Pre Marriage Orientation.pptx

Pre Marriage Orientation is a half day orientation for couples applying for marriage.

1. P-re M-arriage O-rientaion & C-ounseling

2. For Attendance Please follow: Name of Male: (First Name, Middle Initial, Last Name) Age: Address: Name of Female: (First Name, Middle Initial, Last Name) Age: Address: Original Schedule: NOTE: Please turn-on your camera always, If someone is talking please turn-off/mute your microphone.

3. NAME AGE ADDRESS WHERE AND WHEN YOU MET? PERIOD OF ENGAGEMENT STRENGTH/WEAKNESS YOU SEE IN YOUR PARTNER

4. 8/25/2021 1 Mouth : 2 Ears Keep an Open Mind

5. Texting and answering calls is cool but not during activity session Let’s keep our mobile phone on silent mode and answer calls outside the function room.

6. Rationale and Background Pre Marriage Orientation/Counselling or PMO/C is an orientation program for couples applying for marriage. It is designed to provide pre married couples with a realistic overview of what marriage is all about. Marriage is the initial step in the formation of the families. The family is the basic unit of the society.

7. Rationale and Background Marriage is a crucial step in the sense that it marks the time when a man and a woman agree to live together, commit themselves to live together, commit themselves to love each other until death. Marriage also signals for the couple their entry into a new world and their assumption of new roles and new responsibilities. There is no course which teach couples the how to’s of married life. Marriage is a lifetime career and a vocation.

8. Reasons why Pre married Couples are required to undergo PMO/C Be aware of the different rights and privileges as well as the duties and responsibilities of the married couples in their various roles. Acquire key information on marriage and relationships, maternal and child health, family planning, responsible parenthood and home management. Why is this important? “We put a lot of value on marriage”

9. A binding legal contract between a man and a woman for the establishment of conjugal and family life . Marriage is . . … CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

10. T o p i c O n e Session 1: MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

11. Who is this person I`m going to marry? The ONE I love The one who passed my standards The father or mother of my children

12. Why should I get married? CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

13. For procreation 2. For financial security 3. Because of LOVE 4. For companionship

14. 1 . Contracting parties have legal capacity 2. Must be a male and a female 3. Eighteen years or upwards 4. Consent freely given in the presence of the solemnizing officer Marriage is valid only if: The New Family Code CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

15. The absence of any of the essential or formal requisites shall render the marriage void ab initio (from the very beginning)

16. Roles & Relationships S e s s i o n 3 CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

17. Rights and Obligation of Husband and Wife Art. 68- live together, observe mutual love, respect and fidelity, and render mutual helps and support. Art. 69- fix the family domicile Art. 70- jointly responsible for the support of the family. Art. 71- the management of the household shall the right and duty of both spouses.

18. Art. 72- when one of the spouse neglects his or her duties to the conjugal union or commits act which tends to bring danger, disorder or injury to the other or to the family the aggrieved party may apply to the court for relief. Art. 73- either spouse may exercise any legitimate profession, occupation, business or activity without the consent of the other. The latter may object only on valid, serious or moral grounds. Rights and Obligation of Husband and Wife

19. Session 4: Elements of Successful Marriage

20. 1. LOVE Powerful emotion felt for another person manifesting itself with deep affection or devotion with sexual desire. ACCEPTANCE – accept each other for who and what he/she is. Couples are usually more secured and more confident in their relationship. LOVE AND LOYALTY - feeling of confidence that you are able to keep the love and interest of your partner. * not doing anything that will create doubt and insecurity on the part of the spouse

21. 1. Mutual Understanding/ Managparehang Pagsabot a realistic acceptance of each other strength and weaknesses

22. 2. Respect/Pag-respetohay each spouse holds the other in high regard

23. 3. Trust and loyalty/Pagsalig ug Matinud-anon couple is secure in their feelings of being loved by their spouse

24. 4. Shared Philosophy/Hiniusang Pilosopiya couple must share a set of beliefs which gives meaning, perspective and direction.

