Life and Success- Missing Links - Dr Vijay Sardana

qualities required to be successful in life

1. Life & Success- Missing links
Dr.Vijay Sardana
MD,DM
Head,Deptt. Of Neurology,
Member Medical Education Unit
Medical College, Kota

2. Birth
Genetic endowment inherited from both parents
environmental factor
Personality traits
Physical Characteristics
Death

3. Responsive, creative & Independent
adult

4. Ideal Citizen
One’s responsibility to
• Self
• Family
• Work
• Society
• Environment

5. Life – wheel with 6 spokes
• Family
•Financial - Career & Money
•Physical - Health
•Mental - Knowledge & Wisdom
• Social - social responsibilities
•Spiritual - Value system represents ethics &character

All the spokes have to be in alignment

6. Success
• Wealth
• Recognition
• Good health
• Good family
• Happiness
• Satisfaction
• Peace of mind
“Progressive realization of a Worthy goal”

-Earl Nightingale

7. Those who fail
Most people fail not because of lack of ability or
intelligence but because of lack of desire, direction,
Dedication & discipline.
- Shiv Khera

8. Demotivating Factors
• Unfair criticism
• Negative Criticism
• Public Humiliation
• Rewarding non performer
• Low self esteem
• Responsibility without Authority
• Poor organization
• Misalignment with job

9. Personality
• ‘Brand image of an individual’
• Made up of

- Character
- Behavioral trait
- Attitude

10. Character
Revealed by
• Company we keep
• How we treat others especially subordinate,
elderly & disabled.
• Choice of books, music & movies.
• Types of jokes we tell & laugh at.

11. Parental bonds
Mother – nurtures
Father – Protector , provides direction & religion

12. Conditioning
• Book we read
• Movies & Music we wanted to listen
• Company we keep

13. Why People fail
• Lack of well defined purpose
• Lack of ambition to achieve above mediocrity
• Insufficient Education
• Lack of self discipline
• Lack of persistence- good start but poor finish
• control an urge for sex
• Wrong selection of mate in marriage
• Wrong selection of associate in business
• Superstitions & prejudice
• Lack of enthusiasm
• Individualism

14. Motivation
Motivation – Drive that encourage action or feeling.
Process of inducing and improving anyone to perform
more productively and efficiently.
Catalyst

15. Motivated person
• Look for the better way to do a job
• More Quality Oriented
• More Productive

16. Motivation
“ One machine can do the work of 50 0rdinary
men. No machine can do the work of one motivated
man”

17. Motivational needs of different people
• Money
• Emotion
• Security
• Recognition

18. Motivational Factors
• 1 Year - Toy
• 5 Year - Chocolate
• 12 Years - New cricket Bat
• 15 Years - New Cycle
• 20 Years - Education, Job, Lovely Girl Friend
• 30 Years - Stability, Career & Personal Growth
• 50 Years - Respect & Recognition
• >50Years - Son’s Career

19. MOTIVATION
• External – Fear motivation
Incentive motivation
• Internal - Comes from within- Pride, sense of
achievement & fulfillment, belief &
responsibility.

20. Fear Motivation
• Advantage
- Job done quickly
- Short term improvement in performance
• Disadvantage
- Temporary – lasts till motivational factor
is there.
- Performance is limited to compliance.
- Destroy creativity.
- Causes stress.

21. Theories of Motivation
• Mosley's theory – Hierarchy of Motivational Need

- Physical Need – Food, clothing, sexual urge
- Safety - Shelter, security, Health
- Social - Friends, family, love
- Self Esteem - Recognition, Achievement

- Self Actualization

22. Theories of Motivation
Herzberg's Theory
- Hygiene - Status, job security, salary & future security
- Motivators – Challenging work, recognition, responsibility

23. Money can buy….
• Amusement, but not happiness
• A Bed, but not sleep
• Books, but not wisdom
• Companions, but not friends
• House, but not a home
• Medicines, but not health

24. Set a goal

25. Goal Setting
Why many don’t do it
• Pessimistic attitude
•Procrastination
• Fear of Failure
• Fear of Rejection
• Lack of ambition
•Low self esteem
•Lack of knowledge/ignorance of goal settin g

26. Goal
S - Specific
M - Measurable
A - Achievable
R - Realistic
T - Time Bound

27. Self Goal Setting
Evaluate for
• Is it the truth?
• Fair for all concerned
• Get me goodwill
• Get me health, wealth & peace of mind
• Can I commit myself to it ?

