Love

Research about what love is.

1. How do we
express love?

2. Question # 1
What kinds of love exist?

3. Agápe

4. Agape is selfless love -the highest
of the 4 types of love in the Bible.
http://christianity.about.com/od/glossary/a/Agape.htm

5. Agape puts the beloved first and
sacrifices pride, self interest and possessions
for the sake of that beloved.
This is the love that God has for us which
inspired him to sacrifice his son and for his
son to obey and sacrifice himself.
http://fromerostoagape.wordpress.com/2012/08/09/eros-romantic-love-and-agape-unconditional-love/

6. Agapeis love because of what it does, not
because of how it feels.
Example
A mother who loves a sick baby will stay up all
night long caring for it, which is not something
she wants to do, but is a true act ofagapelove.
http://www.truthortradition.com/articles/four-kinds-of-love

7. The point is thatagapelove is not simply an impulse
generated from feelings. Rather, agapelove is an
exercise of the will, a deliberate choice.
This is why God can command us to love our
enemies (Matt. 5:44; Exod. 23:1-5). He is not
commanding us to “have a good feeling” for our
enemies, but to act in a loving way toward them.
http://www.truthortradition.com/articles/four-kinds-of-love

8. Compassionate love grows slowly over the
years as lovers apply their attachment and
caregiving systems to each other, and as
they begin to rely upon, care for, and trust
each other.
http://johnstepper.com/2015/05/30/happiness-the-two-kinds-of-love/

9. Philía

10. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philia
http://www.truthortradition.com/articles/four-kinds-of-love
Philiarefers to a strong friendship.

11. Storgē

12. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storge
Storgeis love between family members,
friends, pets and owners, or colleagues.

13. A company is stronger
if it is bound by love
rather than by fear.
Herb Kelleher
https://twitter.com/#!/wallybock/status/171581124953374720
http://articles.philly.com/2011-06-26/business/29705315_1_robots-online-poker-deli-owner

14. https://twitter.com/Leadershipfreak/status/552699441698701313

15. People are more capable of mental novelty
when thinking on behalf of others than for
themselves.
What progress are you and your colleagues
making on mental novelty?
http://jennifersertl.com/2015/02/13/empathy-passion-and-progress-an-existential-view-of-valentines-day/

16. Éros

17. Eros is a passionate and intense love that
arouses romantic feelings.
Eros is an emotional and sexual love.
http://typesoflove.org/four-types-of-love-greek-style/

18. Eros focuses more on the self
than on the other person.
http://typesoflove.org/four-types-of-love-greek-style/

19. Question # 2
What love languages do
we speak and understand?

20. Love language A: Kind words.
You cooked an excellent meal.
I will do the dishes after dinner.
You are great at doing the work you do.
You look great in that jacket.
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/chapter 4.

21. Love language B: Time spent with partner
Have dinner with your partner.
Go for a walk with your partner.
Listen to your partner without doing anything else.
Ask your partner what he/she wants to do with you.
Then make a plan and do that.
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/chapter 5.

22. Love language C: Gifts.
Chocolate.
Flowers.
A smooth stone that looks like a heart.
A postcard with a greeting.
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/chapter 6.

23. Love language D. Acts of service.
Cook a meal.
Set the table.
Buy groceries.
Wash the dishes.
Wash clothes.
Vacuum floors.
Clean the bathroom.
Get fruit and vegetables in the garden.
Make the beds.
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/chapter 7.

24. Love language E. Physical touch.
Give your partner a hug.
Hold your partner’s hands.
Rub your partner’s back.
Put your hand on your partner’s shoulder.
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/chapter 8.

25. http://www.imagebase.net/People/qqSpain-393

26. 4 questions to help discover your love language
Question # 1
In what way do you regularly express love to your partner?
Question # 2
What have you most often requested of your partner?
Question # 3
What does your partner do or not do that hurts you most deeply?
Question # 4
On a scale from 1 to 10, how full is your love tank?
What do you need mostly from your partner in order to get your love tank filled up?
http://www.amazon.de/The-Five-Love-Languages-ebook/dp/B0032CVAQQ/location 1890.

27. Question # 3
What values are related
to love?

28. http://blogs.hbr.org/haque/2012/02/why_love_matters_more_and_less.html
Love is investing in,
sacrificingfor, and
caringabout.

29. Love usually includes a very high level of mutual respect;
the partners are each other's number 1 fan. The partners
desire the very best for one another, including the very
best of themselves. As a result, real love usually includes a
high level of honesty, loyalty, trust, emotional support,
selfless sharingand friendship.
The opposite of love is not hate; it is not caring.
http://www.livescience.com/12854-love-thee-experts-count-ways.html

30. Caring for other people.
Caring about other people.
Serving people.
Doing something for others.
Helping people.
Sharing ideas with others.
Being selfless.
Giving to others.
Being generous.
Involving people.
Being a part of something.
Belonging to something.
Treating people equally.
Being fair to other people.
Supporting a cause.
Being honest.
Being humble.
Thanking others.
Loving others.
Being compassionate.
Being empathic.

31. In the early 19th century, when love became the main motive for courtship,
love was redefined to make it compatible with the unequal rolesand
options of husbands and wives. Men loved women because they were
nurturing and emotionalin ways males were discouraged from becoming
or even understanding. Women loved men because they were powerful
and knowledgeablein ways females were not allowed to be.
Each sex supposedly had skills and character traits that the other sex did
not possess and could not gain access to except through love. So part of the
excitement of romantic love was how foreign one’s partner was.In today’s
world, such feelings are increasingly irrelevant to what makes love last.
http://www.livescience.com/12854-love-thee-experts-count-ways.html

32. http://youtu.be/e-THUogCS1w

33. People who have a strong
sense of love and belonging,
believe they are worthyof
love and belonging.
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html, minute 8.
Brene Brown

34. You can find love, if you
search within yourself.
Mariah Carey
http://youtu.be/0IA3ZvCkRkQ

35. Further inspiration
http://www.slideshare.net/frankcalberg/questions-to-discover-your-values
http://blog.ted.com/2012/03/01/places-we-dont-want-to-go-sherry-turkle-at-ted2012
http://www.quora.com/How-can-I-know-if-someone-loves-me-1
https://youtu.be/fK2IJ43ppd0
http://youtu.be/VGrcets0E6I
https://youtu.be/e-THUogCS1w