Allah forbids fahisha

This slide program defines "Fahsha". It delineates various forms of "Fawahish". It also presents the way Islam teaches us to protect ourselves and our children from Fawahish.

1. Quran ( Allah commands justice, ( Ihsan ) the doing of good, and liberality to kith and kin, and He forbids all shameful deeds, and injustice and rebellion: He instructs you, that you may receive admonition . ) ( An- Nahl  16:90)

2. Key Definitions The words for shamelessness used in the Quran 1 . Al Fahsha :   This refers to shamelessness in the general sense Anything that is ugly , detestable behavior is considered F ahsha. Socially unacceptable speech, S ocially unacceptable clothing, S ocially unacceptable actions, Vulgarity , L ewdness 2. Al F ahisha :   This refers to a particular act of inappropriateness.  So Fahsha is the general inappropriateness Al F ahisha is a particular act of inappropriateness. Plural for both:Al Fawahish: Include both Fahsha and al F ahisha .

3. Meaning of Fahisha or Lewdness There are two opinions about the meaning of Fahisha. Fawahish is simply the plural form of Fahisha 1- Something which is gross, or lewd and obscene. This could be in speech or language (as in uttering foul, evil, lewd or obscene speech ) An indecent act per Quran like pornography, fornication , adultery or homosexual act, bestiality, incest and other perversions. 2- Any major sin for which Sharia has prescribed a Hadd (specific punishment ). Examples are : D isbelieving in God after having believed in Him Killing an innocent soul, D ealing with Riba (usury, interest), T reating one’s parents harshly, A dultery , F ornication , G iving false testimonies, etc

4. Some verses of Quran where word Fahisha is used “Do not marry the women who were previously married to your fathers-existing marriages are exempted, for it is a gross offense < fahisha >, and an abominable act.” (4/22 ) “ Lot said to his people, “You commit such an abomination < fahisha >; no one in the world has done it before!” (7/80) “ You shall not commit adultery; it is a gross sin < fahisha >, and an evil behavior.” (17/32) So , the “obvious’ sins are 1)Pornography 2) Adultery, 3) Homosexuality, 4) Incest.

5. A believer never curses or uses indecent language

6. Muslims must guard their tongue against indecent talk

7. Worst people before Allah The Prophet ( SAW) said: “ O ‘Aisha! Have you ever seen me speaking a bad and dirty language? T he worst people in Allah’s sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people desert or leave in order to save themselves from their dirty language or from their transgression.” ( Bukhari) The Prophet ( SAW) said: “The inmates of Hell are of five types….” And among them he mentioned “…the miser, the liar and those who are in the habit of abusing people and using obscene and foul language.” (Muslim)

8. Prophet (SAW) never used bad words or obscene speech Abdullah bin ‘ Amr (RA) said : وَلَمْ يَكُنْ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَاحِشًا وَلَا مُتَفَحِّشًا “The Prophet ( SAW) never used bad language neither a ‘ Fahish nor a Mutafahish . He used to say ‘The best amongst you are those who have the best manners and character.’ ( Bukhaari ) Anas bin Malik (RA) said: لَمْ يَكُنْ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ سَبَّابًا وَلَا فَحَّاشًا وَلَا لَعَّانًا كَانَ يَقُولُ لِأَحَدِنَا عِنْدَ الْمَعْتِبَةِ مَا لَهُ تَرِبَ جَبِينُهُ “The Prophet ( SAW) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)…” ( Bukhari)

9. Ali (RA) about obscene utterance One who uses obscene language is reviled. ـ مَنْ سافَهَ شُتِمَ. . One whose obscenity increases is a vile. ـ مَنْ كَثُرَسَفَهُهُ اُسْتُرْذِلَ. . An honorable one never uses obscene language, ـ ما أفْحَشَ كَريمٌ قَطُّ. . No one is more shameless than one who utters obscenities. ـ لاأوْقَحَ مِنْ بَذِىّ. . Indeed obscene language and vulgarities are not from the morals of Islam. ـ إنَّ الْفُحْشَ والتَّفَحُّشَ لَيْسا مِنْ خَلائِقِ الإسْلامِ.

