the way to your “yes” you may encounter
some “no’s.” PUSH. You may encounter some closed doors, but that
doesn’t mean it’s the final answer. It just means “keep going.” So my
friend PUSH!

Remember, if God promised it, He’s going to bring it to pass. Scripture
tells us that through faith and patience we inherit God’s promises. This
is where patience comes in; this is where perseverance comes in. This
is where trust comes in. Just because you don’t see things happen right
away doesn’t mean you should quit. No, instead, rise up and press
forward.
Probably you have seen this phrase before and have seen me use it
severally in the publication, but it’s because of its worth: Twenty years
from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do
than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the
safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sail.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
Don’t procrastinate, focus unto your dream and schedule of activities.
Time is running so fast that sometimes tomorrow never comes.

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Sometimes God needs to shake us to wake us up. Without such wake
up calls we will blindly fall onto the wrong path that leads to greater
disappointment and ruin. We will not see it coming, because our will is
in the way of His. But know this, God is there leading and protecting
us, even when we do not see Him. And be warned if your will is in the
way of His, He will light a fire under you to get you moving. If He
didn't, it would show He does not love you. Just as a parent will
discipline their child out of love. Problems will point us in a right
direction if we surrender our will over to His. His love is there to
motivate us and change us into the best path and plan, much better than
we could ever come up with. God uses problems to lead you in the right
direction. Is God trying to get your attention?
Sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us change our ways.

Life is not easy for any one of us. But what of that? We must have
perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe
that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward,
as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives
you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done. When
you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have
fun, you can do amazing things.

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done
without hope and confidence, in fact its hope that keeps us going. We
are always optimistic that the PSV driver ferrying us to work is
competent and licensed bearing in mind that he is a stranger sometimes
we rarely assume the worst like for example he may have an acute
mental problem.
Put your heart in your dream and never look at the mountains or valleys
because just like the black and white keys on a keyboard which makes
a beautiful melody. The challenges gives you determination and at the
end you realize it was worth, gives you experience and testimony.
Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
So as you pursue your dreams, know that there will be negative voices
even from close colleagues, best friends and families but do not allow
them to distort you from focusing unto that dream. No one can make
you feel inferior without your consent.
God promises that there are set times in our future, but He doesn’t tell
us when they will be. Your set time may be tomorrow morning at

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10:31am. You’ll get the phone call you’ve been waiting for. Your set
time may be two years from now. You’ll get a good break and that will
thrust you to a new level.

My question is, “Do you trust God enough to believe that your set times are
coming?” Are you willing to wait with a good attitude? Are you willing to
get a new perspective?
Remember, that set time is already in your future. Don’t let the negative
thoughts talk you out of it. Your set time of favor is on the way and at
His time He’ll make everything beautiful.

In 2007/08, I had an opportunity of being a primary school teacher at
Anestar Primary school Nakuru before joining Moi University. I was
the class 5 class teacher and there is this young man who was tough,
strong and a go getter in class 7. I taught him science and mathematics
and I was also their games master. He believed that he would one day
become an army commander and stuck to that. Every time when giving
my regular motivation session to the students, he would always remind
me that he would become the best military commander.
Seven years later (2015), I received a call from USA and to my surprise
it is the same guy who was now studying military science at Ohio States
University. Friend, that's how faith works. Just believe that you can be
whatever you wish to be and put your focus unto that. If you live with
a strong sense of expectancy, then God will bless you and use you in a
powerful way. It’s difficult for some people to imagine this, but you
must come to the realization that God is so much bigger than anything
you will ever face. So why would you not live your life expecting Him
to give you victory? God intends for you to be a champion, not a
defeated person. If you claim victory and expect victory, you will get it
along with a greater sense of power and peace. God wants you to live
abundantly, so learn to expect His abundance.

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine,
according to his power that is at work within us." (Ephesians3:20).

A small congregation in the foothills of the Great Smokies built a new
sanctuary on a piece of land willed to them by a church member.
Ten days before the new church was to open, the local building
inspector informed the pastor that the parking lot was inadequate for
the size of the building. Until the church doubled the size of the parking
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Unfortunately, the church with its undersized parking lot had used
every inch of their land except for the mountain against which it had
been built. In order to build more parking spaces, they would have to
move the mountain out of the back yard.

Undaunted, the pastor announced the next Sunday morning that he
would meet that evening with all members who had "mountain-moving
faith." They would hold a prayer session asking God to remove the
mountain from the back yard and to somehow provide enough money
to have it paved and painted before the scheduled opening dedication
service the following week.

At the appointed time, 24 of the congregation's 300 members
assembled for prayer. They prayed for nearly three hours. At ten o'clock
the pastor said the final "Amen". "We'll open next Sunday as scheduled," he
assured everyone. "God has never let us down before, and I believe He will be faithful
this time too."

The next morning as he was working in his study there came a loud
knock at his door. When he called "come in", a rough looking
construction foreman appeared, removing his hard hat as he entered.

"Excuse me, Reverend. I'm from Acme Construction Company over in the next
county. We're building a huge new shopping mall over there and we need some fill
dirt. Would you be willing to sell us a chunk of that mountain behind the church?
We'll pay you for the dirt we remove and pave all the exposed area free of charge, if
we can have it right away. We can't do anything else until we get the dirt in and
allow it to settle properly."
The little church was dedicated the next Sunday as originally planned
and there were far more members with "mountain-moving faith" on
opening Sunday than there had been the previous week! Have faith,
declare what you want in life and God will reward your faith.

To be successful start with a dream or a vision and then develop some
specific goals, make a plan to achieve your goals, have a burning passion
to achieve the desired goals, get down to hard-work with total
commitment. Identify resources you need and possible sources.
Get the right people who can be your partners, facilitators and
supporters. Remain focused and persistent. Never think of giving up.
Have an open mind; be ready and quick to exploit any new
opportunities, sometimes big things start small. Challenges will come,

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some threatening but they will pass; use your networks of partners,
family, friends, financiers. Don’t be discouraged by those who turn you
down. When one window closes a door may just swing open.
Good viable ideas and projects will never lack resources. Avoid the
temptation of being selfish and a Lone ranger, there is a reason why a
hand has 5 fingers and not one thumb only. Keep believing, keep
hoping, keep enduring and keep asking because our God is always
faithful to His word.
Am waiting for you to share the testimony with me so don't quit!!!!!
Best wishes in your journey of success.

My Tomorrow

My tomorrow must be greater than today
David Mekene
My tomorrow must be greater than today
x2
His hands are not short
That He can cannot reach to you
His eyes are never blind (that) He
cannot see your tears
His ears are not deaf
That he cannot hear you cry
Your tomorrow must be greater than
today
Refrain:
No matter what I face
No matter what I see
No matter what comes my way
No matter how I cry
One thing I know That is definitely in
my heart
My tomorrow must be greater than today
x2
(Repeat)
(Hallelujah) I’m gonna sing in my/your
tomorrow
(Hallelujah) I’m gonna dance in
my/your tomorrow
(Hallelujah) I’m gonna testify in
my/your tomorrow
One thing I know – that is definitely in
my/your heart
My tomorrow must be greater than today
x2
(Repeat)
(Refrain)
My tomorrow must be greater,
Far greater than today (Repeat)
I can see an open heaven
Pouring down blessing in my life
I can see x2 better tomorrow
Don’t you cry x2 Oh mama
I can see broken hearts are mended
I can see the could has gathered
Tomorrow x3
Tomorrow, check me out tomorrow x?
Songwriters: David Mekene

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Chapter 11

WAITING PATIENTLY

hen we were young my brother and sisters would sit near our
mum as she prepared the evening meal. Many are the times we
disturbed and nagged her to give us a bite before the food was
ready, maybe a mwiko of Ugali, chapati to share or kamguu ka kuku or
kaigangio. We liked mukimo and most of the time I would push to get the
food even before it was well cooked, sometimes she would open the
sufuria and give me an uncooked potato because of my nagging but
what I didn't consider is that latter on there would be a well cooked and
fried mukimo with a delicious stew to eat, have a left over for breakfast
and lunch next day.
That's how God rewards us sometimes. We become so nagging while
he is working behind the scene to give us the best and when we ask He
tells us to be patient but when you keep nagging Him, not listening to
what He is telling you and keep on demanding, He gives you what you
are requesting but not well cooked so if it’s a husband or wife you have
been nagging for, later you'll come to realize that you were not well
prepared or are not compatible. If it’s a car, you receive it but are not
able to manage it and it ends up in the garage. If it’s a job, you always
become irritated by your boss and colleagues, never enjoying anything
about the job and in all this you'll find yourself coming back to God
asking questions, complaining and requesting for replacements.
My friend, anytime you make requests unto the Lord, don't nag and
complain but as the Bible tells us, be still and wait patiently unto the
lord.
Psalms37:7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him, There are
times in life that we all get tired: tired of trying to make a business grow,
tired of dealing with a sickness, tired of raising a difficult child, tired of
living lonely, waiting to meet the right person.
But Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk
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Don’t give up when victory is right around the corner. God promises
He will renew your strength. Have you ever found yourself waiting for
something? Waiting for that promotion? Waiting for that relationship?
Waiting for a breakthrough? Waiting for a job, a marriage partner,
waiting for something new?
The question is: Do you perceive it? This tells me that God can be doing
something in our lives, but if we are so focused on our circumstances,
we can miss what God is doing. That’s why it’s so important to lift your
eyes toward Him and declare His promises over your life. No matter
what your circumstances look like, declare that God is at work. Declare
victory, declare blessing, declare hope, and declare that today is the day
that you’ve been waiting for and face it with faith and expectations.

Just read Psalms 40:1-5. Wait patiently unto the lord my friend or else
you'll get an uncooked piece of potato but if you be a little bit more
patient, a well cooked and delicious mukimo with a nice stew will be on
your table and you'll have much more to enjoy even for the next meals.
Have you been praying and believing for something that seems like it’s
taking a lot longer than you thought? Many times, people can miss
God’s best simply because they give up before they see their “due
season” come. Don’t let that be you. Be encouraged today, your answer
is closer than you think. If it seems like things are getting more difficult,
remember, when the intensity heats up, that means you are closer to
your victory. It always seems darkest just before the dawn arrives.
We serve a faithful God, and He’s working behind the scenes on your
behalf. Don’t cast away your confidence today because your reward is
coming. And just like a new mother forgets about her labor pain once
she is finally holding her newborn, you’ll forget about your struggle
when you are holding on to your promise. While you are waiting, keep
an attitude of faith and expectancy.
Wake up every morning and say out loud, “I’ve come too far to give up now.
My due season is coming. I will reap my harvest.”
Stay in faith and look for His hand of blessing because He has promised
you victory, and it’s closer than you think.
Its hope that keeps us going.
One weekend, while at Thika Road Mall (TRM) shopping, I met an old
lady and a young boy on the same escalator I was, the mama was talking
to this young boy and telling him that the building is owned by a person
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The boy asked the grandy, "kwani its owned by Sonko or uhuru Kenyatta?"
with lots of concern, she told her, “no, it’s a guy who worked hard in school,
was focused in school and never wasted time with friends that don't add value and
never wasted opportunities."
This made me think and was tempted to go round and view the
architectural design of the building as I meditate on the words of that
lady.

My friend, you may not have much for people to reckon with or regard
you but there is a position and situation that you are in today that if you
make good use of it will turn things around and leave a mark and legacy.
A lot of pieces I have written have to do with courage, faith and not
giving up. As a result, people think that I am naturally brave. But what
people don't know, is that I grew up with phobias and many fears, I
have given up a lot of times, there are times I thought my parents and
even God hated me. I was scared of everything and gave up even on
my studies in form two while at Bavuni Secondary School Nakuru, I
have suffered breakups, loss, humiliation and being despised.
So, I write of courage not because I have not known fear, but I write of
courage because I have walked with fear but I have made the choice
not to fear it.
Don't nourish your fears more than you nourish your hopes, be strong,
dream big, never give up. Its hope that keeps us going. So you must not
be frightened if a situation rises up before you larger than any you have
ever seen; if a restiveness, like light and cloud shadows, passes over your
hands and over all you do. You must think that something is happening
with you, that life has not forgotten you, and that it holds you in its
hand; it will not let you fall. Why do you want to shut out of your life
any uneasiness, any miseries, or any depressions? For after all, you do
not know what work these conditions are doing inside you.
I know sometimes you feel like giving up. Every new day there’s seems
to be no change in your life. All the troubles of your heart and worries
keep on worsening. You wonder why everything is happening to you.
You keep on asking yourself why you’re not lucky like other people.
You keep on praying to God but so far He hasn’t answered your
prayers. Now you have started losing hope. You now think that maybe
you were meant to be like that or maybe somebody cursed you.
But I tell you what my friend? You weren’t meant to be like that and
you weren’t cursed. God is silent but He watches you day and night. He
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Just stay strong, focused, and hardworking and keep praying to God.
Bear it in your minds that you’re not alone in that hard situation, we are
all in the same boat of waiting patiently.
So, don’t give up my dear friend. Your time is coming soon.
When God will say yes to your prayer, the outcome will be exceedingly,
abundantly, above more than you have ever wished or asked for. It’s
patience that brings forth the promise. Abraham and Sarah waited a
long time for that child and at God’s appointed time, an angel was sent
to bring the good news to them.
My friend, I want to tell you that God’s delay is not God’s denial. It’s
up to you and to press through with patience. Patience is a virtue.
Patience is power.
Just tell God, “Lord don’t let me let go of my promise and dreams because I’m
tired of waiting on my promise.”
The time while you’re waiting is a time of learning, being strengthened
and growing in faith. God will help us grow and mature this year and
He will glorify Himself through our needs. He hears us when we call.
Often we wonder why something is taking so long, we get discouraged
and think it’ll never happen.
In our culture, most people are used to having constant activity:
computers, cell phones, television, email, video games, social media et
cetera. There’s nothing wrong with any of that, but the Bible tells us
that we need to stop and be still so we can focus on knowing God. I’ve
found this to be true especially during the difficult times. When you are
facing a challenge, it’s easy to want to run to a friend or talk about it
with a co-worker. But at some point, you have to stop and say, “God, I
rest in You. I know You have me in the palm of Your hand.”

Remember, our battles are spiritual battles. The people in your life
aren’t the source of your problems, the forces of darkness are.
When you choose to be still and know that the Greater One lives on
the inside of you, you are putting yourself in a position of strength. So
today, take time to be still before Him. Let His peace cover you.
Let Him refresh you by His Spirit. Remember, the battles you face
belong to the Lord. Be still before Him so you can see His hand of
victory in every area of your life.

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The moment God put the dream in you
He put a set time for its fulfillment.
When you understand this you won’t
get discouraged. You know the set time
is the right time. Don’t listen to the lies
that it’s never going to happen.
As long as you keep believing it will happen, you know the promise is
for you but when you look at the natural it seems it’ll never happen.
You may wonder when your husband, Dad or brother will be born
again, but, God has already set a time for each of your family members
to come to Him.

In your future there is a set time for the fulfillment of your dreams;
Habakkuk 2:3 “For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will
speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come
to pass.” [NKJV].

It will not be one second late, We don’t have to live frustrated because
it’s not happening on our time table, You don’t have to worry that you
are too old, Maybe you’re single but the person God picked out for you
won’t be one second late.
When is the set time? The right time, the time best for you. We want it
quick, fast and right now. Often we’re not prepared but as we wait with
the right attitude God is able to do a work in us. The other person may
not be ready. If you were to meet right now it wouldn’t work out.

When the lies tell you it will never happen, don’t believe them. Just say,
“I may not see a way but I know God has a way, God gave me the dream and He
established a set time for it, I will wait earnestly for it in faith, It won’t be late at
all, It will happen at the exact right time.” Your set time could be this week
or tomorrow morning.

In life we all have to wait, It’s through faith and patience that we inherit
the promises. Wait with expectancy.
Just declare,” I won’t live upset and frustrated because God has already ordained
it, It could happen today, I know there are set times in my future.” What if I get
my hopes up every day and it doesn’t happen; then I go to bed
disappointed?
God is working behind the scenes in our lives whether we realize it or
not, He is aligning up things for us, you may not see it but in a split
“The real secret to
success is enthusiasm."
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second it’s going to come together. When it’s your due season no
person can stop it.
The most difficult time is right before the victory, you can’t see anything
good when you look up ahead, You’re tired and ready to give up? Don’t
quit 50 meters before your destiny, you’ve come too far to stop now.
Keep on keeping on. The Lord has heard your prayers, all these time
that you have been crying , you have been in stress leading to
depression, He was busy working and moulding the best things for your
and now your season has come.
Start rejoicing, start praising, wow, wow, start dancing and position
yourself to receive exceedingly, abundantly, above and beyond what
you ever desired or asked for because He is coming to surprise you and
prove to the nation that all this time He still loved you and had good
plans for you. It’s your time! It’s your season!!!!

One thing I’ve learned is that God doesn’t always work on our time
table. In fact, He rarely does. But, in a single moment, God can change
your life. Scripture tells us He is the same yesterday, today and forever
which means if He did it for them, He can instantly turn things around
for you, too. It might not be right now or as per your schedule but in
His ways and plans so you have to wait patiently. God is interested in
your patience and persistence.
You may be going through some difficulty today, but be encouraged
because your times are in God’s hands. Trust that He has your best
interest at heart. He wants to pour out His favor. He wants to take you
further than you dreamed possible and work in your life in ways beyond
what you have ever imagined.
Let this truth sink down into your heart today. Resist discouragement
and wait for God. Keep standing, keep hoping and keep believing
because He is faithful. Have faith because your times are in His hands,
and He will lead you in the life of victory He has for you!

So my friend, focus on your dreams, don't let that breakup, loss of job,
lack, insufficiency and situation bring you down, God is not yet finished
with you(hajamalizana na wewe). He is working behind the scene on your
favour.
It was preparation time just like David taking care of sheep before he
became a king or Joseph in the pit and also in prison before He became
the prime minister. Hold on your faith, move on, be strong and
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finishing line telling you, ‘It is well my precious son or daughter, you were patient
with me when I was preparing your treasured possession and now am lifting you up
above the nations, people will call you great and I will glorify myself with you’
Hallelujah!!!

God is behind the scene and you have to wait for He Has not yet
finished with your case.

