Lesson 4-ADULTING 101 How to Deal with Adulting.pptx

yes adulting is very challenging for an adolescent

1. ADULTING 101: HOW TO DEAL WITH ADULTING LESSON 4:

2. In this world of working parents and video games, in some families, teens can go through childhood and adolescence without a real sense of responsibility. They're occupied, but not prepared for a successful life.

3. Having responsibility for things that matter and that contribute to the welfare of others is part of a teen's preparation for the future.

4. When a family volunteers together for the benefit of others, parents are modeling for their kids the responsibility they feel for their community, and the value of contributing to the welfare of others outside themselves.

5. As he grows, he takes it into himself as his own. When he fulfills responsibilities entrusted to him, he gains a sense of empowerment. The praise he receives for his accomplishments is authentic, and he knows it's real.

6. What's most important is moving him from dependence to independence, as well as providing experiences where his efforts contribute to someone else, or the family as a whole, and then for those outside himself and his family.

7. 01 TRY THIS! Directions: Read each item carefully and use your journal to write your answers. Identify either the following activities are PHYSICAL , SOCIAL or PERSONAL .

8. ________1. having a sense of who you are ________2. exercising ________3. sharing feelings ________4. Accepting disappointments, defeats, losing, and rejections ________5. saying NO to alcohols and smoking

9. ____6. Standing up for yourself ____7. Accepting yourself ____8. Introducing yourself and others ____9. Forgiving yourself when needed ____10. Healthy diet

10. _______11. Trusting others _______12. Personal hygiene _______13. Being trusted _______14. Keeping in shape _______15. Feeling good about yourself

11. 03 Task 2: Put a (√) check mark under the appropriate column for each of the items below:

12. 04 LET’S EXPLORE 1. Do you feel defeated? How do you handle disappointments? What will you do when feelings of disappointments, defeat, and loss struck you?

13. 04 2. Are you happy and confident with your body? Is there a need for you to physically improve your appearance? How will you do it?

14. 04 3. Are you definite about your college/after Senior High plans? What are these plans? If you have no definite plans yet, what hinders you from planning your future?

15. 05 THE PASSAGE TO ADULTHOOD: CHALLENGES OF LATE ADOLESCENCE

16. Ways to Become a Responsible Adolescent Prepared for Adult Life Becoming responsible and being able to make good choices are very important traits no matter what developmental stage you are in. It holds true for adolescents especially that they are just beginning to internalize and imbibe virtues, values, and other essential qualities.

17. It may not be easy to be a teenager. There may be lots of things going on invarious facets of their lives. The demands and expectations of their parents and other people around them can also be stressful.

18. But the good news is, they can treat these ‘difficulties’ as ‘challenges’ which can make their life exciting. Having that mindset is also an indication of becoming a responsible and mentally mature adolescent.

19. Eight (8) simple rules which could help you, teenagers, to become a responsible adolescent who is prepared for adult life:

20. 1. Focus on your studies and do well in all of your endeavors. There is time for everything.

21. 2. Take care of your health and hygiene. Healthy body and mind are important as you journey through adolescence.

22. 3. Establish good communication and relation with your parents or guardian. Listen to them. This may be easier said than done at this stage, but creating good relationship with them will do you good as they are the ones you can lean on especially in times of trouble.

23. 4. Think a lot before doing something. Evaluate probable consequences before acting. Practice self-control and self-discipline.

24. 5. Choose to do the right thing. There are plenty of situations in which it is better to use your mind rather than your heart.

25. 6. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts, and earthly pleasures and commit to being a responsible adolescent.

26. 7. Respect yourself. You are an adult in the making. Do not let your teenage hormones get into you. If you respect yourself, others will respect you too.

27. 8. Be prepared to be answerable or accountable for your actions and behavior. It is a part of growing up and becoming an adult.

28. Physical Development Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15. Boys are still maturing and gaining strength, muscle mass, and height and are completing the development of sexual traits.

29. Emotional Development May stress over school and test scores. Is self- involved (may have high expectations and low self-concept). Seek privacy and time alone. Is concerned about physical and sexual attractiveness.

30. May complain of parents preventing him or her from doing things independently. Starts to want both physical and emotional intimacy in relationships. Try the experience of intimate partnerships.

31. Social Development Shifts in relationship with parents from dependency and subordination to one that reflects the adolescent’s increasing maturity and responsibilities in the family and community, Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.