10. Pornography Pornography is defined in the English language as an indecent form of art or literature. Islam also views it as indecent and terms it as Fahisha in the Quran.   "Say: The things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are: shameful deeds whether open or secret sins and trespasses against truth or reason ( 7:33 )

11. TV, Movies, Internet, Magazines could be sources of porn One of the most pervasive tools of pornography is the television. Shows like "Dawson's Creek" and "Baywatch" have no other purpose except to display blatant degrees of nakedness and indecent scenes of intimacy . Movies also succeed in conveying lewd imagery by almost always including a love/lust story in the story line A dvertisements that contain pictures of other women modeling bras and underwear.

12. Zina or adultery (Sex outside nikah) and those who not invoke with Allah other deity, and not kill the soul Allah forbidden. Allah only by right and not commit  Zina (Sex outside marriage)  and who does that will meet a penalty .(25:68) and do not go near  the adultery . Verily, that is  obscene   and an evil way . (17:32)

13. When someone commits Zina, Iman or faith leaves him/her A zani (man or a woman, does not remain a believer then Zina is committed. (Agreed) Some scholars say, if he/she dies without repentance, this death will be in a state of disbelief or Kufr. Iman (faith) is like a shirt. Allah (SWT) gives it whom He wills. When a person commits Zina, This shirt is removed from him. If he repents, it is returned back to him . ( Baihaqi )

14. Chastisement for Zina in this world and on the day of Judgment Indeed faces of zani (fornicating women/men) shall be burnt in Hellfire. (Tabarani) My Ummah shall have goodness as long as they do not have children out of wedlock. When children out of wedlock are increased , then Allah (SWT) shall send severe chastisement . (Ahmad)

15. When Fawahish appear in people, they bring epidemics of new deadly diseases O’ migrant Muslims! (I warn you of ) five ( fawahish ) habits that if you get involved and I seek protection of Allah that you do so. Whenever these fawahish are done openly in people, then plague and other diseases spread which were not there amongst previous people.

16. Dua of a Zani (fornicator) is not accepted

17. Translation Doors of heaven are opened at midnight. An announcer (from Allah) calls,” Is there someone making dua so it could be accepted? Is there someone asking for something that it may be granted? Is there someone suffering with affliction calling for relief so it could be removed from him/her? There is no Muslim who makes dua but his dua is accepted except that of a Zani or unjust tax collector. ( Targhib and Tarhib )

18. Prophet (SAW) described stages of Zina

19. Zina or adultery(Sex outside marriage) and its various stages  "Allah has written the very portion of Zina which a man will indulge in. There will be no escape from it . The Zina of the eye is the (lustful) look , Zina of the ears is the listening (to voluptuous songs or talk), Zina of the tongue is (the licentious) speech , Zina of the hand is the (lustful) grip, Zina of the feet is the walking (to the place where he intends to commit Zina), the heart yearns and desires and the private parts approve all that or disapprove it" . [Bukhari  and Muslim ].

20. Bible   shares Islamic views on  Zin a   ( Sexual Relations outside Marriage ) You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to loose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to loose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. Matthew 5:27-30

21. Gossip of lewdness or adultery should not become open conversation If any of your women commit an act of shamelessness, call four witnesses from among you,  then, if they testify to their guilt, keep the women at home until death comes to them or until God shows them another way . ( Nisa , 4:15) Wisdoms of the law is that Allah does not want these sort of cases to become public conversation These are the cover of many soft sell magazines, who cheated on who?, who did this with who ? etc.  It should never become open conversation for the Muslim One person accusing a woman is out of the question. 

22. Spreading Fahisha amongst believers is major sin Surely , those who love to see immorality (Arabic: fahishatu ) spread among the believers, shall be punished in this world and in the life to come. For, God knows and you do not know. (24:19) Now the ' fahisha ' here refers to slander or obscene or transgressed speech by those amongst the believers that spread slander.

23.  Qur’an condemns homosexuality as major sin and Fahisha Musrifoon (going beyond limits)  (7:81 ) 80 -We also (sent) Lut: he said to his people: "Do ye commit lewdness such as no people in creation (ever) committed before you? 1049 81- "For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women: ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds ."

24.  Qur’an condemns homosexuality as transgression against Allah Qaumun Aadoon ( transgressing bounds) ( 26:166) "Of all the creatures in the world will ye approach males. "And leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? Nay ye are a people transgressing (all limits)!"