28. Have positive attitude

29. Attitude
• Way a person feels, thinks & behaves towards a
particular issue.
- half full-hall empty



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30. Positive Attitude - Benefits
• Pleasing personality
• Energizing
• Inspiring
• Problem Solving
• Increase work output

31. Attitude
Job/promotion/success
- 85% Attitude
- 15 % Intelligence & knowledge of specific facts $ figures
• Education
- Almost 100% teach facts & figure


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32. Elements of success
Attitude
SkillKnowledge

33. Attitude formation
Home- positive or negative influences
School- peer pressure
Cultural background
Religious background
Media- TV etc.
Work environment
Social and political environment

34. Attitude : Be Optimistic
• Be so strong – nothing can disturb your peace of mind
• Talk health, happiness & prosperity to everybody
• Look at sunny side of everything
• Think best, work for best & expect best
• Spend so much time improving yourself that no time
left to criticize others
• Be equally enthusiastic about other success

35. Positive Mindset
• Look for Positive in every person.
• Develop an immunity to negative criticism.
• Learn to find pleasure in every little things.
• Set your own standards judiciously.
• Remember ups & down are part of life.
• Keep yourself continuously occupied.
• Help less fortunate
• forgive yourself & others.

36. Maintain and raise your self esteem
Self esteem- way we feel about ourselves

37. Excellence has always been achieved by those
who dare to believe that something inside them
is superior to circumstances

38. Self Esteem
High Self Esteem Low Self esteem
. Talk about ideas . Talk about people
. Respect authority . Rebels against authority
. Concern about character . Concern about reputation
. Accepts Responsibility . Blame the whole world
. Discuss . Argue

39. World, my son starts school today
World, take my child by the hand--he starts school today!
It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while, and I
wish you would sort of treat him gently. You see, up to now,
he has been king of the roost. He has been the boss of the
backyard. I have always been around to repair his wounds,
and I have always been handy to soothe his feelings.
But now things are going to be different. This morning he is
going to walk down the front steps, wave his hand, and start
on a great adventure that probably will include wars and
tragedy and sorrow.To live in this world will require faith and
love and courage. So, World, I wish you would sort of take
him by his young hand and teach him the things he will have
to know. Teach him-but gently, if you can.
contnd…

40. World, my son starts school today
He will have to learn, I know, that all people are not
just that all men and women are not true. Teach him
that for every scoundrel, there is a hero; that for every
enemy, there is a friend. Let him learn early that the
bullies are the easiest people to lick. Teach him the
wonder of books. Give him quiet time to ponder the
eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun,
and flowers on a green hill.
Teach him that it is far more honorable to fail than to
cheat. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even
if everyone tells him they are wrong.
Try to give my son the strength not to follow the
crowd when everyone else is getting on the
bandwagon. Teach him to listen to others, but to filter
all he hears on a screen of truth and to take only the
good that comes through.

condt…..

41. World, my son starts school today
Teach him never to put a price tag on his heart and soul.
Teach him to close his ears on the howling mob-and to stand
and fight if he thinks he is right.
Teach him gently, World, but do not coddle him, because
only the test of fire makes fine steel.
This is a big order, World, but see what you can do. He is
such a nice son.
- Signed, Abraham Lincoln
*adapted from "Pulpit Helps" February 1991, quoted in Apple Seeds, Volume 10, No.1,1994.

42. Be Enthusiastic

43. Enthusiasm
• Inspire Confidence
• Raises morale
• Build loyalty
• Contagious
“ Live while you are alive, Don’t die before you
are dead.”

44. Except 100% Responsibility

45. Society
Know Rights/Privileges more then
Responsibility/Obligation?

46. Responsibilities
• Take 100% responsibility of whatever you do
• Take additional responsibility

47. Take Responsibility
• Accepting responsibility-Involve taking risk &
being accountable
• Taking calculative responsible risk depends
on knowledge, Training, Careful study,
Confidence & compliance.

48. Identify & avoid Negative
People

49. Influence of Friends
Our friends are not what we want but kind of
people what we are
• Man is recognized by his friends
• AVOID Negative friends

50. How value system change
Intolerable

Acceptable
Involvement
Constant Exposure
Constant Exposure
Self justification

51. ‘Frenemies’

52. Avoid negative people
•You become similar to people associated with
you
• When you Succeed negative people or petty
people will try to pull you down- DON’T FIGHT
• Character - Company you keep
- Company you avoid.

53. Positive
• Part of the answer
• Has Programme
• Let me do it for you
• Difficult but possible
• I must do something
• See the gain
• See possibilities.
• Hard arguments,
Soft words
Negative
• Part of the problem
• Has excuse
• Its not my job
• Possible but to difficult
• Something must be
done
• See the pain
• See problem.
• Soft arguments, Hard
words

54. Positive
• Firm on values,
Compromise on
petty things
• Don’t do it to
others what you
would not want to
do to you
• Make it happen
Negative
• Firm on petty things,
Compromise on values
• Do it to others
before they do it to
you
• Let it happen

55. Winner – State of mind
If you think you’ll lose , You are lost
For out in the World We find
Success begin with a Fellow’s Will
It’s all in the state of mind
Man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can

56. Winner V/S Losers
• Playing to win
Playing not to lose
• We can’t control what happens in life but we
can control how we deal with it.
• Tougher Competition – Greater incentive,
Stronger motivation, Better performance,
Sweeter victory.

