Biblical Parenting Parenting by Grace pt.2.ppt

parenting

1. Sermon
Eph 6:4
Parenting by Grace pt.2
When Christ is King
Introduction

2. In a systematic theology of grace in
relation to everyday life, the
relation of parents to children
plays the most important role of
all. Although this section about
grace with children comes third
after singleness and marriage, it is
really first in importance.

3. This is the most important section
in this chapter about relationships
because the relation of parents to
child is dominant in the mediation
of law, hence alternatively it is
dominant in the mediation of
grace. "The child is father to the
man." Paul Zahl, Grace in Practice.

4. Fathers, do not provoke your
children to anger, but bring them
up in the discipline and
instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 )
Fathers, do not provoke your
children, lest they become
discouraged. (Colossians 3:21 ESV)

5. “What happens when you are a child,
between your parents and you, is
critically important to your whole
world-picture. Most of the time,
law is ingested by the child from his
parents, and with law, the
resistance to that relationship in
later life.

6. If the child absorbs law along with
the "mother's milk," then the
mother will lose the child. The child
will end up running away the other
way. If law is the father's "song
that remains the same", the child
will end up running the other way.

7. Alternatively, if grace is in the
mother's milk, then the child will
return gladly to the mother. If grace
is the father's "unchained melody",
the child will always return.” -
Paul Zahl

8. How do We make grace the
“unchained melody” of our homes
and relate like CHRIST is King?
-I have faith in God's promises to
feed and clothe my family.
- I have faith in God's promise to
save my children as the gospel is
lived before them and presented to
them.

9. - I am free to accept the child the
way he is — and trust the Holy
Spirit to bring the deep and lasting
changes that are needed.
Our attitudes toward God and our
perception of His attitudes toward us
are being mirrored in our style of
parenting.

10. - I am confident that grace enables
me to teach my children. I
understand that suffering and
discipline are "means of grace" that
God will use to bring them to
Himself.

11. - I remember that loving discipline
(though important and necessary)
can not take away sins, but is
God's good way of reaching my
child's conscience.

12.  
Paul Zahl…Therefore all the proper
protective devices and systems with
which little children must be
surrounded by their parents come
under the heading of the proper use of
the law. These produce no fruit of
flight or splitting because of guilt.

13. -I take my children in my arms, look
them in the eyes and give them my
love, praise, appreciation and
approval. They feel loved, accepted—
delighted in
QUESTION: Do your children feel
"delighted in" by you—or that they
are merely being endured?

14. -I am free to ask forgiveness for
myself and I am very free to give it!
- I discipline/correct them as a fellow
sinner, and freely admit my own
sins to them.

15. -Because I know that rules (neither
God's nor mine) cannot produce in
them a love for God or others, I
repent, love, pray, and trust the
Holy Spirit to work on the root
problems in my children as I bring
them to the surface.

16. CONSIDER…
I know that I cannot change the
members of my family by my
harsh and repeated corrections.
DOES THIS SUGGESTION SEEM
SIMPLISTIC—that when YOU are
changed by the Gospel it has a
powerful effect on the people
around you?

17. People will be drawn to Christ when
he shows Himself to them —
through you
Jesus was that one PERFECTLY
HUMBLE Christian.
His humility outdoes anything that we
could ever IMAGINE.