One day I was at the ATM with my wife, to get my salary because I
dearly needed money. As I started to transact, the ATM showed me an
inscription which said; please insert your card. I did and then another
message popped up- Please enter your pin code I did And then another
message came ...select the amount, I did that too.
After I had done all this...the ATM showed me a message in BOLD
letters YOUR TRANSACTION IS BEING PROCESSED, PLEASE
WAIT!
Allow me to say. When you have done all the things you can, you have
prayed, you have fasted, you have even asked others to pray with you
and for you but it seems as if nothing is happening in your life, wait
patiently don't give up, don't move because your request is being
processed. WAIT!
Let me tell you, what made me wait is because my card was already in
the ATM, I had already entered my pin code. If I give up now and walk
away, Lord have Mercy... The next person would have gotten all that I
had requested.
Not because your messages aren't heard, not because your prayers are
irrelevant, not because your fasting is meaningless.
But because YOUR TRANSACTION IS BEING PROCESSED Wait
and murmur not. Do not think you were born to suffer... Your prayers
are being processed so wait upon the Lord. I know it's not easy but I
encourage you ...WAIT!!!

As it is in Isaiah 40:31- but they who wait for the LORD shall renew
their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run
and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

YOUR TRANSACTION IS BEING PROCESSED. PLEASE WAIT!

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Made a way

Don't know how but You did it
Made a way
Standing here not knowing how we'll
get through this test
But holding unto faith You know that
Nothing can catch You by surprise
You got this figured out and You're
watching us now
But when it looks as if we can't win
You wrap us in Your arm and step in
And everything we need You supply
You got this in control
And now we know that

You made a way
When our backs were against the wall
And it looked as if it was over
You made a way
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way
You made a way

And now we're here
Looking back on where we come from
Because of You and nothing we've done
To deserve the love and mercy You've
shown

But Your grace was strong enough to
pick us up
And You made a way
When our backs were against the wall
And it looked as if it was over
Lord You made a way
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

You made a way
When our backs were against the wall
And it looked as if it was over
Lord You made a way
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

And you move mountains
You cause walls to fall
With Your power
You perform miracles
There is nothing that's impossible
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

You move mountains
You cause walls to fall
With Your power
Perform miracles
There is nothing that's impossible
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

You move mountains
You cause walls to fall
With Your power
Perform miracles
There is nothing that's impossible
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

And we're standing here
Only because You made a way
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way

You made a way
You made a way
You made a way
You made a way

Don't know how but you did it
Made a way
Don't know how but you did it
Made a way
Don't know how but you did it
Don't know how but you did it
Don't know how but you did it
Don't know how but you did it

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Don't know how but you did it

Don't know why but I'm grateful
Don't know why but I'm grateful
Don't know why but I'm grateful
Don't know why but I'm grateful
Don't know why but I'm grateful
Don't know why but I'm grateful
And we're standing here
Only because You made
And we're standing here
Only because You made a way
And we're standing here
Only because You made
'Cause You move mountains
You move mountains
You move mountains
You move mountains
And You cause walls to fall
You cause walls to fall
You cause walls to fall
You cause walls to fall
And You cause chains to break
You cause chains to break
You cause chains to break
You cause chains to break

And giants fall
Giants fall
Giants fall
Giants fall

'Cause you move mountain
You move mountain
And everything is easy for you
'Cause you move mountain
Yes you move mountain

Mountains are moving
Mountains are moving
Mountains are moving
Mountains are moving

Strong holds are breaking now
Strong holds are breaking now
Strong holds are breaking
Strong holds are breaking

'Cause you move mountain
You cause walls to fall

With your power
With your power
With your power
With your power

You perform miracles
You perform miracles
You perform miracles
You perform miracles

My son is breathing
My son is living
My son is breathing
My son is living

When the doctor said no
You said yes
When the doctor said no
You said yes

When they pronounced me dead
You said not yet
When they pronounced me dead
You said not yet

You perform miracles
You perform miracles
Songwriters:
Travis Montorius

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Chapter 12

YOU DON’T HAVE TO FIGHT
EVERY BATTLE

ne day in the company of friends from Nakuru we decide to visit
Lake Naivasha. It was a tradition to organize trips and to visit
different places. So we decide to visit Naivasha and its
surrounding. Upon arrival we conducted a couple of team building
activities, running, jogging, dancing and so on. At around noon one of
our friends Stanley dared us to swim in the lake and three of us took up
the challenge. We got into the lake and swam 30 meters in the lake
without looking behind or listening.
When I lifted my head, I heard people screaming saying that I would
die. Most of this was coming from the boat operators around.
Immediately when I scanned around, there were three Hippos
surrounding me. Two were between me and the shore.
If you were the one, what would you do? I cannot explain what I did but I
remember shouting, ‘Oh my God, what do I do?’ Then immediately I found
myself walking out of the water. Am not sure whether I swam under or
around the hippos though, later they told me that I went very fast
between the two hippos and God saved my life. It is not by my power,
ability, might, skill or speed but when I called God and asked Him what
to do He made a way. Behind the scene God created a path between
the two hippos and told them to be still until I get out of the water. I
did not fight the battle but sought instruction from the chief
commander-God and won it. You do not have to fight every battle my
friend. In the journey to our destiny and in pursuit of our purpose, we
will experience a lot of battles but depending on how we approach
them, it will determine our win or defeat.
No matter how sharp a razor is, it cannot cut a tree. A sharp axe will be
effective when cutting a tree but not shave hair. You will only be
effective on your perspective.
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Every one of us has a purpose and
faces tests in line with our purpose. A
first year exam would be irrelevant to
form one students. The battles that
you face in your life are in line with the
calling, in line with the purpose God
created you for and for you to win these battles you need to be
connected to Him.
God will always prepare you for a given assignment and this stage is not
a pleasant one. He may allow you to go through frustrations, rejection,
and pain, lose to prepare you for a great and bigger purpose. All the
great men of faith we study at the bible had to go through a preparation
stage.
The story of Jesus, Joseph, Moses, David, Jacob, Paul, Abraham among
others are stories of victory but there is a story behind the success story.

In order to live the life of victory God has promised, you have to be
very selective about what you give your time and attention to. You have
to recognize which thoughts to ignore, which comments to ignore, and
sometimes, which people to ignore. Every “battle” that comes across
your path is not a battle that you’re supposed to fight. Many battles are
simply distractions to try to lure you off course. If that battle is not
between you and your God-given destiny, it’s a battle you should
ignore.
Many people get thrown off course because they are always trying to
straighten everyone else out or win their approval. But if that’s your
focus, you are wasting valuable time and energy that you should be
using to pursue your dreams. Turn away from that distraction. You
don’t need the approval of everyone around you; you only need God’s
approval.

Friend, it’s very freeing when you realize you don’t have to fight every
battle. You don’t have to straighten people out. You don’t have to pay
somebody back. Instead, focus on what matters, focus on God and His
Word so you can live in peace and happiness every day of your life.
The best thing is to praise God and let Him guide you. Walk in faith for
He just requires you to trust and obey for you to work on you to be
what He wants you to be. As you go through the preparation and
testing, put an attitude of faith, praise, worship God and give thanks.
“I can accept failure
but I can't accept not
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Elijah kept on praising as he wait for the rain, seven times he sent
someone to check whether it was about to rain. Complaining does not
get God’s attention. It is praises and a thankful heart that gets God’s
attention. When Paul and Silas were in the dungeon tied with chains
and guarded all around with no hope from the worldly perspective, they
were not complaining or mourning but praising. That is displaying their
faith on God.
The same chains had tied criminals for years but when they praised
God, the chains could not hold any longer. The power of praises broke
the chains and opened the bronze gate. I don’t think mourning,
complaining and weeping would have invited the angel of God.
When you praise during battles and hardships, God shows up. When
you praise, breakthrough shows up.

As an Ambassador of Safety, I have been having a great passion of
encouraging people to be safety conscious and one area am concerned
with is the construction industry. I have realized that for you to
construct a tall skyscraper, you have to first dig deep downwards to lay
a strong foundation. Actually all tall buildings have a basement and a
lot of work done below the building. When God is shaping you for
greatness, He first take time to lay the foundation. That is why even
Jesus spent decades being prepared for few years ministry that had great
impact to mankind. The lower you go, the higher will be your destiny.
God will radically transit your life just as He changed Ruth from
collecting wheat remains to the owner of the land as a queen.
If you pray and obey God until something happen, the way to defend
it is by praying and obeying Him. Anything born of prayers is sustained
by prayers just like anything is born of obedience is sustained through
obedience.
For you to access an ATM and withdrawal hefty amount, you must first
have an active bank account, have an ATM card and then have money
in your account and in most cases either have saved or have done
something leading to having money in the account. It doesn’t just
happen and you cannot insert any card. If you use your card to access
my account it will not give you money.
God prepares you to give you all that you need to get what you want.
He allows battles, hardships, tough experiences and lessons to qualify
you for something and you must be willing, obedient and have faith to
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Even when you think you have everything and has achieved all, there is
one thing that you require God to intervene and because God want to
receive glory out of it, He allows us to go through experiences and
lessons that once we receive it, we will not credit our ability but His
power that is why He can allow a barren lady to go past menopause,
menopast and menostop just to later bless her with a child after she Has
visited all hospitals and tried all means.
When God say He Has blessed you that is His official position
regardless of your condition and so when battles come, let Him fight
for you.
Even when you think nothing is happening in your life, God is not
wasting time, something is happening inside.
When situations and circumstances are happening and you are almost
giving up and wondering where God is, He is still at the throne working
behind the scenes on your destiny. Trust Him, have faith on the dreams
that He Has deposited in you and trust that He will fulfill it.
Even when you feel like nothing is happening in your life, in the spiritual
realm something is happening. Just know your position. You are the
child of a King and He holds your life.
This day I feel like encouraging you and myself. No one on earth is so
satisfied that he doesn’t need Gods intervention. If you conduct an altar
call today, even president Uhuru Kenyatta, Museveni, Mugabe, Obama,
Donald trump et cetera all will have something in their heart that hey
wish God would intervene.

I have come from far to where I am and where I am is not my doing
and though am not where I dream to be, God is where He was when
Joseph was thrown into the pit by his brothers and sold as a slave and
even when he was in the prison. He is where He was when Daniel was
thrown into the lion’s den and even when Shadrack, Meshach and
Abednego were thrown into the lake of fire. God is where he was when
I was a street boy in Nakuru town, He is where He was when I was
peddling drugs from Mombasa area of Wanyororo area to Nakuru
town. God is where He was when I was given dismissal letters 6 times
within one year with allegation from my then CEO with no valid reason
and later in the same year I was awarded for having responded to 127
major incidents in the country and trained 10,000 people on First aid.
He is where He was when you were in your lowest moment and even
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not seeing like much can come from
you. Even in your case and in my case
today, God is there watching and ready
to glorify Himself through what we are
going through.

Today am singing a new song, I have been through thorns, fire, rough
roads and hailstorms and some of these caused by friends or close
individuals, but, through it all God enabled the odd to pass. I will praise
and glorify Him for He have brought me this far, He is preparing me
so am still clay in His hands and He is moulding me to be a precious
vessel of honour. I will sing Hosanna on my way of overcoming and
soon you and I will be a living testimony to encourage thousands of
people just like Ben Carson.
We belong to the God who stops and calms the sea, we won’t be
defeated. We belong to the God who is the great commander and so
victory is ours in Jesus name.
There are people who will be used by the devil to pull you down but
they will be strategically placed by God to be frustrated and push you
up and sure in their attempt to disappoint you they will become your
destiny connectors and they will live to testify about you forever and let
me tell you, they will be trying to associate with you. You don’t need to
revenge. Just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually
screw up themselves and God will let you watch them as they diminish.

Psalm16:5-9, LORD, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot
secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a
delightful inheritance. I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at night my
heart instructs me. I keep my eyes always on the LORD. With him at my right
hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my
body also will rest secure.

Psalm40:2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my
feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.
God knows your door and heart’s desires. He sent the raven to deliver
meat to Elijah. Wait unto the lord patiently, don’t rush to other people
blessings.

When your time comes, your blessings will meet you right where you
are. When the blessings of the Lord rains on you, even your director
“The greatest glory in living
lies not in never falling, but in
rising every time we fall."
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will beg for a glass of water from you. God I thank you for you have
brought me and my friends this far and have made our lot secure.
Remember the Solai Dam tragedy in May 2018? It was a great disaster.
This is an area that has never experienced flooding or heavy rainfall
before so the community there could not explain exactly what was
happening. When a dam or liver is full, you cannot control it, it will just
make it’s on way.
When the river is full, you cannot contain it. No one will stop your
blessings and my blessings because our river of blessings is giving us a
great overflow and breaking its banks. Anyone who dare hold our
blessings will be washed away by this river and drown because God Has
come to bless us. It is our season, it is our time of breaking limits, going
extra miles and enjoying the abundance favor and grace from God as
we enjoy a great overflow of blessings. Arise, shine, rejoice and be glad!
The road to bitterness is always paved with struggles and the one we
belong to fights our battles and teaches our fingers to make wealth.
Courage brother do not stumble, Inuka jitie nguvu, simama una kibali,
usaidizi wako watoka kwa mwenyezi mungu and He holds your destiny. Just
like Abraham, Daniel, Jesus, Joseph and all the great heroes we have
been reading about from the good book, we shall emerge victoriously.
God does not promise a safe journey, a walk without hardships and
storms but He promise to take as through.

Maybe you have a medical report that looks grim, a mountain of debt
that seems impossible to ever get out of, a troubled relationship that’s
on the brink of ending, sometimes it’s easy to accept things as they are
and lose faith. But God is bigger than the facts. You may not see a way
in the natural, but He’s a supernatural God.
Learn how Jesus operated out of faith instead of mental facts. Proverbs
3:5-6 means when we are taught to “lean not on our own understanding.”
Find inspiration to believe in God’s miracle-working power in your life,
no matter the situation. Do not fight, just stand firm and encourage
yourself in the Lord. We have an assurance that we shall not be finished.
There is no breaking news in God. No incident in the Bible that caught
God unaware, even when Daniel was thrown in the lion’s den,
Shadrack, Meshach and Abednego in the furnace, Joseph in
prison…God was still in control.
When you find yourself in an unclear circumstance not sure where your
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master puppeteer so probably today He Has list one finger and the
moment He lift the other the audience will give it a standing ovation.
Having faith in God is the most sensible thing you can do. Having faith
in God when it’s hard is the best gift to God.
Let no trouble overshadow the gift of salvation. Be ready to obey and
trust in God even if it means to death because even if you die waiting
on God, when you get to heaven you will receive a standing ovation.
Through thick and thin, let the blessed assurance guard your soul.
Thank God your soul is well with the Lord.
When troubles come, say, “come baby come, I don’t care what is happening now
but I will praise my God, I will worship the Lord because He is in control.”

When you worship the Lord during hardship and in your lowest
moment, you confuse the devil. We read Psalms and feel encouraged
but most of them David wrote them when he was in a fix and in his
lowest moment. Even when you can’t trace God in the situation, trust
Him. Hold a tight grip on God’s promises.

During that time when you feel like giving up, just know that God is
watching and it’s not a surprise to Him so if you have to seek a solution,
seek it from Him He sees the end from the beginning. People will give
you advice, options and alternatives but let God be your only option.
Let trust and waiting on God be your plan A, B and C.
Stand still and see the salvation of God. When you fight for yourself
you will not be able to, you will be frustrated, disappointed and get tired
but let the mighty warrior reign. Faith is committing everything to God,
not doing your part and let God do the rest. Just have faith in Him.
At the end of it all, you will testify and celebrate the goodness of the
lord in that situation. His mighty hand is in control to do what only
Him can do. It shall be well with you.

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Chapter 13

UNDERSTANDING AND
OVERCOMING DELAYS

elays are a reality we all face in life. They can range from minor
inconveniences to major life-altering events that test our
patience, faith, and determination. While they may initially
appear as obstacles, delays often serve as opportunities for growth,
reflection, and preparation. Understanding delays, their root causes, and
how to overcome them is crucial for anyone seeking success and
fulfillment.

Drawing from my personal journey of overcoming a five-year high
school dropout, becoming the globally recognized Ambassador of
Safety, and authoring 12 transformative books, I have come to
understand delays as part of a greater plan. This book provides a
detailed exploration of delays, the types of delays, ways to overcome
them, and practical strategies to navigate life's waiting seasons.

Delays as a Stepping Stone

Life often presents delays that seem to obstruct our dreams and
ambitions. However, these moments are not wasted; they are divine
pauses designed to teach us valuable lessons, strengthen our character,
and prepare us for greater opportunities.
My personal story is a testament to this. Dropping out of high school
for five years seemed like an insurmountable delay in my life. Yet, it was
during this time that I discovered my calling to become an Intentional
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others. The lessons I learned during that period shaped my perspective
on delays and equipped me to help others overcome their own.

Types of Delays

Delays come in various forms, each with its unique challenges and
lessons:

1) Personal Delays

2) These are delays caused by internal factors such as
procrastination, fear, or lack of discipline. They hinder personal
growth and achievement.

3) Relational Delays

4) Delays in building or repairing relationships, such as waiting for
the right partner, reconciliation, or healing from past wounds.

5) Career Delays

6) Delays in achieving career milestones, such as promotions, job
opportunities, or entrepreneurial success.

7) Financial Delays

8) Experiencing setbacks in financial growth due to debt, poor
decisions, or economic downturns.

9) Health Delays

10) Waiting for physical or mental healing can test one’s resilience
and patience.

11) Spiritual Delays

12) Periods of waiting for answers to prayers, spiritual growth, or
clarity about one’s purpose.

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13) Educational Delays

14) Interruptions in academic progress, like dropping out, failing
exams, or financial constraints.
15) Governmental or Bureaucratic Delays
16) Encountering delays in processes such as visas, permits, or
official approvals.

17) Global or Societal Delays

18) Events like pandemics, wars, or natural disasters that affect
individual and collective progress.

19) Divine Delays

These are orchestrated by God to align circumstances for a greater
purpose, even if they are initially unclear.

Ways to Overcome Delays

Overcoming delays requires intentional effort, faith, and practical
strategies. Here are 15 ways to navigate and conquer delays:

1. Embrace a Positive Perspective

View delays as opportunities for growth rather than as setbacks. This
Mindset shift transforms frustration into gratitude.

2. Set Clear Goals

Clearly define what you want to achieve. Specific, measurable goals help
you focus and avoid unnecessary delays.

3. Develop a Plan

A detailed action plan provides direction and reduces the chances of
getting side-tracked.

4. Cultivate Patience

Patience is essential when dealing with delays. Understand that timing
is critical, and rushing can lead to failure.

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5. Seek Wisdom and Guidance

Consult mentors, read inspirational books, or seek spiritual guidance to
gain clarity and motivation.

6. Address Internal Obstacles

Identify and overcome personal hindrances like fear, procrastination, or
self-doubt.

7. Learn from Others’ Experiences

Study stories of people who overcame delays to achieve success, such
as my own journey described in Overcoming All Odds.

