Win-Win-Attitudeeeeee----Scenarioooo.ppt

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1. Think Win-WinThink Win-Win

2. Think Win-WinThink Win-Win
““Life is an all-you-can-eat Life is an all-you-can-eat
buffet.”buffet.”

3. What it is NOTWhat it is NOT
The best way to explore Habit Think Win-The best way to explore Habit Think Win-
Win is to see what Win-Win is not. It is Win is to see what Win-Win is not. It is
NOT:NOT:
1. Win-Lose1. Win-Lose
2. Lose-Win2. Lose-Win
3. Lose-Lose3. Lose-Lose
These are all poor attitudes.These are all poor attitudes.
Let’s take a look at each one….Let’s take a look at each one….

4. Poor Attitude Win-LosePoor Attitude Win-Lose
•It’s the belief that in order for me to “win”, It’s the belief that in order for me to “win”,
you have to “lose”. People with this attitude you have to “lose”. People with this attitude
usually:usually:
–Use other people for their own selfish purposesUse other people for their own selfish purposes
–Try to get ahead at the expense of othersTry to get ahead at the expense of others
–Spread rumors about someone elseSpread rumors about someone else
–Focus on getting their wayFocus on getting their way
–Become jealous & envious when something Become jealous & envious when something
good happens to someone else.good happens to someone else.

5. Win-Lose ScenarioWin-Lose Scenario
Mike: “Mom, there’s a big game tonight and I need to take the Mike: “Mom, there’s a big game tonight and I need to take the
car.”car.”
Mom: “I’m sorry, Mike, but I need to get groceries tonight. Your Mom: “I’m sorry, Mike, but I need to get groceries tonight. Your
friends will have to pick you up.”friends will have to pick you up.”
Mike: “But Mom. My friends always have to pick me up. It’s Mike: “But Mom. My friends always have to pick me up. It’s
embarrassing.”embarrassing.”
Mom: “Listen, you’ve been complaining about not having any food Mom: “Listen, you’ve been complaining about not having any food
in the house for a week. This is the only time I have to get in the house for a week. This is the only time I have to get
groceries. I’m sorry.”groceries. I’m sorry.”
Mike: “You’re not sorry. If you were sorry, you’d let me take the Mike: “You’re not sorry. If you were sorry, you’d let me take the
car. You’re so unfair.”car. You’re so unfair.”
Mom: “All right. All right. Take the car. But don’t come Mom: “All right. All right. Take the car. But don’t come
complaining to me when there’s nothing to eat tomorrow.”complaining to me when there’s nothing to eat tomorrow.”

6. DiscussionDiscussion
1.1.Who won? Who lost?Who won? Who lost?
2.2.Did Mike really win? How does his mom Did Mike really win? How does his mom
feel?feel?
3.3.What negative feeling might Mike feel What negative feeling might Mike feel
about himself in this situation?about himself in this situation?
4.4.What’s Mom going to do the next time she What’s Mom going to do the next time she
has a chance to get even with Mike?has a chance to get even with Mike?

7. Poor Attitude : Lose-WinPoor Attitude : Lose-Win
•It’s the belief that I will “lose” so that you may “win”. People It’s the belief that I will “lose” so that you may “win”. People
with this attitude usually:with this attitude usually:
–Set low expectations for themselvesSet low expectations for themselves
–Have low self-esteem and don’t consider themselves Have low self-esteem and don’t consider themselves
worthy or good enoughworthy or good enough
–Compromise their standardsCompromise their standards
–Give in to peer pressureGive in to peer pressure
–Allow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of Allow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of
being the “peacemaker”being the “peacemaker”
•Examples?Examples?
•I need 4 girl volunteersI need 4 girl volunteers

