I'm ok you're ok

I'm OK, You're OK, by Thomas A Harris MD, is one of the best selling self-help books ever published.It is a practical guide to Transactional Analysis as a method for solving problems in life.

1. SHREE SWAMI ATMANAND SARASWATI INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY PREPARED BY :- TALAVIYA RADHIKA D. AGHERA BHUMI P. PREPARED FOR :- PROF. SUREKHA R. PATIL BOOK NAME :- I’M OK- YOU’RE OK AUTHOR :- THOMAS HARRIS

2. Author – Thomas Harris Thomas Anthony Harris was born on April 18, 1910 in Texas. He displayed an interest and proficiency in science and medicine at an early age. Harris attended San Antonio High School and then the University of Texas. He received his Bachelor of Science degree from the University of Arkansas in 1938 and his M.D. degree from Temple University School of Medicine in 1940.  

3. Harris began writing the book in 1967. Thomas Harris has written many books such as

4. History of I’m OK – You’re OK Harris began learning the theories of Transactional Analysis around 1960 directly from the creator of Transactional Analysis, Dr. Eric Berne MD.   Harris observed the runaway success Dr. Berne achieved with Games People Play in 1964. Despite the numerous literary accomplishments of Games , Harris felt that he could simplify Berne’s theories even more and make them more accessible to a wider audience.

5. About the books Author Thomas Anthony Harris Country United States Language English Genre Self-help Publisher Harper &Row Publication date 1969 Media type Print (Hardcover) Pages 320

6. I'm OK, You're OK , by Thomas A Harris MD, is one of the best selling self-help books ever published. It is a practical guide to Transactional Analysis as a method for solving problems in life. From its first publication during 1967, the popularity of I'm OK, You're OK gradually increased until, during 1972, its name made the New York Times Best Seller list and remained there for almost two years. It is estimated by the publisher to have sold over 15 million copies to date and to have been translated into over a dozen languages.

7. Purpose I’m OK – You’re OK is based on the theories of Transactional Analysis developed by Dr. Eric Berne in the bestseller Games People Play in 1964.   Harris wrote that most people live out their lives in the negative “I’m Not OK – You’re OK” state, leading to dysfunctional emotional reactions towards the people around you. Harris defines this and other states and gives sound advice to allow all people to adopt the ideal “I’m OK – You’re OK” mindset. For Harris, being OK with yourself and with others is the way to happiness, personal satisfaction, and good relationships.

8. Contents 1. Freud, Penfield, and Berne 2. Parent, Adult, and Child 3. The Four Life Positions 4. We Can Change 5. Analysing the Transaction 6. How We Differ 7. How We Use Time 8. P-A-C and Marriage 9. P-A-C and Children 10. P-A-C and Adolescents 11. When Is Treatment Necessary? 12. P-A-C and Moral Values 13. Social Implications of P-A-C

9. Outline According to the International Transactional Analysis Association, A 'is a theory of personality and a systematic psychotherapy for personal growth and personal change‘ In 1. addition to defining transactions as the fundamental unit of social intercourse, Berne also went on to define 3 ego states:  Parent, Adult,  and  Child.   But unlike Freud’s ego states, which were more “concepts”, Berne’s ego states could be seen with observable behaviors.

10. Harris summarized the three ego states in I’m OK – You’re OK as: Parent – taught concept Child – felt concept Adult – learned concept The Parent, Adult, Child (P-A-C) Model

11. 2. The phrase  I'm OK, You're OK  is one of four "life positions" that each of us may take. The four positions are: a) I'm Not OK, You're OK b) I'm Not OK, You're Not OK c) I'm OK, You're Not OK d) I'm OK, You're OK

12. I'm OK and you are not OK. In this position I feel good about myself but I see others as damaged or less than and it is usually not healthy, I'm not OK and you are OK. In this position the person sees him/herself as the weak partner in relationships as the others in life are definitely better than the self. The person who holds this position will unconsciously accept abuse as OK.

13. I'm not OK and you are not OK. This is the worst position to be in as it means that I believe that I am in a terrible state and the rest of the world is as bad. Consequently there is no hope for any ultimate supports. I'm OK and you are OK. This is the healthiest position about life and it means that I feel good about myself and that I feel good about others and their competence.

14. Transactional Analysis is method of dealing with behavioral disorders Developed by Eric Berne who believed that the majority of our life experiences are recorded in our subconscious minds in an unaltered fashion and become a part of the way we behave The behavior is subconsciously designed to get reactions and determine how others feel about us.

15. It is a theory of communication that can be extended to the analysis of systems and organisations. It offers a theory for child development by explaining how our adult patterns of life originated in childhood. This explanation is based on the idea of a "Life (or Childhood) Script": the assumption that we continue to re-play childhood strategies, even when this results in pain or defeat. Thus it claims to offer a theory of psychopathology .

16. In practical application, it can be used in the diagnosis and treatment of many types of psychological disorders and provides a method of therapy for individuals, couples, families and groups. Outside the therapeutic field, it has been used in education to help teachers remain in clear communication at an appropriate level, in counselling and consultancy, in management and communications training and by other bodies .

17. Pain, Boredom, Wanting comes first, Get help, The power of habit ,Energy and etc. change the people. How to manage time, how to save time, how to use time are described in this Novel. How to differ from each other are also described in this. To manage life many models are given like P-A-C and marriage ,P-A-C and Children, P-A-C and Adolescents and etc.

18. 1967 vs. 1969 Publication Date There is considerable contradictory information on the internet regarding the publication date of  I’m OK – You’re OK.    Many sources cite 1967 which is incorrect.  It was published in 1969. This is based upon these facts: - A 1972 article in the New York Times which states the publication date of April 1969. The Preface in the original first hardcover edition which Dr. Thomas A. Harris personally signs is dated June 1968.

19. There is no way the book could be published in 1967 if the Preface is dated 1968 , -The original copyright states 1967, 1968, and 1969.  Harris began work on  I’m OK – You’re OK  in 1967.   This is why it is sometimes confused. But the publication was 1969.

20. Philosophy People are OK; thus each person has validity, importance, equality of respect. Positive reinforcement increases feelings of OK. All people have a basic lovable core and a desire for positive growth. Everyone (with only few exceptions, such as the severely brain-damaged) has the capacity to think.

21. All of the many facets of an individual have a positive value for them in some way. People decide their story and destiny, therefore these decisions can be changed. All emotional difficulties are curable.

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