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1. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion

2. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion The Scriptural Standard: Ephesians 4:1- 3 1  I, then, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to live in a manner worthy of the call you have received,  2  with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another through love ,  3  striving to preserve the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace : Peace bind us together

3. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion The Scriptural Standard: Ephesians 4: 25-27 25  Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.  26  “In your anger do not sin ”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,  27  and do not give the devil a foothold. Be Angry, and in Your Anger Do Not Sin

4. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion The Scriptural Standard: Ephesians 4: 29 29  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. No Foul Languages

5. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion The Scriptural Standard: Ephesians 4: 31-32 31  Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  32  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Forgiveness

6. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Peace in a Relationship Relationships will be right if there is: . Humility, meekness, patience, tolerance. . Dealing with difficulties quickly. . Proper speech. . No bitterness, anger, slander, malice. . Kind, compassionate, forgiving.

7. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Peace in a Relationship Peace is not just the absence of fighting, but refers to good and positive relationships, which bring good for all involved.

8. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion However, we are still not fully formed. * We will occasionally fail in righteousness. * We will still encounter difficulties, conflicts and misunderstandings. Our goal is peace.

9. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Our goal is peace. To enable us to experience the fullness of God’s life in and through CFC. To enable us to move as a united army that will carry out massive and rapid evangelization. Luke 11:17. 17 Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them: “Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.

10. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion The Scriptural Standard: Ephesians 4:25b 25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

11. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Communicate Not just avoiding lying, but to do something, to speak. We should not withhold the truth from one another. We should communicate openly about whatever is significant in our relationships.

12. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Be Reconciled Confront difficulty that affects relationships negatively. * When we have a charge against others. Matthew 18:15-17 15  “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.  16  But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.  17  If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.

13. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Be Reconciled Confront difficulty that affects relationships negatively. When others have a charge against us. Matthew 5:23-24 23  “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you,  24  leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

14. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Be Reconciled Confront difficulty that affects relationships negatively. When we have a charge against others. Matthew 18:15-17 When others have a charge against us. Matthew 18:23-24 In either case, we should take the initiative.

15. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 1 We need to distinguish If it is a matter of; Right or Wrong (sin and righteousness) Better or Worse Simply a matter of personal preference

16. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 2 Matters of right and wrong Ask forgiveness for your part. Reprove your brother/sister for what he/she did wrong. *Do it in a straightforward way. Not apologetic or circuitous. Kindly and without animosity. Resolve it. * Normally by talking it through. *If you can’t resolve by yourselves, go to and get judgment from a leader/elder. *Restore the relationship.

17. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 3 Matters that are clearly a question of better and worse Speak to the person directly. Make the correction. *Do this authoritatively when you are in charge. *Give it as a suggestion if you are not in charge. Be eager to learn and to improve. Agree to change. * Don’t be defensive. *Realize that correction is not criticism but an expression of love. There is no need for repentance.

18. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 4 Matters that might be a question of better or worse, but are not clearly so… Arises from different opinions or expectations. Resolve by coming to an agreement. * Establish common understanding where none existed before. *Openly discuss merits of different positions. *Be willing to compromise or even give in for the sake of peace. *Agree clearly. Check to see if you understand it the same way. *Call one another to your agreement.

19. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 5 Matters of personal preference Small stuff, mannerisms, preferences. Put up with what’s not wrong. Colossians 3:13a 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. * Not always make a big deal over what is difficult for you. * General attitude. Colossians 3:12 12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

20. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 5 Matters of personal preference Sandpaper ministry. * Often the Lord puts us together with others with the purpose of taking the rough edges out.. *Give up wanting things always done our way. *Not have to have own way before one can be happy. *Learn to appreciate differences. Be sensitive to how we do things. *Develop a sense of humor. The more we are attached to our preferences, the sillier we are.

21. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 5 When forbearing, do so without resentment or self-pity, but willingly and eagerly. Right attitude. Colossians 3:14-15a 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. (Love and peace of heart) Attitude is a small thing that makes a BIG difference

22. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 6 “The Personality Conflict”. We use being different from others to rationalize our own selfishness, self-will & intolerance. Our differences are never an excuse not to love. * The greatest personality conflict is between God and us! Yet God loves us.

23. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Solutions 6 “The Personality Conflict”. The right attitude: *Set yourself on love. Lay down your life for them. *Be thankful for the “trial”. James 1:2 4. 2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. “No pain, no gain”.

24. CPR Talk 5: Working Out Difficulties in CFC Bro June Agbanglo 31/05/2024 Speaking the Truth The Scriptural Standard: Peace Working out Conflicts Conclusion Conflicts in CFC are normal. We are still imperfect. We are still learning. We do not need to be overcome by these conflicts. Instead we can overcome them in Christ. Always be thankful. Our goal is to let the Lord change us to be His kind of people. Gentle, patient, forgiving. Peacemakers. Just like Jesus himself.