25. 5. Commitment/Pagtugyan the willingness to sacrifice for the sake of the other

26. 6. Openness/ Abli nga Panghuna- huna growth and development is grounded on one’s ability to be open to new ideas and changes

27. 7. Growth/ Pagtubo allows each other enough to develop their abilities and potentials

28. 8. Mutual cooperation/ Pagtinabangay maintaining an attitude of give and take of service/ sharing duties and responsibilities inside and outside the house

29. 9. Involvement/Paglambigit to include in some activities, such as marriage that said to be a social institution for family, community and country

30. REMINDERS!!! TRUE LOVE ENDURES (Enduring love is something that lasts, it passed the test of time) IS A CH O ICE (it is not based on emotions, it is n o t all ab o ut feeling ) IS A C OMMITMENT (you think of the others) IS AN ACTION (love is proactive, you reach out, you seek what is best for the others)

31. 2. GOD PUTTING GOD OR SUPREME BEING AT THE CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE/UNION When God completes the relationship, the marriage/union is strengthened.

32. GOD is . . . . . Restorer Heals and when GOD rest o res something, sometimes like a broken bones it becomes stronger

33. 3. IN-LAWS Maintaining positive relations is not limited between spouses but also with each spouse’s family. Treat your in-laws as you would your parents Build mutual respect by observing traditions, special occasions, privacy and differing opinions/ideas Let your in-laws enjoy your kids as much as you let your own parents Be mature Be kind Communicate with them openly

34. 4. MONEY Wise budgeting and spending of income is necessary to support the financial needs of the family Share Financial Expectations It's also important to differentiate between needs and wants. While both are legitimate, couples can face problems if they try to fulfill all their wants without considering their budget. Incorporate some flexibility in your budget to allow for entertainment, gifts, vacations, and other activities that will strengthen your marriage.

35. 5. CHILDREN To how many they are going to have or interval or spacing when to have

36. 6. SEX SATISFYING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP OR SEXUAL HARMONY When done as an expression of love and care, sex serves as a powerful instrument of marital fulfillment and happiness.

37. 7. MARITAL COMMUNICATION It is a basic tool, not only in attaining a successful marriage but in all interpersonal relation Communication- is very essential in the life of married couple.

38. Effective Listener Must Be Able To: Listen with your Body Listen is an active rather than passive. It is an art.

39. Listen with your Eyes

40. Listen with your Ears -Talk. listen to your mate.

41. Listen with your Heart –

42. Listen with your mouth closed

43. Communicate Regularly Communicating openly about your life, interests, dreams, frustrations, and feelings is an important way to foster intimacy in a relationship. It's also crucial that you also listen to your partner voice their thoughts.

44. Responsible Parenthood T O P I C 2 CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

45. PRIMARY RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITY OF PARENTS CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

46. KEY MESSAGE Responsible parenthood is the ability and shared responsibility of husband and wife to provide for and fulfill the aspirations of the children and the family. Planning the number and timing of having children to make sure that they will be healthy and well-provided for is part of responsible parenthood. CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

47. Parents shall have the following general duties towards their children: To give the child affection, companionship and understanding To extend to the child the benefits of moral guidance, self-discipline and religious instructions To supervise the child's activities, including recreation To inculcate to the child the value of industry, thrift and self-reliance

48. Parents shall have the following general duties towards their children: To stimulate the child's interest in civic affairs, teach the child with the duties of citizenship and develop the child's commitment to the country To advise the child properly on matter affecting the child's development and well being To always set a good example To provide the child with adequate support

49. 4 Major Parenting Styles

50. NEGLECTFUL You perceived your children to be of secondary importance. You don’t give so much care and concern to your children. You usually entrust the needs and problems of the children to themselves or to other members of the house.

51. You don’t give so much time and attention. You have trained your children to give time and attention to material things or prize, career, friends, hobbies, vice and other interest. Your child tends to have poor social skills. Child is emotionally immature, easily influences by others and had very low achievement orientation.

52. AUTHORITATIVE You are domineering. You work and rules must be followed without complaint by your child. You don’t listen to their words and feelings. Obedience is of prime importance to you Child usually becomes fearful, moody, unhappy, passive, hostile, withdrawn and irritable.

53. PERMISSIVE Obedience is of prime importance to you. Your child can manipulate you because you always follow the desires and whims of your child. You are easily carried away when your child cries, you fell angry and depressed if your child rebels.

54. Your child becomes impulsive, low in self-reliance and in achievement orientation, quick to anger and domineering.

55. AUTHORITATIVE DEMOCRATIC You practice open communication with your child. You don’t easily get mad at their misbehavior. You try to find meaning and reasons in the acts and ways of your child.