8. Strengthen Your Faith

Prayer and meditation provide strength and clarity during waiting
periods, helping you stay anchored.

9. Stay Consistent

Consistency in small, daily efforts often yields long-term results, even
in the face of delays.

10. Take Responsibility

Acknowledge your role in the delay and take proactive steps to address
it.

11. Improve Time Management

Prioritize tasks and avoid distractions to maximize productivity.

12. Invest in Self-Development

Use delays as an opportunity to acquire new skills, knowledge, or
certifications.

13. Avoid Comparisons

Focus on your journey instead of comparing your progress to others.
Comparison breeds frustration.

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14. Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate progress, no matter how small. This keeps
you motivated.

15. Never Quit

Quitting ensures failure, while persistence opens doors to eventual
success. My book Dare Not Quit explores this principle in depth.

Explanations and Elaborations

Delays are not always punitive; they are often protective and
purposeful. They can shield us from premature exposure,
unpreparedness, or the wrong opportunities. Let’s elaborate on a few
key principles:

Delays as Protection

Sometimes, what we perceive as a delay is actually God’s way of
protecting us. For example, a failed business venture might prevent you
from greater financial loss down the road. My own delay in completing
high school allowed me to develop resilience, wisdom, and a deeper
sense of purpose that shaped my future success.

Delays as Preparation

Delays often serve as preparation seasons. King David was anointed as
a teenager but had to wait years before ascending to the throne. During
this period, he developed leadership skills, spiritual maturity, and
courage. Likewise, delays in your life might be equipping you for a
greater calling.

Delays as Refinement

Delays refine character and test commitment. When you remain
steadfast during waiting periods, you build perseverance, a quality
necessary for long-term success.

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Delays as Redirection

Sometimes, delays redirect us toward a better path. What feels like a
detour may actually lead to a destination far greater than what you
originally envisioned.

The Journey of Becoming an Intentional Encourager

My journey of overcoming delays is one of hope, resilience, and
transformation. Dropping out of high school for five years seemed like
an irreparable setback. I felt lost, frustrated, and unsure of my future.
However, those years became the foundation for the work I do today
as the globally recognized Ambassador of Safety and an Intentional
Encourager.

During those years, I discovered my passion for safety, leadership, and
empowering others. I wrote books like Dare Not Quit, and Behind the
Scenes, sharing my journey to inspire others. I learned that delays are
not the end of the road; they are stepping stones to greater success.

Practical Applications

To overcome delays, practical steps must complement faith and
determination. Here are a few actionable strategies:
1. Create a Vision Board
Visualize your goals and keep them in sight as a reminder of what you
are working toward.
2. Join Support Groups
Surround yourself with people who encourage and hold you
accountable.
3. Track Your Progress
Regularly evaluate your actions to ensure you are moving closer to your
goals.
4. Engage in Continuous Learning
Attend seminars, read books, and seek resources that expand your
knowledge and skills.
5. Adopt a Grateful Heart
Gratitude shifts focus from what you lack to what you have, fostering
positivity even during delays.
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Delays are not meant to destroy dreams but to refine and prepare you
for them. Embrace the waiting season as an integral part of your
journey. Reflect, grow, and trust that what is meant for you will come
in due time.
As someone who has walked the road of delays, I assure you that
perseverance and faith lead to remarkable outcomes. Whether you are
navigating personal, financial, or spiritual delays, remember: you are not
alone. My books offer deeper insights into overcoming challenges and
finding purpose in adversity.

Overcoming Rejection
A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Healing
Rejection is one of the most painful human experiences. Whether it’s
rejection from a job, a relationship, family, or society, the emotional
wounds it inflicts can be deep and lasting. The sting of rejection often
leaves individuals questioning their self-worth, causing them to spiral
into negative thoughts and, in severe cases, depression and isolation.
Yet, overcoming rejection is not only possible but can also lead to
personal growth and a deeper understanding of oneself. I have
severally been a victim and at one point dropped out of high school for
five years and got into crime and addiction because of the feeling of
rejection.
In this book I explore rejection in its many forms, its causes and
effects, and offer practical strategies for overcoming it. This journey
begins by understanding the various types of rejection, followed by a
deep dive into its emotional impact. We will also explore how rejection
manifests in everyday life and provide step-by-step techniques to
recover and thrive after facing rejection.
Types of Rejection
Rejection can occur in different spheres of life, and understanding the
specific type is essential for coping and healing. Here are the major
types of rejection:

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1. Social Rejection: Being excluded from a group or social circle,
such as being left out by friends or peers.
2. Romantic Rejection: The heartbreak that comes from a
breakup, unrequited love, or the end of a romantic relationship.
3. Family Rejection: When family members, particularly parents,
fail to accept or support an individual, often due to lifestyle
choices, career decisions, or cultural expectations.
4. Professional Rejection: Rejection in the workplace, such as
being passed over for a promotion, denied a job offer, or not
receiving recognition for your work.
5. Rejection in Ministry: Feeling rejected in a church or religious
setting, such as when a spiritual leader or community does not
accept or appreciate your contributions.
6. Cultural Rejection: When one is rejected based on their
cultural background, ethnicity, or nationality, often leading to
feelings of alienation and discrimination.
7. Self-Rejection: When individuals reject or criticize themselves,
often due to low self-esteem or internalized negative beliefs.
Each of these types of rejection affects us differently and can occur
simultaneously in our lives. Romantic rejection might shake our sense
of belonging, while professional rejection may impact our confidence
and self-worth. Acknowledging the specific type of rejection you are
experiencing allows for targeted healing.
Causes of Rejection
Rejection often stems from a variety of underlying factors.
Understanding these causes can help in preventing internalization and
emotional harm:
1. Miscommunication: Misunderstandings between individuals
can lead to feelings of rejection.
2. Cultural Differences: Differing cultural norms and values can
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3. Unrealistic Expectations: Setting too high expectations in
relationships or at work can lead to feelings of disappointment
and rejection.
4. Bias and Prejudice: Prejudices based on race, gender, religion,
or background can lead to exclusion and rejection.
5. Past Trauma: Individuals with unresolved trauma may be
more sensitive to perceived rejection.
6. Lack of Compatibility: Sometimes, rejection occurs simply
because of a lack of mutual understanding or shared values.
7. Fear of Intimacy: People may unconsciously reject others
because they are afraid of becoming too close.
8. Perfectionism: Individuals with perfectionist tendencies often
feel rejected if their high standards aren’t met.
9. Insecurity: People with low self-esteem may perceive neutral
actions as rejection.
10. Power Dynamics: Imbalances in power, such as in workplaces
or relationships, can lead to one person feeling rejected.
11. Social Exclusion: Being left out of social or group activities
often creates deep feelings of rejection.
12. Lack of Communication Skills: Poor communication often
leads to rejection, particularly in interpersonal relationships.
13. Subtle Discrimination: Discriminatory attitudes, even if
unspoken, can cause rejection based on characteristics like
gender or appearance.
14. Unresolved Conflict: Failing to address conflicts in a
relationship can eventually lead to rejection.
15. Jealousy and Competition: Envy among friends or colleagues
can foster feelings of rejection.
16. Fear of Vulnerability: When individuals are afraid to open up,
they may self-sabotage relationships, leading to rejection.
17. Rejection Sensitivity: Some individuals are more predisposed
to perceiving rejection due to their emotional history.
18. Personality Clashes: Incompatible personalities can lead to
social or professional rejection.
19. Unwillingness to Change: Refusal to adapt or compromise
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20. Misjudgment of Character: Misinterpreting someone’s
intentions or character can result in rejection.
21. Peer Pressure: Social groups or workplaces where conformity
is demanded may lead to the rejection of those who don’t fit in.
22. Financial Struggles: Economic difficulties can strain
relationships, leading to rejection in families or partnerships.
23. Failure to Meet Expectations: Being unable to meet the
expectations of a partner, employer, or community can lead to
rejection.
24. Loss of Interest: Over time, some people simply lose interest
in relationships, leading to feelings of rejection.
25. Unhealed Past Relationships: Unresolved issues from past
relationships can create barriers in new ones, leading to
rejection.
Rejection is often out of our control, and by understanding these
causes, individuals can better navigate their feelings and avoid
unnecessary blame or guilt. It’s crucial to recognize that rejection is
often a reflection of the other person’s feelings or situation, not a
measure of our self-worth.
Side Effects of Rejection
Rejection has both emotional and physical side effects that can
significantly impact our well-being. Here are some common side
effects:
1. Depression: Feelings of sadness and hopelessness often follow
rejection.
2. Low Self-Esteem: Rejection can make individuals question
their value and self-worth.
3. Anxiety: Fear of future rejection can cause constant worry.
4. Loneliness: Rejection can lead to social isolation and feelings
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5. Anger: Frustration and anger, often directed inward or
outward, are common responses to rejection.
6. Shame: Feelings of embarrassment and self-blame can follow
rejection.
7. Insecurity: Repeated rejection may cause individuals to
become insecure in relationships.
8. Difficulty Trusting Others: After rejection, some may find it
difficult to open up and trust others.
9. Perfectionism: Individuals may adopt perfectionist tendencies
to avoid further rejection.
10. Avoidance of Relationships: Fear of rejection may lead to the
avoidance of new relationships.
11. Self-Isolation: A desire to withdraw from social interactions
often follows rejection.
12. Overthinking: Rejected individuals often replay situations in
their heads, searching for mistakes.
13. Irritability: Rejection can lead to frustration and irritability,
affecting daily life.
14. Numbness: Some individuals may emotionally shut down to
protect themselves from pain.
15. Physical Ailments: Stress from rejection can manifest
physically as headaches, stomachaches, or fatigue.
16. Self-Criticism: Rejected individuals often become highly
critical of themselves.
17. Hyper vigilance: Constantly being on guard to avoid further
rejection can cause stress.
18. Loss of Appetite: Rejection often affects eating habits, causing
loss of appetite or overeating.
19. Social Anxiety: Fear of judgment or further rejection can
result in social anxiety.
20. Addiction: Some may turn to substances like alcohol or drugs
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21. Loss of Motivation: Rejection can lead to a lack of motivation
in both personal and professional pursuits.
22. Overcompensation: Some may overcompensate by becoming
overly ambitious or perfectionistic.
23. Jealousy: Feelings of envy towards those who haven’t
experienced similar rejection.
24. Procrastination: Individuals may avoid tasks due to fear of
failure or rejection.
25. Clinging: Fear of future rejection can cause people to cling to
relationships, even unhealthy ones.
26. Guilt: Individuals may feel guilty about the rejection, even
when it’s not their fault.
27. Inability to Focus: Rejection can cause difficulty in
concentrating on work or other tasks.
28. Aggression: Some may react to rejection with aggression,
lashing out at others.
29. Feeling Unloved: A deep sense of being unworthy of love can
take hold after rejection.
30. Sleep Issues: Insomnia or poor sleep can result from stress
and emotional turmoil.
These side effects illustrate the deep emotional and physical toll that
rejection can take. It’s important to recognize and address these side
effects to prevent long-term damage to one’s mental and physical
health.
Signs and Symptoms of Rejection
Rejection manifests in many ways. Recognizing the signs early on can
help in taking proactive steps:
1. Avoidance of Social Situations: Individuals may shy away
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2. Decreased Self-Confidence: A drop in confidence and self-
assurance is a common sign.
3. Obsessive Thinking: Constantly thinking about the rejection
and what went wrong.
4. Mood Swings: Frequent emotional ups and downs can be a
result of feeling rejected.
5. Feeling Inferior: Believing others are better or more
deserving, often after being rejected.
6. Detachment: Emotionally distancing oneself from
relationships or commitments.
7. Hyper-Sensitivity: Overreacting to perceived slights or
potential rejections.
8. Negative Self-Talk: Frequently thinking or saying self-critical
things.
9. Difficulty Making Decisions: Indecision often comes from a
fear of making the wrong choices.
10. Impatience: Restlessness and irritability can result from
unresolved rejection.
11. Aggression Toward Others: Lashing out, often as a defense
mechanism to protect oneself.
12. Social Withdrawal: Isolating oneself from friends, family, or
colleagues.
13. Over-Apologizing: Constantly apologizing for minor issues,
fearing further rejection.
14. Self-Blame: Taking full responsibility for the rejection, even if
it’s not deserved.
15. Clinginess in Relationships: Holding on too tightly out of
fear of abandonment.
16. Resentment: Holding grudges or feelings of bitterness after
being rejected.
17. Increased Sensitivity to Criticism: Reacting strongly to
feedback, even if constructive.
18. Loss of Enthusiasm: A drop in passion or excitement for
things once enjoyed.
19. Self-Sabotage: Engaging in behaviors that lead to failure or
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20. Doubt in Personal Abilities: Questioning one’s talents, skills,
or abilities after rejection.
Recognizing these signs and symptoms can help individuals intervene
early and take corrective actions before rejection negatively impacts
their self-esteem, mental health, and overall well-being.
Latest Trends in Rejection and Mental Health
Rejection is evolving in today’s world with new trends, and it is
important to understand how these trends affect mental health:
1. Online Rejection: With the rise of social media, rejection
often occurs in virtual spaces, amplifying its impact.
2. Cancel Culture: Public rejection or ostrasization in online
communities, often following controversial actions or
statements.
3. Rejection in Dating Apps: Swiping-based dating apps create a
high frequency of rejection, affecting self-worth.
4. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out): Feeling rejected when
excluded from social events seen online.
5. Cyberbullying: Social rejection through online harassment,
leading to mental health issues.
6. Increased Social Comparison: Rejection is heightened by
constant comparisons on social media platforms.
7. Workplace Rejection through AI: Automated systems that
reject job applications without human input can feel
depersonalizing.
8. Remote Work and Rejection: Feelings of rejection increase
when remote workers feel excluded from company culture.
9. Microaggressions: Subtle, often unintentional, rejections
based on race, gender, or social identity.
10. Rejection in the Gig Economy: Freelancers and gig workers
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11. Isolation in High-Density Living: Urbanization leads to
feelings of rejection in crowded environments where
meaningful connections are scarce.
12. Digital Detox and Rejection: Disconnecting from online
spaces can cause anxiety about missing out, leading to feelings
of rejection.
13. Rejection in the Fitness and Wellness Space: Social media-
driven fitness culture can create feelings of inadequacy and
rejection for not conforming to certain body standards.
14. Ghosting: The modern dating trend of ghosting, where one
person suddenly cuts off communication, leaves the other
feeling deeply rejected.
15. Parental Rejection due to Generational Gaps: Increasing
generational differences are causing parents and children to feel
rejected by each other’s values and lifestyles.
16. Rejection in Activism: Those who are passionate about
causes may face rejection from those who disagree with their
views.
17. Increased Rejection Sensitivity: With growing awareness of
mental health, individuals are more attuned to experiences of
rejection, heightening their emotional response.
18. Rejection in LGBTQ+ Communities: Individuals who
identify as LGBTQ+ may face rejection not only from society
but also within their own communities due to internalized
biases.
19. Rejection in Religious Settings: Increased diversity in
religious beliefs can cause feelings of exclusion or rejection
from traditional institutions.
20. Rejection from AI-driven Customer Service: Automated
responses that lack empathy can make individuals feel
undervalued and rejected.
Modern trends, particularly in the digital world, have created new
avenues for rejection. While technology has connected us in many
ways, it has also exacerbated feelings of rejection and isolation.
Understanding these trends helps us navigate and cope with rejection
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Ways to Overcome Rejection
Overcoming rejection requires conscious effort and healing strategies.
Here are 30 ways to overcome rejection:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: The first step to healing is
recognizing and validating your emotions.
2. Understand It’s Not Personal: Often, rejection is not a
reflection of your worth but of the situation or other person’s
limitations.
3. Reframe the Experience: See rejection as an opportunity for
redirection, not a dead end.
4. Develop Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same
kindness you would offer a friend in the same situation.
5. Focus on Your Strengths: Remember your unique abilities
and past successes to rebuild confidence.
6. Find Support: Talk to friends, family, or a counselor who can
provide perspective and encouragement.
7. Learn from the Experience: Reflect on what the rejection
taught you about yourself and the situation.
8. Don’t Dwell on the Past: Avoid ruminating on the rejection;
instead, focus on future opportunities.
9. Avoid Negative Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts with
positive affirmations about your worth and abilities.
10. Challenge Cognitive Distortions: Rejection can lead to
distorted thinking like “I’ll never be good enough.” Challenge
these thoughts with logic.
11. Set New Goals: Use the rejection as motivation to pursue new
goals and projects.
12. Embrace Vulnerability: Allow yourself to be vulnerable again,
even after rejection.
13. Strengthen Your Boundaries: Protect yourself emotionally by
setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
14. Engage in Self-Care: Prioritize physical, mental, and
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15. Pursue New Opportunities: Don’t let one rejection stop you
from seeking other opportunities, whether in relationships,
work, or personal growth.
16. Develop Resilience: Practice bouncing back from setbacks by
focusing on the positives and what you can control.
17. Stay Connected: Engage in activities and communities that
foster connection and inclusion.
18. Express Gratitude: Shift your mindset by focusing on the
things you are grateful for.
19. Work on Personal Growth: Use rejection as an opportunity
for self-improvement.
20. Create a Rejection Journal: Write down your feelings and
experiences to better process them.
21. Join a Support Group: Find a community that understands
your experiences and can offer support.
22. Shift Your Perspective: Instead of seeing rejection as failure,
view it as feedback for future success.
23. Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others: Everyone faces
rejection, and it’s important to avoid unhealthy comparisons.
24. Take Responsibility Without Blame: Own your part in any
situation that led to rejection without placing unnecessary
blame on yourself.
25. Reconnect with Nature: Spending time outdoors can offer
healing and a fresh perspective.
26. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques can help
manage the emotional pain of rejection.
27. Develop Emotional Intelligence: Understanding your
emotions helps in managing rejection and avoiding
overreaction.
28. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences: Cultivate
relationships with people who uplift and support you.
29. Let Go of Perfectionism: Accept that rejection is a part of life,
and no one is immune to it.
30. Seek Professional Help: If rejection leads to deep emotional
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Healing from rejection is a multi-step process that requires effort and
patience. The key is to stay committed to personal growth and
resilience. By taking these steps, individuals can transform rejection
into an opportunity for positive change and deeper self-understanding.
Conclusion
Rejection is a painful but universal experience. By understanding its
causes, recognizing the signs, and employing strategies to heal, anyone
can overcome rejection and emerge stronger. It is crucial to remember
that rejection does not define your worth. With the right mindset and
support, you can not only recover but also thrive after facing rejection.