25. Prophet LUT (LOT) warned sodomites Qaumul Mufsideen   (mischievous people) (29:30)

26. Translation, Quran: 29:30 And (remember) LUT (Lot) ; behold he said to his people: "Ye do commit lewdness such as no people in Creation (ever) committed before you. "Do ye indeed approach men and cut off the highway? And practice wickedness (even) in your councils?" But his people gave no answer but this: they said: "Bring us the Wrath of Allah if you tell the truth. "He said: "O my Lord! Help Thou me against people who do mischief!"

27. Sodomites were destroyed by Allah for they were aggressors in sins Zalimeen ( evildoers ) (29:31 ) When Our Messengers came to Abraham with the good news they said: "We are indeed going to destroy the people of this township: for truly they are (addicted to) crime."

28. Quran condemns homosexuality as the most shameful act “And [remember] LUT, when he said unto his people: ‘Do you commit abominations such as none in all the world has ever done before you?’” (Al- A’raf 7:80) The Qur’anic word is  al- fahisha , which means lewdness, shameful act, indecency. Fornication and adultery ( zina ) are also mentioned as examples of  fahisha  in the Qur’an. ( Isra 17:32). But here the definite article  al  is added to show the even more serious nature of this act. Homosexual act is not only   fahisha  but  al- fahisha . It is not just a shameful act but T he shameful act , the lewdness, the abomination.

29. Quran calls homosexuality abominable perversion started by sodomites Qur’an uses the word  min  in addition to  ahadin . It means no one ever did this act among all the creatures . This is an outright rejection of the claim that this tendency is an inborn and ingrained part of nature for which no person should be held accountable. Prophet Loot/LOT accused them of having made this choice. And the Sodomites did not say that they were helpless because it was a call of nature. Rather they said, “You know very well what we  want .” ( Hood , 11:79). They threatened Prophet Lut of expulsion from their city for objecting to their practices if he did not desist from criticizing their way of life. (Al- Shu’ra 26:167). They were the inventors of this perversion and fully committed to use of violence to defend it.

30. Other crimes of the Sodomites Sodomites committed other crimes as well: like highway robbery and performing shameful acts in public as mentioned in one place in the Qur’an ( Ankabut 29:29). Their biggest crime was homosexuality , which is mentioned repeatedly. And then there was defiance . When Prophet Lut warned them about divine retribution, they challenged him to bring it on. ( Ankabut 29:29 ). Their invasion of the house of Prophet Lut for the explicit purpose of molesting the angels who appeared in the guise of beautiful young men was thus just the last nail in their coffin.

31. Punishment for sodomites from God Almighty Allah for their crimes Cities of Sodom & Gomorra are now submerged under the Dead Sea . This was a very prosperous and rich fertile land. Then the punishment came in the form of a huge earthquake and rain of brimstones and fires that turned their world upside down.   The area then became the lowest point on the face of the earth, being about 1300 feet below sea level . Its harsh environment permits neither fish or other sea animals nor aquatic plants. It was as the Qur’an said:  “ And verily of that We have left a clear sign for people who have sense .” ( Ankabut 29:35).

32. Distortion of Quranic account and its reply Some people claim that their (Sodomites) crime was rape not homosexuality . Others have surmised that the problem was that they were targeting young children , otherwise it would be fine. The Qur’an does not leave the slightest possibility of such interpretation. It says: “Verily, with lust you approach men instead of women.” (Al- A’raf 7:81). It is  rijal   (men) not  atfal  (children).

33. Bible calls homosexuality  “degrading,” “unnatural,” “indecent ,” “ improper” Leviticus 18:22 , “You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination. ” Leviticus 20:13 , “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood guiltiness is upon them .” 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 , “Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators , nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals , nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”

34. Romans 1:26-28 “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural , and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.  And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind , to do those things which are not proper .” For more on this topic, I encourage you to read CARM’s excellent article entitled, “ What does the Bible say about homosexuality .”

35.   Allah has forbidden all   Fawahish Come not near to shameful deeds whether open or secret.. ( 6:151 ) Say : The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: shameful deeds whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason ( 7:33 )

36. Disbelievers commit Sins and claim that Allah commanded Them to do so And when they commit a  Fahisha  (evil deed), they say: “We found our fathers doing it, and Allah has commanded it on us”. Say: “Nay, Allah never commands  Fahisha . Do you say of Allah what you know not ? (7:28) Mujahid said, “ The idolaters used to go around the House (Ka'ba) in Tawaf while naked , saying, `We perform Tawaf as our mothers gave birth to us.’

37. Shaytan commands Fahisha Surah Baqarah , Ayah 268 “Amara” starts from suggesting and it moves on to command. The more control Shaytan has will determine whether he can command you or not . Shaytan takes full control of some people . They are addicted to Zina and pornography . They cannot stop themselves . God promises you His forgiveness and His abundance : God is limitless and all knowing,

38. Surah Baqarah ayah 168 and ayah 169 O ye people! eat of what is on earth lawful and good; and do not follow the footsteps of the evil one for he is to you an avowed enemy. 169 For he commands you what is evil and shameful and that ye should say of Allah that of which ye have no knowledge . (2:168.169) There are religions in the world, whose spiritual traditions include dancing (men and women together) and alcohol. We learn here that these kinds of things are inspired by shaytan . You consume haram and it will immediately make you more shameless, Y ou will start watching more filthy stuff, you will start going out to movies more, you will start going to parties more.

39. Salah protects from Fahsha Al- Ankaboot ayah 45 Read and follow what has been revealed to you from the book and establish prayer,  no doubt about it, it is in fact prayer that prevents you from all forms of shamelessness and evil behavior. (26:45) you might say: I have been praying five times a day but i still have a boyfriend or a girlfriend . I am still addicted to filthy stuff online but i still pray five times Something is wrong with your prayer , if you are still up to this stuff. Something is missing because you are not really praying.

40. Righteous ( Mohsin ) turn to Allah in repentence when a wrong is done And those who having done something to be ashamed of or wronged their own souls earnestly bring Allah to mind and ask for forgiveness for their sins and who can forgive sins except Allah ? And are never obstinate in persisting knowingly in (the wrong) they have done . (Ale-Imran,3:135)

41. Islam’s solution to the problem of Fawahish

42. 1-Satisfaction of sexual desire in Nikah or Marriage Marry those among you who are single or the virtuous ones among your slaves male or female: if they are in poverty Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasses all and He knows all things. (24:32) ‘ A person who possesses the means to marry and does not marry then he is not from amongst us (i.e. the believers ).’ (Hadith) ‘Do not delay in three things ; 1) The offering of the obligatory prayer. 2) The offering of the funeral prayer when the deceased’s body is present . 3) The marriage of a woman when her match is found ’ (Hadith)

43. 2-Prohibition of sexual perversions and do not go near the adultery. Verily, that is obscene and an evil way. (17:32 ) and those who not invoke with Allah other deity, and not kill the soul Allah forbidden. Allah only by right and not commit Zina (Sex outside marriage) and who does that will meet a penalty .(25:68)

44. Prohibition of Zina Abd -Allah ibn Masood (RA) said: I asked the Messenger of Allah  (SAW) , Which sin is worst in the sight of Allah? He   (SAW) said ,  “To make any rival to Allah, when He has created you”.   I asked, Then what? He   (SAW) said ,  “To kill your child for fear that he will eat with you”.   I asked, Then what? He   (SAW) said ,  “To commit Zina with the wife of your neighbor”. (Sahih Al-Bukhari) Prophet (SAW) said,"Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third."   (Tirmidhi)  

45. 3-Islamic education and training of individuals

46. A-Develop Taqwah of Allah O ye who believe! Fear Allah and let every soul look to what (provision) he has sent forth for the morrow. Yea fear Allah: for Allah is well-acquainted with (all) that ye do. ( Hashr , 59:18) O ye who believe! fear Allah as He should be feared and die not except in a state of Islam (Al Imran,3:102 )

47. B-S ense of accountability in Akhirah Every soul shall have a taste of death: in the end to Us shall ye be brought back ( Ankaboot , 29:57) On that Day will men proceed in companies sorted out to be shown the Deeds that they (had done). Then shall anyone who has done an atom's weight of good see it! And anyone who has done an atom's weight of evil shall see it . ( Zilzal , 99:6,7,8)

48. C-Lowering the gaze

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50. Reward of lowering gaze If a Muslim happens to (unintentionally) have glanced upon (strange) woman and he lowers his gaze, then Allah (SWT) shall grant him the (excellent) Ibadah (worship) in which he shall taste the sweetness in his heart. ( His worship will be most excellent)