32. Seek friends that share the same beliefs, values and interests. Friends become more important. Starts to have more intellectual interest. Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others. May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex).

33. Mental Development Becomes better able to set goals and think in terms of the future. Has a better understanding of complex problems and issues. Start to develop moral ideals and to select role models.

34. 09 ENCOURAGEMENT 101: The Courage to be Imperfect

35. Encouragement is the key ingredient for improving your relationships with others. It is the single most important skill necessary for getting along with others so important that the lack of it could be considered the primary cause of conflict and misbehavior.

36. Encouragement develops a person’s psychological hardiness and social interest. Encouragement is the lifeblood of a relationship. And yet, this simple concept is often very hard to put into practice.

37. Encouragement is not anew idea. Its spiritual connotation dates back to the Bible in Hebrews 3:11 which states: “Encourage one another daily.”

38. Half the job of encouragement lies in avoiding discouraging words and actions. When children or adults misbehave, it is usually because they are discouraged.

39. Most of us are skilled discouragers. We have learned how to bribe, reward and, when that fails, to punish, criticize, nag, threaten, interrogate and emotionally withdraw.

40. Most commonly, we discourage in five several ways: 1. We set standards that are too high for others to meet because we are overly ambitious.

41. 2. We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or improved behavior. 3. We make constant comparisons (self to other, siblings to one another).

42. 4. We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of others. 5. We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying that they are unable to do it as well.

43. Encouragement is not a technique nor is it a special language used to gain compliance. Encouragement conveys the idea that all human beings are worthwhile, simply because they exist.

44. The first step to becoming an encouraging person is to learn to distinguish encouragement from discouragement. As a rule, ask yourself: Whatever I say or do, will it bring me closer together or farther apart from this person?

45. 10 THE POWER OF PERSONAL DECLARATIONS

46. From birth, we often told what we are going to be. Sometimes, this is a good thing, but suppose you have been told time and time again that “you will not amount to anything just like your mother and father?” this is a dangerous declaration because it sets into motion the actualization of an unwanted occurrence.

47. 10 In order to counteract this and all of the negative declarations with their destructive potential, one must consciously replace them with one’s owns declarations.

48. In so doing, you are now in control of setting into action what you really want to occur. You can declare that goodness and mercy shall surely follow you all the days of your life!

49. The following are some declarations that you may want to make concerning your life:

50. I declare: That I am totally free of all addictions. That I will sill survive any attempts of others to control my life. That I am free in my mind, body, and emotions. That I am free to set goals and reach them. That I am a loving individual with the capacity to give love.

51. That I am a child of a God with all rights and privileges thereof. That I will contribute to the welfare of others. That I will be an ambassador of goodwill to all I meet on the journey. That I will be a good example for others to follow. That I will help all that I can to reach their goals.

52. That I will speak words of encouragement to others. That I will find the goodness in life and focus on it. That I will not succumb to the negative influences of others.

53. That I will read the information that will encourage my personal, and spiritual growth. That I will commit to being the best I can be.

54. 10 These declarations are meant to encourage you to take control of the influences in your life. They are suggestions as to what positive things you can speak about your own life instead of accepting whatever has been said about you in the past.

55. 10 You now have the authority to plant the seeds of love, encouragement and victory in your garden., thereby crowding out the weeds of negativity that may already have taken root! Just us in the garden, you may have to pull and pull until you get some weeds out.

56. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t reach your goals overnight. Just remember that even a small stream of water will crack concrete eventually!!

57. 10 OUTPUT NO. 4 1. Write a slogan or personal declaration on how you can be committed to your self-development. 2. Explain your thoughts and feelings about it. Include specific ways in which you will develop yourself further.

58. 10 Instructions: Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if otherwise. SHORT QUIZ

59. ________1. Stress is a common psychological concern among adolescents. ________2. Family associations are important in adolescent development. ________3. Female adolescents are more concerned about weight. ________4. The transition from high school to college/ work is not a bigger responsibility for adolescents. ________5. Adolescents do not ask independence from parents.

60. ______6. Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15. ______7. In the adolescence stage, friends become more important. ______8. They maybe influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex) ______9. They have a better understanding of complex problems and issues. ______10. They start to have more intellectual interests.

61. 10 TRUE TRUE TRUE FALSE FALSE 6. TRUE 7. TRUE 8. TRUE 9. TRUE 10. TRUE

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