56. You listen to their opinion and feelings. You discuss rules and conduct that should be observed inside the house. Child becomes friendly, self-reliant, self-controlled cooperative and achievement oriented.

57. Techniques for Disciplining Children: Time-out Loss of Privilege Restitution Rewards Ignoring Praise Modeling

58. HOW PARENTS CAN DEVELOP POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN 1. Praise children for being and doing 2. Use happy, pleasant expressions and tone of voice 3. Have fun with them 4. Use positive labels for your children 5. Give children opportunities for success 6. Use gentle, positive touch, hugs and kisses

59. S E S S I O N 4: R i g h t s of the Child CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

60. MGA KATEGORYA SA KATUNGOD What are the different categories of rights under the UNCRC? Survival Development Protection Participation

61. Katungod sa Paglungtad Katungod na mabuhi Katungod sa pag-alima ug suporta sa ginikanan Katungod sa maayong panglawas Katungod sa saktong pagpuyo SURVIVAL RIGHTS

62. DEVELOPMENT RIGHTS Katungod sa Impormasyon Katungod sa Edukasyon Katungod sa Pagdula ug paglingaw-lingaw MGA KATUNGOD NA MUSIGURO NGA ANG BATA MAHATAGAN SA TANANG OPORTUNIDAD PARA MUTABANG SA PAGLAMBO SA IYANG POTENSYAL ARON MAHIMU SIYANG USA KA TARONG NA TAWO .

63. PROTECTION RIGHTS Katungod sa iyang pangan, nasyonalidad ug pagkasiya Katungod nga mapanalipdan gikan sa abuso ug pagdaog-daog Katungod na mapanalipdan gikan sa seksual na abuso ug pagpahimulus Katungod na mapanalipdan gikan sa dautang droga. MGA KATUNGOD SA BATA NGA MUSIGURO UG MAGARANTIYA NGA SIYA MAHILAYO SA BISAN UNSANG DAUTANG IMPLUWENSYA O SITWASYON NGA MAKADAOT SA IYA.

64. PARTICIPATION RIGHTS Katungod sa iyang kaugalingong opinyon Katungod sa kagawasan sa pulong Katungod sa kagawasan sa panghuna-huna, konsensya ug relihiyon Katungod sa pagporma ug pag-apil og organisasyon Katungod sa pag-inusara KATUNGOD NA MIG ARANTIYA NGA ANG BATA MADUNGGAN UG MAHATAGAN UG TINGOG SA BISAN UNSANG DESISYON NA MU-APEKTO NIYA.

65. ‹#› But Remember………. Children also have RESPONSIBILITIES!!!

66. ‹#› Responsibilities to: To love, obey and respect your parents To love, obey and respect other people To study well To respect other people’s opinions and thoughts To promote, respect and protect other people’s human rights To be responsible citizens

67. Liabilities of Parents Concealment or abandonment of children, depriving them of LOVE, CARE they need. Failure to enrol their children in school Inflicting cruel and unusual forms of punishment to he child. Transfer of custody of their children for monetary consideration . Exploitation of the child such as making him beg on the streets.

68. Protect your Marriage Don’t be too friendly with the opposite sex Don’t share your personal and marital problems with an opposite sex friend Don’t contact any opposite sex you are fond of Don’t tell an opposite sex you are romantic or sexy Avoid discussions with the opposite sex when you are tired, very sad, depressed, sorrowful or sick

69. Protect your Marriage Stop saying “I love you " to opposite sex Never flirt with the opposite sex Stop focusing on your spouse weaknesses Avoid emotional and sexual affairs

70. No marriage/relationship is perfect. There would always be challenges, however, not all couples experience the same conflicts and issues along their married life. CSWDO City Social Welfare and Development Office

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72. “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother” ~Rev. Theodore Hesburgh Call to Action

73. Marriage Prayer Lord Jesus I humble myself before you . Now today, I admit my sinfulness, I admit my selfishness and only you can change me . So Lord Jesus , I invite you to change my heart . Come into my life . Be my master . Be my Lord . And above all, I accept you as my Savior . Forgive my sins, the sin of selfishness . I accept your gift of Eternal Life . Change my heart . Teach me how to love, the way you want me to love .

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