8. Lose-Win ScenarioLose-Win Scenario
Narrator: Two friends are sitting together at lunch waiting for the third friend to Narrator: Two friends are sitting together at lunch waiting for the third friend to
arrive.arrive.
Brianna: Hey, Sydney. Did you see Kristin’s hair today?Brianna: Hey, Sydney. Did you see Kristin’s hair today?
Sydney: No, I haven’t seen her at all today. Did she finally decide to cut it? She Sydney: No, I haven’t seen her at all today. Did she finally decide to cut it? She
showed me some pics on Pinterest that she thought were cute.showed me some pics on Pinterest that she thought were cute.
Brianna: Oh, she cut it alright….It… Looks… Awful!! Brianna: Oh, she cut it alright….It… Looks… Awful!!
Sydney: Bri, that’s kind of harsh don’t you think? It’s pretty brave of her to try Sydney: Bri, that’s kind of harsh don’t you think? It’s pretty brave of her to try
something new.something new.
Brianna: Seriously, Syd. Who does she think she is? Some hot super model? She Brianna: Seriously, Syd. Who does she think she is? Some hot super model? She
can’t pull off that kind of look. Come here, I have a pic of her.can’t pull off that kind of look. Come here, I have a pic of her.
Narrator: Brianna shows Sydney a pic of Kristin with her new haircut. Just then, Narrator: Brianna shows Sydney a pic of Kristin with her new haircut. Just then,
the third friend, Gina, shows up.the third friend, Gina, shows up.
Gina: Hey girls! Whatcha looking at?Gina: Hey girls! Whatcha looking at?
Brianna: A picture of Kristen.Brianna: A picture of Kristen.
Sydney: She cut her hair…..It…..Looks….Awful! She must think she’s all that to Sydney: She cut her hair…..It…..Looks….Awful! She must think she’s all that to
try and pull off that look, don’t you think?try and pull off that look, don’t you think?

9. DiscussionDiscussion
1.1.Who lost? Who won?Who lost? Who won?
2.2.What negative feelings might Sydney What negative feelings might Sydney
have towards herself after this have towards herself after this
situation?situation?
3.3.Why is Lose-Win thinking just as Why is Lose-Win thinking just as
dangerous as Win-Lose thinking?dangerous as Win-Lose thinking?

10. Poor Attitude #3 Lose-LosePoor Attitude #3 Lose-Lose
•It’s the belief that if I’m going to “lose”, you are It’s the belief that if I’m going to “lose”, you are
“losing” too. People with this attitude usually:“losing” too. People with this attitude usually:
–Seek revengeSeek revenge
–Want to win at all costsWant to win at all costs
–Are obsessed with others in a negative wayAre obsessed with others in a negative way
–Have codependent and emotionally damaging Have codependent and emotionally damaging
relationshipsrelationships
•Examples?Examples?
•I need a boy and a girl volunteerI need a boy and a girl volunteer

11. Lose-Lose ScenarioLose-Lose Scenario
Doug: Amy, who was that guy you were talking to just now?Doug: Amy, who was that guy you were talking to just now?
Amy: Oh, that was Brian. He’s just a good friend I grew up with.Amy: Oh, that was Brian. He’s just a good friend I grew up with.
Doug: I don’t want you hangin’ out with that guy.Doug: I don’t want you hangin’ out with that guy.
Amy: Doug, he’s just a friend I’ve known for a long time. We went to Amy: Doug, he’s just a friend I’ve known for a long time. We went to
elementary school together.elementary school together.
Doug: I don’t care how long you’ve known him. You shouldn’t be so Doug: I don’t care how long you’ve known him. You shouldn’t be so
friendly to him.friendly to him.
Amy: It’s no big deal. He’s having some problems and just needs Amy: It’s no big deal. He’s having some problems and just needs
someone to talk to.someone to talk to.
Doug: Are you committed to me or not?Doug: Are you committed to me or not?
Amy: Okay Doug. If that’s what you want, I won’t talk to him anymore.Amy: Okay Doug. If that’s what you want, I won’t talk to him anymore.

