The art of listening

Listening is an active process of “Receiving”, “Understanding”, “Remembering, “Evaluating”, and “Responding”. Listening is cyclic, responses of one person serves as the stimuli for the other. (The Interpersonal Book by Joseph A. Devito)

1. The Art of Effective Listening
Definition:
Paying close attention to, and making sense of, what we hear (The Art of Public
Speaking by Stephen E. Lucas)
Listening is an active process of “Receiving”, “Understanding”, “Remembering,
“Evaluating”, and “Responding”. Listening is cyclic, responses of one person serves
as the stimuli for the other. (The Interpersonal Book by Joseph A. Devito)
Difference between hearing and listening: Class Demonstration
Importance of Listening:
·Nearly all Top notch business executives, successful politicians and brilliant
teachers are excellent listener.
·Effective listeners hold higher positions and are promoted more often than
others.
·When business managers rank-order the communication skills most crucial
to their jobs, they usually rank listening number one.
·In one survey of Fortune 500 companies of America, almost 60 percent of the
respondents said that they provide some kind of listening training for their
employees.
·Close to 90% of class time in colleges and universities is spent listening to
discussions and lectures.
·A number of studies have shown a strong correlation between listening and
academic success.
·Students with higher grades are usually those with strongest listening skills.

2. ·Listening is also important as speaker, it is probably the way you get most of
your ideas and information—from talk shows, lectures, seminars etc.
·If you do not listen well, you will not understand what you hear and may
pass along your misunderstanding to others.
Process of Listening:
1 -Receiving:
Listening begins with receiving the messages the speaker sends. The
messages are both verbal and non-verbal and vary in volume and rate. At
this stage you note not only what is said but what is omitted.
2 -Understanding / Interpreting:
At this stage you assign meaning to sounds according to your own values,
beliefs, ideas, expectations, roles and needs. The speaker’s frame of reference
may be quite different from yours.
3 -Remembering/Retaining:
This is necessary to keep the process on. Storing is done for further
reference. You take notes or retain by making an outline. The retention in
memory is not exact reproduction but reconstruction.
4 -Evaluation:
At this stage the message is judged by applying critical thinking skills to
weigh underlying intentions or motives. At this stage facts are separated
from opinions and evaluate the quality of the evidence.

3. 5 -Responding:
It occurs in two phases:
A) Responses you make while the speaker is talking. Nodding,
saying ‘I see’, producing ‘hmmn’ sounds etc. It establishes that
you are listening to the speaker.
B) Response you make after the speaker has stopped talking.
These are generally more elaborate.
Types / Styles of Listening:
Since we listen for different reasons, so the way to listen effectively varies from one
situation to another
1 -Content Listening:
To understand and retain the message being conveyed. Information
flows from speaker, no matter you agree or disagree, approve or
disapprove. Example Sales Reports.
2 -Comprehensive Listening:
Listening to fully understand the message of speaker: Example,
Classroom lecture or directions to find something.
3 -Critical Listening:
The goal is to understand and evaluate the meaning of the speaker’s
message on several level: The logic of the arguments, the strength of
evidence, the validity of the conclusion, the speakers motives and
intentions. It generally involves interaction as you try to uncover the
speaker’s point of view and credibility.

4. 4 -Empathic Listening:
To empathize with others is to feel with them, to see the world as they
see it, to feel what the feel. Empathic listening will help enhance
relationship because you help the individual to vent the emotions.
Examples: Doctor – Patient, HR Manager – Worker, Student –
Teacher
Barriers in Listening:
·External Distraction
·Thinking Speed
·Premature Evaluation
·Semantic Stereotypes
·Delivery
·Prejudice against the speaker
If you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening. (Marge Piercy)
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