Overcoming Divorce and Separation
Divorce and separation are some of the most challenging experiences a
person can go through. They not only disrupt one’s life but also cause
emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical distress. As an
International Encourager, Founder and President of Africa Youth
Rescue Initiative (AYRI) and Author of Overcoming All Odds Book, I
have a personal experience in this as a divorcee. This book gives
insights on how to navigate the painful journey of divorce and
separation, offering hope, healing strategies, and practical steps toward
rebuilding life. Let’s dive into understanding the intricacies of
overcoming divorce and separation.
Introduction to Divorce and Separation
Divorce and separation are legally and emotionally complicated
processes that signal the end of a marital or long-term relationship. The
experience can bring overwhelming feelings of loss, failure, betrayal,
anger, and fear of the future. Whether the separation is amicable or
contentious, both parties often feel a significant emotional impact. For
many, this time of life represents the collapse of dreams, expectations,
and personal identity built around the relationship.
Divorce and separation affect various aspects of life, including family
dynamics, finances, social circles, and mental health. It’s not just about
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Healing from such a profound shift requires a multi-dimensional
approach, including emotional support, financial reorganization, and
spiritual recovery.
Types and Classifications of Divorce and Separation
Divorce and separation can occur in different ways depending on the
circumstances and the legal or emotional context. Understanding the
type of separation can help individuals approach the healing process
with the appropriate mindset.
1. No-Fault Divorce: Occurs when neither party is blamed for the
breakup. The marriage is simply deemed irreparable.
2. Fault Divorce: One party is blamed for the failure of the
marriage due to reasons such as infidelity, abuse, or
abandonment.
3. Contested Divorce: When both parties disagree on issues such
as child custody, property division, or spousal support.
4. Uncontested Divorce: Both parties agree on all the terms of the
separation, making the process smoother.
5. Legal Separation: Couples live apart but remain legally married,
often as a precursor to divorce or as a permanent arrangement
due to religious or financial reasons.
6. Trial Separation: Couples decide to live apart temporarily to
evaluate whether divorce is the best option.
7. Collaborative Divorce: Both parties work together with
mediators or lawyers to negotiate the terms of their separation
without going to court.
8. Divorce After Long-Term Marriage: Involves couples who
have been married for decades, often dealing with retirement or
adult children issues.
9. Gray Divorce: Divorce among older couples, typically above the
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Causes of Divorce and Separation
1. Infidelity: One of the most common causes of divorce,
breaking the foundation of trust in a relationship.
2. Poor Communication: Inability to resolve conflicts, leading to
misunderstanding and emotional distance.
3. Financial Strain: Money-related stress, often involving debt or
incompatible financial goals.
4. Lack of Intimacy: Emotional or physical disconnection can
lead to dissatisfaction and resentment.
5. Unrealistic Expectations: When one or both partners have
expectations that are unattainable, it can strain the relationship.
6. Abuse (Emotional or Physical): No marriage can survive an
environment of abuse and trauma.
7. Substance Abuse: Addiction issues can lead to instability,
emotional neglect, and financial strain.
8. Infertility or Disagreements about Children: Disputes about
starting a family or dealing with fertility challenges.
9. Cultural or Religious Differences: Conflicting belief systems
can make coexistence difficult over time.
10. Workaholism: When one partner is overly focused on their
career, it can cause neglect in the relationship.
11. Mental Health Issues: Untreated mental illnesses can deeply
affect marriage, especially if one partner struggles with
understanding or providing support.
12. Differences in Parenting Styles: Disagreement on how to
raise children can lead to major conflicts.
13. Growing Apart: Over time, partners may develop different
interests, goals, or values, leading to emotional distance.
14. Family Interference: Excessive involvement from in-laws or
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15. Lack of Commitment: If one partner is not fully invested, it
becomes difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.
16. Unresolved Conflict: Continuous arguments without
resolution can create a toxic atmosphere.
17. Boredom: A lack of excitement or passion in the relationship
can lead to dissatisfaction.
18. Sexual Incompatibility: A mismatch in sexual needs or
desires can cause strain and lead to separation.
19. Infantile Behaviors: Immaturity in dealing with
responsibilities can erode trust and respect.
20. Addiction to Social Media or Technology: Constant
distraction from phones or the internet can diminish
connection.
21. Emotional Affairs: A non-physical affair that involves deep
emotional connection outside the marriage.
22. Unforgiveness: Holding grudges over past mistakes or failures.
23. Lack of Personal Space: Being overly dependent or clingy can
create tension.
24. Career Changes: Job relocation or long hours can create
distance, both physically and emotionally.
25. Subtle Emotional Neglect: Failure to nurture the emotional
needs of a partner over time.
Side Effects of Divorce and Separation
1. Grief and Loss: Experiencing deep sorrow over the end of the
relationship.
2. Depression: Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and loss of
interest in life.
3. Anxiety: Worrying about the future and feelings of uncertainty.
4. Loneliness: Experiencing isolation, especially if the
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5. Lowered Self-Esteem: Questioning personal worth after
being “rejected.”
6. Fear of Future Relationships: Developing trust issues and
fear of intimacy.
7. Financial Hardship: Adjusting to living on a single income or
dealing with alimony/child support.
8. Physical Health Decline: Stress and emotional pain
manifesting as physical illness.
9. Social Isolation: Losing mutual friends or feeling excluded
from previous social circles.
10. Guilt: Feeling responsible for the breakup or the impact on
children.
11. Anger and Resentment: Harboring negative feelings toward
the ex-partner.
12. Parental Alienation: When one parent feels excluded from
their children’s lives post-divorce.
13. Legal Complications: Custody battles, alimony negotiations,
and property disputes.
14. Stress Over Custody: The pressure and emotional toll of co-
parenting or losing custody.
15. Shame and Stigma: Cultural or social judgment associated
with divorce.
16. Bitterness: Holding onto unresolved anger, which can impact
future relationships.
17. Identity Crisis: Losing a sense of self after being part of a
“we” for so long.
18. Trust Issues: Difficulty believing in future partners or close
relationships.
19. Sleep Problems: Insomnia or sleep disturbances due to stress
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20. Emotional Numbness: Suppressing emotions to cope with
the pain.
21. Poor Work Performance: Divorce-related stress affecting
productivity at work.
22. Relocation: Moving to a new city or home, disrupting stability.
23. Parenting Struggles: Adjusting to single-parenthood or co-
parenting dynamics.
24. Rebounding Relationships: Rushing into new relationships
to fill the emotional void.
25. Legal Debt: Accumulating legal fees and court costs.
26. Substance Abuse: Turning to alcohol or drugs to cope with
the emotional pain.
27. Aggression: Lashing out at others due to unresolved emotions.
28. Spiritual Crisis: Questioning faith, purpose, or belief systems
during the aftermath.
29. Change in Family Dynamics: Children may suffer emotional
consequences or pick sides.
30. Regret: Reflecting on “what could have been” and second-
guessing decisions.
Signs and Symptoms of Emotional Trauma from
Divorce
1. Sadness that Lingers: Persistent feelings of sadness that don’t
seem to lift.
2. Overwhelming Stress: Constant worry or fear about the
future.
3. Fear of Abandonment: Fearing further rejection or isolation.
4. Lack of Energy: Feeling physically and emotionally drained all
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6. Emotional Detachment: Feeling disconnected from loved
ones or everyday activities.
7. Avoidance of Social Situations: Pulling away from social
gatherings or interactions.
8. Loss of Interest in Activities: Disinterest in things that once
brought joy.
9. Physical Ailments: Manifesting emotional pain as physical
problems like headaches or stomachaches.
10. Difficulty Concentrating: Trouble staying focused at work or
in daily tasks.
11. Emotional Outbursts: Sudden, uncontrollable episodes of
crying or anger.
12. Heightened Sensitivity to Rejection: Feeling hurt by even
minor slights.
13. Hopelessness: A deep sense of despair about the future.
14. Flashbacks of Arguments: Reliving the arguments and
painful moments repeatedly.
15. Guilt or Shame: Feeling bad about personal decisions, actions,
or perceived failures in the relationship.
16. Insomnia or Sleep Issues: Trouble falling asleep or staying
asleep due to stress and overthinking.
17. Appetite Changes: Either overeating or losing interest in food
as a result of emotional turmoil.
18. Overthinking: Constantly replaying the breakup in your mind
and obsessing over “what went wrong.”
19. Distrust: A general mistrust of others, especially in new
relationships or friendships.
20. Social Withdrawal: Isolating yourself from others, avoiding
friends, and spending excessive time alone.
Latest Trends in Dealing with Divorce and Separation
1. Co-Parenting Apps: Tools designed to help separated or
divorced couples manage shared custody schedules and
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2. Therapeutic Divorce Coaching: Hiring life coaches or
therapists who specialize in guiding individuals through the
emotional process of divorce.
3. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness to help
reduce stress and cultivate emotional awareness during the
separation process.
4. Collaborative Divorce: Increasing trend of couples avoiding
court battles by working together with mediators to settle issues
amicably.
5. Divorce Support Groups: Online and in-person communities
for those experiencing divorce to share experiences and offer
mutual support.
6. Divorce Retreats: Specialized wellness retreats for individuals
going through divorce, focusing on healing and recovery.
7. Therapy for Children of Divorce: Growing focus on therapy
specifically targeted to help children cope with their parents’
separation.
8. Online Divorce Services: Simplifying the divorce process with
online legal services that are cost-effective and efficient.
9. Social Media Counseling: Using social media platforms to
access counselors and therapists remotely for divorce recovery.
10. Spiritual Counseling: Seeking spiritual guidance and
counseling to reconcile the emotional trauma of divorce with
personal faith and belief systems.
11. Grey Divorce (Divorce after 50): Addressing the unique
challenges of older couples separating after long-term
marriages.
12. Conscious Uncoupling: A more holistic approach to
separation, emphasizing mutual respect, healing, and
minimizing conflict.
13. Alimony Trends: Changes in alimony laws that consider stay-
at-home parents or lower-income spouses’ needs.
14. Shared Parenting Models: Increased legal preference for
50/50 custody arrangements to ensure both parents play active
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15. Men’s Divorce Counseling: More men are seeking counseling
post-divorce to address emotional trauma and mental health
challenges.
16. Divorce Financial Planners: Professionals who specialize in
helping individuals navigate the financial complexities of
divorce.
17. Divorce Wellness Programs: Comprehensive programs that
offer emotional, physical, and financial support to those
navigating separation.
18. Digital Communities for Divorcees: Online platforms
designed to connect individuals going through divorce,
allowing them to share advice and experiences.
19. Social Media Boundaries Post-Divorce: Growing awareness
of setting boundaries with ex-partners on social media to avoid
emotional triggers.
20. Post-Divorce Therapy: Increased emphasis on post-divorce
therapy as a critical step in rebuilding self-esteem and emotional
resilience.
Ways to Overcome Divorce and Separation
1. Acknowledge Your Pain: Give yourself permission to feel the
emotional weight of divorce; it’s normal to grieve.
2. Seek Professional Counseling: Engaging a therapist who
specializes in divorce recovery can provide essential support
during this transition.
3. Join Support Groups: Sharing your journey with others
who’ve experienced the same can create a sense of belonging
and understanding.
4. Focus on Self-Care: Practice self-care by nourishing your
body, mind, and soul through healthy habits, exercise, and
relaxation.
5. Rediscover Your Identity: Rebuild your sense of self outside
the relationship by exploring hobbies, interests, and passions
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6. Set Healthy Boundaries: Establish emotional and physical
boundaries with your ex to facilitate healing and avoid
unnecessary conflict.
7. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation: Help calm your mind
and center yourself through meditation practices, focusing on
inner peace and acceptance.
8. Accept the End of the Marriage: Coming to terms with the
finality of the divorce allows you to move forward rather than
stay stuck in the past.
9. Forgive Your Ex-Partner: Release the resentment by
practicing forgiveness, not for them, but for your own
emotional freedom.
10. Forgive Yourself: Divorce can leave many people feeling
guilty or regretful. It’s essential to be kind to yourself and
release any self-blame.
11. Limit Contact: Reduce interaction with your ex unless
necessary, especially in the early stages of healing.
12. Prioritize Your Children’s Well-being: If you have children,
focus on creating a stable, loving environment for them.
13. Create a Vision for the Future: Dream about what you want
your post-divorce life to look like and take steps to make it a
reality.
14. Redefine Success in Relationships: View the end of your
marriage not as a failure, but as a learning experience.
15. Embrace Spiritual Growth: Lean into your faith, drawing
strength and guidance from spiritual practices or communities.
16. Surround Yourself with Positive People: Keep a strong,
positive support system of friends and family who encourage
you and uplift you.
17. Reframe Your Narrative: Change how you talk to yourself
about the divorce. Instead of feeling like a victim, tell a story of
resilience and growth.
18. Rebuild Financial Stability: Take control of your financial
future by consulting a financial planner or making a budget.
19. Focus on Your Career or Personal Growth: Use this time to
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20. Move On at Your Own Pace: Healing from divorce isn’t
linear, and there’s no set timeline for recovery. Go at your own
pace.
21. Celebrate Small Wins: Every step forward, no matter how
small, deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated.
22. Declutter and Redecorate Your Space: Create a new,
uplifting environment that reflects your new chapter in life.
23. Journal Your Thoughts: Writing down your feelings can help
you process emotions and release pent-up thoughts.
24. Relearn How to Trust: In time, allow yourself to trust others
again and explore new relationships when you’re ready.
25. Consider a Break from Dating: Give yourself time to heal
before diving into a new relationship, avoiding “rebound”
situations.
26. Set New Goals: Identify short- and long-term goals that will
help you create purpose and direction in your post-divorce life.
27. Read Self-Help Books: Equip yourself with wisdom from
self-help resources focused on overcoming divorce and finding
healing.
28. Practice Gratitude: Keep a gratitude journal to remind
yourself of the good things in your life, even amidst the
challenges.
29. Engage in Physical Activities: Exercise, walk, or take up a
new sport. Physical activity boosts endorphins and helps release
stress.
30. Consider Divorce Recovery Coaching: Hire a professional
coach to help you navigate the emotional, financial, and
logistical challenges of separation.
Conclusion
Overcoming divorce and separation is a profound emotional journey
that takes time, patience, and intentional healing. Although the pain
may seem insurmountable at first, there is hope for healing and
happiness on the other side. By following practical steps, seeking
support, and allowing yourself the grace to grieve and grow, you can
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The key is to not rush the process—every individual’s journey through
divorce is unique. Embrace this season as an opportunity for
rediscovery, healing, and transformation.
To continue your journey toward healing, I encourage you to read
articles and books on mental health, emotional resilience, and
overcoming adversity.

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Chapter 14

OVERCOMING TODAYS
LIFE CHALLANGES

n this Chapter I want highlight a few challenges that our society if
grappling with and this has affected how the people facing these
challenges operate. Here are a few challenges that you must
overcome;

Unmasking LGBTQ+ Masturbation.

The LGBTQ+ community, encompassing a diverse spectrum of sexual
orientations and gender identities, has gained visibility and recognition
over recent decades. This visibility has sparked crucial conversations
about human rights, acceptance, and understanding. I feel compelled to
explore the implications of LGBTQ+ identities in society.

My aim is to provide a comprehensive examination of LGBTQ+
experiences, consequences, challenges, and the path toward acceptance.
By addressing various dimensions, including spiritual, emotional,
psychological, and societal factors, we can foster a deeper
understanding of LGBTQ+ individuals and promote inclusivity.

Understanding LGBTQ+ Identities

1. Definitions and Terminology

The LGBTQ+ acronym stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual,
Transgender, and Queer, with the plus sign representing other sexual
orientations and gender identities. Understanding these terms is
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essential for fostering respectful communication and creating a
supportive environment.

2. The Spectrum of Sexual Orientation

Sexual orientation refers to an individual’s emotional, romantic, or
sexual attraction to others. It encompasses a range of identities,
including heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, and asexual.
Recognizing the diversity of sexual orientations helps to challenge
stereotypes and promote acceptance.

3. Gender Identity and Expression

Gender identity refers to an individual’s internal sense of their gender,
which may or may not align with their assigned sex at birth.
Transgender individuals may identify as a gender different from their
assigned sex, while non-binary individuals may not identify strictly as
male or female. Understanding gender identity is crucial for fostering
an inclusive environment.

4. The Intersectionality of LGBTQ+ Identities
Many individuals identify with multiple aspects of their identity, such as
race, ethnicity, and socio-economic status, in addition to their sexual
orientation or gender identity. This intersectionality can influence their
experiences and challenges within society.

Spiritual Consequences of LGBTQ+ Identities

1. Faith and Sexual Orientation
Many LGBTQ+ individuals grapple with their sexual orientation in
relation to their faith. Some religious communities view homosexuality
and non-conforming gender identities as incompatible with their
beliefs, leading to internal conflict for LGBTQ+ individuals.

2. Rejection and Acceptance within Faith Communities
While some faith communities are increasingly accepting of LGBTQ+
individuals, others may reject them, causing significant emotional and
spiritual pain. Many LGBTQ+ individuals experience “spiritual

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trauma” when their identities are not accepted within their religious
circles.

3. Finding Affirmation and Support
LGBTQ+ affirming congregations and organizations provide a safe
space for individuals to explore their spirituality without fear of
judgment. These communities often emphasize inclusivity and the
belief that all individuals are worthy of love and acceptance.

4. Spiritual Growth and Identity Integration
Embracing one’s LGBTQ+ identity can lead to profound spiritual
growth. Many individuals find that accepting their true selves enhances
their relationship with the divine, fostering a deeper understanding of
love, compassion, and acceptance.

Emotional and Psychological Impact of LGBTQ+ Identities

1. The Struggle for Acceptance
Many LGBTQ+ individuals face challenges in acceptance from family,
friends, and society. This struggle can lead to feelings of isolation,
anxiety, and depression, significantly impacting their mental health.

2. Mental Health Statistics
Research indicates that LGBTQ+ individuals are at higher risk for
mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and suicidal
ideation, often stemming from societal stigma, discrimination, and
rejection.

3. Coping Mechanisms and Support Systems
Building strong support systems is crucial for LGBTQ+ individuals.
Friends, family, and community organizations can provide emotional
support and affirmation, fostering resilience and well-being.

4. The Role of Therapy and Counselling
Therapy can be a valuable resource for LGBTQ+ individuals seeking
to navigate their identities and mental health challenges. Affirmative
therapy practices that recognize and validate LGBTQ+ experiences can
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Societal Challenges Faced by LGBTQ+ Individuals

1. Discrimination and Stigmatization
LGBTQ+ individuals often encounter discrimination in various aspects
of life, including employment, housing, and healthcare. This
discrimination can manifest in overt acts of prejudice or more subtle
forms of bias, impacting their quality of life.

2. Violence and Hate Crimes
Many LGBTQ+ individuals experience violence or hate crimes based
on their sexual orientation or gender identity. This societal violence can
create an atmosphere of fear and insecurity, further marginalizing the
community.

3. Legal Rights and Protections
The legal landscape for LGBTQ+ rights varies significantly across
countries and regions. While some areas have enacted protections
against discrimination, others continue to uphold laws that criminalize
LGBTQ+ identities.

4. Advocacy and Activism
Activism plays a critical role in advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and
protections. Organizations and movements work tirelessly to promote
equality, raise awareness, and support marginalized individuals within
the community.

Consequences of Living as an LGBTQ+ Individual

Struggles with Acceptance from Family and Friends
Increased Risk of Mental Health Issues
Social Isolation and Loneliness
Heightened Vulnerability to Discrimination
Fear of Violence and Hate Crimes
Challenges in Accessing Healthcare
Employment Discrimination
Legal Inequalities and Lack of Protections
Spiritual Conflict and Rejection
Difficulty in Finding Affirming Communities
Increased Rates of Substance Abuse

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Impact of Public Perception and Stereotypes

Pressure to Conform to Societal Norms
Internalized Homophobia or Transphobia
Family Estrangement
Challenges in Romantic Relationships
Barriers to Mental Health Services
Concerns About Coming Out
Emotional Exhaustion from Advocacy
Cultural and Societal Stigmatization
Loss of Identity due to Rejection
Increased Risk of Suicidal Ideation
Navigating Complex Legal Landscapes
Difficulty in Parenting or Family Planning
Limited Representation in Media
Fear of Disclosure in Professional Settings
Challenges in Transitioning (for Transgender Individuals)
Difficulties in Building Support Networks
Pressure from Religious Institutions
Long-term Psychological Effects of Rejection
Ways to Support LGBTQ+ Individuals
Educate Yourself About LGBTQ+ Issues
Promote Inclusive Language and Practices
Challenge Homophobic and Transphobic Remarks
Support LGBTQ+ Organizations and Initiatives
Listen and Validate Experiences
Encourage Open Conversations About Identity
Be an Ally in Advocacy Efforts
Foster Safe Spaces for LGBTQ+ Individuals
Encourage Family Acceptance
Seek to Understand Intersectionality
Participate in Pride Events and Celebrations
Support Mental Health Resources for LGBTQ+ Individuals
Promote LGBTQ+ Representation in Media
Advocate for Inclusive Policies in Workplaces
Engage in Continuous Learning About Gender and Sexuality
Offer Support During Coming Out Processes
Encourage Positive Affirmations of Identity
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Create Supportive Networks for LGBTQ+ Youth
Engage with LGBTQ+ Stories and Narratives
Be Willing to Learn from Mistakes
Promote Mental Health Awareness Within Communities
Encourage Respect for Diverse Identities
Provide Resources for Legal Support
Engage in Dialogue about Religious Acceptance
Support LGBTQ+ Arts and Culture
Be Visible in Your Support as an Ally
Create Educational Programs on Diversity
Participate in Community Forums on LGBTQ+ Issues
Advocate for Comprehensive LGBTQ+ Rights Legislation

Ways to Transform and Embrace Personal Growth
Beyond LGBTQ+ Identity

Self-Reflection and Understanding: Take time to explore your
feelings, values, and experiences. Understand what aspects of your
identity you wish to change or evolve.
Seek Professional Counseling: Engage with a therapist who
specializes in LGBTQ+ issues or personal transformation to help
navigate your feelings and desires.
Educate Yourself: Learn about gender and sexual identities, including
different perspectives on LGBTQ+ experiences, to gain a broader
understanding of your feelings.
Establish a Support Network: Surround yourself with supportive
friends, family, or community groups who respect your journey and
encourage your growth.
Set Clear Goals: Define what transformation means for you. Whether
it’s aligning with a different identity, focusing on mental health, or
seeking spiritual fulfillment, set achievable goals.
Engage in Self-Care: Prioritize physical, emotional, and mental well-
being through regular exercise, healthy eating, and mindfulness
practices.
Participate in Workshops: Attend workshops or seminars focused on
personal growth, self-acceptance, or spiritual exploration.
Explore New Communities: Seek out communities that align with
your evolving values, whether that’s spiritual, personal development, or
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Embrace New Hobbies: Discover new interests or passions that
allow for self-expression and personal growth, such as art, writing, or
sports.
Practice Mindfulness and Meditation: Incorporate mindfulness
practices to connect with your inner self, fostering clarity and peace
during your transformation.
Read Transformational Literature: Explore books and articles on
personal development, spirituality, and self-acceptance to inspire your
journey.
Seek Mentorship: Find a mentor who has undergone a similar journey
or who embodies the qualities you wish to develop.
Engage in Spiritual Practices: Explore spiritual traditions or
practices that resonate with you, such as prayer, meditation, or yoga, to
find inner peace and purpose.
Volunteering and Service: Get involved in community service or
support organizations that resonate with your values, helping others can
provide perspective and fulfillment.
Attend Support Groups: Join groups that focus on personal
transformation or spiritual growth to share experiences and gain insight
from others.
Communicate Openly: If comfortable, discuss your feelings and
journey with trusted individuals in your life. Open communication can
foster understanding and support.
Set Boundaries: Learn to establish healthy boundaries with people
who may not support your transformation or who bring negativity into
your life.
Create a Vision Board: Visualize your goals and aspirations through a
vision board, incorporating images, words, and quotes that inspire you.
Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a gratitude practice to focus on the
positive aspects of your life and the progress you make during your
transformation.
Explore Therapy Techniques: Consider various therapy methods,
such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or acceptance and
commitment therapy (ACT), to aid in your transformation.
Attend Retreats: Participate in retreats focused on personal
development or spiritual growth to immerse yourself in transformative
experiences.
Write Reflectively: Keep a journal to document your thoughts,
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Educate Others: Share your journey with others who may benefit
from your experience, providing support and insights to those who may
be struggling.
Challenge Negative Beliefs: Identify and work to change negative
beliefs about yourself or your journey, replacing them with affirming
statements.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this process,
acknowledging that transformation takes time and effort.
Create a Daily Routine: Establish a daily routine that incorporates
self-care, reflection, and personal development activities.
Limit Exposure to Negativity: Reduce interactions with individuals
or media that perpetuate negativity towards LGBTQ+ identities or
personal transformation.

Stay Open to Change: Be flexible in your journey, allowing for shifts
in your feelings and understanding as you grow.
Celebrate Milestones: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements,
no matter how small, as they contribute to your overall growth.
Reach Out for Help: Don’t hesitate to seek support from professionals,
friends, or family if you feel overwhelmed during your transformation
journey.

Conclusion

Transformation is a deeply personal journey that can lead to greater
self-understanding and fulfillment. By embracing these practices,
individuals can navigate their paths with intention and compassion,
fostering personal growth and embracing their true selves.

Understanding and supporting the LGBTQ+ community is essential
for promoting a more inclusive society. By acknowledging the unique
challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals and actively working to
create safe and affirming environments, we can foster acceptance and
love. As we navigate the complexities of identity and belonging, let us
remember the importance of compassion and understanding in our
interactions with one another.

I encourage you to take an active role in promoting understanding and
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them in the transformation journey. By educating yourself, advocating
for equality, and offering support, you can make a meaningful impact.
Together, let us work toward a world where everyone feels valued and
accepted, regardless of their identity.

Overcoming Masturbation and Its Consequences

Masturbation, though often considered a private or minor issue, has
significant implications on various aspects of an individual’s life,
including their mental, spiritual, and sexual well-being. For many, it
becomes a hidden battle, one that impacts their self-esteem,
relationships, and even their connection with God. I have encountered
numerous individuals who struggle with this issue. In this books, we
will explore the consequences of masturbation, the spiritual and sexual
impact, and provide actionable steps to overcome this challenge.

Understanding Masturbation

Masturbation is the act of self-stimulation, which is often practiced to
achieve sexual pleasure. Though common, it can lead to a cycle of guilt,
shame, and addiction when it becomes habitual or when it replaces
healthy sexual intimacy. Understanding the nature of masturbation
helps in addressing it from the root.

The Spiritual Impact of Masturbation

1. Disconnect from God: Habitual masturbation can create a
sense of separation from God. The guilt and shame associated
with it can lead to feelings of unworthiness in the eyes of God,
hindering spiritual growth.
2. Self-Centered Focus: Masturbation is inherently self-focused,
which can shift one’s attention from serving others and focusing
on God’s purpose.
3. Temptation and Sin: For many, masturbation is tied to lustful
thoughts or exposure to pornography, which leads to further
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4. Guilt and Shame: A continuous struggle with masturbation
often leads to feelings of guilt, which can disrupt one’s prayer
life and spiritual confidence.
5. Disturbance in Worship: A mind preoccupied with lust or self-
gratification may find it difficult to fully engage in worship,
prayer, and spiritual activities.
6. Compromise in Spiritual Integrity: Over time, it can weaken
a person’s spiritual discipline, leading to compromised morals
and ethical decisions.
The Sexual and Physical Impact of Masturbation
1. Desensitization: Frequent masturbation can lead to
desensitization, where normal sexual experiences lose their
appeal or no longer satisfy.
2. Decreased Sexual Intimacy: Masturbation may reduce the
desire for genuine sexual intimacy within marriage or
relationships, as it becomes a substitute for real connections.
3. Sexual Dysfunction: In some cases, excessive masturbation can
lead to erectile dysfunction or inability to perform sexually with
a partner.
4. Distorted Sexual Views: Masturbation, especially when paired
with pornography, can distort an individual’s understanding of
healthy sexuality, making them view sex purely as a physical act
rather than an emotional and spiritual bond.
5. Physical Fatigue: Over-masturbation may lead to fatigue, low
energy levels, and even physical soreness, which can affect daily
activities.
6. Addiction Potential: Like any addictive behavior, masturbation
can take control of a person’s time and focus, overshadowing
other important aspects of life.

Consequences of Masturbation

1. Emotional Isolation: Increased focus on self-pleasure can
isolate a person emotionally from others.
2. Addiction: The habit can escalate into an addiction, making it
difficult to stop.
3. Guilt and Shame: Persistent guilt follows the behavior,
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4. Low Self-Esteem: Over time, masturbation can diminish one’s
sense of self-worth and confidence.
5. Strained Relationships: Masturbation can lead to emotional
disconnection in romantic relationships.
6. Sexual Dysfunction: It can result in premature ejaculation or
other sexual dysfunctions.
7. Distorted View of Intimacy: It creates unrealistic expectations
of what intimacy should be.
8. Loss of Time: Hours can be wasted on the act, reducing
productivity.
9. Escalation to Pornography: Masturbation often coincides
with or leads to the consumption of pornography.
10. Decreased Spiritual Commitment: The spiritual disconnect
grows stronger as masturbation becomes habitual.
11. Risky Behavior: In extreme cases, the addiction may drive one
towards risky or inappropriate sexual behaviors.
12. Disturbed Sleep Patterns: Masturbation can disturb healthy
sleeping habits.
13. Physical Exhaustion: Overindulgence can lead to overall
fatigue.
14. Erectile Dysfunction: For men, it may cause difficulties in
sexual performance.
15. Mental Health Issues: The guilt and shame can lead to anxiety
and depression.
16. Dissatisfaction in Marriage: It may create dissatisfaction with
a spouse, as it becomes a substitute for marital intimacy.
17. Isolation: Masturbation is often done in isolation, increasing
loneliness.
18. Compulsive Behavior: It may turn into a compulsive need,
difficult to resist.
19. Shame in Social Situations: The knowledge of one’s secret
habit may cause shame in social or spiritual settings.
20. Lack of Motivation: Life goals and spiritual growth may be
neglected.
21. Decreased Empathy: Focusing on personal pleasure reduces
sensitivity to others’ needs.
22. Psychological Burnout: The mental effort in trying to stop
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23. Objectification of Others: Masturbation, especially linked to
pornography, promotes seeing others as mere objects of
pleasure.
24. Delayed Life Progress: The addiction may cause one to delay
important milestones, like marriage or career progression.
25. Spiritual Decline: The overall weakening of spiritual discipline
and growth.

Ways to Overcome Masturbation

1. Acknowledge the Problem: The first step is recognizing and
admitting the habit.
2. Set Boundaries: Create boundaries around personal time and
internet usage.
3. Spiritual Counseling: Seek advice from a spiritual mentor.
4. Replace Negative Thoughts: Engage in positive thinking and
spiritual affirmations.
5. Confess to a Trusted Person: Share your struggle with a close,
trusted person for accountability.
6. Limit Alone Time: Spend less time in isolation to avoid
temptation.
7. Focus on Spiritual Growth: Enhance your spiritual life with
prayer, fasting, and study of the Word.
8. Engage in Physical Activity: Physical exercise can reduce
sexual tension.
9. Remove Pornographic Triggers: Stay away from
pornography, which often accompanies masturbation.
10. Join Support Groups: Find community support for
overcoming sexual addiction.
11. Practice Mindfulness: Train your mind to control impulses
through meditation.
12. Invest in Relationships: Build healthy relationships with real
people.
13. Set Clear Goals: Have specific goals in your journey to
overcome masturbation.
14. Seek Professional Counseling: Therapy can help in
understanding underlying emotional triggers.
15. Identify Emotional Triggers: Understand and address the
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16. Engage in Service: Serving others can shift focus from
yourself.
17. Seek Divine Help: Pray for strength and divine intervention.
18. Limit Technology Use: Reduce the time spent on devices that
can expose you to temptation.
19. Take Up New Hobbies: Replace the habit with hobbies that
engage your mind.
20. Accountability Software: Use software to track and block
inappropriate content.
21. Practice Patience: Recovery is a process that requires time and
persistence.
22. Reward Milestones: Celebrate small victories on your journey.
23. Visualize a Healthy Future: Imagine the benefits of a life free
from this habit.
24. Forgive Yourself: Don’t dwell on mistakes; focus on progress.
25. Engage in Real Intimacy: Develop genuine emotional
connections with others.
26. Cut Off Negative Influences: Distance yourself from friends
or media that encourage the behavior.
27. Adopt a Spiritual Practice: Embrace daily prayer, reading, and
worship.
28. Strengthen Marital Intimacy: If married, invest more in your
relationship.
29. Read Motivational Literature: Engage in spiritual or
motivational readings that inspire change.
30. Embrace Accountability: Regularly check in with an
accountability partner.

Conclusion

Overcoming masturbation is a deeply personal and spiritual journey,
requiring dedication and commitment. This addiction, like any other,
can rob you of your time, energy, and spiritual vitality. However,
through a focused effort, spiritual discipline, and the support of others,
freedom is possible.
I urge you to take the bold step of addressing this hidden battle.
Masturbation, with its spiritual and sexual consequences, is a fight you
can overcome.

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Drugs and alcohol

Dealing With Drugs and Substance Abuse and Addiction

Drugs and substance abuse have become one of the leading challenges
in society today, affecting millions of lives across all ages. Addiction
grips individuals, families, and communities, leaving behind a trail of
devastation. I have encountered countless people struggling to break
free from the chains of addiction. In this book, we will examine the
devastating consequences of drug and substance abuse, explore
different types of addiction, and provide actionable steps for
overcoming addiction to live a life of freedom and purpose.

Understanding Drugs and Substance Abuse

Drugs and substance abuse involve the misuse of substances—legal or
illegal—for recreational or habitual purposes. Whether its alcohol,
prescription medication, or illicit drugs, addiction can take many forms
and has severe health, social, and psychological consequences. This
chapter will explore the definitions, key concepts, and the different
forms of substance abuse.

Types of Drugs and Substance Abuse

1. Alcohol Addiction: Alcohol is one of the most widely abused
substances. This form of addiction is often socially acceptable but can
have significant health and relational impacts.
2. Prescription Drug Abuse: The misuse of prescription
medication such as painkillers and tranquilizers is increasingly
becoming an epidemic, especially among young adults.
3. Opioids: Opioid addiction has reached alarming levels globally.
These drugs, including heroin and certain painkillers, create intense
physical dependence.
4. Cocaine and Crack: Cocaine abuse leads to serious mental
health issues and can rapidly spiral into addiction.
5. Methamphetamine (Meth): A highly addictive stimulant,
meth can destroy an individual’s life in a very short time.
6. Marijuana: While considered less harmful by some, long-term
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7. Hallucinogens: Drugs like LSD and ecstasy distort reality and
can have long-term psychological effects.
8. Inhalants: Substances like glue, gasoline, or nitrous oxide are
often abused by younger individuals but can cause immediate and
lasting damage to the brain and body.
9. Nicotine: Though legal, nicotine is highly addictive and its use
through cigarettes and vaping carries serious health risks.
10. Club Drugs: Substances like MDMA, GHB, and ketamine are
often used in party environments, leading to risky behavior and
addiction.
The Consequences of Drug and Substance Abuse

1. Physical Health Deterioration: Long-term drug use leads to
liver damage, cardiovascular diseases, brain damage, and other critical
health problems.
2. Mental Health Issues: Addiction frequently triggers or
exacerbates mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, and
paranoia.
3. Spiritual Decline: Substance abuse creates a disconnect from
spiritual values and weakens one’s sense of purpose and connection
with God.
4. Financial Ruin: Addiction consumes financial resources, often
leading to debt, job loss, and poverty.
5. Broken Relationships: Many addicted individuals experience
the breakdown of family relationships, friendships, and romantic
partnerships.
6. Legal Issues: Engaging in illegal drug use or criminal behavior
to sustain the addiction can result in arrests, incarceration, and a
permanent criminal record.
7. Addiction Cycle: Substance abuse locks individuals into a
repetitive cycle of dependency, making it harder to quit without external
help.
8. Social Isolation: Addicts may withdraw from their social
circles, feeling shame, guilt, and isolation.
9. Risky Behaviors: Drug use often leads to unsafe behaviors
such as unprotected sex, driving under the influence, or engaging in
violence.
10. Overdose Risk: Many substances pose the deadly risk of
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11. Destruction of Identity: Drug abuse causes individuals to lose
their sense of self and purpose, often replacing their personal identity
with that of an addict.
12. Neglect of Responsibilities: Addicts may neglect
responsibilities at work, home, or in their spiritual life, leading to
significant personal decline.
13. Loss of Employment: Addiction often leads to decreased work
performance, absenteeism, and eventual job loss.
14. Spiritual Warfare: Drugs and substance abuse can be a spiritual
battle, as individuals struggle against temptation and feelings of
hopelessness.
15. Impact on Future Generations: Children of addicts are at
higher risk of developing substance abuse issues themselves, continuing
the cycle of addiction.
16. Cognitive Decline: Prolonged substance use can impair
cognitive functions, memory, and decision-making abilities.
17. Suicidal Tendencies: Many addicted individuals, overwhelmed
by their situation, may experience suicidal thoughts or attempts.
18. Chronic Stress: The pressure of hiding addiction and dealing
with its consequences leads to chronic stress and burnout.
19. Loss of Dignity: Substance abuse robs individuals of their
dignity, leaving them feeling dehumanized and worthless.
20. Spiritual Confusion: Addicted individuals often question their
faith or feel abandoned by God, leading to a crisis of belief.
21. Emotional Numbness: Drugs can make individuals numb to
emotions, preventing them from processing pain or joy in a healthy
way.
22. Decreased Immune Function: Drug abuse weakens the
immune system, making individuals more susceptible to illnesses.
23. Malnutrition: Substance abuse often leads to poor dietary
habits and malnutrition, worsening physical health.
24. Loss of Life Purpose: Addiction often derails life goals,
ambitions, and the pursuit of dreams, leaving the individual
directionless.
25. Estrangement from Faith Communities: Addicts often feel
unwelcome in faith communities, further isolating them from potential
sources of help and support.

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Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse and Addiction

1. Increased Tolerance: Needing larger amounts of the substance
to achieve the same effect.
2. Withdrawal Symptoms: Experiencing physical or emotional
discomfort when not using the substance.
3. Neglecting Responsibilities: Failing to meet obligations at
work, school, or home.
4. Loss of Control: Inability to stop using the substance despite
wanting to.
5. Changes in Appearance: Significant weight loss, poor hygiene,
or unusual marks (in the case of injecting drugs).
6. Financial Problems: Borrowing or stealing money to fund
drug use.
7. Changes in Behavior: Sudden mood swings, irritability, or
secretive behavior.
8. Isolation: Withdrawing from friends, family, or social activities.
9. Frequent Use: Using the substance more often than intended.
10. Lying About Use: Hiding or lying about the extent of substance
use.
11. Poor Decision-Making: Engaging in risky or impulsive
behavior.
12. Physical Deterioration: Chronic cough, dilated pupils, or
visible signs of drug abuse.
13. Relationship Issues: Frequent arguments or conflicts with
loved ones.
14. Legal Problems: Being involved in criminal activities or legal
issues related to drug use.
15. Memory Issues: Frequent blackouts, forgetfulness, or difficulty
concentrating.
16. Loss of Interest: Losing interest in hobbies, work, or activities
that once brought joy.
17. Compulsive Drug-Seeking Behavior: Constantly thinking
about how to get more of the substance.
18. Inability to Quit: Failed attempts to quit using the substance.
19. Depression and Anxiety: Mental health issues that either
trigger or worsen with addiction.
20. Physical Cravings: Intense urges to use the substance.

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Ways to Overcome Drugs and Substance Abuse

1. Acknowledge the Addiction: The first step in recovery is
admitting the problem.
2. Seek Professional Help: Engage with a doctor, therapist, or
addiction specialist.
3. Enroll in Rehabilitation: Rehab centers provide structured
recovery environments.
4. Spiritual Guidance: Seek counseling from a spiritual mentor or
pastor.
5. Join Support Groups: Narcotics Anonymous and other
support groups provide community and accountability.
6. Create a Recovery Plan: Set clear, achievable goals for
overcoming addiction.
7. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness and meditation help
manage cravings and emotional triggers.
8. Develop New Hobbies: Replace old habits with new, healthier
activities.
9. Avoid Triggers: Identify and avoid places, people, or situations
that encourage substance use.
10. Exercise Regularly: Physical activity reduces stress and
promotes overall well-being.
11. Set Boundaries: Create clear boundaries with friends or family
members who use substances.
12. Strengthen Relationships: Build positive, drug-free
relationships.
13. Learn Coping Mechanisms: Find healthy ways to cope with
stress and emotional pain.
14. Remove Access: Get rid of substances and paraphernalia from
your environment.
15. Stay Accountable: Regularly check in with an accountability
partner or group.
16. Focus on Nutrition: Healthy eating supports physical recovery.
17. Rest and Sleep: Prioritize good sleep hygiene to promote
healing.
18. Invest in Spiritual Growth: Reconnect with God through
prayer, worship, and scripture.
19. Replace Addictive Behaviors: Channel energy into
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20. Seek Counseling: Regular therapy can help address underlying
issues fueling addiction.
21. Reconnect with Your Faith: Rebuild your relationship with
God for spiritual strength.
22. Set Milestones: Celebrate progress by setting short-term
recovery goals.
23. Take Responsibility: Acknowledge past mistakes but commit
to moving forward.
24. Use Journaling: Write about your recovery journey, tracking
emotions and triggers.
25. Visualize a Drug-Free Life: Create a mental image of what
your life can look like without drugs.
26. Seek Medication: In some cases, prescribed medication can
help manage withdrawal symptoms.
27. Attend Workshops or Seminars: Educational sessions on
addiction provide valuable knowledge.
28. Focus on Gratitude: Practicing gratitude can help shift focus
from the pain of addiction.
29. Cut Ties with Negative Influences: End relationships with
people who encourage substance use.
30. Give Back to the Community: Helping others can provide a
sense of purpose and fulfillment

The Spiritual and Emotional Impact of Drugs and
Substance Abuse

Drugs and substance abuse not only affect the body and mind, but also
have profound spiritual and emotional consequences. This chapter
delves deeper into how addiction impacts one’s spiritual journey,
relationship with God, and overall emotional well-being.

1. Spiritual Disconnect
Addiction causes a spiritual drift, separating individuals from their faith
and relationship with God. Substance abuse clouds judgment, making
it harder to connect with spiritual teachings, prayer, or the support of a
faith community. The spiritual disconnect often leads to feelings of
hopelessness and purposelessness, leaving the addicted individual
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2. Guilt and Shame
Many addicts experience intense guilt and shame, not only for their
addiction but for the actions that arise from it—lying, stealing, or
neglecting responsibilities. These feelings can be overwhelming,
creating a vicious cycle where they continue to use substances to escape
the emotional pain. Guilt also leads to spiritual despair, as many feel
they are unworthy of forgiveness or redemption.

3. Loss of Identity and Purpose
Substance abuse causes individuals to lose their sense of identity and
purpose. The person they once were—full of dreams, goals, and
values—becomes overshadowed by the addict’s life. The loss of
direction erodes their emotional and spiritual foundation, often making
recovery feel impossible without external help or divine intervention.

4. Emotional Numbness
Drugs can dull emotions, leading to emotional numbness. While this
might provide temporary relief from pain, it also cuts off access to
positive feelings like joy, love, and peace. Over time, this numbness
makes it difficult to heal emotionally, as addicts lose the ability to
process their feelings and seek support from others or God.

5. Spiritual Warfare
Substance abuse can be seen as part of a greater spiritual battle.
Addicted individuals are often caught in a cycle of temptation, guilt, and
despair. Many experience a struggle between their desire to quit and the
overwhelming pull of addiction. Recognizing this spiritual warfare is
key to understanding that recovery is not just a physical and emotional
battle, but a spiritual one as well.

6. Isolation from Faith Communities
Many addicts feel ashamed or judged, which prevents them from
seeking support from their faith communities. This isolation
compounds their emotional pain, as they feel abandoned or
disconnected from people who could otherwise offer support, prayer,
and guidance. Without the spiritual nourishment of a faith community,
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7. Overcoming Spiritual Doubt
Addiction often brings with it spiritual doubt. Many question God’s
presence or why they are enduring such hardship. This doubt can erode
faith, leaving the individual feeling abandoned. Overcoming addiction
requires not only physical and emotional healing, but also a reawakening
of one’s spiritual connection with God.

Practical Steps to Overcome Drugs and Substance Abuse

This chapter will explore actionable and practical strategies for
overcoming addiction, rooted in spiritual, psychological, and lifestyle
changes.

1. Embrace Spiritual Renewal
Rebuild your relationship with God through daily prayer, scripture
reading, and meditation. This will strengthen your spiritual core and
help you find a deeper purpose in life, which is essential in battling
addiction.

2. Seek Professional Counseling
Therapists specializing in addiction can provide crucial insights into
why addiction occurs and offer methods to break free. Cognitive
Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is often effective in addressing addiction’s
psychological aspects.

3. Engage in Group Therapy
Join a group like Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous
where individuals with similar struggles share their experiences and
support each other on the journey toward sobriety.

4. Set Realistic Recovery Goals
Set small, achievable goals in your recovery process. Celebrate each
milestone, no matter how minor, as this will motivate you to keep
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5. Build a Support System
Surround yourself with people who are positive, encouraging, and
willing to support your recovery journey. This can include friends,
family, pastors, or recovery sponsors.
6. Strengthen Spiritual Disciplines
Fast, meditate, or engage in other spiritual disciplines to build spiritual
strength and resilience against temptation. Incorporating your faith as
part of your recovery journey brings additional emotional and spiritual
support.
7. Detox with Medical Supervision
Some drugs require medical detox to safely withdraw from their
physical effects. Professional supervision during detoxification ensures
that withdrawal symptoms are managed effectively.
8. Create a Routine
Addiction thrives in chaos. Establishing a daily routine with structured
activities can provide stability and minimize idle time, which often leads
to temptation.

9. Avoid Triggers
Identify and avoid people, places, and situations that remind you of
using drugs or substances. Removing these triggers helps prevent
relapse.

10. Engage in Physical Exercise
Exercise can significantly boost mood, reduce stress, and help in
managing withdrawal symptoms. Physical activity is an effective tool to
combat the emotional lows of addiction.
11. Practice Gratitude
Focus on the positives in life and practice gratitude daily. Keeping a
gratitude journal can help shift your mindset from despair to hope,
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12. Focus on Nutrition
Proper nutrition helps the body recover from the damage caused by
drugs. A balanced diet aids in detoxifying the body, replenishing lost
nutrients, and restoring energy levels.
13. Reconnect with Loved Ones
Many addicts burn bridges with family and friends. Take steps to
reconcile these relationships as the support and love from family are
crucial in your recovery journey.
14. Stay Accountable
Find an accountability partner—whether a friend, family member, or
sponsor—who will regularly check in on you and help you stay
committed to your recovery.
15. Cultivate Positive Hobbies
Engage in hobbies and activities that bring joy, relaxation, and
fulfillment. Hobbies like art, music, or sports can provide a healthy
outlet for your emotions.
16. Address Underlying Issues
Many addictions are rooted in deeper emotional or psychological issues.
Work with a counselor to address any trauma, depression, or anxiety
that fuels your addiction.
17. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness and meditation can help you stay present, manage stress,
and reduce cravings. Focusing on the here and now prevents the mind
from wandering into temptation.
18. Cut Off Negative Influences
Distance yourself from people who continue to use substances or
support your addictive behaviors. Surround yourself with people who
want the best for you.
19. Develop Emotional Resilience
Build your emotional resilience through techniques such as journaling,
mindfulness, and therapy. This helps you manage stress and difficult
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20. Attend Faith-Based Programs
Faith-based rehabilitation programs offer a blend of professional and
spiritual support for recovery. They provide a unique avenue for those
wanting to integrate their faith deeply into their recovery process.

Conclusion
The journey to overcome drugs, substance abuse, and addiction is not
easy, but it is possible. Through a combination of spiritual strength,
practical strategies, and the support of loved ones, recovery becomes a
path to a renewed life. As an Intentional Encourager and President of
the Africa Youth Rescue Initiative, I have seen countless people rise
above addiction and transform their lives for the better. You can too.
Addiction may have held you down, but it doesn’t have to define you.
Take the first step today by seeking help, building your spiritual
foundation, and committing to your recovery.

OVERCOMING OFFENSE, BITTERNESS AND
UNFORGIVENESS
As an Intentional Encourager, my journey has been dedicated to
uplifting others, fostering resilience, and guiding people toward
fulfillment. Offense, bitterness, and unforgiveness are pervasive issues
affecting many today, often derailing lives and causing deep emotional
wounds. This book explores biblical examples of those who suffered
due to offense and those who thrived by overcoming it. We will also
uncover practical strategies for managing offenses effectively.

Biblical Examples of Those Affected by Offense:
Cain (Genesis 4:1-16) – Cain’s offense against his brother Abel led to
jealousy, murder, and a lifetime of wandering and suffering.
King Saul (1 Samuel 18:7-9) – Saul’s offense over David’s success grew
into envy and paranoia, ultimately leading to his downfall.
Esau (Genesis 27:41-45) – Offended by Jacob’s deception, Esau’s
bitterness resulted in a strained relationship and a plan for revenge.
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David, led to rebellion and a tragic end.
Joseph’s Brothers (Genesis 37-50) – Offended by Joseph’s dreams,
they sold him into slavery, only to realize their mistake years later.
Jesus (Luke 23:34) – Despite being betrayed, mocked, and crucified,
Jesus chose forgiveness over offense, embodying grace and salvation.
Stephen (Acts 7:54-60) – Stephen, the first Christian martyr,
exemplified forgiveness by praying for his persecutors.
Conditions Caused by Offense, Bitterness, and Unforgiveness:
Emotional Turmoil – Anxiety, depression, and anger can result from
harboring offenses.
Physical Health Issues – Stress and resentment can manifest as high
blood pressure, heart problems, or weakened immune systems.
Spiritual Stagnation – Bitterness obstructs spiritual growth and
disconnects individuals from God’s love.
Relationship Breakdown – Offense leads to mistrust and conflict in
personal and professional relationships.
Loss of Purpose – Unforgiveness diverts focus away from meaningful
life goals.
Decreased Productivity – Negative emotions impact concentration and
decision-making.
Isolation – Offended individuals often withdraw, feeling
misunderstood or rejected.
Chronic Stress – Continual offense heightens stress levels, damaging
overall well-being.
Cynicism and Pessimism – Persistent negativity becomes a default
perspective.
Unresolved Grief – Offenses can keep individuals stuck in stages of
grief, unable to move on.
Personalities that Failed Due to Offense:
Cain – Driven by offense to commit fratricide.
King Saul – Lost his throne due to jealousy and offense.
Absalom – Fell into rebellion and met a tragic end.
Samson – Offended by betrayal, led to his demise.
Esau – Lost his birthright in a moment of anger.

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Ahithophel – Ended his life after being offended by David.
Judas Iscariot – Betrayed Jesus due to offense and regret.
Miriam and Aaron – Criticized Moses out of offense, resulting in
punishment.
Pharaoh – Offended by Moses’ demands, his stubbornness led to
Egypt’s ruin.
Herod – Offense led to the massacre of innocent children.
Nabal – Refused hospitality to David due to pride and offense, leading
to death.
Ananias and Sapphira – Offended by the church’s unity, their deceit led
to death.
Demas – Left Paul, offended by hardships, choosing worldly pleasures.
Diotrephes – Offended by apostolic authority, rejected John and the
brethren.
Korah – Led a rebellion against Moses and Aaron due to offense,
resulting in death.
Types of Offenses:
Personal Offense – When someone feels personally attacked or
insulted.
Group Offense – Offense taken on behalf of a community or group.
Self-Offense – When an individual feels offended by their own failures
or mistakes.
Familial Offense – Offenses arising within family dynamics.
Religious Offense – Offense related to religious beliefs or practices.
Political Offense – Offenses stemming from political ideologies or
actions.
Cultural Offense – Offense caused by a clash in cultural values or
customs.
Dangers and Repercussions of Offense:
Breakdown of Relationships
Hindered Spiritual Growth
Chronic Unhappiness
Isolation and Loneliness
Increased Conflict
Mental Health Issues
Physical Health Decline
Loss of Community
Decreased Ministry

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Effectiveness
Destruction of Trust
Hardened Heart
Blocked Blessings
Unforgiveness and Bitterness
Loss of Favor
Disunity in Church
Failure in Leadership
Economic Repercussions
Legal Consequences
Tarnished Reputations
Stagnation of Progress
Loss of Peace
Proliferation of Hatred
Unproductive Gossip
Personal Regret
Eternal Consequences
Benefits of Overcoming Offense:
Restoration of Relationships
Peace of Mind
Spiritual Growth
Emotional Healing
Stronger Community Bonds
Improved Health
Renewed Purpose
Increased Productivity
Joy and Fulfillment
Divine Favor
Freedom from Bitterness
Clarity in Decision-Making
Enhanced Resilience
Better Communication
Prosperity in Ministry
Building Trust
Greater Impact
Growth in Wisdom
Stronger Faith
Eternal Rewards
Ways to Overcome Offense:
Acknowledge the Hurt
Seek Reconciliation
Practice Forgiveness
Pray for the Offender
Let Go of Expectations
Choose Love over Anger
Set Healthy Boundaries
Engage in Self-Reflection
Rely on God’s Strength
Replace Negative Thoughts
Seek Wise Counsel
Cultivate Patience

Avoid Retaliation
Foster Compassion
Meditate on Scripture
Embrace Humility
Release Judgment
Remember God’s Grace
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Formulas and Strategies to Overcome Offense:
“Pause and Pray” Technique – Pause when offended and pray for
clarity and peace.
“Change the Narrative” Strategy – Reframe the situation positively.
“Silent Retreat” Method – Take time away to reflect and heal.
“Active Listening” Approach – Understand the other person’s
perspective.
“Daily Gratitude Practice” – Focus on positives in life.
“Forgiveness Journal” – Write down offenses and practice forgiving
them.
“Empathy Exercise” – Put yourself in the offender’s shoes.
“Accountability Partner” System – Share your journey with a trusted
friend.
“Reflective Meditation” – Meditate on scriptures about forgiveness.
“Bless and Release” Principle – Speak blessings over those who
offended you.
Latest Trends in Offense Management:
Mindfulness Meditation Practices.
Virtual Counseling for Offense Resolution
Conflict Resolution Workshops
Social Media Accountability Groups
Empathy Development Programs
Faith-Based Support Networks
Personal Development Apps
Therapeutic Writing Workshops
Peer Mediation Services
Forgiveness Retreats
Faith-Oriented Resilience Coaching
Interactive Online Forums
Digital Reconciliation Platforms
Church-Led Healing Circles
Community Peace building Initiatives

