Men are used to being in control and being the one in control in
relationships. And it's not bad or good, it's just the dynamics that
sometimes happen in a relationship.
Now, if you're the one in control, you probably won't need any more
help in this area. Instead, you should probably let him take the reins
once in a while. But if you're the one submissive and curious to let go
of your dominance, you'll need some help.
I mean you can wear leather if you want.
#1 Don't force him. If your boyfriend tells you he'd like you to
be dominant, but you hesitate to give it a try, just relax. You do not
need to do this. If you feel compelled to do it, and have no actual desire
to do so, don't do it. If you're scared, well, that's a different story.
#2 I know everything is considered. If it's your first time
to dominate, it's something new. Of course, you will be afraid. But, you
should know that this is all on your mind. Control, sure, is physical,
but it's more mental. You can develop confidence as you become more
comfortable and relaxed in your posture.
#3 Make sure you establish boundaries. Before getting into
this, you and your partner should sit down and discuss
boundaries. What he wants to do with it, what he doesn't, what you
want to do and what you don't want to do. You both need to be on an
equal footing. Also, you should come up with a safe word.
#4 Get dominant in bed. You can try to control other aspects
of your life. However, the easiest way to control a man without
making him feel weak is in bed. Also, this could be an area where he
would be open about letting you take control.
#5 Be bossy. If you want to be in control, you will have to be
bossy. Don't ask him how he feels or if he likes him, he'll tell you. Your
business is not to meet his needs, but to meet your own. You need to
keep this in mind, it's all about you.