Anger Management Week 1 PPT by Gary Edwards.pptx

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1. W E L C O M E Bonjour Aanii

2. Anger Management DISCOVERING A MORE POWERFUL YOU Design By Gary Edwards Brought to you by:

3. Welcome to the   Anger Management  Workshop Simply put, anger management is the process of controlling anger, before this anger controls you. Anger can be an incredibly damaging force, costing people their jobs, personal relationships, and even their lives when it gets out of hand. However, since everyone experiences anger, it is important to have constructive approaches to manage it effectively.  This course will help teach participants healthy ways to express their anger, identify anger triggers, as well as techniques to de-escalate an angry individual. It is not always possible to eliminate the things that enrage you. What is possible however, is learning how to gain control and manage your anger effectively

4. Anger Management Lesson One/ Week One 1. Rules for the Group. It’s for everyone’s safety. 2. What is Anger. 3. Anger Assessment – Quiz Time. 5. Payoffs and Consequences of Anger. 6. Anger and Substance Abuse. 7. Why People Get Angry. 8. Expressed and unexpressed Anger. 9. Triggers. 10. Cues. 4. Negative Effects of Anger. 11. Strategies for Calming.

5. Group Guidelines 1. Group Safety - No violence or threats toward staff and other group members is allowed. 2. Confidentiality. What is said in group, stays in group. 3. Use “I" messages instead of “you" messages. 4. Don't give advice unless it is requested. 5. You do not have to talk if you prefer not to. 6. Try to avoid covering your pain with humor. 7. If you are feeling stressed or triggered, its okay to leave the group for 5 or 10 minutes or until you can calm down. You are welcome back, provided you can tolerate continued discussions in the group.

6. Let’s get Started

7. How Experts Define Anger Without Anger, our species would not exist; Anger is an imperative part of our survival Experts describe Anger as a primary, natural emotion which has evolved as a way of surviving and protecting us all from what is considered wrong-doing. If we don’t control our anger, anger will control us.

8. Answer the following questions as accurately and completely as possible. Write down the number beside your best answer for each question. Remember be honest with yourself 1). How Often do you get Angry? Daily Many Times, a day A few Times a Month Several Times a Week Very Rarely 4 5 2 3 1 Choose Only One That Applies Give Yourself a Score of:

9. 2). What Happens When you get Angry? Feel Tense Withdrawal Exercise Feel Sick Overeat Distract Self Tell Someone Raise my Voice Hit Someone or Something Become Cynical or Sarcastic Take a Time out 4 5 2 3 1 1 1 4 5 4 1 Give Yourself a Score CIRCLE ALL THAT APPLY AND THEN ADD UP THE NUMBERS I TEND TO : L. Think About Getting Even M. Avoid the Issue N. Make Light of Issue or Joke O. Pray P. Other Q. Go Out Drinking R. Argue S. Talk it Over T. Swear U. Feel Depressed 1 3 3 3 5 4 1 4 4 Give Yourself a Score Only if negative I TEND TO :

10. Total Your Scores From Questions 1 and 2 Together IF YOU SCORED: 1 - 10 points You Have a Little Issues with your Anger IF YOU SCORED: 11 - 19 points You Have Moderate Issues with Anger IF YOU SCORED: IN Category 3: 20 points or higher = You could have Serious Issues with Your Anger If either 1 or 2 includes trouble with the law, injuries to self or others, drinking, depression, anger outbursts, Experiencing anger several times a day Then you have a serious issue with Your Anger. You are in (Category 3).

11. “I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.” Jackie Robinson Quote of the Day

12. Out-of-Control Anger Hurts Your Physical Health Heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, Weakened immune system, insomnia. Out-of-Control Anger Hurts Your Mental Health Clouded thinking, difficulty concentrating, Chronic anger is linked to depression Out-of-Control Anger Hurts Your Career Alienation from colleagues, supervisors or clients, erodes respect, get a bad reputation Out-of-Control Anger Hurts Your Relationships With Others Hard for others to trust you, hard for others to speak honestly to you, Hard to feel comfortable around you, Explosive anger is especially damaging to children Negative effects Of Out of control anger

13. The Problem of Anger in Society 13% of all marriages involve some form of violence and/or abuse Every 25 seconds someone is a victim of a violent crime More than 3 million reports are made annually involving up to 6 million children Adolescents ( 12% of the population) account for 39% of all violent crime { Adolescence is the phase of life between childhood and adulthood, from ages  10 to 19 .}

14. What Canadians say about their anger 23% of Canadian admit they openly express their Anger 39 % say they hold it in or hide their Anger 23 % say they walk away from the situation 23 % say they confess to having hit someone in Anger 17 % admit that they have destroyed the property of someone who has made them Angry

15. The Problem of Anger: Understanding Some Definitions In the most general sense, Anger is a feeling or emotion that ranges from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger is a natural response to those situations where we feel threatened, or believe harm will come to us, or unnecessarily wronged us. We may also become angry when we feel another person, like a child is being wronged, threatened or harmed. Anger can be a positive emotion, like a moral response to an injustice or threat. In addition, anger may be the result from frustration when our needs, desires, and goals are not being met. People often confuse anger with aggression. Aggression is behaviour that can include verbal abuse, threats, or violent acts. Is intended to cause harm to another person or damage property. Therefore, a person can become angry without acting aggressively . A term related to anger and aggression is hostility. Hostility is a set of attitudes and judgments that motivate aggressive behaviours. So - Anger is an emotion and aggression is a behaviour, and - hostility is a negative attitude

16. Payoffs & Consequences One payoff for anger is being able to manipulate and control others through aggressive and intimidating behaviours. Others may comply with someone’s demands because they fear verbal threats or violence. In the long term, these initial payoffs lead to negative consequences that far outweigh the short-term gains. When you lose your temper and act aggressively, you may feel better after, but everyone else will feel worse. For example: Consider a father who persuades his children to comply with his demands by using an angry tone of voice and threatening gestures. These behaviours imply to the children, that they will receive physical harm if they are not obedient. The immediate payoff for the father is that the children obey his commands. Sadly - The long-term consequence is the children learn to fear, possibly dislike, and even become emotionally detached from their father. As the Children grow older, they may avoid contact with their father or even refuse to see him altogether.

17. Anger and substance use disorders often co-occur, increasing the risk for negative consequences such as physical aggression, self-harm, distressed relationships, loss of a job, or even criminal justice involvement. Anger and Substance Use Disorders According to a 2014 analysis, nearly half of people who committed homicides were under the influence of alcohol and 37 percent were intoxicated (Kuhns, Exum, Clodfelter, & Bottia, 2014). Anger, violence, and associated traumatic stress can often correlate with the initiation of drug and alcohol use and can be a consequence of substance use

18. Why People get Angry Disrespect Injustice Threats Fear Helplessness Control ARE THERE MORE REASONS?

19. With everyone, Anger is a secondary emotion that you display above the surface Below the surface Is the true emotion that you are feeling

20. ARE YOU TOO ANGRY ? There are psychological tests that measure the intensity of angry feelings, how prone to anger you are, and how well you handle it. But chances are good that if you do have a problem with anger, you already know it. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal with this emotion.

21. E xpressed Anger People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are: Expressing, Suppressing, and Calming . Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive, non-aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you must learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. Anger can be Suppressed , and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more a constructive behaviour. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward on yourself. Anger that is turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, and / or even depression.

22. Unexpressed Anger Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behaviour (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why ) People who are hostile and/or constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. No surprise that they are likely to have many unsuccessful relationships. Finally, you can  Calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behaviour, but also controlling your internal responses, like your “Negative Self-Talk”, and taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and letting the feelings subside. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your E motional F eelings and the Physiological A rousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you; you can’t change them, but you can learn to control your own reactions to them. Anger Management

23. Triggers Aversive Bodily States 2. Hangovers or Withdrawal Symptoms 3. Hormonal Variations : PMS 4. Diet : “a Sweet Tooth does not translate into a sweet demeanor."