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Conclusion:
Offense, when left unaddressed, can lead to significant emotional,
spiritual, and relational damage. However, understanding its nature,
learning from biblical examples, and applying effective strategies can
transform these challenges into opportunities for growth and healing.
Embrace the power of forgiveness, let go of offenses, and unlock the
doors to peace, prosperity, and purpose.
DEALING WITH AND OVERCOMING PEER
PRESSURE AND PEER INFLUENCE
Peer pressure and peer influence are powerful forces that can
significantly impact behavior, decisions, and self-esteem, especially
among adolescents and young adults. Understanding these dynamics is
crucial for fostering resilience and making informed choices. As an
intentional encourager and the founder of the Africa Youth Rescue
Initiative, I aim to empower individuals to navigate these challenges
effectively. This book gives a detailed exploration of peer pressure and
influence, including examples, consequences, trends, and strategies for
overcoming them.
Introduction
Peer pressure is the influence exerted by a peer group on an individual,
often leading them to conform to the group’s behaviors, attitudes, and
values. While peer influence can be positive, promoting healthy choices
and social cohesion, it can also lead to negative outcomes, such as
engaging in risky behaviors or compromising personal values. The
importance of understanding peer pressure lies in the ability to resist
negative influences and make decisions aligned with one’s values and
goals.
This book explores the various forms of peer pressure and influence,
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overcome them. I am committed to promoting personal development, I
encourage you to take charge of your choices and enhance your resilience.
Examples of Peer Pressure and Peer Influence
1. Substance Use: Friends encouraging drug or alcohol use during
social gatherings.
2. Bullying: Peer pressure to participate in or tolerate bullying
behavior.
3. Academic Dishonesty: Pressure to cheat on exams or
assignments to fit in with a peer group.
4. Fashion Choices: Influencing individuals to dress a certain way
to be accepted.
5. Social Media Behavior: Encouragement to post or share
specific content to gain likes and approval.
6. Risky Behavior: Friends encouraging dangerous activities, such
as reckless driving or extreme sports.
7. Skipping Class: Pressure to skip school or class to join peers in
recreational activities.
8. Body Image Issues: Peer influence promoting unhealthy body
standards or dieting practices.
9. Engaging in Gossip: Friends pushing individuals to gossip or
spread rumors.
10. Sexual Activity: Pressure to engage in sexual activity before one
feels ready.
11. Food Choices: Influence to eat certain foods or diets that may
be unhealthy.
12. Sports Participation: Pressure to participate in sports or
activities one is not interested in.
13. Music and Entertainment Choices: Friends pushing for a
specific music genre or movie that one may not enjoy.
14. Political Views: Peer influence to adopt specific political beliefs
or stances.
15. Social Events: Pressure to attend social events or gatherings one
is uncomfortable with.
16. Social Climbing: Influencing behaviors to associate with
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17. Social Media Challenges: Encouragement to participate in
potentially harmful social media challenges.
18. Trendy Activities: Pressure to engage in activities that are
trendy but misaligned with personal values.
19. Brand Choices: Influence to buy or use specific brands to fit in
with a group.
20. Excessive Spending: Encouragement to spend money on
unnecessary items to impress peers.
21. Disregarding Personal Values: Pressure to compromise
personal beliefs for group acceptance.
22. Engaging in Negative Humor: Influence to make fun of
others to gain approval from peers.
23. Ignoring Responsibilities: Pressure to neglect responsibilities,
such as chores or homework, for socializing.
24. Disregarding Health Advice: Peer influence to ignore health
recommendations or medical advice.
25. Participating in Illegal Activities: Pressure to engage in illegal
actions for thrill or acceptance.
26. Excessive Use of Technology: Encouragement to spend
excessive time on devices at the expense of real-life interactions.
27. Groupthink: Influencing decisions where group harmony is
prioritized over individual opinions.
28. Neglecting Relationships: Pressure to disregard family or
other relationships for peer acceptance.
29. Pursuing Unfulfilling Careers: Influence to pursue a career
path based on peer expectations rather than personal passion.
30. Substituting Identity: Encouragement to change one’s identity
or personality to fit into a group.
Ways to Overcome Peer Pressure and Peer Influence
1. Know Your Values: Clearly define your values and principles
to guide your decisions.
2. Choose Friends Wisely: Surround yourself with peers who
share positive values and support your goals.
3. Practice Assertiveness: Develop the ability to say no
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4. Seek Support: Talk to trusted adults, mentors, or friends when
facing peer pressure.
5. Educate Yourself: Understand the risks and consequences of
succumbing to peer pressure.
6. Stay True to Yourself: Embrace your individuality and resist
the urge to conform to others’ expectations.
7. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries regarding
behaviors and situations you are uncomfortable with.
8. Engage in Positive Activities: Participate in groups or
activities that promote healthy choices and self-growth.
9. Reflect on Consequences: Consider the long-term
consequences of succumbing to peer pressure before making
decisions.
10. Develop Critical Thinking: Analyze peer influences critically
to determine their alignment with your values.
11. Communicate Openly: Share your feelings and concerns with
your friends to foster mutual understanding.
12. Practice Decision-Making: Strengthen your decision-making
skills by evaluating potential choices in advance.
13. Identify Peer Pressure Triggers: Recognize situations where
you are more susceptible to peer influence.
14. Engage in Role-Playing: Practice responses to peer pressure
through role-playing scenarios.
15. Limit Exposure to Negative Influences: Distance yourself
from peers who consistently promote negative behaviors.
16. Cultivate Self-Confidence: Work on building your self-esteem
and confidence to resist peer pressure.
17. Set Personal Goals: Establish personal goals that prioritize
your values and aspirations.
18. Embrace Positive Peer Influence: Seek out peers who
positively influence and motivate you.
19. Be a Leader: Take the initiative to stand up for your beliefs
and influence your peers positively.
20. Reflect on Experiences: After facing peer pressure, reflect on
what worked and what didn’t, and adjust your strategies
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Consequences of Peer Pressure and Peer Influence
1. Loss of Identity: Compromising personal values can lead to a
diminished sense of self.
2. Increased Anxiety: The struggle to conform can result in
heightened stress and anxiety levels.
3. Regret: Succumbing to peer pressure can lead to regret over
choices that don’t align with personal values.
4. Conflict with Authority: Disregarding rules or expectations
can create tension with parents, teachers, or other authorities.
5. Engaging in Risky Behaviors: Peer pressure can lead to
engaging in illegal or unsafe activities.
6. Decreased Academic Performance: Prioritizing social
activities over studies can impact academic success.
7. Relationship Strain: Giving in to peer pressure can strain
relationships with family and non-conforming friends.
8. Negative Health Outcomes: Engaging in unhealthy
behaviors can lead to physical or mental health issues.
9. Substance Abuse: Pressure to engage in substance use can
lead to addiction and dependency.
10. Isolation: Failing to conform can result in exclusion from peer
groups and social isolation.
11. Social Anxiety: The fear of peer judgment can lead to
increased social anxiety.
12. Fear of Rejection: The desire to fit in can lead to fear of
rejection from peers.
13. Low Self-Esteem: Continuous peer pressure can diminish self-
worth and confidence.
14. Impaired Decision-Making: The desire to conform can
impair one’s ability to make sound decisions.
15. Participation in Bullying: Engaging in bullying to fit in can
have long-lasting emotional consequences.
16. Regretful Choices: Choices made under peer pressure can
lead to feelings of guilt and regret.
17. Behavioral Changes: Yielding to peer influence can lead to
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18. Cognitive Dissonance: The internal conflict between personal
values and peer expectations can cause emotional distress.
19. Negative Social Norms: Normalizing unhealthy behaviors
within a peer group can perpetuate negative cycles.
20. Difficulty in Relationships: Engaging in negative behaviors
can make it challenging to build healthy, trusting relationships.
Latest Trends in Peer Pressure and Peer Influence Management
1. Social Media Literacy Programs: Educational initiatives
teaching individuals to navigate social media influences.
2. Youth Mentorship Programs: Pairing young people with
mentors who provide guidance on resisting negative peer
influence.
3. Peer Support Groups: Formation of groups that empower
individuals to discuss and address peer pressure collectively.
4. Positive Role Models: Highlighting public figures and
influencers who promote healthy choices and values.
5. Educational Workshops: Schools and organizations
providing workshops on self-esteem and peer pressure
resilience.
6. Mental Health Awareness Campaigns: Initiatives promoting
mental health resources to help individuals cope with peer
pressure.
7. Media Campaigns: Advertisements and social media
campaigns focused on promoting individuality and healthy
choices.
8. Parental Involvement Programs: Encouraging parents to
engage with their children about peer pressure and influence.
9. Mindfulness Practices: Incorporating mindfulness exercises
in schools to help students manage peer pressure.
10. Supportive School Policies: Schools adopting policies that
promote a culture of acceptance and support.
11. Focus on Emotional Intelligence: Teaching emotional
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12. Community Engagement Initiatives: Programs that engage
youth in community service to foster positive peer
relationships.
13. Online Resource Centers: Websites and platforms providing
resources for managing peer pressure.
14. Collaborative Learning Environments: Schools fostering
environments where students support each other rather than
compete.
15. Awareness Programs in Sports: Initiatives addressing peer
pressure in sports settings and promoting healthy competition.
16. Workshops on Refusal Skills: Training individuals on
effective refusal techniques in peer situations.
17. Art and Expression Initiatives: Creative programs using art
to express and address experiences with peer pressure.
18. Youth Advocacy Networks: Creating networks of youth
advocates promoting awareness of peer influence issues.
19. Cultural Sensitivity Programs: Addressing peer pressure
within diverse cultural contexts to foster understanding and
respect.
20. Integration of Technology: Using apps and online platforms
to promote positive social interactions and peer support.

Conclusion
Navigating peer pressure and peer influence is essential for personal
growth, self-esteem, and overall well-being. By recognizing the forms
and consequences of peer pressure, individuals can develop the skills
necessary to make informed choices and stand firm in their values.
I urge you to embrace your uniqueness and resist negative influences.
Take control of your life and choices today

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DEALING WITH AND OVERCOMING DISTRACTIONS
In a world inundated with constant stimuli and demands on our
attention, distractions have become a significant barrier to productivity,
focus, and overall well-being. Understanding the nature of distractions,
their causes, and their effects is crucial for developing effective
strategies to overcome them. As an intentional encourager and the
founder of the Africa Youth Rescue Initiative, I aim to empower
individuals to reclaim their focus and enhance their productivity. In this
book I provide a detailed exploration of distractions, including
examples, consequences, trends, and practical strategies for
overcoming them.
Introduction
Distractions have evolved from the traditional interruptions of daily life
to a pervasive force driven by technology and modern lifestyles. With
the advent of smartphones, social media, and a constant influx of
information, individuals are more susceptible than ever to losing focus.
Distractions can affect anyone, whether students, professionals, or
stay-at-home parents, leading to decreased productivity, heightened
stress levels, and compromised mental health.
This book will explore the various types of distractions, their causes,
and consequences, while providing actionable strategies to overcome
them. My commitment to promoting personal development, I
encourage you to take charge of your attention and enhance your
quality of life.
Examples of Distractions
1) Smartphone Notifications: Alerts from social media, messaging
apps, and emails that pull attention away from tasks.
2) Social Media: Engaging in scrolling or browsing platforms like
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3) Email Alerts: Frequent incoming emails that disrupt workflow
and concentration.
4) Television: Background noise or visuals from a TV can divert
attention during work or study.
5) Chatty Colleagues: Conversations in the workplace that can
disrupt focus and productivity.
6) Online Streaming Services: The temptation to watch shows or
movies during work hours.
7) News Websites: Constant updates and notifications that lead to
distractions.
8) Cluttered Workspace: A disorganized desk or environment that
distracts from tasks at hand.
9) Personal Phone Calls: Interruptions from friends or family that
disrupt focus.
10) Text Messages: The urge to check and respond to incoming
texts during work.
11) Environmental Noise: Sounds from traffic, construction, or
other external factors that hinder concentration.
12) Multitasking: Attempting to handle multiple tasks
simultaneously, leading to decreased effectiveness.
13) Boredom: Engaging in monotonous tasks that lead to seeking
distraction.
14) Physical Discomfort: Uncomfortable seating or poor lighting
that distracts from focus.
15) Fatigue: Feeling tired can lead to a lack of concentration and
increased susceptibility to distractions.
1. Personal Worries: Thoughts about personal issues that pull
attention away from tasks.
2. Daydreaming: Wandering thoughts that distract from the task
at hand.
3. Social Gatherings: Events or gatherings that pull focus away
from work or responsibilities.
4. Unscheduled Breaks: Taking breaks without structure can
lead to prolonged distractions.
5. Mobile Games: The urge to play games on phones can lead to
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6. Gossip: Engaging in or overhearing gossip can divert focus.
7. Overcommitting: Taking on too many responsibilities can
lead to a lack of focus.
8. Poor Time Management: Inability to allocate time effectively
can result in distractions.
9. Online Shopping: Browsing e-commerce sites can lead to
distractions during productive hours.
10. Notifications from Other Apps: Alerts from productivity
apps or task managers that interrupt focus.
11. Background Music: While sometimes helpful, certain types of
music can be distracting.
12. Disorganized Digital Files: Difficulty finding documents can
lead to frustration and distraction.
13. Physical Presence of Others: People moving around in your
peripheral vision can disrupt concentration.
14. Planning and Procrastination: Overthinking about how to
start a task can lead to distractions.
15. Internal Conflicts: Emotional or psychological issues that
detract from focus.
Ways to Overcome Distractions
1. Identify Triggers: Keep a log of what distracts you to identify
patterns and triggers.
2. Create a Distraction-Free Environment: Designate a specific
workspace that minimizes distractions.
3. Limit Digital Distractions: Use apps like Freedom or
Focus@Will to block distracting websites and notifications.
4. Schedule Time for Focus: Allocate specific blocks of time for
deep work and focus.
5. Practice the Pomodoro Technique: Work in intervals (25
minutes of work followed by a 5-minute break) to maintain
focus.
6. Declutter Your Space: Organize your workspace to create a
more focused environment.
7. Set Clear Goals: Break tasks into smaller, manageable goals to
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8. Turn Off Notifications: Silence or disable non-essential
notifications on your phone and computer.
9. Limit Multitasking: Focus on one task at a time to improve
concentration and efficiency.
10. Use Background Music Wisely: Play instrumental or ambient
music to help maintain focus.
11. Take Regular Breaks: Schedule short breaks to refresh your
mind and prevent burnout.
12. Engage in Mindfulness Practices: Incorporate mindfulness
or meditation exercises to improve concentration.
13. Establish a Routine: Create a daily schedule that prioritizes
important tasks.
14. Set Boundaries: Communicate your need for focused work
time with colleagues or family.
15. Practice Time Blocking: Assign specific times for different
tasks to structure your day better.
16. Stay Hydrated and Nourished: Proper hydration and
nutrition can improve focus and energy levels.
17. Eliminate Clutter: Regularly tidy your workspace to create a
more organized and focused environment.
18. Create a To-Do List: Write down tasks to keep yourself
accountable and focused.
19. Limit Social Interactions: Schedule specific times for
socializing to minimize distractions during work.
20. Reflect and Adjust: Regularly assess your productivity and
strategies, adjusting them as needed.
Consequences of Distractions
1. Decreased Productivity: Frequent distractions lead to less
work completed in a given time frame.
2. Increased Stress Levels: The inability to focus can lead to
feelings of anxiety and overwhelm.
3. Poor Quality of Work: Mistakes and oversight can increase
due to divided attention.
4. Reduced Efficiency: Time wasted on distractions can lead to
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5. Impaired Learning: Difficulty retaining information can arise
from constant interruptions.
6. Negative Impact on Relationships: Inattention can strain
personal and professional relationships.
7. Burnout: Continuous distractions can lead to mental and
physical exhaustion.
8. Decreased Job Satisfaction: Feeling unproductive can lead to
lower job satisfaction and motivation.
9. Feelings of Regret: Time wasted can lead to feelings of regret
and frustration.
10. Inability to Meet Goals: Distractions can hinder progress
toward personal and professional goals.
11. Difficulty in Decision-Making: A scattered mind can lead to
indecision and second-guessing.
12. Impaired Creativity: Constant interruptions can stifle
creativity and innovation.
13. Loss of Opportunities: Distractions can result in missed
opportunities for growth and advancement.
14. Negative Mental Health Impact: Chronic distractions can
contribute to depression and anxiety.
15. Physical Health Issues: Stress from distractions can lead to
physical health problems, including headaches and fatigue.
16. Lowered Self-Esteem: A perceived inability to focus can lead
to feelings of inadequacy.
17. Disrupted Sleep Patterns: Stress and anxiety from
distractions can affect sleep quality.
18. Social Isolation: Constant distractions can lead to withdrawing
from social interactions.
19. Increased Conflict: Distracted interactions can lead to
misunderstandings and conflicts with others.
20. Loss of Purpose: Continuous distractions can contribute to
feelings of aimlessness and a lack of direction.
Latest Trends in Distraction Management
1. Digital Detox: Individuals are increasingly taking breaks from
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2. Mindfulness Apps: The rise of apps like Headspace and Calm
for mindfulness and meditation practices.
3. Focus-Focused Workspaces: The trend of creating
designated areas free from distractions in workplaces.
4. Gamification of Productivity: Utilizing game-like elements in
productivity apps to enhance focus and engagement.
5. Work-Life Balance Initiatives: Organizations are adopting
policies to promote better work-life balance, reducing stress
and distractions.
6. Remote Work Structures: Companies are exploring flexible
work arrangements to minimize distractions from traditional
office environments.
7. Social Media Awareness Campaigns: Initiatives promoting
awareness of social media’s impact on attention spans.
8. VR for Focus Training: Virtual reality programs designed to
improve focus and reduce distractions through immersive
environments.
9. Pomodoro Technique Adoption: Increasing use of the
Pomodoro Technique as a popular method for managing time
and distractions.
10. Collaborative Focus Spaces: The trend of creating shared
focus spaces in workplaces for collaborative deep work.
11. Digital Tools for Focus: The growing popularity of tools like
Trello and Asana to manage tasks and minimize distractions.
12. Wellness Programs: Companies are integrating wellness
programs that emphasize mental health and focus.
13. Increased Demand for Focus Coaching: The rise of
personal coaches specializing in focus and productivity
strategies.
14. Use of Biometric Feedback: Wearable technology providing
feedback on focus and stress levels.
15. Focus Groups in Schools: Educational institutions are
creating programs that teach students focus strategies.
16. Detaching from Devices: The trend of implementing ‘no-
phone zones’ in cafes, workplaces, and homes.
17. Enhanced Focus Training Workshops: Programs designed
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18. Shorter Work Hours: A growing number of companies
experimenting with reduced work hours to enhance focus.
19. Nature-Inspired Workspaces: The rise of biophilic design in
offices, promoting well-being and reducing distractions.
20. Mindful Communication: Promoting clear and intentional
communication in workplaces to minimize distractions.
Conclusion
Overcoming distractions is crucial for enhancing productivity,
maintaining mental well-being, and achieving personal and professional
goals. By recognizing the various types of distractions and employing
effective strategies to combat them, individuals can regain control of
their focus and time.