12. DiscussionDiscussion
1.1.Why did Doug and Amy respond this way?Why did Doug and Amy respond this way?
2.2.How did Doug’s Lose-Lose thinking affect How did Doug’s Lose-Lose thinking affect
Amy?Amy?
3.3.How will Amy’s Lose-Lose thinking affect How will Amy’s Lose-Lose thinking affect
her friendship with Brian?her friendship with Brian?

13. The Attitude to Have:Think Win-WinThe Attitude to Have:Think Win-Win
•It’s the belief that if I can win, so can you. It’s the belief that if I can win, so can you.
People with this attitude usually:People with this attitude usually:
–Are happy when others succeedAre happy when others succeed
–Help others succeedHelp others succeed
–Are willing to share recognition with othersAre willing to share recognition with others
–See life as an all-you-can-eat buffet for everybodySee life as an all-you-can-eat buffet for everybody
•Examples?Examples?
•I need two boy volunteersI need two boy volunteers

14. Win-Win ScenarioWin-Win Scenario
Narrator: Sean and Chris are twin brothers and are hanging out at home after Narrator: Sean and Chris are twin brothers and are hanging out at home after
school. They are waiting for their college acceptance letters to arrive. Sean goes school. They are waiting for their college acceptance letters to arrive. Sean goes
and gets the mail.and gets the mail.
Sean: Chris, there are two letters here from Cal State Long Beach.Sean: Chris, there are two letters here from Cal State Long Beach.
Chris: Really? Let’s see ‘em.Chris: Really? Let’s see ‘em.
Narrator: Both brothers open their lettersNarrator: Both brothers open their letters
Sean: YESSS! I got accepted!!! What about you Chris?Sean: YESSS! I got accepted!!! What about you Chris?
Chris: No, I didn’t.Chris: No, I didn’t.
Narrator: Inside, Chris is feeling terrible about his own situation.Narrator: Inside, Chris is feeling terrible about his own situation.
Sean: Bro, I’m really sorry.Sean: Bro, I’m really sorry.
Chris: Yeah, I’m disappointed…..But you know, this is awesome for you. I’m Chris: Yeah, I’m disappointed…..But you know, this is awesome for you. I’m
genuinely happy for you. We should celebrate your great news.genuinely happy for you. We should celebrate your great news.
Sean: Thanks for saying that.Sean: Thanks for saying that.

15. Discussion
1.1.What benefits will both Chris and Sean What benefits will both Chris and Sean
enjoy from practicing Win-Win thinking?enjoy from practicing Win-Win thinking?
2.2.How is this type of thinking contagious?How is this type of thinking contagious?

16. Think Win-WinThink Win-Win
•It’s an attitude towards lifeIt’s an attitude towards life
•It’s a mental frame of mind that says:It’s a mental frame of mind that says:
–““I can win, and so can you.”I can win, and so can you.”
–““It’s not me or you, it’s both of us.”It’s not me or you, it’s both of us.”
•It’s the foundation for getting along well It’s the foundation for getting along well
with other people.with other people.
•It’s the belief that no one is inferior or It’s the belief that no one is inferior or
superior to anyone else.superior to anyone else.

17. Apply Win-Win ThinkingApply Win-Win Thinking
Complete the following statements about yourself.Complete the following statements about yourself.
1.1.It is hardest for me to Think Win-Win when:It is hardest for me to Think Win-Win when:
2.2.It is easiest for me to Think Win-Win when:It is easiest for me to Think Win-Win when:
3.3.A situation in which I had a Win-Win attitude was A situation in which I had a Win-Win attitude was
(describe the situation):(describe the situation):
4.4.When I practice Win-Win thinking, I enjoy the When I practice Win-Win thinking, I enjoy the
following benefits:following benefits:
5.5.Five ways I can apply Win-Win thinking in my Five ways I can apply Win-Win thinking in my
relationships are:relationships are: