Princes Primary How to Use Red2Blue.pptx

Princes Primary How to Use Red2Blue.Session 2 pptx

1. Performance Under Pressure Presented by: Date:

2. Review Before we begin © Gazing Limited 2022 2

3. Prepare and practice for pressure Key Points: Moving from Red2Blue is a skill. The skill involves recognising accepting and choosing between what you can and can’t control. The more you practice this skill the more likely you will be able to change your response to situations that divert you. This means you will be more resilient under pressure. The map just helps you recognise it, talk about it, normalize it The Red2Blue perspective Recognise Accept Choose © Gazing Limited 2022 3

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5. Self Reflection Consider the last time you were in the Red What triggered it? How did you respond? How did your response impact your performance? What could you do next time to avoid you responding like that? © Gazing Limited 2022 5

6. Review : Recognition Radar © Gazing Limited 2022 6

7. Predictable sources of pressure… Predictable responses! © Gazing Limited 2022 7

8. Escape E XPECTATIONS S CRUTINY C ONSEQUENCES Walking towards pressure A GGRESSIVE P ASSIVE E SCAPE Preparing and practising for unhelpful responses © Gazing Limited 2022 8

9. Practice Scenario You are in an important boardroom meeting with key stakeholders. The meeting is crucial for a high-profile project you have been leading for months. As you present your well-prepared slides and deliver your pitch, your phone vibrates, indicating an incoming call. Aware of the importance of the meeting, you try to ignore it and continue speaking. But the call persists, and your heart sinks when you sees the caller ID displaying the name of your sons special needs school. Worried that something might be wrong, you excuses yourself from the meeting, apologising to your colleagues, and step outside to answer the call. On the other end of the line, the school counselor explains that your son has caused some trouble in the classroom. He had a meltdown, disrupting the class and even causing some minor injuries to himself and others. The school staff had done their best to manage the situation, but they felt it was necessary to inform you about what had happened. 01: Receiving a call from school Please take a screen shot before you go to breakout room Questions: What Red Head thoughts could this scenario lead to? How might those thoughts make you feel and act? How might that impact other parts of your life? What might help you shift your attention from Red to Blue? © Gazing Limited 2022 9

10. Practice Scenario You are a loving and caring parent of a special needs child named Ethan. Ethan is a nine-year-old boy with autism spectrum disorder who requires specialised attention and support. Each morning, you experience a wave of anxiety as you prepares to leave Ethan at his specialized school. You meticulously organise his backpack, ensuring it contains everything he needs for the day, including communication tools, sensory items, and a detailed schedule of activities. Despite your efforts to create a smooth transition, your mind is filled with worry and a constant fear of the unknown. Arriving at the school, you walk hand in hand with Ethan, observing the hustle and bustle of other parents dropping off their children. The scene is a stark reminder of your son's unique needs and the extra attention he requires. You feel a mixture of pride for Ethan's progress and achievements and an overwhelming sense of responsibility. 02: School mornings Please take a screen shot before you go to breakout room Questions: Relate this scenario to Red2Blue What indicators are there that this person is having a Red Head? What impact is this having? What would you do if this person came to you for help with their mindset and described this scenario? © Gazing Limited 2022 10

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13. WHAT IF’S TOOL © Gazing Limited 2022 13

14. What If’s Tool It is important to plan for the pressures that are likely to come your way and to establish mental routines to help you accept and deal with them. This will help you recognise and accept what's happening rather than fight it and wish it wasn’t happening. It will allow you to free up your mental space to focus on how to adjust and what to do. Breakout Group Exercise What are the top likely diversions you will face? What strategy could you put in place to help you respond from the Blue side? © Gazing Limited 2022 14

15. What if’s Exercise You are a dedicated and hardworking mother, with a demanding full-time job as a project manager at a fast-paced tech company. You also has a special needs child named Emily, who is seven years old and requires extra care and attention due to her developmental challenges. Your work environment is highly competitive and demanding, often requiring long hours and tight deadlines. Despite your best efforts, you find yourself constantly struggling to balance your responsibilities as a mother and a professional. Mornings are especially challenging. Getting Emily ready for school requires extra time and patience. Emily has difficulty with routine tasks such as dressing, eating, and tying shoelaces. You have to constantly remind yourself to remain calm and composed during these moments of frustration, as Emily's needs can be overwhelming. Once you drop off Emily at her specialized school, you head straight to work, but your mind remains occupied with thoughts of your daughter throughout the day. You try your best to stay focused, but frequent phone calls from the school or therapists become a constant interruption, pulling your attention away from your projects. At work, you are facing additional pressure and demands from your superiors. The expectations for high performance and timely deliverables weigh heavily on you, leaving little room for personal struggles. You often find yourself staying late at the office, trying to catch up on missed deadlines or preparing for important presentations, sacrificing precious time with your daughter. After work, you frequently attend therapy sessions and consultations for Emily's ongoing developmental needs. These appointments require you to take time off work or juggle your schedule, causing additional stress. Sometimes, you feel guilty about not being able to spend more quality time with Emily or attend school events due to work commitments. Your co-workers, though sympathetic, don't fully understand the challenges you face. The lack of empathy at times adds to your feelings of isolation and frustration. You wish for a more inclusive and supportive work environment that values work-life balance and understands the needs of parents with special needs children. A day in the office Please take a screen shot before you go to breakout room Questions: Relate this scenario to the What If’s tool What was predictable? What strategies could have been in place to mitigate/avoid impact on performance? What mental rituals could help move from Red to Blue when the What If’s happen? © Gazing Limited 2022 15

16. Practicing your ‘What if’s’ in advance is more likely to help you rather than just writing them down. This is what it means to use pressure to stimulate your performance. For top performers, pressure rather than being an enemy to performance, is in fact, a stimulant. Practice like you mean it. Practicing What if’s will help with building Mental Strength © Gazing Limited 2022 16

17. How could we really muck this up? Make a list Pick your favourites MUC Tool  © Gazing Limited 2022 17

18. Continue / Review / Personalise your What If’s exercise Homework Exercise © Gazing Limited 2022 18

19. Thanks! © Gazing Limited 2022 19