04 (c) Christian discipline.pptRTFHEREGG

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1. 1/19
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c. Christian
discipline

2. 2/19
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Discipline techniques can be learned
o Most parents are not always
confident about their ability to
discipline their own children,
yet Pathfinder directors
assume the responsibility of
maintaining discipline for an
entire club!
o Fortunately, many of the
skills of discipline and
management can be learned
and, with careful
implementation, be very
successful and improved with
practice.

3. 3/19
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Behavioral management plan
o A behavioral
management plan involving
5 steps to guide and
reinforce proper behavior
should be developed by the
Pathfinder staff.
o Written copies should be
provided to all families.

4. 4/19
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Disciplinary procedures as outlined in
Behavior Management Plan
o Establish discipline
procedures. The goal for
each step of the
procedure is to help the
Pathfinder choose
appropriate behavior.
o The consequences for
misbehavior become more
serious with each
succeeding step of the
program.

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Step 1 - Verbal Interaction
o Most Pathfinders
respond to verbal
interaction.
o Derogatory remarks may
change behavior but do not
foster a Christian
atmosphere. Use instead
the following techniques
of ‘Reality dialogue’ or
‘Broken record dialogue’.

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Reality dialogue
o Ask 3 questions to help the
Pathfinder become aware of
his own actions. E.g.
Leader: “What are you
doing?”
“Is it against the rules?”
“What should you be doing?”
o If the Pathfinder does not
does not respond to the
questions, the leader, in a
very friendly manner, tells
him to sit in a quiet place until
he is willing to talk.

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Broken record dialogue
Restate over and over the same
statement. Don’t become
involved in an endless arguing.
Simply repeat the original
request. E.g.
Leader: “Please put the tent in
the truck.”
Pathfinder: “But I’m going to
swim.”
Leader: “Please put the tent in
the truck.”
Pathfinder “But my mom said I
could go swimming.”
Leader: “Please put the tent in
the truck.”
Pathfinder: “Well... OK...”

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Step 2 - Caution Ticket
o If the Pathfinder does not
respond in a positive manner to
verbal interaction, then the
leader would then issue a Caution
Ticket.
o The leader simply hands him
the Caution Ticket and does not
disrupt the meeting
o No verbal comment is
necessary; however, a smile or
pat on the back may help the
Pathfinder realize that he is still
accepted by the leader even
though the behavior is not.

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Sample Caution Ticket
You have had a verbal warning already
concerning the breaking of club rules. This is
a written caution to remind you to choose
good behavior. Please do so and enjoy the
remainder of the Pathfinder meeting.

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Caution Ticket is discarded at the
end of each meeting
o The ticket is discarded at the
end of each meeting or event
so that the member can start
with a “clean record” for each
activity.
o Few Pathfinders will go
beyond the ticket stage.
However, if the Pathfinder
continues to choose
inappropriate behavior after
the ticket, the third step kicks
in.

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Step 3 - Isolation and written contract
o The Pathfinder is separated
from the group so that the
group activities can continue.
o The leader asks the member
to sit in an isolated spot to
think about his behavior
before handing him a Behavior
Contract while saying to him,
“When you’ve decided on good
behavior, then complete this
contract by describing the
type of behavior that you will
choose for the rest of this
meeting.”

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Sample Behavior Contract
I choose to
__________________________________________
__________________________________________
_______________________________________
so that I can participate in club activities.
Date: ____________________
Signed: ____________________ (Pathfinder)
Signed: ____________________ (Parent)
Signed: ____________________ (Leader)

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If Step 3 fails…
o If he does not want to choose
good behavior, the leader respects
the Pathfinder’s choice, but the
Pathfinder must stay in the
isolated place until the meeting
ends.
o If the behavior is a continuing
problem, then have the Pathfinder
take the Behavior Contract home
and have it signed by the parent
and returned at the next meeting.
If inappropriate behavior
continues, proceed to Step Four.

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Step 4 - Parent Conference
o The Parent Conference is to
encourage the Pathfinder to
choose appropriate behavior.
o The leader should be careful
to refer to his behavior as the
Pathfinder’s choices and not
condemn the child.
o He relates to his parents the
management steps that have
been taken to enable better
choice processes.

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Step 4 - Parent Conference
o Be clear that you are
concerned for his well-being and
continuance in the club and are
not mad at him nor wish that he
would leave.
o Mention how you very much
appreciate the strengths and
talents he has shown.
o Then you can end with a direct
statement to the Pathfinder:
“John, perhaps you can share
with us your future plans
concerning your behavior while
at Pathfinder meetings.”

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Signing of the second Behavior Contract
If there is a positive response, have another contract
ready to be filled out and signed by both child and
parent. If the reaction is still negative, move to step
five:

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Step 5 - Suspension from the club
o The child needs to
understand very clearly that it
has been his choice that has
caused him to be suspended.
o The leader should still be
friendly and caring and make it
clear to him that he would be
quite happy to see him choose
otherwise, and that when he
makes the choice to return
with a different behavior, he
will be waiting with open arms!

18. 18/19
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Circumstances requiring instant suspension
o Suspension from the club
for the following reasons
should be instantaneous,
and none of the preceding
steps would need to be
followed:
o Substance abuse
o Sexual violations
o Unauthorized use of
firearms

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A sample letter to accompany the suspension
Dear ____,
I feel sad that you have chosen inappropriate behavior
during our Pathfinder meetings. An important part of
belonging to a club is obeying the rules. We will miss you
during your suspension and sincerely hope that you will
miss us too and that you will decide to obey the rules.
When you are ready to re-join us, please describe the
behavior that we can expect from you by completing the
Behavior Contract that is enclosed in this letter. Please
hurry back – our club will miss you.
Your friend and leader,
_________________ (signed)