DEALING WITH DRUGS AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND
ADDICTION
Drugs and substance abuse have become one of the leading challenges
in society today, affecting millions of lives across all ages. Addiction
grips individuals, families, and communities, leaving behind a trail of
devastation. As the Founder and President of Africa Youth Rescue
Initiative, and the author of Overcoming All Odds and Behind the Scenes, I
have encountered countless people struggling to break free from the
chains of addiction. In this book, we will examine the devastating
consequences of drug and substance abuse, explore different types of
addiction, and provide actionable steps for overcoming addiction to
live a life of freedom and purpose.
Understanding and overcoming Drugs and Substance
Abuse
Drugs and substance abuse involve the misuse of substances—legal or
illegal—for recreational or habitual purposes. Whether its alcohol,
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and has severe health, social, and psychological consequences. This
chapter will explore the definitions, key concepts, and the different
forms of substance abuse.
Types of Drugs and Substance Abuse
1. Alcohol Addiction: Alcohol is one of the most widely abused
substances. This form of addiction is often socially acceptable
but can have significant health and relational impacts.
2. Prescription Drug Abuse: The misuse of prescription
medication such as painkillers and tranquilizers is increasingly
becoming an epidemic, especially among young adults.
3. Opioids: Opioid addiction has reached alarming levels globally.
These drugs, including heroin and certain painkillers, create
intense physical dependence.
4. Cocaine and Crack: Cocaine abuse leads to serious mental
health issues and can rapidly spiral into addiction.
5. Methamphetamine (Meth): A highly addictive stimulant,
meth can destroy an individual’s life in a very short time.
6. Marijuana: While considered less harmful by some, long-term
marijuana use can lead to dependence and mental health
problems.
7. Hallucinogens: Drugs like LSD and ecstasy distort reality and
can have long-term psychological effects.
8. Inhalants: Substances like glue, gasoline, or nitrous oxide are
often abused by younger individuals but can cause immediate
and lasting damage to the brain and body.
9. Nicotine: Though legal, nicotine is highly addictive and its use
through cigarettes and vaping carries serious health risks.
10. Club Drugs: Substances like MDMA, GHB, and ketamine are
often used in party environments, leading to risky behavior and
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The Consequences of Drug and Substance Abuse
1. Physical Health Deterioration: Long-term drug use leads to
liver damage, cardiovascular diseases, brain damage, and other
critical health problems.
2. Mental Health Issues: Addiction frequently triggers or
exacerbates mental health conditions like depression, anxiety,
and paranoia.
3. Spiritual Decline: Substance abuse creates a disconnect from
spiritual values and weakens one’s sense of purpose and
connection with God.
4. Financial Ruin: Addiction consumes financial resources, often
leading to debt, job loss, and poverty.
5. Broken Relationships: Many addicted individuals experience
the breakdown of family relationships, friendships, and
romantic partnerships.
6. Legal Issues: Engaging in illegal drug use or criminal behavior
to sustain the addiction can result in arrests, incarceration, and
a permanent criminal record.
7. Addiction Cycle: Substance abuse locks individuals into a
repetitive cycle of dependency, making it harder to quit without
external help.
8. Social Isolation: Addicts may withdraw from their social
circles, feeling shame, guilt, and isolation.
9. Risky Behaviors: Drug use often leads to unsafe behaviors
such as unprotected sex, driving under the influence, or
engaging in violence.
10. Overdose Risk: Many substances pose the deadly risk of
overdose, which can result in coma or death.
11. Destruction of Identity: Drug abuse causes individuals to lose
their sense of self and purpose, often replacing their personal
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12. Neglect of Responsibilities: Addicts may neglect
responsibilities at work, home, or in their spiritual life, leading
to significant personal decline.
13. Loss of Employment: Addiction often leads to decreased
work performance, absenteeism, and eventual job loss.
14. Spiritual Warfare: Drugs and substance abuse can be a
spiritual battle, as individuals struggle against temptation and
feelings of hopelessness.
15. Impact on Future Generations: Children of addicts are at
higher risk of developing substance abuse issues themselves,
continuing the cycle of addiction.
16. Cognitive Decline: Prolonged substance use can impair
cognitive functions, memory, and decision-making abilities.
17. Suicidal Tendencies: Many addicted individuals,
overwhelmed by their situation, may experience suicidal
thoughts or attempts.
18. Chronic Stress: The pressure of hiding addiction and dealing
with its consequences leads to chronic stress and burnout.
19. Loss of Dignity: Substance abuse robs individuals of their
dignity, leaving them feeling dehumanized and worthless.
20. Spiritual Confusion: Addicted individuals often question their
faith or feel abandoned by God, leading to a crisis of belief.
21. Emotional Numbness: Drugs can make individuals numb to
emotions, preventing them from processing pain or joy in a
healthy way.
22. Decreased Immune Function: Drug abuse weakens the
immune system, making individuals more susceptible to
illnesses.
23. Malnutrition: Substance abuse often leads to poor dietary
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24. Loss of Life Purpose: Addiction often derails life goals,
ambitions, and the pursuit of dreams, leaving the individual
directionless.
25. Estrangement from Faith Communities: Addicts often feel
unwelcome in faith communities, further isolating them from
potential sources of help and support.
Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse and Addiction
1. Increased Tolerance: Needing larger amounts of the
substance to achieve the same effect.
2. Withdrawal Symptoms: Experiencing physical or emotional
discomfort when not using the substance.
3. Neglecting Responsibilities: Failing to meet obligations at
work, school, or home.
4. Loss of Control: Inability to stop using the substance despite
wanting to.
5. Changes in Appearance: Significant weight loss, poor
hygiene, or unusual marks (in the case of injecting drugs).
6. Financial Problems: Borrowing or stealing money to fund
drug use.
7. Changes in Behavior: Sudden mood swings, irritability, or
secretive behavior.
8. Isolation: Withdrawing from friends, family, or social activities.
9. Frequent Use: Using the substance more often than intended.
10. Lying About Use: Hiding or lying about the extent of
substance use.
11. Poor Decision-Making: Engaging in risky or impulsive
behavior.
12. Physical Deterioration: Chronic cough, dilated pupils, or
visible signs of drug abuse.
13. Relationship Issues: Frequent arguments or conflicts with
loved ones.
14. Legal Problems: Being involved in criminal activities or legal
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15. Memory Issues: Frequent blackouts, forgetfulness, or
difficulty concentrating.
16. Loss of Interest: Losing interest in hobbies, work, or activities
that once brought joy.
17. Compulsive Drug-Seeking Behavior: Constantly thinking
about how to get more of the substance.
18. Inability to Quit: Failed attempts to quit using the substance.
19. Depression and Anxiety: Mental health issues that either
trigger or worsen with addiction.
20. Physical Cravings: Intense urges to use the substance.
Ways to Overcome Drugs and Substance Abuse
1. Acknowledge the Addiction: The first step in recovery is
admitting the problem.
2. Seek Professional Help: Engage with a doctor, therapist, or
addiction specialist.
3. Enroll in Rehabilitation: Rehab centers provide structured
recovery environments.
4. Spiritual Guidance: Seek counseling from a spiritual mentor
or pastor.
5. Join Support Groups: Narcotics Anonymous and other
support groups provide community and accountability.
6. Create a Recovery Plan: Set clear, achievable goals for
overcoming addiction.
7. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness and meditation help
manage cravings and emotional triggers.
8. Develop New Hobbies: Replace old habits with new,
healthier activities.
9. Avoid Triggers: Identify and avoid places, people, or
situations that encourage substance use.
10. Exercise Regularly: Physical activity reduces stress and
promotes overall well-being.
11. Set Boundaries: Create clear boundaries with friends or family
members who use substances.
12. Strengthen Relationships: Build positive, drug-free
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13. Learn Coping Mechanisms: Find healthy ways to cope with
stress and emotional pain.
14. Remove Access: Get rid of substances and paraphernalia from
your environment.
15. Stay Accountable: Regularly check in with an accountability
partner or group.
16. Focus on Nutrition: Healthy eating supports physical
recovery.
17. Rest and Sleep: Prioritize good sleep hygiene to promote
healing.
18. Invest in Spiritual Growth: Reconnect with God through
prayer, worship, and scripture.
19. Replace Addictive Behaviors: Channel energy into
constructive habits like volunteering or sports.
20. Seek Counseling: Regular therapy can help address underlying
issues fueling addiction.
21. Reconnect with Your Faith: Rebuild your relationship with
God for spiritual strength.
22. Set Milestones: Celebrate progress by setting short-term
recovery goals.
23. Take Responsibility: Acknowledge past mistakes but commit
to moving forward.
24. Use Journaling: Write about your recovery journey, tracking
emotions and triggers.
25. Visualize a Drug-Free Life: Create a mental image of what
your life can look like without drugs.
26. Seek Medication: In some cases, prescribed medication can
help manage withdrawal symptoms.
27. Attend Workshops or Seminars: Educational sessions on
addiction provide valuable knowledge.
28. Focus on Gratitude: Practicing gratitude can help shift focus
from the pain of addiction.
29. Cut Ties with Negative Influences: End relationships with
people who encourage substance use.
30. Give Back to the Community: Helping others can provide a
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The Spiritual and Emotional Impact of Drugs and Substance
Abuse
Drugs and substance abuse not only affect the body and mind, but also
have profound spiritual and emotional consequences. This chapter
delves deeper into how addiction impacts one’s spiritual journey,
relationship with God, and overall emotional well-being.
1. Spiritual Disconnect
Addiction causes a spiritual drift, separating individuals from their faith
and relationship with God. Substance abuse clouds judgment, making
it harder to connect with spiritual teachings, prayer, or the support of a
faith community. The spiritual disconnect often leads to feelings of
hopelessness and purposelessness, leaving the addicted individual
vulnerable to deeper emotional pain and confusion.
2. Guilt and Shame
Many addicts experience intense guilt and shame, not only for their
addiction but for the actions that arise from it—lying, stealing, or
neglecting responsibilities. These feelings can be overwhelming,
creating a vicious cycle where they continue to use substances to escape
the emotional pain. Guilt also leads to spiritual despair, as many feel
they are unworthy of forgiveness or redemption.
3. Loss of Identity and Purpose
Substance abuse causes individuals to lose their sense of identity and
purpose. The person they once were—full of dreams, goals, and
values—becomes overshadowed by the addict’s life. The loss of
direction erodes their emotional and spiritual foundation, often making
recovery feel impossible without external help or divine intervention.
4. Emotional Numbness
Drugs can dull emotions, leading to emotional numbness. While this
might provide temporary relief from pain, it also cuts off access to
positive feelings like joy, love, and peace. Over time, this numbness
makes it difficult to heal emotionally, as addicts lose the ability to
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5. Spiritual Warfare
Substance abuse can be seen as part of a greater spiritual battle.
Addicted individuals are often caught in a cycle of temptation, guilt,
and despair. Many experience a struggle between their desire to quit
and the overwhelming pull of addiction. Recognizing this spiritual
warfare is key to understanding that recovery is not just a physical and
emotional battle, but a spiritual one as well.
6. Isolation from Faith Communities
Many addicts feel ashamed or judged, which prevents them from
seeking support from their faith communities. This isolation
compounds their emotional pain, as they feel abandoned or
disconnected from people who could otherwise offer support, prayer,
and guidance. Without the spiritual nourishment of a faith community,
the journey to recovery becomes even harder.
7. Overcoming Spiritual Doubt
Addiction often brings with it spiritual doubt. Many question God’s
presence or why they are enduring such hardship. This doubt can erode
faith, leaving the individual feeling abandoned. Overcoming addiction
requires not only physical and emotional healing, but also a
reawakening of one’s spiritual connection with God.
Practical Steps to Overcome Drugs and Substance Abuse
This chapter will explore actionable and practical strategies for
overcoming addiction, rooted in spiritual, psychological, and lifestyle
changes.
1. Embrace Spiritual Renewal
Rebuild your relationship with God through daily prayer, scripture
reading, and meditation. This will strengthen your spiritual core and
help you find a deeper purpose in life, which is essential in battling
addiction.
2. Seek Professional Counseling
Therapists specializing in addiction can provide crucial insights into
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Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is often effective in addressing addiction’s
psychological aspects.
3. Engage in Group Therapy
Join a group like Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous
where individuals with similar struggles share their experiences and
support each other on the journey toward sobriety.
4. Set Realistic Recovery Goals
Set small, achievable goals in your recovery process. Celebrate each
milestone, no matter how minor, as this will motivate you to keep
pushing forward.
5. Build a Support System
Surround yourself with people who are positive, encouraging, and
willing to support your recovery journey. This can include friends,
family, pastors, or recovery sponsors.
6. Strengthen Spiritual Disciplines
Fast, meditate, or engage in other spiritual disciplines to build spiritual
strength and resilience against temptation. Incorporating your faith as
part of your recovery journey brings additional emotional and spiritual
support.
7. Detox with Medical Supervision
Some drugs require medical detox to safely withdraw from their
physical effects. Professional supervision during detoxification ensures
that withdrawal symptoms are managed effectively.
8. Create a Routine
Addiction thrives in chaos. Establishing a daily routine with structured
activities can provide stability and minimize idle time, which often
leads to temptation.
9. Avoid Triggers
Identify and avoid people, places, and situations that remind you of
using drugs or substances. Removing these triggers helps prevent
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10. Engage in Physical Exercise
Exercise can significantly boost mood, reduce stress, and help in
managing withdrawal symptoms. Physical activity is an effective tool to
combat the emotional lows of addiction.
11. Practice Gratitude
Focus on the positives in life and practice gratitude daily. Keeping a
gratitude journal can help shift your mindset from despair to hope,
which is essential for recovery.
12. Focus on Nutrition
Proper nutrition helps the body recover from the damage caused by
drugs. A balanced diet aids in detoxifying the body, replenishing lost
nutrients, and restoring energy levels.
13. Reconnect with Loved Ones
Many addicts burn bridges with family and friends. Take steps to
reconcile these relationships as the support and love from family are
crucial in your recovery journey.
14. Stay Accountable
Find an accountability partner—whether a friend, family member, or
sponsor—who will regularly check in on you and help you stay
committed to your recovery.
15. Cultivate Positive Hobbies
Engage in hobbies and activities that bring joy, relaxation, and
fulfillment. Hobbies like art, music, or sports can provide a healthy
outlet for your emotions.
16. Address Underlying Issues
Many addictions are rooted in deeper emotional or psychological
issues. Work with a counselor to address any trauma, depression, or
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17. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness and meditation can help you stay present, manage stress,
and reduce cravings. Focusing on the here and now prevents the mind
from wandering into temptation.
18. Cut Off Negative Influences
Distance yourself from people who continue to use substances or
support your addictive behaviors. Surround yourself with people who
want the best for you.
19. Develop Emotional Resilience
Build your emotional resilience through techniques such as journaling,
mindfulness, and therapy. This helps you manage stress and difficult
emotions without turning to substances.
20. Attend Faith-Based Programs
Faith-based rehabilitation programs offer a blend of professional and
spiritual support for recovery. They provide a unique avenue for those
wanting to integrate their faith deeply into their recovery process.
Conclusion
The journey to overcome drugs, substance abuse, and addiction is not
easy, but it is possible. Through a combination of spiritual strength,
practical strategies, and the support of loved ones, recovery becomes a
path to a renewed life. I have seen countless people rise above
addiction and transform their lives for the better. You can too.
Addiction may have held you down, but it doesn’t have to define you.
Take the first step today by seeking help, building your spiritual
foundation, and committing to your recovery.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ambassador Steve Mbugua is a world-renowned safety ambassador,
transformational leader, and intentional encourager whose impact on
emergency response, safety culture, and first aid has changed the lives of
countless people. As a trusted authority on safety and disaster
preparedness, he has trained over 100,000 people, including military and
paramilitary organizations, in first aid, safety, and emergency response as
part of his quest to create a safer, more prepared world.
Important positions in Ambassador Mbugua's remarkable career include
Director of Training at Bloodlink Foundation, Training Manager at St.
John Ambulance Kenya, and former Kenya Red Cross Training
Coordinator for MU Chapter. As a committed first responder, he has
over 270 emergency responses under his belt, giving him extensive
practical expertise and profound insight that he now shares through his
work.
In addition to providing training, Ambassador Mbugua has played a key
role in creating disaster preparedness plans and safety regulations at the
local and national levels. The Kenya Emergency Medical Service Policy,
the Machakos County Disaster Preparedness and Response Plan, the
Kenyatta National Hospital Emergency Preparedness Plan, and the Fire
Safety Policy Design are just a few of the important projects he has
helped with. His knowledge of creating and putting into practice
frameworks that guarantee organizations and communities are equipped
to handle emergencies is highly valued.
The Art of Effective Church Ushering, Overcoming All Odds, Dare Not
Quit, Building a Culture of Safety, Behind the Scenes, Ministry of Helps,
and other works by Ambassador Mbugua, who is a prolific author,
demonstrate his commitment to encouraging excellence in service,
particularly within the body of Christ. He is renowned for his enthusiasm
for empowering employees to serve with integrity, impact, and passion
by providing them with the necessary knowledge, insight, revelation,
love, and a spirit of excellence.
Ambassador Mbugua combines an entrepreneurial spirit with a passion
for community service as the founder of Nairobi Safety Shop, one of the
biggest one-stop safety stores in the world, Makinika Afrika
International, a First Aid and Safety Training Institution, Africa Youth

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Rescue Initiative, and Busara Investment Group. His programs advance
his vision of a safety-conscious society by offering essential safety
materials, instruction, and mentoring.
Ambassador Mbugua is a frequent guest on radio and television, where
he shares his journey of overcoming challenges, near-failures, and
thrilling victories, all underscored by the astonishing workings of God
and a spirit of excellence. His insights, developed over many years of
commitment and experience, resonate with audiences across various
sectors, from corporations and seminar groups to church ministries and
TV audiences. He has established himself as a reputable and significant
voice thanks to the distribution of his priceless training materials and
safety resources to thousands of businesses and organizations
worldwide.

A Moi University alumnus, Ambassador Mbugua lives in Nairobi,
Kenya, but travels widely, leading workshops on personal development,
transformative speaking engagements, and safety culture training all over
the world. He has established himself as a prominent figure in his field—
an inspirational force whose life work inspires others to pursue safety,
service, and significance—thanks to his unwavering dedication to safety
awareness, excellence in service, and personal growth.

For additional resources, insights, and information.
You can reach him on WhatsApp at +254724036078 or
Visit www.ambstevembugua.co.ke

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