24. 4 C ues to Anger Here is a brief look at them now: Cues (or thoughts) serve as warning signs that your anger is continuing to escalate. 1). Physical Cues: Involve the way our bodies respond when we become angry. For example, our heart rates may increase, we may feel tightness in our chests, or we may feel hot and flushed. These physical cues can also warn us that our anger is escalating out of control Can you identify some physical cues that you have experienced when you have become angry? Cues can be broken down into four categories: Physical, Behavioural, Emotional , and Cognitive Cues (or thoughts).

25. Behavioural and emotional CUES to anger 2. Behavioural Cues: Behavioural cues involve the behaviours we display when we get angry. For example, we may clench our fists, pace back and forth, slam a door, or raise our voices. These Behavioural responses are the second cue of our anger. What Behavioural cues have you experienced when you have become angry? 3. Emotional Cues: I nvolve other feelings that may occur along with our anger. For example, we may become angry when we feel abandoned, afraid, discounted, disrespected, guilty, humiliated, impatient, insecure, jealous, or rejected. These kinds of feelings are the core or primary feelings that underlie our anger. Can you identify some primary feelings that you have experienced during an episode of anger?

26. Cognitive CUES to anger 4. Cognitive Cues: refer to the thoughts that occur in response to the anger-related event. For example, we may interpret a friend’s comments as criticism, or we may interpret the actions of others as demeaning, humiliating, or controlling. Some people call these thoughts “Negative Self-talk”, which is usually very critical and hostile in tone and content. It reflects our beliefs about the way the world should be, beliefs about people, places, and things. Fantasies and Images: Are other types of cognitive cues that can indicate an escalation. For example, we might fantasize about seeking revenge on a perceived enemy or imagine or visualize our spouse having an affair. When we have these fantasies and images, our anger can escalate even more rapidly. Can you think of other examples of cognitive or thought cues?

27. Strategies for Controlling anger In addition to becoming aware of anger, there are strategies that can be used to stop the escalation of anger before you experience negative consequences. An effective set of strategies for controlling anger should include immediate, interpersonal, and preventive strategies. - --- They are also called tools. Immediate strategies include taking a timeout, deep-breathing exercises, and thought stopping. Interpersonal strategies include strengthening assertive communication and problem solving. Preventive strategies include developing an exercise program and changing your maladaptive beliefs.

28. Strategies for Controlling anger One example of an anger management strategy you can use right now is the timeout. A timeout involves leaving a situation if you feel your anger is escalating out of control. For example, you may be a passenger on a crowded bus and become angry because you perceive that people are deliberately bumping into you. In this situation, you can simply get off the bus and wait for a less crowded bus. It doesn’t make you a victim, but proactive for your own behaviours. The informal use of a timeout may involve stopping yourself from engaging in a difficult conversation or that you leave the room for a short period of time, if you feel that you need to do so.

29. Breaking the Anger Habit Becoming Aware of Anger . To change the anger habit, It’s important to be aware of events, situations and triggers that can result in anger. Picture being in line at the supermarket and becoming impatient because the lines are too long. In this case, perhaps your anger is triggered by having your time wasted. As your anger escalates, you may become involved in a heated exchange with the clerk or another customer, the store manager may respond by having a security officer remove you from the store. The Negative Consequences that result from this event are not getting the groceries that you wanted and the embarrassment and humiliation you suffer from being removed from the store. Next week’s session, we will introduce the anger meter and the anger awareness record, tools that will help you gain deeper awareness of your anger by helping you track what led to the anger and the consequences of that anger episodes.

30. CALMING SKILLS

31. The Dalai Lama said, “Violence is old-fashioned. Anger doesn’t get you anywhere. If you can calm your mind and be patient, you will be a wonderful example to those around you.”