57. Be Committed

58. Commitment
• Friendship - Maintaining confidentiality
• Marriage - Maintaining fidelity
• Job - Integrity
•Community - Responsibility

59. Commitment brings
• predictability
• security
• personal growth
• Strong relation between individual & community

60. Relationship & commitment
• Relationship – based on commitment, not just an
closeness & intimacy
• Relationships don’t last because of passion &
love but because of commitment & empathy

61. Commitment implies
•Dependability
•Reliability
•Predictability
•Consistency
•Caring
•Empathy
•Sincerity
•Character
•Integrity
•Loyalty

62. Be Willing To Pay The price for your dream

63. Story of a Doctor
Main 12v me Tha
Wo 12v me Thi

64. Main MBBS me Tha
Wo BSc me Thi
Main MBBS me Tha
Wo MSc me Thi

65. Main MBBS me Tha
Wo PHD me Thi
Main MBBS me Tha
Wo Dr ban gai

66. Uski Shadi hui
Maine PG entrance diya
Wo do bachcho ki ma bani
Main MD kar raha Tha

67. Bachche 5 saal ke hoker school jane lage
Main post PG karne laga
Bachche 10
th
pass ho gaye
Maine hospital shuru kiya

68. Afsos bas ye hai ki aaj wo Tubectomy
karane aayi hai
AUR
Aaj meri Sagai hai…….

69. Be predictable, dependable & Loyal

70. BE LOYAL
“An ounce of Loyalty is worth more than a
pound of cleverness.”

71. Become expert in the field

72. Always indulge in Constructive Criticism

73. Criticize
• With a spirit of helpfulness then to pull down
• Offer solution in criticism
• Criticize the behavior/ act not the person
• Criticize in private
• Don’t overdo it
• End with appreciation

74. Receiving Criticism
• Evaluate with open mind, Accept if make sense
• Learn from it becomes better & thank the person
• Overlook negative criticism
Its better to benefit from constructive criticism
than to be ruined by false praise

75. Believe in reasoning & have critical thinking

76. Reasoning
• Cognitive process of looking for reason,
Beliefs, conclusion, actions & feeling
• Why reasoning – What we should believe
- What we should do

77. Critical Thinking
• Involve determining the meaning & significance
of what is observed & expressed
•If adequate justification to accept argument,
inference and conclusion as true

78. Pseudoscience
“Body of knowledge, methodology , belief
or practice that claim to be scientific /
made to appear scientific but doesn ’t
adhere to basic requirements of scientific
method. ”
Pseudo –False / Pretending
Science ( Latin Scientia) –Knowledge

79. “Pseudoscience has no
scientific meaning & mostly
describe our emotions”
Larry Laudan

80. Pseudoscience
•Astrology
•Quackery
•Occult
•Superstition
•Vaastu

81. Astrology
Time twin study
•London 1958 –2004
•2000 babies born within minute of each other
in march
•Compared for decades 100 parameters about
health, occupation marital situation, anxiety
level, Aggressiveness , sociability, IQ level,
abilities in music, art, sport, mathematics,
language etc.
No correlation
Journal of conscious studies -2004

82. Astrology-Failed prediction
•Roger culiver& Philip john–
3011 specific predictions of Astrologers
& Astrological magazines over 5 yrs
338-true (11%)

83. Astrology
•The science & rationale association of India
–Rs. 20,00,000-anyone who can predict
death (year & date) of 4 famous
personalities by astrology / other psychic
power
•James Randall Educational foundation –1
million dollar if actual effects attributed to
Astrology proved under scientific scrutiny

84. Why Astrology
•Comfort of having guidance of making
decisions
•Comfort of believing in destiny
predetermined by astral forces beyond
control.

85. Astrology-Dangers
Adversely affects common sense and reasoning
Precludes individual attempt to improve. Prevent
them from becoming ‘self dependant’ and ‘free
person’

87. Crowd mind
Crowd mind is lowest mind in existence, with
minimal sensibility
As a part of group you may surrender and
think the way crowd thinks, may become
obedient slave.
The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to
make you everyone else
Rene Locks

88. Stay focused & Focus on your
strengths

89. Success- Determination
• Not determined by how we are doing
Compared to others , but by how We are doing
compared with what we are capable of.
• Successful people compete against
themselves.