51. Unrestricted Lustful Glances ان النظرة سھم من سھام ابلیس مسموم من تر کھا مخافتی ابدلتہ ایمانا یجد حلاوتہ فی قلبہ Prophet (SAW) said, “ Glance (Lustful) is a poisoned arrow of Shaytan. Whoever lowers his gaze for Allah, He will bestow upon him a refreshing sweetness which he will find in his heart on the day that he meets Him.” (Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud in Tabarani and Kanzul-Ummaal ; Vol. 5, pg. 228), Shaytan enters with a glance He makes seen thing more beautiful than it is He transforms it into idol which heart adores He lights the fire of desire He fuels it with wood of sinful actions

52. Istizan or seeking permission before entering someone’s house When you go to visit someone and you have asked permission three times ( to enter the house) and you are not given permission, then turn away. O’ Those who believe! Do not enter other people’s houses till you have sought permission and sent Salaam upon the family. This is better for you if you remember. (Noor, 27)

53. D-Significance of Haya (modesty) Indeed the Haya (modesty) and Iman (faith) are connected together. If one is removed then the other is removed. ( Hakim, Targheeba ) Haya (modesty) is from Iman (faith) and Iman will (usher) to Jannah. Obscenity is part of harshness (of character) which will (usher) to Hellfire. (Tirmidhi)

54. Haya is opposite of Fahsha  Ibn Masood ( ra ) said that the Prophet ( saw) said:  " Among that which reached the people from the words of the earlier prophet- hood: If you feel no shame, then do whatever you wish." (Bukhari) 

55. Statements reported from Ali (RA) on Haya Modesty is beautiful. ـ اَلْحَياءُ جَميلٌ. . Modesty is preventive. ـ اَلْحَياءُ مَحْرَمَةٌ. . Modesty is the key to (every) good. ـ اَلْحَياءُ مِفْتاحُ (كُلِّ) الْخَيْـرِ. . Modesty is the lowering of one’s gaze ـ اَلْحَياءُ غَضُّ الطَّرْفِ. . Modesty is the perfection of honor ـ اَلْحَياءُ تَمامُ الْكَرَمِ. . Modesty is the partner of chastity ـ اَلْحَياءُ قَرِينُ الْعَفافِ. . Modesty is a beautiful quality ـ اَلْحَياءُ خُلْقٌ جَمِيلٌ. . Modesty is a pleasing characteristic ـ اَلْحَياءُ خُلْقٌ مَرْضِيٌّ. ( Ghurar -al- hikam - wa - durar -al- kalim ,Exalted-aphorisms-and-pearls of speech )

56. E-Allah commands proper loose dress for Muslim women (&Men) (Noor, 24:31) And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to [relatives ]…..”

57. Proper dress for men and women Prophet (SAW) said,” Cover your Satar ( part of body required to be covered properly) except your spouse or the from the ones your right hand possess. “ I asked, “ O’ Prophet of Allah! What about when the person is alone?” He said, “ Allah (SWT) has more right that you should have haya (modesty) from Him.” ( Mishkat , Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood)

58. Proper dress for men and women and no one to look at someone’s Satar Prophet (SAW) said,” No man should look at the Satar of another man and no woman should look at the satar of another woman. No man should sleep under one covering with another man and no woman should sleep under one covering with another woman.

59. The Prophet (SAW) said,” Refrain from nudity. Indeed there are those (angels) with you who do not leave you except when you use toilet or when an individual has intimacy with his spouse. So, have haya (modesty) near them and honor them. (Tirmidhi) Nudity is prohibited in Islam Nudity is prohibited in Islam

60. F -Prohibition of being alone with non-mahram women. Prophet (SAW) said,” When a man meets a (strange) woman alone, then the third with them is Shaitan (to seduce them).” ( Mishkat , Tirmidhi) Prophet (SAW) said, “ Do not go (to meet) women (when their husbands or other mahrams are not with them). Indeed the Shaytan runs (close to you to seduce you) like blood running in veins. (Tirmidhi)

61. 4- Islamic education and training of the civil society Ye are the best of peoples evolved for mankind enjoining what is right forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah. Ale Imran,3:110 Let there arise out of you a band of people inviting to all that is good enjoining what is right and forbid what is evil and they will attain felicity. Ale Imran,3:104

62. Who is responsible to provide education ? Individuals : Prophet (SAW) said,” Each one of you is a leader and is responsible for those he leads” Organizations : Must engage in a systematic way of enjoining good and forbidding evil. Society : Prophet (SAW) said that on the day of Judgment a neighbor will bring his case against his neighbor because he did not stop him from evil and did not tell him right from wrong. Government: Officials are responsible to remove evils in the society by enforcing proper laws.

