Middle School Flirting vs Hurting 2019.pptx

Middle or high school health lesson on sexual harassment

1. When is it okay? When is it sexual harassment? Flirting or Hurting ? Ms. Arensberg and Ms. Osei Brantuo – 7 th Grade Counselors

2. What is Flirting?? What is Sexual Harassment? Flirting: Is a good way to show interest in a person Helps you to know the other person better Makes you feel good about yourself What is sexual harassment It is unwelcome, unwanted attention that is sexual in nature. There are several different types of sexual harassment.

3. Sexual Harassment and Boundaries Sexual harassment can make a person Feel anxious and depressed Not want to go to school Suffer from low self esteem What are boundaries? Everyone does not have the same boundaries Your boundaries can be different with different people You should stop if you accidentally cross someone’s boundaries Different people have different boundaries

4. Different Types of Sexual Harassment ? Verbal: Making sexual comments/jokes/insults, spreading sexual rumors, talking about another person’s body, repeatedly pressuring someone to date you, calling someone gender-related names, teasing a person about his/her sexual orientation Gender Harassment: students are targeted for failing to follow norms that are typical for their gender. : Saying things like: That’s so gay!! Physical: Touching/grabbing/or pinching, pulling at someone’s clothes, blocking or cornering a person, forcing someone to hug or kiss you Visual: Making obscene gestures or movements Cyber: Posting sexual pictures or comments on-line, spreading rumors and/or images using text messages, email or instant messages

5. Title IX of Educational Amendments of 1972 Is a federal LAW that protects ALL students from sexual harassment in school and during school-sponsored activities like clubs and sports teams. All schools must adhere to this law and have a plan for dealing with complaints of sexual harassment. Schools are required to put a stop to sexual harassment and prevent it from happening again. Students who report are legally protected from retaliation from the harasser. Schools can only stop this harassment if they KNOW about it…do not hesitate to report!

6. Know the Difference Flirting Hurting Is wanted and welcome attention Is two-sided Makes you feel attractive and liked Makes you feel in control Makes you feel good about yourself Makes you happy Is not disruptive Is acceptable in school Is unwanted and unwelcome attention Is one-sided Makes you feel threatened or bad Makes you feel powerless Makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed Makes you scared or unhappy Interferes with your ability to concentrate Is illegal- in and outside of school

7. If It Happens to YOU Remember it is not your fault Trust your instincts Set a boundary Keep yourself safe Write it down Report it Don’t give up Ask for help

8. If You A ccident ally Cross the Line Pay attention to signals Clear things up Don’t take it personally Take responsibility Change your habits

9. Facts Girls are more likely to be sexually harassed than boys. More students report non-physical harassment than physical. A large percentage of gay and lesbian students report being sexually harassed at school. The majority of students say that sexual harassment DOES happen at school.

10. If you need Help… Parents Teachers Administrators Coaches School Nurse Talk with a trusted adult: Rippon Middle School Support Staff: School Counselors: Ms. Rapcavage-6 th grade Ms. Arensberg/Ms. Osei Brantuo – 7th grade Mr. Davison – 8 th grade Ms. Hernandez – Counseling Director School Psychologist: Ms. Pisa- Relli School Social Worker: Mrs. Sulyans