90. Component of a good Job
• Economic – Salary & facilities
• Job security
• Good working condition
• Status
• Growth Opportunities
• Recognition of work done
• Challenges of work

91. Judge your alignment with your job
• Am i passionate about what I am doing ?
• Am i using my talent and strength ?
• Am i happy in my work ?
• Does it bring joy & fulfillment ?
• Am I Earning what I deserve ?
Improve & change

92. Don’t Argue

93. Try to maintain your cool in tense situation

94. Discuss, don’t argue
Discussion Argument
. Throws light . Throws heat
. Comes from an open mind . Closed mind
. Exchange of knowledge . Exchange of ignorance
. Expression of logic . Expression of temper
. Prove what is right . Tries to prove what is right

95. Trouble Shooting
Relatives & attendants Fight Disperse
10 Min
1
st
degree friends More Attendants
30 Min
Hospital Administration
Police, Media
30 Min
Media & Police Strengthening
2
nd
degree friends
1 Hour

96. Strike
FIRs
1-2 Days
Strike Continues
1-2 Days
Solution, Often Face saving arrived
Forgotten, gone with the wind

97. Medical
Students/
Residents/
Doctors
Professional Nonprofessional
Carrier Conscious No carrier so no fear

Socio-cultural trauma Mostly no Trauma
Can go to certain extent Can go to any extent
Friends

98. CONCLUSION
Power
Vigilance - Negligence
Silence - Violence
Tolerance - Intolerance
Discipline - Indiscipline
Seriousness - Carelessness
Good Sense - Nuisance

99. “Successful Medical Practice is like
successfully driving a car where you not
only take care of your own mistakes but
others mistakes also.”

100. Use common sense with knowledge

101. Knowledge Vs Wisdom
• Common sense – 6
th
sense
- Ability to see things as they
are and do them as ought to
be done.
• Abundance of Common sense - Wisdom

102. Knowledge Vs Wisdom
• Knowledge - Piling up facts
Wisdom - Simplifying it
•Knowledge - Potential power
Wisdom - Real power
• To attain knowledge - Add things everyday
To attain Wisdom - delete things everyday

103. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC)
Those-
• First who manage well the circumstances which they
encounter day by day, judge situation appropriately as
they arise & rarely miss the suitable course of action.
• Next Who are honorable in their dealing with all men,
reasonable with their associate as is humanly
possible.
• Furthermore Who hold their pleasure always under
control, not unduly overcome by their misfortune

104. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC)
• Most importantly- who are not spoiled by
success, hold their ground steadfastly as wise &
sober minded man.
• who have character which is in accord with all
of above-
These are educated – possessed of all the
virtues.

105. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC)
True broad based education proposes student for
life without losing their area of specialization
& competence.

106. Learn from your mistakes

107. Learn from mistakes
• Wise – Learn from the mistakes
• Wiser – Learn from other people’ mistakes
Our lives are not long enough to learn from our
own mistakes

108. Change with changing time

109. change
“ In life we cannot avoid change
we cannot avoid loss,
Freedom & happiness are found in the
flexibility & ease with which we move
through change”
- Buddha

110. change with changing time
•Inevitable
All progress is change, but all change is not
progress
• Evaluate & accept if good

111. Be a good listener

112. Good Listener
• Encourage speaker to talk
• Pay attention, Ask questions, show
understanding & respect
• Concentrate on message not delivery
• Listen to feelings, not words

113. Give more than you get

114. Give more Than you get
• More valuable, regardless of nature & place
of work
• Give more confidence
• Superiors & Colleagues start respecting you
• Produces pride & Satisfaction.

115. Persistence

116. Persistence
• Nothing will take the place of persistence.
Talent will not- nothing in more common than
unsuccessful people with talent.
Genius will not – Unrewarded genius in a
proverb.
Education will not – The world in full of
educated derelicts
Persistence and determination alone are
omnipotent.

Clavin goolidge

117. Hard Work
• Average person - Put 25% of energy of ability
into work.
• Albert Einstein – “I think I used about 25% of my
intelligence capacity during my life”
• William James – Human being use only 10-12%
of their potential.

118. LUCK
• If you want to fail, believe in luck. If you want
to succeed, believe in the principle of cause &
effect, and you will create your own luck.
“The harder I work, the luckier I get”

- Samuel Goldwyn

119. Exploit & enjoy music

120. Take Home
Success based on values, ethics, commitment
and character is the lasting true success.
We can not change our circumstances but we
can change our attitude and action.
Recognize weaknesses and focus on
possibilities

121. Take Home
Failure is a delay, a chance to immerge
stronger. not a defeat.
Believe in reasoning and scientific cause &
effect relationship rather than superstitions.

122. Destiny is not a matter of chance. It’s a
matter of choice. Its not a thing to be
waited for, it is to be achieved
Thanks