Issues Confronting Filipino Family Val ed 3

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1. Issues confronting the Filipino Family 1. Change in Gender Role - Industrialization has made the roles of parents altered and extremely modified. Manila, which is a highly urbanized in setting with high unemployment realities, leaves the parents no choice in many cases but to change role. - Filipina mothers found themselves working, assuming the role of a provider while husband stays home to care for the children and do household chores. - Though the abilities of both genders to perform well on their respective exchanged role is not underestimated still problems arises due mainly to the traditional mentality of the Filipino. This problem leads to constant argument or dispute between husband and wife to detriment of the children.

2. Issues confronting the Filipino Family 2. Child Rearing Dilemma - There are a lot of bills to be settled, not including the tuition and other experiences to be incurred by the children. This condition leads the parent to take decision, to be employed locally or even abroad. -The large number of wives entering the labor force in recent years is also having a profound in fact on family roles, wives are now expected to joggle both career and family; at the same time as traditional expectations of male and female roles continue to dominate many aspects of the family life. Example: If a child becomes ill, the wife is expected to take charge, in spite of work commitment. The wife takes the role.

3. Issues confronting the Filipino Family 3. Sexual Relationship - This issue is again brought about by the “Filipino male MACHO image” and a question of fidelity. Both in the early and contemporary Filipino society categorial it is considered ordinary for a Filipino male to keep a “querida” or other woman.

4. Issues confronting the Filipino Family 4. Battered and Marital Rape - The Philippine statistics of battered women continuously gets high, especially in urban areas, through sociologists believe that in rural area, the trend is the same, but because of the timid character of Filipina wives in the remote rural areas, cases are rarely reported. - Common kind of battering are; slapping, pushing, kicking, biting, beating, and so on, even attacking with a knife or even a gun. - Females are different from male physically, and in many cases such as like this, it is the female who is in a losing side. Even though wife may throw a coffee pot first, it is always the husband who delivers the last-blow.

5. Issues confronting the Filipino Family Generally, as reported by Geles , 1980, battering is found among: A. Families with low-income B. Blue-collar job C. People under thirty D. Families in which the husband is unemployed E. Families having in large urban area F. Minority ethnic groups G. Individuals who have no religious affiliation H. People with low education

6. Issues confronting the Filipino Family 5. Incest - Sexual relations between relatives such as brothers, sisters, parents and children are now observed among Filipino families in rare cases of incest, truly it can’t be denied that can be exist. ( Magdangal , 2003) - This phenomenon most likely occur on remote rural areas and on highly urbanized area such as Manila, where the mother is usually uncles, first cousins, fathers, brothers and step dads. Also relatives such as stepbrothers and step granddad. No clear report on mother and sons.

7. OTHER ISSUES 1. Homosexual Marriages - There is pending bill in the Philippine Senate dealing with homosexual union, with the union; the couple may adopt a child that leads to the definition of family. - Strong opposition is paused by the Catholic Church since according to the influential Catholic Bishop Conference of the Philippines (CBCP); a family is composed of the father, mother and a child. Modification of the family composition will destroy the usual function of the family and the society in general.

8. OTHER ISSUES 2. Cohabitation - With the adoption of western culture and liberal education, now a days, Filipino women tend to be more liberated, risk taker and career oriented. Part of this orientation is the adoption of western practice of cohabitation, living in together in a sexual relationship without being married. - In many studies, it was found out that those who cohabited prior to marriage is most likely end up in separation, this is because of the couple’s lack of commitment to the sanctity of marriage.

9. OTHER ISSUES 3. Child-mother-minus the father - With the same trend cited in the former number, on extreme cases, Filipinas now a days try the extreme, having a child without the husband.

10. The Future of Filipino Family

11. THE FUTURE OF THE FILIPINO FAMILY The future of the Filipino family depends more on the success of marriage, and in a recent survey released by the center. Listed below are factors found in successful marriages: The bride and the groom are out of their teens The parents do not opposed the marriages The couple were engaged before getting married The couple did not cohabit The bride is not pregnant before the marriage The couple finish college The couple have good income The couple agreed who should work outside home The couple agree on how to handle house work The couple are religious

12. The above cited factors, though product of a scientific investigation, maybe found relative by others, for indeed, above all and everything there is only one true universal language that will make a marriage lasting.

13. It is simply to be understood by all, and that is LOVE !