63. 5- ‘ Hudood ’ or the Islamic penal system (Authorized only to the Government) Islamic legal injunctions are aimed at achieving human welfare Following universal principles are to be secured for human welfare: 1. The preservation of life. 2.    The preservation of religion. 3.    The preservation of reason. 4.    The preservation of lineage. 5.    The preservation of property.

64.   Crimes for which Islamic Law has prescribed fixed punishments  1.    Transgression against life (murder or assault). 2.    Transgression against property (theft). 3.    Transgression against lineage (fornication and false accusations of adultery). 4.    Transgression against reason (using intoxicants). 5.    Transgression against religion (apostasy). 6.    Transgression against all of these universal needs (highway robbery ).

65. The Objectives of the Islamic Penal System The First Objective :  Islam seeks to protect society from the dangers of crime “There is (preservation of) life for you in retribution, O people of understanding, that you may become pious.” (Quran 2:179 The Second Objective :  Islam seeks to reform the criminal . “It they both repent and mend their ways, then leave them alone.  Verily, God is the Accepter of repentance, the Merciful.” (Quran 4:16) The Third Objective :  The punishment is a recompense for the crime .

66. Ways of protecting our children against Fahisha Learning and practicing of Deen in everyday life for self and children is of paramount importance Limit and monitor screen time (TV , computer)- Use filters to block indecent contents. Use of internet be allowed with the parents presence. Mobile phones are instrumental in young kids accessing porn and such like and proceeding to try out what they've seen on class mates phone Watch their friendship circles carefully . Encourage the non-materialistic ones and try to avoid the ones who always want to be hip/cool or talk in rubbish ways ( i.e slang/swearing )

67. Protective steps against Fahsha Teach them that righteousness is the measure of people - not wealth, beauty, fashion labels, cars, houses, make-up, friends - and reflect this in your own actions. Tell them only that which pleases Allah has real worth in this life and the next . Take an interest in their affairs such that they tell you what is going on with them at school, with their friends etc . Tackle controversial subjects as early as possible with them - the key things that we do differently or that is unacceptable and WHY. 7-10 years is fine to discuss why such and such behavior is wrong.

68. Protective steps for public schools Children need to know that they will be told negative things about Islam and Muslims at school. They need to know that newspapers and TV news spread negative info about Muslims. P arents must be vigilant and put things into context at home . WITHDRAW FROM SEX AND RELATIONSHIP EDUCATION from age 5 all the way through to the end of secondary school. These lessons are part of the PHSE lessons (personal, health and social education) where a lot of brainwashing and "how to think" agendas go on. PHSE lessons are DANGEROUS .   Spin will be put on it that it is actually a grey area where PERSONAL CHOICE comes into it, RESPECT FOR DIFFERENT VIEWPOINTS and NOT JUDGING OTHERS LIFESTYLES (code for accepting all sorts of Fahisha). T hese lessons end up teaching a child that EVERYTHING is relative , and subject to reasoning or get-out clauses and personal whims, that nothing - no values, no viewpoints are absolute or unquestionable

69. Result of false propaganda They are told this is FREE-THINKING, CRITICAL-THINKING, PROGRESSIVE, UNBIASED, CIVILISED and GOOD when it fact it is the opposite – I t just makes them slaves to their “Nafs” and putty in the hands of those with some power in this world.  Parents have to educate them at home about Islamic teachings and clarify any confusions in their minds.

70. Role of parents Nurture them so they are clear that YOU i.e. their own parents are the only ones really that actually care about them They must have the courage and STRENGTH to stand up for Islam with proper knowledge and wisdom. Parents must be clued into Islam but also the wider world , including current affairs but especially  the rules , ways, methods wider society is brainwashing

71. Role of parents P arents must COUNTERACT these misconceptions and controversies in a PRE-EMPTIVE way so that our children's worldview is in line with Islam as much as possible from an extremely young age P arents should discuss things in a sensible straightforward way with the reasons for certain things and emphasizing the benefits of it, recalling examples from the Prophet (saw), history, current times To resist peer-pressure - they are not here to please or follow there friends. They must be clear of the notion that their friends are the fountain of knowledge, wisdom or coolness. We hear so much that parents are being held ransom by their kids for the latest branded items. Parents have to be discrete in this matter.